Fat Chicks on Top

In this episode of "Fat Chicks on Top," the host discusses various topics related to accountability, consent, and community safety within the kink community. The host mentions receiving a listener's question about whether an episode featuring Boss Boar, who has been accused of consent violations and possible sexual assault, should be removed. The host explains the complexities of deciding whether to remove an episode, considering the concept of responsibility in the community and varying degrees of consent violations. The host emphasizes the importance of education, understanding, and ongoing discussions surrounding consent.

The host also explores the issue of holding individuals and organizations accountable for problematic behavior, highlighting the need for vetting guests and addressing past problematic behavior. Additionally, the host addresses the importance of inclusive spaces, accessibility, and recognizing the diverse needs and concerns of the community when organizing events. The host shares resources and websites related to submission and kink, as well as upcoming events and classes for listeners to participate in. The episode concludes with an invitation to a body-positive swim event and a reminder to like, subscribe, and review the podcast.

The episode was produced and hosted by Rebecca Blanton, with audio production by CharRon Smith and music by David Manga and CharRon Smith. For more information about "Fat Chicks on Top," listeners can visit the website at fatchickson top.com.

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The Big Workbook for Submissives, Rebecca Blanton

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Guest: Leah Vernon (author, model)

Leah Vernon, memoirist and dystopian fiction writer joins Auntie Vice to chat about her memoir Unashamed: Fat, Black, and Muslim as well as her journey to self acceptance, love, and healing. Leah speaks openly of her struggles with disordered eating, intimate partner violence, growing up poor, and sexual assualt. She also shares how she is healing, connecting with the queer community, and the recent JolloFest in Washington, DC.

She is the author of the dystopian fiction works:

The Union (part 1 of 2) 

The Dissent (part 2 of 2)  NEW!!!

Memoir

Unashamed: Fat, Black, and Muslim

Sites and Socials:

Instagram @LVernon2000

Linktr.ee

The T with Leah V (podcast)

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In this episode of Fat Chicks on Top, our guest Tigress Osborne, the director of the National Association for the Advancement of Fat Acceptance (NAAFA), joins us to discuss the importance of embracing the term "fat" and advocating for fat people. Tigress shares her journey of becoming comfortable with using the word and highlights the need for a supportive community in the fat liberation movement. Tigress discusses the challenges of using the word "fat" with medical professionals and seeking healthcare as a fat person. She emphasizes the importance of advocating for oneself by setting boundaries and expressing preferences when talking to doctors. Tigress also mentions an upcoming event featuring an activist who has created a document outlining their preferences for interacting with doctors. The conversation then shifts to the intersectionality of fat acceptance. Tigress and the hosts discuss the need to consider race and other marginalized identities when discussing weight and discrimination. They recognize the discrimination faced by LGBTQ individuals, disabled individuals, and other marginalized groups, and reject the idea of prioritizing certain identities over others. The hosts delve into the history of NAFA, acknowledging its past focus on cisgender white women and discussing their efforts to create a more inclusive organization. They emphasize the importance of addressing oppressive structures and actively challenging them. Tigress, as the newly appointed executive director of NAFA, outlines her vision for the organization, which includes expanding its reach and impact. She discusses the need for more funding in the fat liberation movement and proposes forming partnerships, such as working with Dove, to increase resources. The conversation then shifts to the issue of size discrimination and the lack of explicit laws prohibiting it. Tigress and the hosts discuss efforts to pass legislation that protects fat individuals from discrimination and highlight the empowerment of fat people in various areas of life. The hosts acknowledge the increasing representation of fat people in media but also emphasize the need for more diverse and nuanced portrayals. They critique the tendency to dismiss anti-fatness based on the success of a few individuals and highlight the importance of having deeper conversations about representation and body image. Tigress shares her excitement about the growing number of books by and about fat people being published. She also discusses the barriers that fat authors face in the publishing industry and the need for systemic change. The conversation then touches on the influence of pharmaceutical companies in the weight loss industry and the objections to the terms "obesity" and "overweight" in the fat activism community. The hosts emphasize the importance of body autonomy and informed consent. The episode concludes with expressions of gratitude and mentions of the NAFA's initiatives, including Fat Liberation Month and a petition for the Campaign for Size Freedom. The hosts also share information about their collaboration with Fun Factory and recommend a book and dildo package deal for bisexual individuals. Remember to like, subscribe, and review Fat Chicks on Top, and visit their website for more information.

Sites and Socials

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance

Sign up for the NAAFA Newsletter 

Fat Liberation Month Events

Campaign for Size Freedom

Instagram

Find Tigress Osborn at @IoftheTigress on IG, Twitter, and other social media

Books and Media Recommendations in this episode

Fatizen  graphic novel series

Manhunt by Gretchen Felker-Martin

Meg Elison's work

"The Pill" by Meg Elison

"When Killers Get Caught" with Brittnay Ransom

Never Say Never with Jeff Jenkins (Hulu)

Reginald the Vampire (Hulu series)

Fat Vampire by Johnny Truant

Survival of the Thickest  on Netflix

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Bi Amor Plug

Boy Slut  by Zachary Zane

Bi Amor dildo

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All Bodies Swim with Auntie Vice

Sept 2, 2023  5-7 pm

Nevada City Pool

423 Nimrod Street, Nevada City, CA

$10 suggested donation (NOTAFLOF)

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Guest: Zachary Zane (writer, sexpert)

Zachary Zane, sexpert for Men's Health, joins Auntie Vice to talk about being audibly bisexual, his new book Boy Slut, writing about sex for a decade, and OCD. Zane discusses his journey to finding his bisexual identity and becoming a voice for bi folks. The title of his book is a cheeky way to expose the double standard of sluttiness between men and women and the stereotype of bi folks. Zane is insightful about biphobia and gender relations for his young 32 years!

Sites and Socials

ZacharyZane.com

Boy Slut

BoySlut Zine

Bi Amor Toy

Fun Factory

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Guest: Kate Sloan (writer, podcaster)

Kate Sloan joins Auntie Vice to chat about life as a sex writer and podcaster. They cover kink, living with Bipolar disorder, chronic pain, sex, and how D/s dynamics can be healing.

Sites and Socials

101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do

200 Words to Help You Discuss Sex and Gender

Mac Liquid Last Black Eyeliner  

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Guest: Kitty Stryker (writer, activist)

Kitty Stryker, author of Ask: Building Consent Culture and Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook joins Auntie Vice to chat about the nuances of consent, anger, activism, and change. Her deep thinking on consent and how interpersonal and structural power changes one's ability to fully consent has implications for politics, governing boards, medicine, policy, and the culture in general.

Sites and Socials

KittyStyker.com (site)

ConsentCulture.com

Facebook

Instagram

Patreon

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Guest: Midori

Midori, author of the first English-language book on Japanese bondage and kink educator extrodinaire joins Auntie Vice to chat about her work. She is an artist focusing on fiber crafts rooted in her identity. She has been teaching kink and dominance for decades and made a major difference in thousands of people's kink journeys. We have an Auntie to Auntie conversation about kink, art, and identity.

Sites and Socials

PlanetMidori.com (website)

Forte Femme (women's retreat)

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage

Wild Side of Sex: The Book of Kink

Master Han's Daughter

Midori on Bawdy Storytelling "Infamous"

Midori on Bawdy Storytelling "Strange Bedfellows"

"Placemat" by Midori

Instagram

Twitter

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Guest: Susan Wright, Founder and Media Outreach for National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Susan Wright joins Auntie Vice to chat about the work of NCSF including "Consent Counts," working to revise the paraphillia section of the DSM to remove consensual adult kink from mental health disorders, and revising the sexual assault laws for the first time since 1962.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is the only outward-facing advocacy organization working for more freedoms for the kinky and nonmonogamous communities, Susan Wright founded NSCF as an outgrowth of her work with the National Organization for Women around the D/s clause in NOW's platform in the 1980s and 1990s. The work of NCSF has been critical in creating a culture of consent and safetly for all.

Sites and Socials

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Consent Counts Project

Kink Aware Professionals

Twitter

Instagram

TikTok

Link for SW peer support group

Link for EARN IT Act opposition letter

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Guests:

Amy Moy, Essential Access Health

Fiona Lu, Gen Up

This is the start of a series of episodes with activists, policy makers, and legislators discussing politics and bodily autonomy. Amy Moy works with Essential Access Health to make sure health care service providers have the knowledge, skills, and funding to provide services to all people regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, ability to pay, insurance status, documentation status and more. Fiona Lu is a high school student and policy director for Gen Up, a student-led organizaation which creates and advocates for policies to better the lives of youth.

We discuss SB541, a bill working its way through the CA legislative process which would mandate schools provide free condoms for students. Condom access is a primary reason many students do not use barrier protection and why 50 percent of all chlamydia cases is in someone under 18.

We talk about the new constitutional right in California for reproductive care and abortion services and what that means for people in states hostile to abortion. Essential Access Health is administering major grants for increasing service capacity (especially in the Los Angeles area) as well as funds to cover lost wages, transportation, hotel lodging, and post-procedure care for people traveling to access abortion services.

We discuss Title X and what that means for minors seeking health care.

Show Links:

Essential Access Health

Teen Source+ (a health care service and learning portal for teens)

Talk with Your Kid (guides and help for parents talking to their kids about sexual health)

Title X information

CA Reproductive Healthcare Bills 2023

Leg Info (find the most up-to-date information on bills in the CA legislature)

GenUp

GenUp podcast and blog 

Future of Abortion Council 

@GenUp.US (instagram)

@EssnAccessHlth (Instagram)

This episode Auntie Vice responds to questions from listeners.

If you have a question you want answered, please email [email protected] and I'll answer you on an upcoming episode!

Links from this episode:

Thompson, Mark et al. (2004). Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice.

Beckett, Cooper and Lyndzi Miller. (2023) The Pegging Book. 

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