Fathership

How do I get my wife to respect me? Why don't my kids listen to me? Why don't people take me seriously? If you've found yourself asking these questions: click play. Today's episode of Fathership is all about the crown of respect, and why it falls from our head, never to be worn again in the eyes of our children, spouses and even our own parents. Want to know how to get it back? I'm breaking it down, and giving examples to help you understand where you may be going wrong and how you may be able to fix it. Tag along and learn from my own mistakes, the mistakes of my father, and a few other lessons picked up along the way.

In This Episode

• Who decides whether or not you are worthy of respect?
• So how do you go about gaining the respect of the people around you?
• Why I don't respect my father's opinions about my life.
• How do you ensure that you're the person your kids will come to?
• What happens when you ignore your internal compass?
• Are you respecting your partner?
• The Respect Tax is due every single day. Period.

Quotes

"Just because you can provide it doesn't mean you're providing a great experience with it"

"Your wife decides whether she crowns you a king in her mind or not"

"Your kids decide whether you're their hero or their villain"

"If you've done wrongs in your life, there is a lot of emotional investment that goes into righting them"

"You're lucky to have a woman that needs you around"

"You're not entitled to the crowns you think you're entitled to dads"

"It's always worth it to pay the extra attention"

"Stop making people feel bad that they procreated with you"

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Welcome to Fathership. In this week's episode, I'm chatting with Mark Simpson about what it's like to travel the world and run his own business, all while having his wife and 3 boys join him wherever he goes! Mark delivers a generous number of tips and strategies for how to travel with children, how to structure a vacation to make it easier on them (and you), and what he tends to do when things go wrong and moments get tense. To top it off, Mark offers some insights on what it's like to raise boys, and why he has so much respect for his children. It's a good one gents, so hit play and get ready to pick up some great ideas.

• The biggest piece of advice a father can give to parents expecting a little boy.
• How many places does Mark reckon he's travelled with his children?
• Travelling with a newborn and why it's the best time to travel.
• What happens when you're travelling with your family and a natural disaster happens?
• Tips for any family travelling abroad with young children!
• What does Mark do when he lands in a place? How does he plan out his family activities?
• Go-to snacks to bring with you on flights and other forms of mass transport.
• How to deal with the frustrating moments that come with travel.
• What does being a father mean to Mark?

"Whatever they've done to you, you're guaranteed that you've done to your folks in some shape or form"

"We've been to pretty much every continent"

"The instant reaction from people that we knew was 'oh, well that's it, no more travelling. You're done. Hope you enjoyed it' and we're very stubborn and were like: watch us go."

"When they are little is the best time to travel"

"They're pretty tough little things, these little ones"

"You just deal with it, because you could be anywhere in the world and anything could happen at any given time"

"Adopt the rule of one to wear, one spare, and one in the wash"

"On a day when you do a big travel, plan nothing for your first proper day"

"Figure out how long it is that your kids will let you get away with travelling for"

"Over time, you just learn to be prepared"

"It's the worst best job in the world"

"It's an amazing feeling, it's a weird feeling, but it's one I would never ever change"

"Don't be scared. Just do it."

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Welcome to Fathership. In this very first Bonus episode, I go into detail about what's going on at our house to prepare for the upcoming arrival of our baby boy. From my wife's extreme approach to planning, to how we're dealing with the emotional aspect of his arrival, and what is going on inside our house in terms of renovations and preparations, I'm giving the best possible overview of how it's all coming together, and how we're going to be ready for him, even if he's early!

• Tor's Terrifying to-do list!
• The benefits of being calm and stoic as the day approaches.
• How does Scotland feel about the arrival of her baby brother?
• How am I feeling leading into the final days of being a family of 3?
• True self care makes the hard moments a little easier.
• How are we fortifying ourselves for the big changes and potential challenges ahead?

"I grew up on rigidity and I'm realizing that blending everything and flowing like water, finding the path of least resistance, is the key to success right now"

"Guys, try not to be a baby if you're having a baby"

"The more you can prepare, the better you will be when it happens"

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Welcome to another episode of Fathership. This week I'm blessed to be speaking with Jesse Davis, the father of not one, but two YouTube celebrities. His son and daughter are the proud creators of Skylar TV, and Brianna's Secret Club, two wildly successful channels in Thailand. In this episode we discuss what life as a YouTube family actually looks like, how he handles his fatherly duty of keeping his family safe and secure, and how much work actually goes into running the channel. We also go into depth about how Jesse keeps Morale high, and how important it is to him that his children feel heard, listened to and cared for on an emotional level. Want to know what goes into being a dad at this level? Click play and listen up, because Jesse has a lot to teach us dads.

• Taking a risk and going all in on his children's YouTube careers was one of the best decisions Jesse could have made.
• What does it REALLY take to create and run a successful YouTube Channel?
• What does life look like when 4.3 Million Thai children recognize your daughter?
• How do you keep celebrity children safe?
• Is being a YouTube family really as "fun" as it looks?
• How does Jesse keep family morale high when work and life get to be a little too much?
• What makes a great father?

"For this to work, we had to go all in. Absolutely. 100%"

"I have to be really careful with the kids, really have to watch them. My daughter and son both have GPS smart watches"

"That was a real challenge for her, to kind of deal with celebrity in her face all the time"

"I'm perfectly content to let my kids get dirty and learn from their mistakes"

"This level of attention wasn't my intention"

"It's a learning experience figuring out how to mitigate security risks"

"We always try to stay positive. We always have a goal"

"I had a good dad growing up but even that didn't prepare me for all of the challenges and unique situations that I would face as a dad"

"Get the help you need to be a better dad"

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Welcome to Fathership. This week looks a little different than the previous episodes because we are doing an Ask Me Anything! I'm welcoming previous cohost from the Edge-ucation Podcast and longtime friend (and father of 4) onto the show to answer your questions! We sourced too many questions from our social media to answer in one shot, but we covered as many as we could and will definitely be back for round two. I chose Josh to cohost with me again for multiple reasons: One, we've got chemistry. Lots of it. Two, He's never hesitated to tell me what he thinks of me, bad or good. Three, he and I could not have different lives if we tried, and I feel like that gives us a broad range of experience to speak from. This one goes into some pretty serious (and some not so serious) topics, so buckle up for one hell of a ride.

• 2 surprise questions to break the ice from one cohost to another.
• What does it feel like to be a dad?
• What is your least favorite part of parenting?
• Have you sacrificed your dreams for your children?
• How did you feel when you first held your firstborn in your arms?
• What is the craziest thing you've done for your daughter that your younger self would have never done?
• What is something you take very seriously that your partner doesn't? How do you navigate that?
• Do you let your kids in on household finance or allow them to live in "bliss"?
• What does it mean to be a father to Josh

"I was a dad really young and I still wouldn't change it for anything." - Josh

"I'm proud of my children, I'm proud of my family, I'm proud of the man it's turned me into" - Scott

"The hardest part of being a dad is watching other dads fail their children" - Scott

"It rubs me the wrong way to see other dads take this job so lightly" - Scott

"The Grinch's heart grew three sizes in that moment" - Scott

"I didn't think I would be that type of parent" - Josh

"As a parent you have to set clear guidelines" - Josh

"Scott 10 years ago would not have given up sex for any woman on earth"

"Anywhere that I have been unselfish, my family has thrived" - Scott

"I want to raise nothing short of Gentlemen" - Josh

'If my parents kept me 100% from money, I would have never found that interest" - Scott

"Right now, my family and my kids are the many, and my needs are going to come second to what they need"

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In this episode of Fathership, I'm getting into the topic of Stay At Home Moms. Their challenges, their value, and why I think they are easily the most important member of a household. Society wants to make them feel lesser, devalued, pathetic or weak, but nothing could be further from the truth. Anyone who has been around a stay at home mom for any length of time could tell you the benefits of having a devoted, attentive, loving and caring partner and parent around during the peak developmental years. That is what's happening on today's episode. I go into detail about my experience being married to a stay at home mom, and the challenges she's face with family, jealousy, feminists and career people, all the while being the Most Valuable Player in the lives of both my daughter and I. If you know a stay at home mom, send her the episode!

• My wife is a stay at home mother, and I am the primary provider, and it works for us.
• Stay at home moms do not have to be "looking for work" to deserve your respect.
• What is really meant when people say "Oh, that must be nice" or "Your husband must be loaded".
• Stay at home moms are not slaves, and "I'll take care of the money while you take care of the house and kids" is not a fair deal.
• Why feminists who bash stay at home moms aren't real feminists at all.
• Why stay at home moms absolutely DO NOT have to start doing "more".
• Stay at home moms have to create an environment that supports socializing. Everything changes for them socially. Be supportive.
• The true benefits to having a stay at home mom in our home.
• Why is this relevant to men? What can guys do to help?

"They are the unnecessary recipients of a lot of crap"

"Is it a struggle sometime? Yes. Is it hard sometimes? Yes. For me and for her"

"Since she's become a stay at home mom, my wife has been attacked by people"

"If you think every mom on the planet should be working, you are wrong. Deal with that."

"Men, Stay at home moms are not slaves"

"You have no idea how much of a privilege it is in a way to drop your kids off at daycare and go to work"

"You might actually be putting more money in the bank by staying at home"

"If you're not going to encourage them, don't discourage them"

"Your stay at home mom is without a doubt the most valuable thing you have in your household"

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Thank you for tuning in to another episode of Fathership! Today I'm talking about updating your software and becoming a better version of you for the benefit of those around you. Not sure what I mean? When software companies release the first version of something it's usually labelled as "Thing 1.0" and as new versions come out, the number values increase. You may not realize it, but life is a lot like that when we encounter new things and need to adapt into a new person to deal with them. Over the course of the last 3 years, I've found myself undergoing a ton of software updates on myself in order to keep up with the life I'm choosing to live, and this episode is going in depth about how I've been able to do it, and how you can be doing something similar in order to deal with what your life is throwing at you!

• What did Scott version 1.0 look like, and why was it the easiest time in my life?
• Starting an online business was the dawn of version 2.0.
• Getting married, having a baby and buying a home in one year cause 3 more version updates.
• The direct benefits of adapting to stress and pressuring and levelling up into a better version of you.
• What kind of man will Scott 7.0 be?

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"It's like a video game that gets progressively harder the longer you're in it"

"I consider 1.0 my life when I was the only thing I had to worry about"

"All of a sudden there was so much pressure put on me to churn out a living"

"I was going to have to become the person who is comfortable with this level of pressure"

"Marriage required me to step up in a very big way, and is still requiring me to step up in a very big way"

"The more you grow, the more you can handle is what I'm learning"

"Once you're there, you either level up or run away"

"We're always living in the residual of our choices"

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Welcome to Fathership

In this episode, I talk about the 3 major reasons this show was launched, and how each component came at just the right time. I share some of the unexpected struggles that come with being a work from home dad with an online business, how life has changed as a result of having a child, and what I expect to gain from launching a show about being a solid dad. Being a father is less about having children and more about being the strong, dependable, consistent and loyal human being that your children need in their lives. This show is documenting my journey to learn these lessons, and become the best possible man for the benefit of myself, my wife and my children. Feel free to tag along on this adventure, and if you ever find yourself needing help: You're not alone. We're in this together.

• How the show had an audience before the idea was even formed.
• The family necessities that caused the show to become a priority instead of just an idea.
• The big selfish reason behind starting Fathership.
• What can be expected from future episodes of the podcast.
• How you, your partner and your children can benefit from you listening in.

"Dads are typically quite supportive of each other."

"Usually dads make fun of each other and laugh at each other if we're doing a bad job and then offer to lend a helping hand"

"I feel blessed to be a dad"

"I wish my boyfriend heard this before he left"

"They live life in the same house as me and I only get to see them so much"

"It's important for me to put my family up top, but I always felt weird about making my family second"

"I need to do more for my family"

"Dads have reached out with similar problems to what I'm experiencing"

"Let's try to get this show into the hands of as many capable and willing fathers as possible"

"The world can benefit from more dads being great men"

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What's up? 

Scott Doucet here. I'm pretty much living the life of my dreams. I married the girl of my dreams, I have my dream car, I live in a house in my hometown that I own. I have a daughter and a son on the way and at the time of recording this trailer

Things could not be more complicated

Because as it turns out, when you achieve the life of your dreams, the work isn't over. You now have to work hard to maintain those dreams, to nurture the relationships you build, to grow beyond the person you are right now, to be the person who deserves to hang on to everything you've worked to accomplish, and to be the person who can truly enjoy everyone and vetting around them.

That is now the person I am trying to grow to be.

This is that Journey. The Fathership Podcast is all about growing into the role of dad, growing into the role of husband, growing into the role of home owner, growing into the role of community leader and being the best business owner I can possibly be.

It's not going to be easy. Quite frankly, this is the hardest thing I'm ever going to do. It won't only be the victories we share. We'll be talking about the struggles, the addictions and the things we have to overcome.

I'll be talking to Dads, Moms, and experts from around the globe about their experiences with fatherhood, parenting, relationships and life in order to grow and to help you grow into the best versions of ourselves we can possibly be.

Join us.