Fearless Tips and Talks with Christy Boulware

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Have you ever wondered if setting a boundary makes you a bad Christian, a selfish friend, or a dishonoring daughter or son? For years I wrestled with those questions and carried a lot of anxiety because I did not understand healthy, biblical boundaries.

In Talk 72: Healthy Love, Healthy Boundaries, I share a live teaching from my local church where we unpack what Scripture really says about burdens, responsibility, and love. We look at Galatians 6, explore the difference between helping someone carry a heavy crisis and carrying their everyday backpack of responsibility, and talk about why God honoring limits are actually an expression of love, not a rejection of it.

Inside this episode you will hear:

• A short recap of Talk 71, Facing Conflict God's Way, and why conflict has to be handled in a holy way first
• Real life examples of manipulation, spiritual pressure, and guilt that can leave you feeling trapped
• A simple, biblical framework for what you are responsible for and what you are not
• Questions to ask yourself when you are not sure if it is time to set a boundary
• Sample boundary statements you can adapt for your own relationships
• A powerful story of how God confirmed a very painful boundary through a prophetic word at just the right time

If you are feeling drained, resentful, confused, or anxious around a relationship, this conversation is for you. My prayer is that God uses it to help you release what he never asked you to carry and to love others more wisely, with truth, limits, and peace.

If you have not listened to Talk 71 yet, Facing Conflict God's Way, I recommend starting there and then coming back to this episode, since the two messages really belong together.

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Conflict is part of life, but how we handle it determines whether it destroys peace or deepens growth. In Talk 71 of Fearless Tips and Talks, Christy shares a biblical and practical approach to facing conflict God’s way. From learning to think the best in others to watching your tone and taking responsibility, this episode will equip you to handle disagreements with grace, humility, and truth.

Christy walks through Philippians 4 and Matthew 18, revealing how conflict—when addressed with love and honesty—can sharpen us rather than divide us. You’ll leave this message encouraged, challenged, and ready to be a true peacemaker, not just a peacekeeper.

Listen in and learn the five T’s of facing conflict God’s way:
 Think the best. Timing. Take responsibility. Tell the truth in love. Tone.

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Podcast Description (Fearless Tips & Talks – Talk 70: Trading Rules for Relationship)

In this powerful episode, Christy Boulware welcomes her friend Stephanie Gilbert from Pastors’ Wives Tell All to share a deeply personal story about breaking free from legalism and learning to walk in the freedom of relationship with Jesus.

Stephanie grew up in a church culture where rules outweighed grace—where fear, guilt, and performance defined faith. Through her journey, she discovered that God’s heart has always been for relationship, not religion.

Together, Christy and Stephanie unpack what legalism looks like today, how it quietly seeps into our hearts, and how to trade striving for peace by returning to the simplicity of loving God and others.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re never “enough” in your faith, or struggled to separate conviction from shame, this episode will speak straight to your heart.

🕊 Listen in and be reminded: God never asked for perfection—He invited you into His presence.

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Talk 69: Hearing from God (Part 2) – Real Stories of Hearing His Voice

In this powerful continuation of Hearing from God, Christy and Layla move from teaching to testimony. In Part 1, they unpacked the biblical foundation for hearing God’s voice. In this episode, they bring it to life with real stories of how God speaks—through prophecy, prayer, and the Holy Spirit’s gentle nudges that transform hearts.

From a fire-pit encounter at a Fearless Retreat where the Spirit moved mightily, to stories of freedom, healing, and deliverance, this conversation will stir your faith to believe that God still speaks—and He wants to speak to you.

Five Fold Test: https://fivefoldministry.com/survey-answer-set/168150/

💬 Key Topics:

• Real-life examples of the gift of prophecy in action
• How to step out in faith when hearing God’s voice
• The connection between hearing God and inner healing
• Practical encouragement to discern, trust, and obey

Listen now and be reminded that God is a personal, loving Father who speaks to His children—sometimes in the quiet, sometimes in the miraculous, but always in love.

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Talk 68: Hearing From God, Part 1 with Christy and Layla
How do you actually hear God’s voice in real life, not just in theory? In Part 1, Christy sits down with Layla, a student pastor and trusted coworker in Christ, to unpack what Scripture says and how to practice hearing God daily. We cover the Fivefold gifts, why hearing God moves faith from rules to relationship, practical ways to discern His voice, and a powerful story about a student who heard “Doritos” and watched God confirm it on the streets of Orlando.

What you will learn

• Why hearing God is for every believer, not a select few
• How to tell the difference between God’s voice, your thoughts, and the enemy
• Simple steps to practice: be still, watch, wait, write, withdraw, listen
• How the Fivefold gifts help the church hear and respond together
• Guardrails so “God told me” stays humble, biblical, and loving

Scriptures mentioned
John 10:3, 5, 27 • Romans 10:17 • Hebrews 4:12 • 2 Timothy 3:16–17 • Hebrews 1:1–2 • Exodus 3 • 1 Kings 19:11–13 • Acts 13:2 • Numbers 22:21–35 • Acts 2:17 • Psalm 46:10 • Habakkuk 2:1–2 • Mark 1:35 • Luke 10:38–42 • 1 Corinthians 3:9 • Ephesians 4:11–16

Key takeaways

• Hearing God is a relationship skill you can practice
• God speaks in ways that align with His Word and character
• Encouragement and edification are safe places to start
• Use a humble posture: “I sense” or “I feel the Lord may be saying”
• Write down impressions and look for confirmation

Chapters (suggested)
00:00 Welcome and why this topic matters
02:05 Coworkers in Christ and the Fivefold overview
06:40 Why hearing God is for everyone
10:55 How God speaks today
16:45 Discernment filter and healthy guardrails
23:20 Student ministry practice nights
27:45 Story: the “Doritos” confirmation
33:50 How to grow in hearing God
38:20 Be still, watch, wait, write, withdraw, listen
41:30 What is coming in Part 2

Resources

• Fivefold Ministry test 
• Fearless Unite discipleship: Walk With Me 

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What if the hardest person to confront isn’t someone else—but the Haman within?

In this powerful message, Shaunna Coin takes us on a deeply personal journey through pride, conviction, confession, and forgiveness. Drawing from the story of Esther, she reveals how unchecked pride, bitterness, and silence can destroy relationships and rob us of peace—and how humility and repentance open the door to healing and freedom.

Through honest storytelling, biblical truth, and Spirit-led reflection, you’ll learn:
 ✨ How conviction is actually God’s mercy
 ✨ Why confession is the gateway to restoration
 ✨ How pride blinds us—and how humility breaks those chains
 ✨ What it really means to confront the “Haman” within your own heart

If you’ve ever struggled to admit when you’re wrong, to ask for forgiveness, or to release bitterness—this message will speak straight to your soul.

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Talk 66: Bold Faith with Lauren Jordan

In this week’s episode, we’re sharing a special message from our Fearless Retreat with Lauren Jordan. What does it mean to live with bold faith—and how does that kind of faith help us walk fearlessly, even through anxiety?

Lauren shares heartfelt stories, hilarious moments, and deep truths about what it means to hold onto Jesus with an unbreakable grip. You’ll hear how faith grows through obedience, courage, and trust, even when life doesn’t make sense.

Get ready to be encouraged, challenged, and reminded that bold faith glorifies God and transforms how we live.

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We often think testimonies have to be dramatic or life-changing, but sometimes they happen right in the middle of our everyday chaos—like when there’s literal poop on the wall.

In this message, Tara Welnick shares her testimony and reminds us that even in our mess, God is faithful, present, and working behind the scenes. Whether your story feels small or mighty, it’s proof of His goodness.

💬 Tara’s message will encourage you to see that your testimony doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be proof that God showed up.

🙏 Key Themes:

• What a “testimony” really means (biblically and personally)
• Finding God in ordinary, hard, or chaotic moments
• Learning to lay your burdens down and let Him step in

📖 Scripture Inspiration:
Revelation 12:11 — “They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony.”

❤️ If this message encourages you, please like, comment, and share it with someone who needs to be reminded that God shows up even in the mess.

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Talk 64: Freedom From Shame

In this deeply moving episode, my dear friend Becky shares her raw and powerful testimony of how shame, grief, and depression once held her captive — and how Jesus set her free. From suicidal thoughts in her teenage years, to the heartbreaking loss of multiple children, to the struggle of leading worship while wrestling with anxiety and shame, Becky opens her heart with honesty and courage.

You’ll hear the moment chains began to fall, the tangible presence of God in her pain, and even a song that flowed straight from her healing. It’s not polished audio, but it’s a real-life glimpse of a woman who has been transformed by God’s relentless love.

If you’ve ever felt buried by shame or wondered if God could meet you in your deepest grief, this episode is for you.

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Tip 40: How To Be Still

In a world that constantly pushes hustle, hurry, and endless distractions, learning how to be still before the Lord can feel nearly impossible. Our brains are addicted to fake dopamine hits from scrolling, binge-watching, or staying “busy,” leaving little room for true rest in God’s presence.

In this teaching, I walk you through what “being still” really means, why Jesus modeled it for us in Scripture, and how you can begin to practice it in your own life. You’ll learn:

• Why our culture resists stillness
• The connection between distraction, dopamine, and our distance from God
• How Jesus retreated for prayer before and after big moments
• Practical tools to quiet racing thoughts and place your worries in God’s hands

Be encouraged—it may feel uncomfortable at first, but with practice, stillness will become a powerful rhythm that draws you deeper into the Lord’s presence.

✨ Sticky statement from this video: “If we are constantly stimulated and our thoughts are moving at a hundred miles per hour, how will we ever hear from the Lord?”

📖 Scriptures mentioned: Matthew 14:22–23, Mark 1:35

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