Feel This with Frank and Jess

In this thought-provoking episode, Frank and Jess delve into the complex world of beliefs, exploring how our perceptions shape our reality and impact our relationships. Through the lens of tarot and personal experiences, they discuss the vulnerability of sharing our deepest truths and the courage it takes to stand firm in our beliefs while remaining open to different perspectives.

The conversation touches on the fear of rejection when our beliefs differ from others, the importance of internal validation, and the potential for growth that comes from engaging with diverse viewpoints. Frank and Jess challenge listeners to examine their own belief systems and consider how they might cultivate more openness and resilience in the face of differing opinions.

This episode offers a rich exploration of personal truth, spiritual connection, and the ongoing journey of self-discovery, inviting listeners to reflect on their own experiences with belief and perception.

[00:00:00] Introduction and welcoming listeners to the podcast

[00:01:10] Frank leads a grounding meditation on expanding awareness beyond physical boundaries

[00:05:00] Jess shares her excitement and curiosity about bringing tarot into the conversation

[00:10:10] Frank discusses the concept of boundaries and our inability to truly feel where we end

[00:15:36] Exploring the concept of belief and its impact on personal and societal levels

[00:25:26] Jess pulls the Seven of Cups tarot card and discusses its symbolism

[00:29:56] Frank shares his interpretation of the card and relates it to belief systems

[00:35:11] Discussing the challenge of sharing beliefs that others may not understand or accept

[00:41:09] Exploring the fear of not being safe when others don't share our beliefs

[00:52:58] Frank shares an experience of encountering radically different belief systems

[01:09:52] Examining the subjective nature of beliefs and scientific "truths"

[01:17:45] Discussing the vulnerability of sharing beliefs and the fear of judgment

[01:22:37] Jess reflects on personal growth and the courage to express beliefs openly

[01:25:29] Closing thoughts and invitation for listeners to reflect on their own beliefs

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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

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About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

In this episode, Frank and Jess vulnerably navigate the waters of change as they discuss bringing Jess's tarot practice into the podcast. Through authentic sharing and deep listening, they explore the fears, excitement, and growth opportunities that arise in the face of transition. The tarot cards offer profound insights on presence, unity, and self-care, mirroring the very themes that emerge in their conversation. As Jess steps more fully into her purpose and Frank embraces the co-creative process, "Feel This 2.0" is born—a testament to the transformative power of relationship and the wisdom that lies within each of us.

[00:00:00] Introduction and welcoming the listener to "Feel This 2.0"

In this session, Frank and Jess explore the concept of practice and how it can be applied to various aspects of life, from engaging with addictive behaviors to finding joy in the present moment. They illuminate the importance of integrating all parts of ourselves and finding the hidden wisdom in even the most mundane activities.

Key Takeaways:

- Viewing everyday activities as practices can help us find deeper meaning and opportunities for growth

- Allowing ourselves to fully experience and enjoy the present moment can help break patterns of compulsive behavior

- By differentiating from our parts and expanding our awareness, we can shift from feeling trapped in a "phone booth" to embracing the spaciousness of the "field"

- Turning towards the uncomfortable or neglected parts of ourselves with presence and care is a powerful act of self-validation

Timestamps:

[00:00:00] Introduction and welcoming the listener

[00:03:05] Guided meditation: Dropping into the heart space and tuning into what's alive

[00:07:39] Jess shares her sense of openness and curiosity around inner defensiveness

[00:16:22] Frank explores the concept of practice and its application to various areas of life

[00:22:32] Discussing the value of mastery and self-awareness in phone games

[00:29:13] The power of allowing ourselves to fully enjoy the present moment

[00:35:11] Frank shares his experience of applying a practice mindset to video games

[00:41:50] Jess reflects on the excitement of seeing the interconnectedness of practices

[00:45:35] Frank discusses the importance of integrating the enjoyment of addictive behaviors

[00:52:58] "This shit works" - The transformative power of the practices being discussed

[00:58:39] Clarifying what "this" really means in terms of the healing process

[01:02:15] The shift from identifying with the "phone booth" to embracing the "field"

[01:08:49] The practice of turning towards the uncomfortable places within ourselves

[01:14:32] Closing reflections and appreciations

Frank and Jess remind us that by approaching life with a sense of curiosity and a willingness to embrace all parts of ourselves, we can unlock the transformative power of practice in even the most unexpected places. Whether it's through meditation, authentic connection, or finding joy in a simple phone game, every moment offers an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

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We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

In this session, Frank and Jess dive deep into the murky waters of resignation, uncovering its sneaky power. Jess names the constriction and anger bubbling up around her upcoming art show, while Frank shares his own experiences navigating the push and pull between connection and self-protection.

We would love to stay connected! 

Join Our Mailing List and talk with us directly!

Coming soon! A Feel This online community space. Keep an eye and ear out!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

In this thought-provoking session, Frank and Jess venture into the uncharted territory of using artificial intelligence for self-discovery and personal transformation. Frank introduces his work with Claude, an AI model developed by Anthropic, which he has tailored through meticulously designed prompts to act as a mirror for deep introspection.

For listeners new to the concept, prompts are the initial instructions given to an AI that significantly shape the subsequent interaction. They are a way to "program" the AI to better serve specific purposes, like fostering self-awareness.

Key Takeaways:

Throughout the episode, Jess fearlessly shares her inner world, including a defensive part activated by the AI's supportive words. Together, Frank and Jess tenderly explore what emerges, modeling curiosity and compassion.

As Jess observes, "There's something about this, as I am seeing it from the outside, that feels like a mirror to me... a particularly clear mirror that can be a great tool for getting to know self in new ways."

Though the AI's responses were terser than Frank expected, they still catalyzed profound insights for Jess. The episode concludes with a touching reflection on owning our internal experiences and the courage to share this cutting-edge exploration.

Frank notes, "Everything I'm experiencing is coming from me, from myself... There is not an external here... everything that's happening is happening within each of us."

Join Frank and Jess in this intimate, pioneering journey into using AI for self-understanding and healing. Witness how even an artificial "mirror" can powerfully reflect our deepest human needs, fears, and potential for growth.

After listening, take a moment to notice: What parts of yourself came forward as you engaged with this episode? How might you bring more awareness to the protective parts of your own psyche?

New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!

We would love to stay connected! 

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Coming soon! A Feel This online community space. Keep an eye and ear out!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

Frank and Jess share the practice of softening, the most amazing antidote to defensiveness. Softening connects us to a fuller sense of self, by creating space for our “negative” parts. This detox process can be slow and scary, but it leads to more flow and energy to take action naturally, without having to push ourselves.

We would love to stay connected! 

Join Our Mailing List and talk with us directly!

Coming soon! A Feel This online community space. Keep an eye and ear out!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

In this deeply personal and revelatory episode, Frank vulnerably shares about a profound setback he recently faced and the powerful emotions of grief and shame that arose in its wake. Jess holds space for Frank's authentic expression, as they navigate the complex terrain of grief, shame, and the inner child's longing for joy and connection.

Through their dialogue, Frank and Jess model the transformative potential of being witnessed in our rawest experiences. They explore the importance of allowing all emotions to be felt and expressed, without trying to bypass or "fix" the discomfort. As Frank touches the depth of his grief, Jess mirrors back his experience with empathy and presence, creating a safe container for his tender unfolding.

The conversation illuminates the power of meeting challenging emotions with compassionate curiosity, and the healing that can occur when we feel truly seen and held in our vulnerability. Frank and Jess's exchange also highlights the value of honoring the natural ebb and flow of emotional states, allowing space for both the heaviness of difficult feelings and the lightness of laughter and play.

As they make space for the heavier emotions, the energy shifts as they touch on the topic of AI and its potential as a tool for self-reflection and growth. This pivot in focus serves as a reminder of the multidimensionality of the human experience, and the importance of integrating both the light and the shadow as we navigate the journey of self-discovery.

Through their authentic and presence-filled dialogue, Frank and Jess invite listeners into a space of emotional exploration, vulnerability, and the transformative power of being witnessed in our truth.

New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!

We would love to stay connected! 

Join Our Mailing List and talk with us directly!

Coming soon! A Feel This online community space. Keep an eye and ear out!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their ⁠⁠Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts⁠⁠!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

Your Feedback is so meaningful to us. 

Please leave us a comment. We would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.  

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

We explore what collaboration means, what it looks like, and why it’s important. It starts with bringing in the gifts of our individual awareness and being willing to show up as we are.

Also, we take a little dive into the capitalistic drive to stay productive at all costs. How deep does it run in us and what happens when we finally stop trying?

Recorded March 15, 2024

New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!

We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts!

The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships.

Primer #1 - Modes of Communication

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Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems

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About this Podcast:

https://anchor.fm/feelthis

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, tarot reader, synthesizer of information, and creator of safe and beautiful spaces.

After hitting a bump in the relationship road, Jess & Frank share what happened and how they got back on track and reconnected. This rich conversation begins after an 8 minute meditation settling into the body and checking in with any relationship where you may be feeling confusion, complication or rupture.

Recorded 5/26/22

Your Feedback is Welcome!

Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process.

https://anchor.fm/feelthis/message

About this Podcast:

Feel This is a series of experiential conversations between Jessica Olberz Singleton and Frank D’Amato exploring trauma, healing and awakening through the lens of relationship.

Through the use of Authentic Connection, which focuses on our present moment experience, Frank and Jess share their emotions, inner dialogue and physical experience as a way of connecting more deeply to themselves, each other and the listener. Each episode is created to be an emotional and spiritual journey for all involved.

Your hosts:

Frank D’Amato is an Internal Family Systems practitioner and the creator of the Authentic Connection model.

Jessica Olberz Singleton is an artist, teacher, synthesizer of information, creator of safe spaces & delightful nerd.