Do you struggle trying to CONTROL everything? I know I do! I am a self-professed control freak in many ways. It has taken me years to tame this control beast! I have asked my friend and colleague Alida Wagner, RN, MSN, Health Coach to discuss how to take charge of your life and regain your worth.
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By trying to control everything and everyone around you, you’ve lost control of your own life, your happiness, and your self-worth. Here are 5 ways to take charge of your life and regain your worth.
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1-Stop trying to fix everything
Many women feel responsible to take care of the needs of the people they love in their life. Taking care of people isn’t a bad thing, but it is when it turns into a need to control everything and everyone. The weird thing is, you don’t even know that you’re trying to control everything. You probably see it as being caring or trying to help.
2-Figure out what is essential to YOU
You need to figure out what is essential to you and what your priority is. If you aren’t clear about what it is that really matters to you, then someone else will decide it for you.
Take back your power by knowing and sticking to what is most essential to you.
3-Do checklists the right way
Everyone is so busy these days that checklists can be a great way to keep yourself organized and on track. But there’s a dark side to checklists too. Checklists are great for providing structure and organizing the work you need to do, but they can also be a source of pain if you rely on completing that checklist to feel good about yourself.
4-Boundaries are your best friend
If you find yourself in the situation where other people are dictating your priorities, then it’s time to establish and maintain some boundaries. Boundaries always felt like big harsh walls to me. But they don’t have to be. Boundaries are simply your instructions for how you expect to be treated. A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
5-Be present
It is really easy to get into little habits that result in escaping from the chaos in your life. Maybe it’s having a glass of wine every night after work to unwind. Maybe it’s plopping down on the couch and scrolling through Facebook on your phone while the kids watch TV. Maybe it’s finding things to do so that you’re so busy you don’t have time to think about or deal with the stress in your life. It might be a nice short-term solution, but these things hurt you in the long run. What you’re basically doing is avoiding dealing with your feelings, or numbing out to avoid the pain.
Alida Wagner, RN, MSN, Health Coach
Taking charge of your life is a lot about just taking care of yourself and letting go of worrying about everyone else and trying to fix everything. If you take care of yourself and make yourself happy first, then people in your life will be happier too. Your worth is dependent on you and not about what other people think or what other people may think you owe
