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Aaaaah the "friend zone"! Everyone knows what it is and dreads being placed inside it! For most guys, it means the death of any hope of a romantic relationship. But riddle me this: if being your partner’s best friend is something most mature, long-term couples strive to achieve, why is being friended at the beginning of the relationship so dreadful? And why if being in a romantic relationship wasn’t meant to be anyway, do we forfeit any possibility of friendship out of fear of the being friend zoned? Why for some guys is the friend zone only reserved for those deemed asexual, unattractive or who identify as homosexual? And why is the friend zone for many guys a direct correlation to the caliber of their manhood or masculinity?

Back to help me in this exploration is my friend Steph G, creator and host of the What I Love About Men Podcast, and Men’s Relationship Expert. We don’t get to answer ALL of these questions, but we do explore MANY of the complex aspects of this very male-centric phenomenon!

In this episode, we try to define what the friend zone is and why so many guys fear it. We explore the difference in value that men and women place on friendship. We discuss the importance of actually being your partner’s friend and why it’s important for us to start teaching young men the significance of friendship in their early relationships, and why being friend zoned is a deal breaker for so many guys! And much much more!

Whether you’re a guy or girl, single or dating, in a committed relationship or just friends with benefits, or maybe you know someone in a bind that really needs to hear this, this is an episode that everyone can benefit from!

This Fear Less 5 features a segment of a previous episode that was edited out, not solely for contextual reasons, but more so for the purpose of having the very valuable information presented be able to stand on its own as a solo round.

Igor Litvak, data analyst, financial trader, and Paleo fitness & wellness enthusiast, talks about diets, focus and eating well. Why is this on the Fear Less U you ask? We actually discuss how a fear of failure is why many diets fail, and how you can outperform this fear with a few simple tweaks to your routines and mentality.

You know the interviews don’t actually end with my guests and I saying goodbye! Oftentimes, I’m on the phone with them for another 10-15 minutes after the actual interview has ended, with us talking and reflecting on the things we just finished talking and reflecting on! Haha! But it’s a great time to finish up our time together. I want all of my guests to know just how much I appreciate them and to know that it’s not just about what they can do for me and this show, but what I can hopefully do for them as well!

So, this episode, I thought it’d be fun to share some of the post-interview moments, the “after thoughts” if you will, of myself and my guests! This is “After Thoughts, Vol. 1”, featuring Eric Thompson, Ozay Moore, Aida and Stephanie Ganowski.

I kinda hate saying this simply because I’m sure this is going to happen often as this show continues, but this was probably my most FUN interview so far! Stephanie Ganowski, aka Steph, was such a blast to interview and I truly hope you guys have as much fun listening as I did conducting!So who is Steph Ganowski? We actually met on Instagram, which is yet another reason why I LOVE that platform! She’s a relationship and intimacy coach who focuses on men, giving them the tools they need to gain massive confidence in the dating world! So yeah, this one is for the fellas or the fella in your life, whether that’s your hubby, your boyfriend, your son or nephew, or maybe even your best friend! Everyone has something tremendous to gain from this episode!!!We talk about 4 dating fears that are specific to men. We briefly discuss Lewis Howes’ “Masks of Masculinity”, and which masks Stephanie finds to be most common among her clients. Steph also gives you fellas listening some etiquette advice for pursuing women online or on social media without seeming like a stalker! And before Steph outlines 3 actionable bits of advice, we discuss common dating “myths”, one of my favorite things to discuss! I think what makes this episode so awesome is that approaching “emotional blocks” from the standpoint of fear is somewhat of a new insight for Steph’s teaching, so we really got to learn a lot from each other in this interview!

My good friend and financial expert Igor Litvak joins us on this episode of The Fear Less U to discuss money. Why is it that money is so emotional? Why is it that we have such a hard time talking about it with our spouses, families, and ourselves? Why are we so afraid of this artificial, man-made construct that we allow it to ruin our day, our mood, our marriages, and our lives? Why do we fear money?

In this value-loaded episode, we talk about WHY we as humans have such a hard time talking about money, with our families, our spouses, our kids, and ourselves. We talk about how money is EMOTIONAL and why it’s important for you to understand that concept! We talk about 6 money MYTHS that keep you in a place of fear when it comes to money!!!

Finally, and this is the part you’ll FOR SURE want to stick around for - Igor drops 3 actionable steps you can take TODAY to help you better understand your fears about money and outperform those fears!

Back in June of this year, I was invited to speak at an event about fear - not just how to help athletes outperform their fears but how to help parents and coaches better understand what their athletes are going through. While there, I made a new friend by the name of Aida. You’ll hear all about how we met in this episode, but just know that our encounter truly blessed my day and touched my heart! If I had to give Aida a title as an expert in some field, it would be observation, introspection, and forgiveness. She is a testament to what the power of forgiveness can do to your life, and how learning what truly matters in your world helps you focus your love and your pursuits. But even beyond that, she’s learned to better understand herself, which has helped her to better understand her fear. By doing so, she’s better able to lead her daughters by example, showing them how to outperform their fears on a daily basis. We talk about how it was only when Aida was tired of being a victim that she began exceeding the expectations of those who sought to put limitations on her life. We talk about drawing strength from adversity, and how she feels her gift is being a vessel that connects people, helping them find each other. And we talk about how getting to keep her daughters in her life is what inspires her to keep going every single day.

In this episode of the Fear Less U, I had the good fortune and honor to interview one of my oldest friends, someone who I’ve always held in high esteem because of his gift of eloquence, his heart for service, and his humility.

Ozay Moore, formerly known as Othello of the Lightheaded Crew, is in my opinion one of the most gifted artists of our time! A lyricist, poet, emcee and now teacher and agent of change in his community, Ozay and I talk about being willing to learn in order to overcome. We talk about intentional branding & why it’s such an important thing to be conscientious of. We talk about finding balance in every area of our lives and how everything is a matter of perspective. And finally, we talk about how you do more extraordinary things when the stakes are high and what you’re doing is done for others.

You guys get ready because there is only one Ozay Moore and his heart is so unique!

This week, Coach Lain gets a little passionate, as he shares his call to action with all who are allowing fear to dictate their lives, fill their hearts with doubt and curse their minds. There is no such thing as a perfect time, so the best chance you'll ever have to step into your destiny is RIGHT NOW!

Just because we focus on understanding our fears here at Fear Less U, doesn't mean we can't get "in-your-face" passionate about it! This is a call to movement, a proclamation of greatness, a fight song to fearing less and doing more!

Grab a towel, this one is gonna want to make you move!!!

You voted and we listened! This week I reached out to my Instagram followers and asked what they wanted to hear on this week’s podcast, and this was it: Fear Myths! On this episode of the Fear Less U, Coach Lain explores 3 common myths about fear and puts them to the test! I’ve hand-selected 3 of the most common and most damaging myths that I commonly come across about fear that need to be immediately busted!

This Fear Less 5 is dedicated to busting some of the most damaging misconceptions of fear out there! So pencils up, it’s time to separate fact from fiction. This, is Fear Less U’s “Fear Busters”!

In this week's Fear Less 5 solo round, Coach Lain touches on the concept of "atychiphobia", or "the fear of failure", and how the lack of being able to remain consistent can contribute to what keeps you from starting in the first place.