Finding Love Podcast

Are you dating the same type of person over and over, with the same disappointing results? It’s not just bad luck, it’s a pattern. And you can learn to break it. 

I had a chance to sit down with relationship coach, author, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast, Roy Biancalana. We explored one of the biggest traps in dating and love: repeating the same emotional patterns without even realizing it.

Roy calls it “Relationship Groundhog Day”, where you attract the same kind of partner, fall into all-too-familiar drama and dysfunction, and then wonder why things never seem to change.

But here's the truth: it's not about luck, or the apps, or where you live. It's about your inner shape, and what you’re unconsciously attracting.

Here’s what we unpack in this episode:

• How your childhood plays a big role in your adult dating life.
• Why the Law of Attraction is always working, whether you want it to or not!
• The unconscious reasons you might be drawn to “projects” or emotionally unavailable partners.
• What it actually looks like to do the work (hint: it’s not just journaling).
• How to finally break free of the old patterns and experience the love you truly want.

Roy doesn’t sugarcoat anything, but he does offer hope, clarity, and a path forward. If you’re ready to stop blaming your luck and start shifting your shape, this is the episode to listen to.

Are you a man over 40 ready to stop repeating the same dating patterns?

If Roy’s words hit home, and you’re tired of ghosting, guesswork, and going it alone, it’s time to take a smarter approach.

Join me this June for Master Attraction: The Man’s Guide to Dating After 40, a 3-part live coaching program designed specifically for men who are ready to build real connection with confidence.

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Have you ever looked at your dating life and thought, "How how I done all this work, and still haven’t found my person?”

That’s exactly why I couldn’t wait to sit down with this week’s guest, Heidi Friedman, the author of Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love.

After her divorce, Heidi set out to understand what love is really all about. She conducted personal interviews and went on her own exhaustive dating journey to find out. She wasn’t looking for fantasy scenarios or rom-com stories. She wanted to grasp the lasting, life-enhancing kind of love that we hope our lives are built on.

After her divorce, Heidi dated, she journaled, she cried, she kept going. And eventually she found true love, and herself in the process.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• The one thing you must get clear on before you swipe again.
• How to stop dating “projects” (and what to look for instead).
• How “taking turns picking each other up” can be the secret sauce in successful partnerships.
• Why laughter might matter more than anything else.

If you’ve been wondering whether love is still out there for you, let this be your reminder: it absolutely is. And sometimes, all it takes is one more brave step.

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When I decided to host a women’s retreat, I wasn’t sure what to expect. Sure, I knew it was going to be an incredible experience, but I didn’t anticipate how truly transformative it would be for everyone—including me.

I’m taking you behind the scenes of Love Camp, a retreat I hosted for women navigating love and life after 40. Set in the gorgeous wilds of Leavenworth, Washington, on the banks of a roaring river, this retreat was all about showing up, diving deep, and walking away with a new vision for love and connection.

Love Camp was filled with mindset-shifting workshops, laughter, sound baths, meditation, soulful conversations, and personal breakthroughs.

This episode is all about:

• Why getting out of your usual space (physically and mentally) can be a huge game-changer.
• The magic of creating space for change, without rushing the process.
• The power of aligning your heart’s desires with actionable steps for love.
• How making small but intentional shifts in your mindset can open the door to magic.
• The most vulnerable and rewarding moments of Love Camp that made the biggest impact!

If you're in a season of quiet growth, personal reflection, or just want to rewrite your story, this episode is for you. 

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What if the key to lasting love and deep intimacy isn’t just about finding the right person, but knowing how to truly connect, emotionally and physically, at this stage of life? 

In our latest episode, I sit down with Dr. Viviana Coles, renowned relationship and sex therapist (you may recognize her from Married at First Sight), to talk about how to date smarter when it comes to finding and building real intimacy, and how to nurture your sexual energy as a couple. 

Whether you’re newly dating, coming out of a long relationship, or interested in creating some sparks with your partner, this conversation is packed with wisdom you won’t want to miss.

We cover why dating feels harder today, how to avoid emotional burnout, and why being intentional about the kind of love and intimacy you want is the real game changer. 

Dr. Viviana shares her groundbreaking framework – The 4 Intimacy Styles™ – and explains how understanding your personal style of connection and bonding can totally transform your relationships, with your partner and with yourself.

Plus, we explore why “pillow talk” is more powerful than you think, how to create a love life that feels exciting again, and what it really takes to keep the sexual energy alive as life evolves.

If you’re ready to date smarter, connect deeper, and experience vibrant love life at any age, this episode is for you.

Want to discover your own intimacy style or improve connection in your relationship? Visit Dr. Viviana’s website to learn more and take her free quizzes! 

Pillow Talk Quiz: https://doctorviviana.com/pillowtalkquiz/

4 Intimacy Styles Quiz: https://doctorviviana.com/the-4-intimacy-styles/

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It’s time to think about your Dating Brand. The story you tell about yourself,  the images you convey, your tone, style, and all around vibe. How you show up in the dating world either attracts people – or not. That’s why your Dating Brand is something to craft intentionally, so that you can get out there and really shine. 

Launching yourself into the dating world is a lot like launching a business. You have to be clear about who you are, what you want, and why it matters. 

As a brand strategy coach for many years, Nancy helps business owners find their voice, tell their stories, and build a brand that will attract not just any audience, but the RIGHT audience. Now she’s applying the same principles to dating in midlife. 

Your Dating Brand starts with your dating profile and photos, but it extends far beyond just that – to the conversations you have, the energy you bring, the persona you develop that is boldly and bravely YOU. You want a Dating Brand that attracts not just any matches, but the RIGHT ones. 

When you start showing up with intention, everything shifts. You're no longer chasing validation or stuck in surface-level small talk. Instead, you're attracting people who align with the truth about who you are and the love you’re ready to receive.

Ready to build a Dating Brand you’re proud of, and manifest the love you deserve? Tune in to get started!

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Take this as your invitation to pause, reflect, and ask yourself a few questions, like: “What am I really looking for in love?” “Is the way I’m dating aligned with my vision?” And most importantly – “Am I the one standing in my way?”

Because it’s not just the ambiguities of the dating apps, the confusing texts, or even the ghosting. It’s also the emotional weight you carry. The unrealistic expectations. The habit of clinging to a “type” or trying to be what someone else wants instead of honoring what you actually need in love.

Dating in midlife isn't about chasing old dating stories, or finding someone to complete you. It's about honoring the version of yourself you've worked so hard to become.

In Episode 67: What Are You Really Looking For in Love?, I’m getting honest about:

Why dating can feel exhausting (especially in midlife).

The sneaky emotional patterns that keep you stuck.

How to realign your actions with your values, and shift your dating experience for good.

This episode is a loving reminder that you don’t need to work harder at dating. You just need to start dating differently.

✨ If you’ve been feeling heavy in your search for love, this one’s your reset. It’s time to date in a way that actually feels good, and is aligned with what you want, instead of doom swiping your way into giving up entirely.

And while you’re in a Finding Love flow, don’t forget to grab your FREEBIE downloads. From transforming your mindset to curating your dating profile, these free guides will help you show up as your most empowered, aligned, and confident. Go grab one now!

💌 Want to feel more prepared on your midlife dating journey?
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Have you ever felt like you need to “fix” yourself before jumping back into the dating world? Do you believe you have to be fully healed to find love again? If this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

This week, Nancy sits down with Jessica Amos, writer, mindfulness teacher, and founder of Stay With Yourself, to talk about the tricky process of healing after heartbreak and how it can impact your ability to trust yourself in new relationships. 

Jessica shares her post-breakup journey through anger, self-doubt, and the confusing mix of wanting love again, while also resisting it. Nancy and Jessica talk about the best ways to show up as your true self – even before you’re done healing – so that you can open the door to meaningful connections.

After divorce, it’s easy to feel jaded or angry about love. But Jessica explains how leaning into these emotions rather than running from them can help you rediscover what you really want in a partner. 

Tune in to learn how to: 

• Show up authentically.
• Reclaim your inner light.
• Embrace being vulnerable without feeling weak. 

This episode will leave you questioning the pressure to be "perfectly healed" before dating. How about instead, you learn to embrace your imperfect, evolving self?

Whether you're newly single or just trying to make sense of your emotional journey, this conversation will help you rethink what it really means to be ready for love.

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Are you ready for romance, but feel like you’ve missed your chance? Worried you need some secret formula for finding the love you want? You’re not too late and there’s no magic trick  – but before you can open your heart to someone else, you have to get real with yourself first.

I’m sharing the exact steps I took, and the mindset shifts I had to make to transform the way I approached love after 40. It’s not about finding the right person, or following a specific process – it’s about becoming the right person for yourself. If you’ve ever felt like your past relationships have left you full of baggage and doubts, let’s talk about how to move forward.

It’s time to shift your mindset from "Maybe one day I’ll get lucky" to "YES, this is going to happen for me!"

What you’ll learn from this episode:

• The surprising shift that helped me stop repeating the same dating mistakes over and over again.
• How to stop settling for less, and start setting standards that match up with your authentic self.
• The power of trusting your instincts, especially in midlife.
• The secret to raising your emotional and personal standards for love.

This podcast episode isn’t just about Finding Love, it’s about building the foundation for a relationship that feels right for YOU. If you’ve been wondering if you’ll ever find your love story, let this episode be the spark that gets you moving forward. 

The love you’re searching for is waiting, but it all starts with you.

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Let’s take a look at this season of White Lotus and see if we can spot all the relationship red flags! 

We all love a good love story, full of cinematic whirlwinds. But what if the love story you’re telling yourself isn’t real? What if you’re falling for an idea rather than the actual person?

Season 3 of White Lotus (in addition to being incredibly fun to watch) is shining a light on a pattern so many of us fall into in midlife dating: fooling ourselves into mistaking fantasy for love. 

When we crave romance that feels like a movie, we risk ignoring red flags, rushing into relationships, or clinging to an illusion that’s never going to last. I’m unpacking a few of the biggest relationship red flags from this season, and how they can hold a mirror up to our own patterns.

I’m breaking down:

• Why turning a blind eye to someone’s true personality is a great way to build a completely inauthentic partnership (Victoria and Timothy).
• How getting caught up in fantasy-driven love will lead you down a dark path (Chelsea and Rick).
• How friendships can be a minefield of past hurts and betrayal, especially when no one does the hard work of having honest, direct conversations (Jacklyn, Laurie and Kate).
• A few key shifts that can help you move from fantasy and delusion to real connection and romance.

If you’ve ever held onto a relationship because of its potential, overlooked signs and ignored your gut instinct, or found yourself chasing chemistry over compatibility, tune in.

And if you’re ready to tell yourself a new love story and manifest the life you truly deserve, join me for four transformational days at my women’s retreat in Leavenworth, Washington, this April 23-26. Let’s do the work to unlock deep, lasting love in midlife TOGETHER!

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When we talk about relationships, romantic love often takes center stage. The search for a soulmate. Finding “the one”. But true friendships and family bonds are deep connections too, and just as important, especially in midlife. 

This big truth hit me on a recent trip back to my hometown of Cleveland, where I stayed with my childhood best friend while taking care of my elderly mother. Between the bestie laughter, nostalgia, and endless conversations, I was reminded just how much our friendship bond has shaped us, grounded us, and sustained us through every stage of our lives.

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that love only means romantic partnership and finding that one person you’re looking for to fill so many roles in your life.  But we need to remind ourselves that the true-blue friendships we nurture and the family bonds we lean on are just as essential to our happiness, growth, and wellbeing. 

In midlife, these connections become more powerful than ever before, because they offer the kind of support that can’t be replaced. In this episode, I’m sharing what my trip home taught me, and how we can all be more intentional about nurturing meaningful relationships in our lives.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected in any way, this conversation is for you. And if you’re ready to build those bonds in real life, Love Camp is the perfect place to do it. Join me this spring for a women’s retreat designed to bring you closer to yourself. This is going to be an intimate experience of personal coaching and deep discussion about what truly matters in our lives. Only one VIP spot left — grab it here.

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Our free downloads are designed to help you stay grounded, intentional, and aligned with what you truly want in love. 📥 Click here to get yours: https://findinglove.co/freebies/ 

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