F*ck The Rules

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 6

Erika Hansen, The Rebel Therapist and owner of Hobein Counseling Services, joins me on this episode to talk about the importance of what her tattoos symbolize for her and her experiences - about being a therapist a SASS (Screening, Assessment and Support Services) crisis therapist,  and a crisis clinician in the ER Crisis Stabilization Unit, community mental health and law enforcement/mobile crisis, as well as her work now in private practice. Erika also talks about some of her personal religious trauma experiences.

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion includes the subject of trauma.

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You can find Erika here:
https://www.hobeincounseling.com/
Instagram: @the_rebel_therapist
TikTok: @wildmoonrebelsoul
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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
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Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 11

When you think about a sex therapist, do y'all bring to mind multiple films or shows that have the therapist sleeping with their clients? That's not a certified sex therapist. It's a work of storytelling that's not true to that specific therapy.

I'm grateful to Michele that she gave me some of her free time to discuss what her experiences have been in the journey to being a certified sex therapist, work with clients and what she feels how this type of therapy helps clients.

PLEASE NOTE: there are multiple topics discussed including frank sexual discussion.

For more info on Michele:
Michele LaReau-Alves is an LMHC, and AASECT certified sex therapist, working in private practice with couples and sexual issues. She worked in community mental health for 20 years where she started out addressing the complex struggles of children and families in the social services system. This led to a passion for working with the core unit of the family system, couples, and parents, who are instrumental in breaking the cycles of intergenerational trauma. Over the years she has cultivated an approach that reinforces the need for joy, pleasure, and a sense of wellbeing in life; and where mindfulness and wellness are foundational. Her work as a relationship and sex therapist invites the many expressions of relationship, identity, and sexuality into the process of finding healing and reconnection, while also identifying and shifting the cycles and narratives that keep us stuck and hurting.

You can find her on Psychology Today:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michele-lareau-alves-holliston-ma/323511

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Resources

Emily Nagoski , author:
Come as You Are 
https://a.co/d/8kPJwFY

Burnout
https://a.co/d/1YqIOOT


Laurie Mintz, author
Becoming Cliterate
https://a.co/d/2TqGT0m


Lori Brotto, author
Better Sex Through Mindfulness
https://a.co/d/fKel7EU


Jessica Fern, author
PolySecure 
https://a.co/d/iOoXG6R


David Schnarch
Passionate Marriage
https://a.co/d/8gx3PqT


Dr. Ruth Westheimer
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer


Dr. Faith Harper - her books
https://www.faithgharper.com/my-books-and-publications/


OMGYES
https://start.omgyes.com

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You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

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Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 10

It's hard being a human when your brain be a bastard. Sometimes that's because we're also struggling with health issues. In this episode, my colleague Alyssa talks about her area of expertise that encompasses functional nutrition and mental health.

There's loads of good information here!

Resource:
Dr. Korn
https://drlesliekorn.com

For the Brainbow Blueprint:
https://drlesliekorn.com/books

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Info about Alyssa:
I am a mother, counselor, friend, daughter and lover of all things summer and fitness. When I am not supporting individuals in their mental health journey, I am spending time with my friends and family, working out, learning and trying new things, and hoping to laugh so hard that I cry as often as possible.

Alyssa works with:

Individuals
Couples
Family therapy
Children, ages 2+

And specializes in:
Parenting, trauma, behavior issues in children and youth, anxiety, substance use and abuse, relationship issues and domestic violence, health and wellness, life transitions, depression, LGBTQIA+ affirmative.

For more information:

fortheloveofyou.org

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 5

My guest, Jill, is one of my ER crisis crew and a woman I have respected and admired for her skills and abilities as a clinician therapist. I'm so pleased she agreed to be my guest for this episode!

More info on Jill:
Jill Jaster is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (IA) and a License Clinical Professional Counselor (IL). She's been a therapist for 20 years, starting  her career in Chicago before moving to the Quad City area. Jill works with diverse populations, and specializes in grief, trauma, and crisis.

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 9

My connection with Steve Bisson was a serendipitous event, and as usual we have a good time chatting together in this episode! We do talk about multiple subjects, but the main subject is What The Fuck Is CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy)? Steve gave up some of his limited free time to talk about being a therapist providing therapy that includes CBT.

PLEASE NOTE: brief discussion about loss and suicide.

For more information on CBT:
Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy
https://www.youtube.com/@beckinstitute

Beck Institute for Cognitive Studies at Assumption University
https://www.assumption.edu/people-and-departments/organization-listing/aaron-t-beck-institute-cognitive-studies

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More information about Steve:
Steve Bisson is a licensed mental health counselor with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in substance use therapy, crisis management, and online counseling. Steve worked for a non-profit based out of for 15 years, where he held various positions, including program director, crisis clinician, and member of the original meetings for the Jail Diversion Program. He has been in private practice for 11 years, where is known for his work with first responders and medical staff, who make up a significant portion of his clientele. He is also the host of the mental health podcast, "Finding Your Way Through Therapy," and has authored a book and journal on mental wellness. Steve's education includes Bachelor of Arts and Master's degrees in Counseling Psychology, and his notable certifications include EMDR and coaching.

Instagram and TikTok:
@realstevebisson

Podcast:
Finding Your Way Through Therapy

Book:
Finding Your Way Through Therapy: A Navigation Tool for Therapists & Clients

Website:
http://stevebissonlmhc.com/

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 8

This episode, my guest James Boomhower and I chat about what he's been through in grad school and is currently working on finishing up his grad school program.

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More info about James:
James Boomhower, MS(c), FP-C, NR-P, C- NPT, CCISM has been involved in EMS for over 20 years in a variety of health systems throughout New England. 

He currently functions in the role of Critical Care Transport Specialist-Paramedic/ Lead Peer Support Director with Boston Medflight of Bedford, Massachusetts

His desire to bring mental health awareness to the EMS arena has spurred him to create the Stay Fit 4 Duty platform as well as work to implement a peer support program in his workplace. James promotes recognition, management and acceptance of acute stress in EMS providers throughout the world as a graduate intern of clinical psychology in Framingham, MA.

More information available on his website:
https://www.stayfit4duty.org/

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Extra Fucking Special Series
Women & Their Tattoos
Episode 4

I drag my other daughter, Jenn, back to the show to discuss her body art!

PLEASE NOTE: We discuss multiple topics and some may be distressing to listeners: discussion includes the subject of trauma.

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More info about Jenn:

Jenn is a graduate of Iowa State University with a degree in something that somehow led her here because life is full of mystery. In her free time she enjoys horseback riding, reading, cooking, and craft and sewing projects.

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History videos mentioned in the episode:
Nicole Rudolph
https://www.youtube.com/@NicoleRudolph

Bernadette Banner
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gYGUfg_NJzg
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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 7

I was so pleased when my guest this week, Dontea' Mitchel-Hunter, reached out to me recently to discuss her guesting on my podcast. I've wanted to reach out to her and am so grateful she was able to spend time with me for this episode!

PLEASE NOTE: there is discussion about family estrangement and suicidal ideation in this episode.

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More info about Dontea':
Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter is a self-worth coach, therapist, and speaker that helps women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. She wants women to know their worth doesn’t come from being in a relationship nor what others think of them.

Dontea’ is also the CEO of Soirées In Therapy, an online private practice, and the host of Situationsh!t Podcast, where she fearlessly tackles those common mental health hangups that we've all experienced. Feeling like you're too much or not enough? She's got your back! Tune in to her show for a dose of straightforward conversations, hilarious anecdotes, and lightning-fast tips on how to kickstart your mental health healing journey.

Social media links:

IG/TikTok: @soireesintherapy

 Link to my Situationship Quiz 

www.dontea.co/quiz

- for anyone who feels they are stuck in toxic relationship cycles and want to get out of them.

Podcast: Situationsh!t

www.dontea.co/podcast

Booking a coaching session with me:

https://calendly.com/selfworthconsult/coaching-consultation

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 6

Grad school for a lot of us is the pinnacle of our education. It's supposed to prepare us for the careers we've chosen to enter. 

Basics? Check!

More complicated information and experiences?
*insert cricket sounds*

Jennifer Bengston, tLMHC,  is my colleague, and she has *thoughts* on her experiences as I do, too. This is another perspective of a professional therapist that had so many questions than the grad school experience failed to provide answers.

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More info about Jennifer:
Jennifer is a Temporary Licensed Mental Health Counselor practicing in the state of Iowa. Jennifer’s career began in acute inpatient psychiatric care at the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics. She continued her crisis care at St Luke’s Hospital in Cedar Rapids through her journey in graduate school. During this time, Jennifer practiced as a Recreation Therapist and later received her Masters Degree at Northwestern University to become a practicing clinician. Jennifer provides individual therapy services for adults who have experienced trauma, body image concerns, relationship difficulties, and men’s mental health. Her passion is to spread awareness of trauma and the impact it has on each and every one of us. She believes the best therapeutic relationships start with comfortability and humor. Jennifer is the owner of Soothe Your Soul Therapy, PLLC and is a collective member of The MAD Therapy. 

Website: Sootheyoursoul.my.Canva.site/
TikTok: comfycozytherapist
Instagram: sootheyoursoultherapy 

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Need resources about building your private practice? I highly recommend checking these out. No, they're not sponsors, I utilized their information and support to build my practice.

Allison Puryear - Abundance Party
https://www.abundanceparty.com/

Watch Allison's YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/Abundancepracticebuilding

Tiffany McLain - Lean In. MAKE BANK
https://leaninmakebank.com/fwfcalculator/

Listen to a great interview about money with Tiffany McLain as the guest:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4nXnS_uxos

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC. 
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!

More info can be found on the website, Fuck The Rules Podcast.

***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only. 
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with: folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department folx. When she's not busy with all that, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's references.

Fuck The Rules Podcast
Season 4 Episode 5

This episode is just a lovely chat and ramble with the spouse of one of my favorite people. Sebastian Polhill digs in with me about some of the subjects I could talk for ages about: world history, Roman history, development of society and language, and most important, food. 

Grab a snack and your favored beverage, y'all. You're going to be peckish by the end of this episode!

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More about Sebastian:
Sebastian was born and raised in a single-parent family - Mum and 3 brothers. After doing reasonably well at school and then university he joined the British Army as an Education Officer, reaching the rank of Major over a 17 year career. This was followed by his second career as a High School Teacher of Mathematics, teaching at a variety of schools in both the UK and the USA.  He also took a 4-year sabbatical in the middle of this time to work in the construction industry as everything from labourer to site manager while he took a second bachelor's degree in Construction Management. He's now in a completely different 4th career as a car salesman.

Sebastian moved to the USA in order to marry his girlfriend of three years (refers to their relationship, not his girlfriend's age!) four-and-a-half years ago, following a two-year ordeal with the US Immigration Services, during which he was deported back to the UK twice!  He's now living very happily in the Quad Cities with his wife, Lynn, and her young-adult son, Brody.

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F*ck The Rules Podcast is produced by Evil Bambina Productions, LLC.
You can find our podcast on Amazon Music/Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and many more!
***
Social media/podcast episodes are not intended to replace therapy with a qualified mental health professional. All posts/episodes are for educational purposes only.
*****
Susan Roggendorf is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Iowa. In addition to hosting and producing her podcast, she's a volunteer mentor and a supervisor to new therapists, as well as running a private practice as an independent provider full-time. A National Certified Counselor through the NBCC as well as an Emergency Responder & Public Safety Certified Clinician through NERPSC and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Main populations Susan works with are folx living with anxiety and trauma experiences in the LGBTQIA community as well as First Responders, Law Enforcement, hospital staff, urgent care and Emergency Department personnel. When she's not busy with all those things, as a GenX elder, she's usually busy annoying her adult children with 70's and 80's pop culture references and music or she's busy in her garden.