Making a memorable first impression in the online dating world starts with optimizing your profile. You have mere seconds to grab attention, so your photos need to pop. Photographer Kelsey Kurtis shares tips for how to stand out in an online crowd. 

Today’s episode features a fun conversation with Nancy’s favorite brand photographer, Kelsey Kurtis – the ultimate cheerleader for self-expression in business and in life. Nancy and Kelsey reveal how to stand out and embrace the authentic YOU in your dating profile photos. 

Kelsey breaks down color psychology, how to find the perfect light, and why bringing intentional personal branding into your dating profile will make a world of difference. She shares her favorite tips on curating the perfect photos for your dating profile. Her advice is to take the spotlight and SHINE –  even if it feels a little awkward. 

Kelsey opens up about her own journey in love, including her first marriage, (and the plot twist that dropped Nancy’s jaw), and how she’s re-branded heartbreak into her “phoenix” moment. Nancy and Kelsey discuss the challenges of navigating divorce in their 30s and the pressure to start over in the dating scene.

Tune in to Episode 30 for inspiration and practical advice on how to shine bright, unleash your authentic self, and forge genuine connection through personal branding.

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[7:02] Having a personal brand means when someone asks, “who are you?” you have an answer that is confident and true to who you are.

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Are your midlife dating wheels spinning? If you want to get out of your romantic rut, you need to overcome what’s keeping you stuck. Let’s get your search for love back on track.

In Episode 29, Nancy highlights the top three categories of dating “stuckness”– avoidance, burnout, and losing sight of the dream.

You’re in avoidance when you start pretending Finding Love doesn’t matter. Your dreams don’t vanish when you turn away from them. The key to overcoming avoidance is to be honest and patient with yourself, and take small steps towards your goal.

Midlife dating burnout comes from being repeatedly disappointed by the negative aspects of modern dating (and there are plenty). Try optimizing your approach by dating more than one person at a time and reframing setbacks as opportunities for growth.

Lastly, losing sight of your dream can sabotage your search by making love seem impossibly out of reach. To reignite your belief in love, Nancy encourages visualizing as many details as you can about your ideal partnership. Fantasy is fun!

Shake yourself out of your midlife dating rut by following Mindset shifts with practical Action steps. Explore new dating sites, broaden your parameters, and take a look inward for self-discovery and awareness.

If you're ready to break free of your rut, Episode 29 offers the guidance and encouragement you need. Tune in to discover how to get unstuck!

[5:46] The dream of Finding Love wasn’t going away. I had a choice to either fulfill that dream, or leave it unfulfilled.

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When your marriage ends, it’s easy to believe your chance for love ends with it. This is the moment to reclaim your love story and decide to thrive.  Guess who’s back to dish on what it’s like dating after divorce? It’s the fabulous Deb Beroset of It’s Time For Moxie! We’re talking about how to jump into the post-divorce dating world with confidence and joy.

How do you get back out there after a split? Deb has been divorced six times so she brings some seasoned wisdom to the conversation. Deb and Nancy talk about the major mindset shifts required to see divorce as a time of pure possibility, a beautiful chance for growth. They discuss how post-divorce healing, dating intentionally, and knowing yourself are the keys to dating after divorce and finding a meaningful relationship.

Ready to break old dating and relationship habits? It starts with keeping an eye out for the characteristics in people you date, and noticing how you respond to those energies. Your reactions to people and situations reveal your own patterns. Ask yourself what you’ve been drawn to in the past, and how seeing yourself more clearly can help you shape your romantic future. Tune in to Episode 28 for advice and inspiration on Finding Love after Divorce.

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[24:15] That’s how you break a pattern – by noticing your response to it.

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Getting ready for dates is sometimes the most stressful part. What to wear? How to show up? Lindsey Bernay, fashion stylist extraordinaire, joins this episode to talk about why personal style and dating go hand in hand, and how to dress for dating success. If you’re looking for love in midlife, chances are you’re putting energy, attention, and focus into that project. Lindsey reminds us that shifting your approach to fashion can be just as transformative as changing your approach to dating. It's about stepping out of your comfort zone while staying true to yourself.

Mindset tip: If you want something new in your life, it starts with YOU. So, what are you willing to do differently to get what you want? How can you show up in your search for love as your best and most attractive self? This translates to your closet!

Nancy remembers her old "dating uniforms" (baggy and black). They were familiar and easy, but made her feel invisible. She and Lindsey discuss the importance of being bold and standing out when you’re looking for love. Lindsey shares her philosophy behind a “Dating Capsule Wardrobe” and how putting real effort into your style is an expression of self-care and self-love.

Join Nancy and Lindsey on episode 27 as they chat about how fashion can elevate your dating journey and help you to show up for yourself in every aspect of your life.

“Self-care and self-love includes your wardrobe and the way you present yourself to the world.”

Mentioned: 

Lindsey Bernay 

@lindseybernaystyles 

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Does dating in midlife feel like a chore? It’s time to reframe dating and looking for love after 50. You can’t attract happiness if you’re gritting your teeth through every step of the journey. In episode 26, Nancy shares a game-changing moment from her grueling L.A. workout days, and how one thing her fitness instructor said changed her outlook on everything.

So, what's the key? How can you give your search for love the right energy and focus? Start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. What are your goals in love?

2. How do you define success in the dating world?

3. And most importantly, what are you willing to do to make it happen?

Nancy shares her story about reaching a point where she felt resigned to a life without love. She believed that the chance for finding it had passed her by. Then one day, she rediscovered hope with a profound mindset shift. She invites listeners to reflect on the energy they bring to their own dating journeys, and how to reshape that energy to get what they want. Tune in to episode 26 and ask yourself, “What am I bringing to this project of finding love?” Let that question help you redefine your approach to romance in midlife. Remember – loving the process is just as important as getting the results. Treat Finding Love like a fun project AND a priority.

Quotes: "There’s no happy ending to an unhappy journey."

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When it comes to finding love, how much do you really trust your intuition? The more tuned in you are, the easier your path to love becomes. In Episode 25, Nancy chats with Julie Ryan – intuitive psychic and healer – to explore the all-important role intuition plays when it comes to finding love. Julie offers her favorite hack – her iconic 2-Minute rule – to nip romantic anxiety and fear in the bud, and explains why it’s vital to keep clarity top of mind when you’re looking for connection.

Curious about soulmates? Nancy and Julie advocate for multiple soul partners throughout your life. They say that these connections and possibilities evolve and grow as we do! Even if you believe that the love of your life has come and gone, that doesn’t mean there won’t be more love out there waiting for you, in ways that might surprise you. Nancy and Julie also tap into the spiritual aspect of being in a midlife relationship, noting the importance of trusting your inner wisdom instead of overthinking, over-analyzing, and making everything more complicated than it needs to be. Love is about how you feel when you’re with your person, and it helps when you understand how to use your internal GPS. The healing power of love is not just about finding a partner, it's about finding yourself in those moments of enlightenment that happen along the way.

Quote:

"Love is a creative act. In order to feel love, we have to create ways to give love." 

Mentioned in this episode: Julie Ryan’s book Angelic Attendants. To get your FREE copy of the book, mention this episode. https://askjulieryan.com/request-ebook/

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The key to unlocking the transformative power of love in your 3rd Act is developing the muscle of MINDSET. Not once, but over and over again.

Nancy recaps her guest segment at the International Women's Day Virtual Summit, where she talked about how finding love in midlife changes everything, and why it all starts with Mindset.  

To attract the love you want, you have to put the right energy, focus, and emotional resonance out into the world. In other words, you get what you give. Nancy's signature approach – Mindset, Planning, and Action – helps love seekers shore up the strength, strategy, and confidence they need to find and keep lasting love.  

Mindset is all about who you are, what you want, and why it matters to you. But shifting your Mindset isn't as simple as flipping a switch. It takes the courage to look inside yourself, and the willingness to challenge ingrained beliefs. In the middle of life, this kind of gut-level transformation needs to start from within.  Nancy shares some from her decades of searching for love (inside and out), and the realization that changed everything for her. It’s time to take an exploratory deep dive into how you want to feel in love. Hold on tight, because you may surprise yourself.

Quotes: [3:40] Shine the spotlight, internally. Start with the feeling.

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Once you find love, how do you keep the connection, communication, and spark alive? Nancy talks about nurturing a relationship in midlife by making daily, intentional choices.

It’s important to remember that love isn't a one-time decision. Being in love is something you choose every day, by actively showing up for yourself and your partner. Relationships are dynamic, living things. There’s nothing passive or static about love. 

So, if you’ve found love in the middle of life, what does it look like? How does it feel? In what ways will it evolve? Tune in for some words of wisdom to help you embrace the NEW while honoring your past experiences, and growing together as a couple. 

One of the most important things Nancy has discovered about finding love after 50 is how important it is to bridge the gap between your communication style and your partner’s. Tune in to learn a simple but effective strategy she and her husband David learned from the Love Doctor herself, Dr. Laura Berman.

Love is a journey, not a destination. Whether you're in the thick of a long-term relationship, starting fresh in your 3rd Act, or somewhere in between, the key is choosing love – every day.

Mentioned in this episode: Dr. Laura Berman

8:30 - “You and your partner can find your own special rhythm within your shared communication styles. That’s part of the fun in connection.”

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Nancy and her longtime friend Jenny Banks talk about the realities of Finding Love in your 3rd Act, and why it’s so important to have a purpose and a plan.  In Episode 22, Nancy chats with her friend of many years, Jenny Banks, a Chicago-based career coach and recruitment specialist. They discuss why it’s important to navigate midlife dating using all the tools at your disposal – like Zoom and dating apps. They weigh the pros and cons of online dating, when and why to swipe right and left, how to avoid getting sucked into endless scrolling, and when the investment of meeting someone in person pays off (and when it doesn't). Jenny shares insights from her experience as a corporate recruiter, and why it’s important to “cast a wide net” in your search for the right career AND in the dating world. 

Tune in to get the scoop on dating Essentials vs Deal-breakers and how to set boundaries for yourself and the people you date. Nancy and Jenny agree that a solid dating plan is an act of empowerment. If you're ready to find love in your 3rd Act, don't miss this episode. It's time to get off the bench, seize the moment, and date with intention!

“Your 3rd Act isn’t the time to sit on the sidelines, it's the stage where action meets magic.”

Mentioned in this episode: Jenny Banks 

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We all know getting rejected feels bad, but how do you feel delivering the rejection? Saying “no” with kindness is an art you can (and should) master in dating. In the quest for love, you will meet plenty of people who aren’t right for you. But how do you deliver rejection without feeling like a dream-crusher? Here’s the deal: women tend to be extra mindful of others' feelings. It’s a beautiful trait, but it can make turning someone down feel like walking a tightrope. You want to be kind, but more than anything, you need to be HONEST.

Nancy tells us why having a break-up script at the ready can take the guesswork out of the “we’re not right for each other” conversation. The trick is to be kind and clear. Learn how to NOT leave the door open for interpretation, and don’t let the other person debate you out of your feelings!  Remember, rejection isn’t always a bad thing! As Gabby Bernstein says, it can be a form of protection, guiding us away from paths that aren’t meant for us. Being upfront saves everyone time and heartache.

Tune in to Episode 21 for insights on navigating rejection with grace and integrity, empowering yourself and others in the pursuit of lasting love.

In this episode Nancy shares:

The Break-Up Script: Clear communication helps avoid messy ambiguity.

Balancing Empathy and Integrity: When you operate in integrity, and proceed with kindness, you ensure you’re true to YOU.

Midlife Dating Wisdom: Dating in your 3rd act means you’ve learned to take some things in stride. We all know by now that not every connection will work.

Quote: [4:11] “Start with a self-awareness that you’re doing this person a kindness by being honest. Nobody wants to be strung along.”

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