Elyse, one of our Diary Daters, is back on the pod and full of updates to share! First, she goes on a first date that hits a snag when the dude won’t stop looking at his phone. Then, we go back in time to hear some history about a guy who may be entering the picture. But she wonders: should she move forward with getting to know him given some new information she learns?

On Ali’s end, she’s taking Skyline’s advice to heart and approaching her mental health journey with baby steps. She chats about some concrete moves she’s made this past week plus ones she’s looking to put into place moving forward.

This week we have two Media Mentions, both from one of Ali’s favorite podcasts, The Daily. First, from The Daily’s interview with Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble) about her take on the future of dating apps. Then, a Modern Love episode revisiting the 36 Questions To Fall In Love, which has Ali reminiscing about when she first knew she was falling in love with Skyline.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 34.

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Skyline joins Ali on the pod this week to chat about relationship “rules” (aka agreements) coming out of the Vacation Rules ep a few weeks ago. The two talk about rules they’ve come up with in their relationship, both communicated and otherwise - for example, Ali realizes in real time that they have a rule when they order take out. Then, it’s time to hear from the experts as three friends of the pod chime in on agreements they have in their own relationships. Thanks to Talia Koren, Sabrina Zohar, and Charisse Cooke for their input! They close out the show with input from the listeners - including rules surrounding bedtime smooches, gift giving, conflict resolution, and more.

In Updates, Ali shares some mental health struggles she’s been facing lately and Skyline opens up about why he relates to her feelings - plus offers some advice!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 19.

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Ali is answering listener questions in a dedicated Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener receives a no ghosting script after a fourth date and wonders if she should ask for more clarity. Then, we talk about sarcastic/negative answers on dating app profiles - are they a dealbreaker? Our third listener has an old hook-up come back into the picture, and she’s struggling to see it objectively. Then, a listener worries that her partner isn’t aligned with her five-year plan. And finally, we chat about proactive communication in early dating - what to do if you haven’t heard from someone after a great second date?

In updates, Ali is back from Morocco and enjoying being home for a while. She chats highlights like surprise date night and makeup lessons, and lowlights like a triggering moment that has her reflecting on past experiences (TW: SA).

This week’s media mention is from The New Yorker article, “The New Business of Breakups.” (for Apple pods, link here: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/12/09/the-new-business-of-breakups)

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins at around minute 30.

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We’re hearing from both of our Dating Diaries ladies this week!! First, Caeli joins to update Ali & the listeners on Executive Chef, plus a new (gentle)man enters the picture. Then, Elyse has been busy with two first dates in one night last week. Plus the main reason we’re here: reviewing her Hinge profile! Ali goes through her photos and prompts, providing insight along the way on brevity, calls to action, and incorporating more of Elyse’s hobbies. Check out the Patreon for full video if you’d like to see Elyse’s profile for yourself!

Timestamps: Caeli joins around minute 7 and Elyse at around minute 30.

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Ali is fresh off her one-year anniversary trip with Skyline and dishing about her favorite parts (and not so favorite parts) of the trip. She shares the “vacation rules” that she and Skyline have come up with to help them best enjoy their trips and how some of those “rules” have expanded into every day life. Plus, a stressful moment provides an opportunity to reflect on managing low-level conflict and responding vs reacting in relationships. Ali also answers two listeners questions: one about a friend who consistently brings down the vibe at events and one from a listener who’s debating if she should reach out to a former situationship.

This week’s Media Mention comes from the IMO Podcast with Michelle Obama & Craig Robinson - it’s their episode about joyful dating with Tracee Eliss Ross from April 16th.

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Ali and Skyline are on their first anniversary vacation and he’s just been introduced on social media…no better time to introduce him to the podcast! This week, you’ll hear an interview that Ali & Erica did on the Patreon back in February.

Skyline joined us to answer your questions and introduce himself to the community he’s heard so much about. Our discussion includes: his version of how he met Ali (and what her nickname would have been if he’d given her one), how he was listening along to the pod during early dating, his thoughts on dating someone who talks about dating so openly, how being divorced has impacted his approach to his relationship with Ali, and lots more.

But first, we hear updates from Elyse (one of our Diary Daters) who went to visit a guy in NYC. Will he make good on his nickname as Three Minute Makeout Man?!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 24.

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Caeli from our Dating Diaries segment is back on the podcast this week and we’re diving into her Bumble profile! We walk through her bio, prompts, and photos and discuss where she can make improvements to set herself up for more success. Through Ali’s notes on photo guidelines, best ways to elicit a reply with your prompts, and ways that different people swipe you’ll get some great tips for crafting your own profile! Plus, Caeli fills us in on a first date she went on and the two debate whether she should go on a second. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for the updates section, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio.

In Updates, Ali is back from Colombia with a renewed zest for creating community through travel and is looking forward to this month’s surprise date (planned by Skyline) and their anniversary trip to Mexico. She also reflects on Love On The Spectrum in this week’s Media Mention.

Timestamps: Caeli joins us at around minute 22.

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It’s time to meet our second Dating Diaries participant…Elyse! A 26-year-old living in a major east coast city, Elyse is ready to dive back into dating after recovering from her longest relationship to date. In this introduction episode, you’ll learn about Elyse’s dating history as a self-proclaimed “late bloomer,” how her last relationship played out, plus a very recent development that’s hot off the presses. Stay tuned as we hear more from Elyse and offer her some big sister advice on her journey that’s unfolding right here on the podcast.

In Updates, Ali has a rough week in her personal life and sets out to have a rejuvenating weekend with Skyline - from new outfits, to sunshine-filled park walks, to yapping with friends, and ending with a relaxing belated birthday present.

Timestamps: Elyse joins us at around minute 26.

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Feeling burned out by dating apps? Jessica Hope, founder of Bored of Dating Apps, has BEEN THERE - and she created an entire company to deal with it! Coming to you from Ali’s living room couch, Jess chronicles the dating frustrations that led her to focus more on dating in person and start her own IRL dating events…a journey that ultimately led to her now partner. Ali and Jess chat flirting strategies, how to approach dating events, and much more in this super fun conversation.

But first, Ali is still glowing from her birthday week (plus a surprise date!), feeling so celebrated and loved by everyone in her life. She introduces a relationship check-in lens to her updates, opening up about an emotional moment from last week.

This week’s Media Mention comes from one of Ali’s faves: The Gottman Institute. The article is called Accepting Influence: Find Ways to Say “Yes” and you can find it here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/accepting-influence-find-ways-to-say-yes/

Where to find Bored of Dating Apps: On Instagram @boredofdatingapps on TikTok @boredofdatingapps, at www.boredofdatingapps.com.

Where to find Jessica: On Instagram @jessica.hope.boda.

Timestamps: Jessica joins at around minute 25.

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It’s our very first Dating Diaries episode, a new segment following listeners along their dating journeys. We’re kicking things off with two listeners, and our first Diary Dater is Caeli, a 32-year-old living in the Chicago suburbs who is ready to start dating intentionally. In this intro episode, you’ll learn more about Caeli’s story including her dating history (and some nicknames), what she’s looking for, her current dating goals/challenges, and more. Stay tuned in future episodes as we follow along with Caeli’s dates and help her get some outside guidance.

But first, in Updates, Ali is having an emotional day (okay, week) while recording and shares her release from that. But the week kicked off celebrating her best friend’s birthday starting with a group trip to New Orleans and wrapping with a relaxing day at a bath house!

Timestamps: Caeli joins at around minute 19.

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