F*ck The Rules

Hiatus Replay!
Season 3 Episode 8
Original air date: 03/07/2023

Music.

For most persons it is all through their lives, celebrations, losses, just living. It reminds us of events, places, people, history, and who we are as individuals.

I was lucky to grab my friend, Derek Fortin, former lead singer for The Dawn (among his other participation in several bands), to discuss how he sees music in his life while also being an RN and now a director in the medical world. And we also get into how music moves other humans, how it can express things we think, feel or live but we're unable to put it into what we feel are the right words.

One of my favorite lyrics is from one of the songs by Paul Simon: 
My life's so common it disappears
And sometimes even music
Cannot substitute for tears
- Cool, Cool River, album: The Rhythm of the Saints - released 1990

Music is a powerful medium to evoke serious emotions of joy, resignation, anger, love and/or sadness. And understanding what another human is living, connecting us to one another.
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Hiatus Replay!
Season 3 Episode 7
Original air date: 02/27/2023

My guest, and friend, Crystal Bessler and I hit the ground running in this episode. We cover inherited expectations from multiple sources, what obligations creates for some persons, what does it mean to take personal responsibility and owning our own shit, and what it does when you have the support of others while kicking your life into gear.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion of  sexual assault.

More info on Crystal:
Crystal Besseler, BSN R N, works in Behavioral Health with children through geriatric populations, as well as having experience with Crisis/Emergency 
Behavioral Health, Drug and Alcohol Detox/Addiction Recovery, and Corrections populations. Crystal is also a qualified Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner. She's currently working in the ever expanding field of medical health technology as a digital health nurse, taking care of hospital patients in their own homes.

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Hiatus Replay!
Season 3 Episode 4
Original air date: 02/06/2023

Anitwork, wtf is that? Well, it means multiple things to various persons and groups. I've got someone working in that area, Meg Kelly, to discuss her work there. And, yeah THAT awesome Meg from previous episodes and her own podcast Mental Status.

We discuss what that term means, how it is applied to various populations, but what it means especially with mental health professionals.

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Megan Kelly, MA LMHC
Is a polyamory therapist, counseling for burnout in therapists, and EMDR therapy in Fort Wayne, Indianapolis, Bloomington, and virtually across the state of Florida. 

She's  working to deconstruct what it means to be a therapist in today's world. You can find more about Megan and that work over here:
https://www.instagram.com/antiworktherapist

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Hiatus Replay!
Season 3 Episode 2
Original air date: 01/16/2023

My friend and guest, Gary Hogener joins me in this episode to discuss all his experiences he's had to date: veteran, law enforcement officer, educator, security consultant, security guard. I'm grateful for Gary agreeing to join me.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion of combat experiences, suicide, and PTSD symptoms.
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Resources for support:

ResponderStrong
https://responderstrong.org/

All Clear Foundation
https://allclearfoundation.org/

CopLine
https://www.copline.org/

NVFC
https://www.nvfc.org/

Veteran Crisis Line
https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/

Sebastian Younger documentary:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Restrepo_(film)
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 12

The final episode in this first season of Women & Their Tattoos, and it's a whopper at just under an hour. Bhavna and I are talking about so many experiences in our lives and our tattoos. So grab your favorite beverage and enjoy!

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners:  trauma, suicidal ideation, stalking/violence against women, racism, domestic violence.

Bhavna talks passionately about Working with Leadership, HR advisors and EAPS and has helped senior leadership in organizations address their Well-being strategies by creating happy, safe and nurturing environments where both employees and the company can thrive. 

From her work as an accredited Psychotherapist, Coach, Speaker, Critical Incident Debriefer and Trainer with 30 years’ experience in serving 19k clients globally with professional help, Bhavna has supported managers and organizations to bring dignity, empathy and compassion back into the workplace and reduce the impact on Mental Health from Racism and Discrimination Towards the BAME LGBTQ+ Community and Well-Being strategies and Creating Better Organizational Cultures with clients including major Police Forces and Retail chains in the UK. 

Bhavna is a UN Women's UK CSW68 Delegate and will be adding her voice and advocacy for disadvantaged women and girls to the conference sessions. 

Bhavna frequently guests on Radio, international podcasts and speaks at conferences sharing lessons from her personal Coming Out journey especially as an academically accomplished Indian Woman, in a frequently exclusive field.

She is a sought after speaker on webinars and panels, speaking about Mental Health, Suicide and Relationships as well as Championing LGBTQ+ Employee Mental Health and Well-Being internationally. 

Bhavna has also been commissioned to write articles on Stress, LGBTQ+ issues, Mental Health, Journaling, Bullying and Grief for a leading Mental Health magazine as an Expert Columnist and as a contributor for Hello! Magazine as well as a regular contributor to the BACP’s resource library of articles and educational videos for the public.
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Hiatus Replay 2024!
Season 3 Episode 1
Original air date: 01/09/2023

No. 1 Child is back and we're discussing all sorts of things that frustrates folx in finding a therapist. We also discuss the documentary, Stutz as well as what it means to be raised by flawed humans.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: trauma, family of origin issues, suicide/suicidal ideation.

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More Seneca info:
When Seneca isn't being sassy Number One Child co-host, she's busy earning a living in areas of finance that her mother still doesn't quite understand.  

Outside of work, Seneca is a licensed cosmetologist and makeup artist.

Seneca’s hobbies include studying latest fashion trends, going hiking and fishing as well as baking and cooking.
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Support the show

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 11

It was such a pleasure to host Sam Shepherd in discussing her tattoos and journey on the way to get them!

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion of  depression, trauma.

More info on Sam:
Samantha Shepherd is a LMFT who lives in San Diego, CA. She is multiracial, a member of the latinx community, and bilingual in Spanish. "I show up as my authentic self to therapy so my clients can. I love working with individuals who are ready to make some changes in their life. I am not a "one-size-fits-all" type of therapist and that's what I fucking love about my work. I work with different issues such as trauma, attachment styles, cultural identity, first generation college students, etc. I'm just getting started opening my private practice and I'm looking forward to serving more of my community."

If The Couch Could Speak Podcast
https://open.spotify.com/show/4VlB5Bfzj8n0GSeGNYPGA7

Charles Bukowski
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Bukowski

Henry Rollins
https://www.henryrollins.com/

Rene Magritte
https://www.moma.org/artists/3692

Banksy
https://www.banksy.co.uk/

Grave of the Fireflies (spoilers)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grave_of_the_Fireflies
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 10

One of my girls, Kerri, is joining me for the first time on this podcast! We chat about her decision behind getting her tattoos, and process of getting tattoos done. I was pleased that she had the time in her busy schedule to sit and chat with me.

Kerri's info:
"I have a Bachelor's degree in Animal Science with additional course work in food safety and microbiology. While I currently work in grants administration, I've also worked as a project coordinator for a marketing company, a certified pharmacy technician in both retail and hospital settings, and have almost a decade of experience as a barista. When not trying to keep up with my son, I enjoy reading, knitting and crocheting, trying out new recipes, and tackling home renovation projects."
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 20

This is not the usual format of FTRP episode as No. 1 Child and I are wander all over the place, lose our place, laugh quite a bit, and still manage to get out what's upcoming for the hiatus (Season 3, top 10 downloaded episodes), opening up the "Women & Their Tattoos" series in 2024, and what's coming up for Season 5.

And I'm still trying to figure out if I'm going to post video format of the podcast episodes in the near future...

More Seneca info:
When Seneca isn't being sassy Number One Child co-host, she's busy earning a living in areas of finance that her mother still doesn't quite understand.  

Outside of work, Seneca is a licensed cosmetologist and makeup artist.

Seneca’s hobbies include studying latest fashion trends, going hiking and fishing as well as baking and cooking.

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Resources:
World’s Okayest Medic Podcast
Podcast for prehospital medical providers who aren’t looking for a snooze fest. Based out of Delaware, USA

https://www.instagram.com/okmedicpodcast/

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 19

I was incredibly fortunate that my guest, Bhavna Raithatha had time on her day off to sit and chat with me for this episode.

Bhavna is a force of nature: teaching, speaking, volunteering. She's got an incredible survival journey through her life of multiple traumas and experienced racism since she was a young girl, and she's using her voice to advocate and educate folx. And even if my power messed up a chunk of the chat with Bhavna, there's so much of her journey she tells that I feel gives yet another perspective of a lived experience.

PLEASE NOTE:
We discuss the following topics that may be distressing to listeners - various trauma experiences, stalking and violence, loss, abuse, medical issues, suicide/suicidal ideation, racism.

More info on Bhavna:
Bhavna Raithatha BSc, MSc, MBACP (Accred) is a Psychotherapist, Supervisor, Speaker, Coach, Critical Debriefer & Trainer, and Pride 365 Champion. Bhavna provides inclusive and affirming therapy for marginalised communities including BAME LGBTQIAA+ individuals. She also provides personalised coaching and support packages to clients at all levels in the corporate, private and voluntary sectors.

Website: www.justbeyourself.co.uk

http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/bhavna-raithatha

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bhavna-raithatha-mindset-coach

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.