Finding Meaning

Anger can be a tricky emotion, but you don't have to let it control your life. You're not alone.

Hello and welcome to Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load! We are Annette & Mark Anderson, and we'll be discussing how Anger can affect people's lives in this episode. 

Have you ever felt Anger before? I know it's hard, but there are ways to overcome it.

Anger is a natural human emotion that can be both positive and negative. It can provide the energy needed to overcome obstacles or motivate someone to change their lives. However, if left unchecked, Anger can lead to feelings of rage, bitterness, resentment, and violence. That's why we're going to talk about how you can get rid of your Anger and feel better too!

We discuss the importance of solving problems, understanding the emotions behind Anger, choosing to respond to Anger in different ways, and realizing how Anger escalates. 

In today's episode of Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load, Annette & Mark Anderson focus on Understanding Sadness & Depression as part 5 of building emotional resilience.

Annette & Mark talk about the difference between sadness and depression. They talk about their journey of understanding grief, sadness & depression. 

They focus on the Physical, Emotional & Spiritual factors that can lead to sadness & depression. They talk about specific symptoms of depression and ways to get help. Mark & Annette talk about comments that well-meaning friends made to them after the loss of their son Reed. They even share things you might consider saying that would positively express your love and sympathy. 

They share their thoughts about the beauty of being broken, specifically how Annette began to see the light through the cracks of her brokenness and the strength and beauty that came through Kintsugi and understanding this incredible principle. 

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In this episode of Trail Angels, powered by Cairn the Load, Annette & Mark have an engaging conversation with Tabatha Perry about why Christian Women find themselves living in their own prisons?

Tabatha Perry is the ultimate go-to for the Non9-5er who doesn't have the typical schedule and needs help getting their daily life on track! With over 15 years of experience in the Criminal Justice System, 20+ moves under her belt, a Masters's in Social Worker, a girl-mom, wifey, and Life Coach, she's got advice that will make any day less stressful for the person juggling many balls in the air! As a professional over-thinker, she's learned how to simplify her day and loves helping people create simple & small edits in their daily life, so they thrive personally and professionally! 

They compare themselves to others about how they are doing it wrong or not as good as the other. Women live in their own prisons because they set themselves up to fail. They have routines of comparison, condemnation, and self-doubt ingrained in every morning and evening, leading to a low-grade level of stress that takes a toll on them mentally, emotionally, and even physically.

We chat about the worst thing EVERYONE does that sabotages their success?

What distracts people the most from accomplishing their goals?

Why aren't many Christians living up to their fullest potential?

Tabatha shares some essential tools that will help us make small edits that result in success.

Many Non-9-5ers want help organizing their life but don't think it's possible without becoming overwhelmed. Tabatha has offered a FREE Life Strategy Session to listen to your personal story and provide you with a simple strategy to create more order in their life and see how they have the ability to step into their fullest God-given potential! Tabatha wants to equip people with the confidence to create order in their lives!

https://tabathaperry.as.me/consultation

In this episode of Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load, Mark & Annette have an open discussion about managing stress & anxiety in our lives and how stress and anxiety are normal parts of life. 

This is lesson 4 of a 10 part series of building Emotional Resilience. 

"Managing stress is important in helping manage your anxiety. Managing anxiety will help you to cope with it better and eventually be able to live a more healthy life."

They talk about rating our different levels of stress--Green, Yellow, Orange & Red and what those levels feel like.  

 Managing Stress & Anxiety is vital to living a  more positive,  fulfilling,  and healthy life. Managing the stress in your life and helping you to cope with anxiety helps to improve your overall well-being. Managing stress is not always an easy thing to do, but here are some helpful tips on how to manage it better:

Mindfulness is a great tool to reduce stress, and Annette walks you through a simple mindfulness activity.   If you feel like stress and anxiety are taking over your life, it might be time to reach out for help. There is no shame in asking for help! Managing stress can help you better cope with anxiety and improve the quality of your life. Managing stress will also leave more time for what matters most to you.

Lesson 3 of a 10 part course Building Emotional Resilience

In this episode of Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load, Mark and Annette discuss how our bodies are a powerful tool for emotional healing. And the key to unlocking your full potential starts with getting in touch with it.
 
They show you how you can start using your body as an emotional healer by just being mindful of what's happening in the present moment.

And why is it important? Why do we care? 

So, where do you feel emotions? Can you label what you are feeling?

When you're more in tune with what's happening in your body, you can better see how your bodies react to the outside world...

Mark and Annette share personal experiences of how emotions affect their bodies and the physical illnesses that have resulted from NOT understanding those emotions and a healthy way to feel and address the underlying issues. 

This week's guest on Trail Angels is Tamala Shaw. She is an author and Co-Dependent Recovery Coach! Mark and Annette had an enlightening conversation with Tamala.  

Tamala was diagnosed with Co-Dependency over a decade ago. She was in therapy because her life was spiraling out of control and at the forefront. At the time, Tamala didn't know anything about Co-Dependency. At the time, Tamala didn't know anything about Co-Dependency, started reading books, searched the web, and found a Co-Dependency Anonymous meeting. In search of healing, Tamala came to know herself at a deeper level and has made it her mission to teach life lessons, to give a more holistic look at co-dependency recovery. 

Tamala co-authored the book "God Turned Mommy's Wine into Water" with my mom (sold @ amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, and www.Gr8Essentials.com) and hosts a podcast about co-dependency, named "The Co-Dependent Me Podcast"!

 We touch on the topics of boundaries, 12 Steps, Narcissism, Addiction, Recovery, self-love, and much more.

You may be surprised when you learn about the Five Characteristics of a Co-Dependent person as well as tips on how to live a more balanced life. 

If there's one thing that stands in the way of people making changes in their lives, it's their thoughts. Our thoughts can be powerful barriers to change, but they can also be helpful tools for growth. In this episode, we'll explore how to overcome the #1 barrier: our thoughts. We'll look at some healthy thinking patterns that can help us make positive changes in our lives, and we'll learn how to use these patterns to our advantage.

In this episode of Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load, Mark and Annette will be discussing Healthy Thinking Patterns. We share some powerful tools that will be helpful to understand our true identity, our worth, and how worth is different than "worthiness." We discuss common inaccurate thinking patterns and "triggers," what they are and how we respond to them, and ultimately healthy thinking patterns and how we can change our thoughts to a healthier way of thinking.  

Grab a paper and pencil, and be prepared to join us as we learn how to create Healthy Thinking Patterns. 

Common Inaccurate Thinking Patterns
All or Nothing, Mislabeling, Jumping to Conclusions, Personalizing, Emotional Reasoning, Overgeneralization, Negative Mental Filter, Discounting the Positive, Magnification, "Should" Statements. 

At the core of every thought, you have a belief. Your beliefs determine your thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors. In other words, your beliefs are what shape your entire experience of reality.

If you don't believe something is possible, you'll never be able to make it happen. If your beliefs limit your progress towards your goals, your life will always be stuck in a rut, and you'll never achieve your full potential.

What makes your life better: your time, energy, or thoughts?

It takes as much mental effort as positive thoughts as negative ones. If we want to change our lives for the better, we need to stop accepting our limiting beliefs just because they're comfortable. Sometimes your thoughts can help your efforts, but other times your thoughts will do nothing but reinforce your current situation.

If you want to move forward in your life, you have to start thinking differently. You need to take control of your mind and take responsibility for your mental patterns. 

In this episode of Trail Angels powered by Cairn the Load Annette and Mark have an incredible conversation with Paul Henderson.

Part of the reason Paul wrote Slave No More: Conquering the Master Within is because of the observed parallels between chattel slavery and an enslaved mindset. As a historian and a teacher, Paul continued to explore this fascinating concept, and the more he studied, the more convinced he became of the parallels.

Both individuals are bound; only one is physically bound to his master/slave owner, and the other is bound to a thought process, past life circumstances, failure, etc.

When we observe those who led the way in the fight for freedom, there was one clear and common trait: a strong, burning vision. That burning desire for freedom allowed them to go against all odds, overcome any adversity that could have been seen as a roadblock, and in the end, accomplish their goal: freedom.

At the same time, the individuals Paul interviewed overcame an enslaved mindset and showed the exact same characteristics. They had a strong vision that allowed them to overcome obstacles and live a life beyond the limiting thoughts that once held them bound.

We thoroughly enjoyed chatting with Paul as he recounted the process of interviewing amazing individuals, learning from them, weaving their real stories through a fictional storyline, and coming to the decision that he would be a #SlaveNoMore. Paul made a decision to no longer be enslaved to limiting thoughts, and choose to overcome that master that held him bound.

Mark and Annette have also chosen to live a life free from limits, and are having the time of their lives.

We hope you enjoy this incredible conversation as much as we did!

What’s your story? Are You Ready To Be A #SlaveNoMore

In the last few years, we've all experienced an emotional roller coaster ride that can be caused by things such as economic uncertainty or natural disasters-- but there's hope on its way! Trail Angels powered by Carin The Load offers a 10-week course on finding peace and harmony through building emotional resilience. In oneself so they are no longer reactive when faced with difficult situations; instead, being proactive about what happens next will help regain control over themselves emotionally.

The first episode from this new series, "Finding Peace and Happiness by Building Emotional Resilience" by Trail Angels powered by Cairn The Load - which was just released today at 7 am EST (5 am PST) – We all experience challenges in our lives, but what makes someone strong is how they react to these moments. A lot of people might feel like giving up when things get tough; however, it doesn't have to be that way! 

Emotional resilience is the ability to handle negative emotions such as anger, sadness, or fear without resorting immediately to self-defeating thoughts. This course will help you develop tools that can be used when dealing with difficult situations for your mind and body to continue living and live in Peace, Harmony, and ultimately happiness!

Building emotional strength through a higher power is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. We all have days when nothing goes right, and it seems like no matter what you try; your mood will never improve, or some other negative thought comes into play whether on its own accord or because someone else planted such seeds in our minds telling us that there was something wrong with how happy/sad, etc. Being able to build up stronger feelings from deep inside helps combat these bad vibes by giving us hope again!

Join Mark & Annette as they share experiences that have helped them build emotional strength in vulnerable ways. 

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Today Mark & Annette reflect upon 2021.  So grateful for the accomplishments, blessings, and change of 2021. 
 
Each of us has Ugly Sweater Days where things aren't their best.  Protection of the old and comfortable can be found by wearing the Ugly Sweater, but there is peace and beauty underneath as take off the Ugly Sweater. 

We all know what it feels like to have those days where we don't feel our best. We may not look our best either, but that's okay! Today is officially Ugly Sweater Day, and there's no need to be ashamed of it. 

There's no reason to make this day all about trying to look fabulous because it isn't. This day is all about embracing your unique beauty and the unique beauty of others around you.

Pretty much everyone knows what an Ugly Sweater Day is. It's that one day during the holiday season where everyone wears their ugliest sweater. Whether you wear the ugly sweater for a day, a week, or a season don't be afraid to pull off the sweater and find the beauty from within.