We pretend we don’t see them. We act like they don’t matter. We tell ourselves we can fix them down the road. Why all the stories we tell ourselves about red flags boil down to one thing. In Episode 10, Nancy talks about the core of what happens when you don’t heed red flags – you lie to yourself, which makes it harder and harder to trust yourself as time goes on. When you ignore your own intuition about warning signs in the people you date, you prove to yourself that you don’t have your own back. This is the most pernicious effect of not paying attention to red flags in midlife dating. Sooner or later, you may stop trusting yourself entirely.

You’ll tell yourself that you’re just “bad at dating” or that “there’s no one for you out there” when in truth, you’re sabotaging yourself by not trusting your instincts and standing by your convictions. In this episode, Nancy breaks down the difference between red, green, and white flags in dating and relationships, and why it’s so important to adhere to our own definitions. Red = hard pass. Green = all systems go. White = pause and consider. A well-known red flag in the dating world is the all-too-common phenomenon of ghosting. Nancy delves into the nuances between ghosting, flakiness, and a total lack of connection. Getting clear about the stories you’re telling yourself about the dating experiences you're having will help you make better choices next time.

Episode 10 also highlights a key ingredient in finding love during midlife — an openness to new experiences, both inside and out. It's not just about avoiding the dating drama. It’s about opening up to the good vibes that are coming your way.

“That really is one of the secrets to success when it comes to finding love in the middle of life. You need to be open to something new.” - [4:44] 

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Here’s the deal with guessing games – they’re just another red flag. 

Ever found yourself wondering, "Does he like me?" It's the kind of question that propels you right back to anxious adolescence.

Midlife is no time for games! The person you’re dating should shine a light on you, not leave you in the dark.

In Episode 9, Nancy talks about how important it is to both listen to your gut instincts AND recognize the signs of interest versus apathy in the men you date. 

She shares her own journey of dating men who left her confused and in the dark, and what a huge difference it made when she met David, who never once kept her guessing. She finally learned that actions speak louder than words.

Nancy offers some valuable advice for those moments when you feel like you don’t know how he feels about you, and you’re wondering what to do next. (Hint: instead of worrying how he feels, ask yourself how the whole experience makes YOU feel. Then trust your intuition and act on it.) 

Listen in and get ready to shift from guessing to knowing in the realm of love.

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“In my experience, when a man is interested in you, he makes it very clear. Men will really leave no stone unturned when it comes to pursuing and spending time with a woman they are truly interested in.” [2:24]

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Midlife dating is full of twists, turns, and the occasional ghost. Don’t let them shake your confidence.

In episode 8, Nancy talks about why you’ll need to develop a bit of tough skin when you’re dating after 50. Online dating, especially in the middle of life, is a numbers game, and you can’t always count on the other players. In fact, a lot of people will self-select themselves OUT of your experience. Consider ghosting and other non-connections a filter to weed out people who don’t deserve to be in your orbit.

Never forget that YOU are the chooser. Yes, you heard that right. It's time to shed the people-pleasing mentality, ladies! You are not waiting around to be chosen, you are deciding who gets to be in your life. Give yourself back that power. 

Nancy shares a few tips about how to recover from getting ghosted, and why it’s not a litmus test for how desirable you are. It says way more about the other person's communication style (or total lack thereof) than it does about your worth.

The experience of finding love after 50 is as much about self-discovery as it is about finding the right person. Feel empowered to let each experience, even the ghostly ones, guide you toward what’s meant for you.

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Hold onto your seats, ladies, because in episode 7, Nancy spices things up and ventures into the world of dating younger men. Should you do it? (Absolutely! But there ARE a few things to be aware of…)

In today’s episode, Nancy unpacks the pros and cons of dating younger, how to tell if it’s the real deal, and how dating younger people means getting familiar with newer dating trends (*ahem* ethical non-monogamy). Regardless of what age pool you’re dipping yourself into, it’s essential to discuss intention – what do you want and what does he want? Communication ALWAYS plays a major factor in successful dating.  Boundaries are healthy, but having too many prerequisites narrows your dating pool down to a sliver. So let’s talk about what things to focus on and what to ignore.

The goal: lay all your cards on the table, be unapologetically honest about your desires, and dare to break free from society's raised eyebrows.

10:12 -  If you’re in a relationship with someone, there's no reason to not be completely open to communication. Cards on the table! Especially in midlife, I would much rather have the conversations, even if they’re hard, than sweep things under the rug. Because the things under the rug are gonna find their way out.

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Your most essential tool for dating and looking for love after 50? Confidence! 

Whether you've been single for a hot minute or it's been years, self-confidence isn't just a perk – it's a total game changer. When you show up boldly, as your true self, you increase the likelihood of attracting what you actually WANT. (When you lead with dread, worry, and doubt, you may still attract someone, but not the right one.)

Why wouldn't you want to unleash your most glittering, positive energy out into the world? Use your powers to tilt the odds in your favor for a healthy and beautiful relationship.

In episode 6, Nancy gets into how to build dating confidence and why it's such an important component of the Finding Love journey. 

For her, it wasn't about adhering to Instagram wellness goals (although she does love her Instagram fitness coaches). It was about finding surprising new things – like weight lifting – that she genuinely enjoys. It doesn’t matter how old you are, you can always start something new. Habits and practices that make you feel better, inside and out, are priceless.  

Listen into this frank discussion about why showing up as the best version of yourself is the highest form of self-love. When you fall in love with yourself, others will fall in love too. So don’t be shy…carry that joy and confidence right into the heart of your midlife dating story. 

“You can surprise yourself! Never think you are too old to surprise yourself, make changes in your life, and improve in ways you thought you never could.” - [12:11] 

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If you’re out of practice, midlife dating can mean falling back into old patterns. This time around, Nancy invites you to try a different way. 

Years ago, in the thick of the dating game, Nancy was still searching for the red hot, thunderbolt of romance, an old pattern from her younger years. The kind of immediate passion that plays out on the big screen and leaves you breathless. This led her to men who thrive on big gestures and big talk, but don't follow up with any real substance. 

(Cue Carrie Bradshaw voiceover) I couldn't help but wonder… Why do we cling to things that we know aren't in our best interest, and how can we shift our mindset to explore something different?

In episode 5, Nancy shares her tips for dating smarter. Start by recognizing that dating is often a numbers game, and finding your ONE TRUE LOVE may not happen on your first try. So make it easier on yourself and take it slow. In midlife, don’t let the tick tock of the clock rush you into making the wrong choices. Taking things slow doesn't have to feel boring, in fact, it might lead you to the most thrilling love story of your life.

“Dating is a numbers game. Pace yourself, because you may not find your true love the first time out of the gate.” - Nancy 

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Mentioned: 

Frank’s Oyster House 

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Here's the deal: To write your fresh, new love story, you've got to break free of old patterns and cycles. In episode 4, Nancy dishes out wisdom on getting clear about your desires and how the first date should be a hint of potential, not an emotional rollercoaster. Nancy shares how she went from being a professional ruminator to realizing that dwelling in the past pulls you away from what you really want in your life. It might feel comforting and familiar, but it won't get you anywhere new. So often the main focus point of dating is just asking ourselves, “Am I feeling this? Is there chemistry? Is he into me?”, when instead we need to be asking, “WHO do I want to be in this relationship? How does this person add to my life, and how do I add to his?” Dating in midlife can be one of the best ways to get to know yourself…and guess what, you just may discover a whole new you. 

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Have the Rom Coms we love ruined us for online dating? Do we believe romance only happens in a Nancy Meyer movie? 

Dating apps can absolutely be the gateway to romance, passion, and excitement in a relationship. But just as importantly they can facilitate meaningful connections and authentic relationships. So don’t count them out. 

In episode 3, Nancy retells a story of the longest first date EVER and why it’s a great example of what a first date shouldn’t be. Sure, it started as a “meet cute” but it ended in flames. Learn about the pitfalls of chasing that “feeling” of falling in love, and why your dating plan needs to be more grounded in reality. 

It’s completely possible to date with mindful intention in midlife, and find true everlasting love. Your love story begins with YOU. 

12:50: “Online dating can be super fun! It can turn into romance… but it doesn't have to start out there, which by the way is perfectly healthy and good.”

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It’s time to believe in love again. If you’re blocked and burnt out, and it seems like the right guy is nowhere to be found, this episode is a must-listen.

Is Prince Charming going to magically appear in your life? Can you meditate your way to finding the man of your dreams? Probably not. Nancy suggests practical steps to stack the deck in your favor as you look for lasting love. 

We all love Rom Coms but they have sold us an illusion that love is something completely spontaneous. The truth is, Finding Love (especially in midlife) is something to approach with mindfulness and intention.

In this week’s episode, Nancy talks about her personal dating blocks that sabotaged her own online-dating experiences, and how she finally moved past them so that she could clear her path to love.  

5:49: “When you lead with fear, you have stopped yourself in your own tracks. When you lead with joy, your energy flows in the direction of finding love.”

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Mentioned: 

It’s Complicated 

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Welcome to the Finding Love podcast! Let’s talk about discovering love in midlife. In the first episode of Finding Love, your host Nancy Bruce recounts her own personal revelations about finding her happy true-love ending, a story that unfolded in her late 50s, after 22 years of dating. Nancy talks about the significant mindset shift that helped lead her to her husband, David, and the "aha moment" that helped her break free from old patterns and welcome in a new, beautiful kind of love. Nancy’s midlife love story is the important reminder that love has no timeline or expiration date. Your age doesn’t need to be a roadblock on your path to love, in fact, it can be your strongest asset! Whether you've been following Nancy's love journey for years or are a newbie looking for inspiration, guidance, and some tips that will actually work, this is the podcast for you.

12:38 “If you want a different love story, you're going to have to look for a different kind of man.”

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Mentioned: 

Bella Gandhi 

Dr. Laura Berman 

Martha Beck 

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