In this episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex coach and author Rachel Overvoll for an honest, expansive conversation about divorce, desire, and learning to feel safe in your own body. The two talk about the shifting stigma around divorce, why “it might end” is not a reason to avoid marriage, and how women are often conditioned to over-function in relationships until they burn out.

Rachel also breaks down what it means to be relational in partnership, how to tell the difference between fighting for your relationship and staying out of obligation, and practical ways to work through resentment when a partner is finally stepping up.

Then we get into sex and embodiment, including how to recognize performative sex, why pressure kills pleasure, and simple somatic tools you can use to get out of your head during intimacy.

In Updates, Ali is on vacation in Mexico and using that time to chat shifting domestic roles with Skyline.

Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @rachelovervoll and at www.modernintimacy.com.

Timestamps: Rachel joins us at around minute 11.

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Ali is solo this week answering questions submitted by you, the listeners! Our question round up includes: navigating comfort vs spark chasing in a new relationship, starting to date when you’re still getting over your ex, how Skyline and I establish de-escalating tactics in every day life, finding a partner who appreciates your independence, and more.

In Updates, Ali had a wonderful time at the Red Door Community gala - plus we hear from Elyse!

Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 25

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Therapist and creator of Detangling Divorce, Stacey Sherrell, joins Ali to talk about the role of self-trust in finding a strong partnership, her own path to divorce, and how couples can set themselves up for success long before a crisis. Topics also include: respect as a non-negotiable and how to spot corrosive conflict, the invisible mental load, when to start couples therapy, the questions to ask yourself before having kids, and talking money with your partner.

In Updates, Ali is recovering from food poisoning and reflecting on feeling safe to be triggered in a relationship (a very timely reflection with this week’s guest!).

Where to find Stacey: On Instagram @detanglingdivorce and at www.detanglingdivorce.com.

Timestamps: Stacey joins us at around minute 17.

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Katy & Tony are back on the pod for a deep dive into their dating app profiles (plus a sneak peek at some upcoming updates). In this Dating Diaries episode, Ali reviews each of their profiles - Hinge for Katy, Tinder & Grindr for Tony - and the three come away with some great updates to make. From dimly lit photos to making bios sound like your unique voice…there’s a lot to cover! And the vibe between these two friends as they review each other’s profiles is amazing, too.

But first, Ali recaps her housewarming party with Skyline featuring a new kind bar, plus looks ahead to how division of household labor will need to change with Skyline’s shifting work schedule.

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 13.

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If you haven’t come across the Hot Chef saga on Threads…first of all, how?! Second of all, you’re truly missing out. But not to worry - this week, Ali sits down with the woman at the center of it all, Katherine Wela Bogen. We dive into this joy-filled, captivating, and refreshingly real modern-day romance from start to finish. After a string of disappointing dating experiences, Katherine shares how a trip to Paris — and one bold move into a restaurant kitchen — led her to where she is today. In this heartwarming episode, we’re unpacking how intuition, risk-taking, and a little romantic courage can change everything.

But first, in Updates, Ali is back from Japan and preparing for her housewarming with Skyline (with a few cranky moments along the way!). We’re also looking forward to upcoming pod topics and previewing a new guest!

Where to find Katherine: On Instagram @k.w.bogen, on Threads @k.w.bogen, and on TikTok @sexualityscholar. Pre-Order Katherine's book Queering Him here.

Timestamps: Katherine joins us at around minute 31.

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Ali is collaborating in the studio with Rory Uphold, host of the Crimes of the Heart podcast! The two set out to chat about their most and least favorite pieces of dating advice, but quickly realize that this conversation is the start of a new friendship. Topics range from who should pay on a first date to why dating is so hard right now to the specific difficulties women face in navigating today’s world. It’s their first time talking but certainly won’t be the last!

In Updates, Ali is coming to you live from Japan!! She chats a bit about the trip so far, what she’s enjoying most about the country (hint: it’s edible), how Skyline is faring with the cats at home, and more. Plus, she’s caught up on the first 6 episodes of Love Is Blind and can’t believe what she’s watching (no spoilers though).

Where to find Rory On Instagram @icouldbeblonder, on TikTok @roryuphold, the Crimes of the Heart Podcast and her book Dating is a Horror Show. Be the Final Girl. Use code HEIGHT15 to get 15% off your copy. 

Timestamps: Rory joins us at around minute 28.

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It’s the final part of our three-part series on new relationships! Ali is joined by Talia Koren, host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, to dive into navigating each phase of your budding partnership with confidence. Check out part one (ep # 234.5) and part two (ep # 238.5) for tips on navigating the first three months and first six months.

In part three, Ali and Talia explore what reaching the one-year mark in a relationship looks like. Topics include: moving in together, starting engagement conversations, navigating career shifts and family introductions, and keeping the spark alive after a year. They also reflect on celebrating anniversaries, working through anxieties, and the key conversations that helped their relationships grow. Listener questions cover whether it’s too soon to talk marriage, how to handle changes in sex and intimacy, and what to do if you’re still unsure about long-term commitment. Overall, we’re chatting about reflection, growth, and alignment as couples enter a new stage together.

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We’re meeting two new Dating Diaries participants this week…and they’re recording together! Real-life friends Katy & Tony introduce themselves to the pod and give us all some background as we look forward to following their dating journeys. From divorces to scarcity mindsets to pattern breaking…we hear it all (and they chime in on each other too).

But first, Ali is preparing to leave for Japan and racing to get as much done as possible in her new shared space with Skyline before she leaves. Plus, a quick update on focus groups!

This week’s Media Mention is from The Gottman Institute and titled "How to Maintain Individuality in Shared Spaces.”

Timestamps: Katy & Tony join us at around minute 22.

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Did you know that perimenopause can start in your 30s and last up to 10 years?? Many people (your host included, until recently) do not and Mandi Dixon, LPC is here this week to talk about it. In her work as a therapist, she also focuses on navigating ADHD during this time of life and how those hormone swings can hit especially hard. Without us even realizing it! She sits down with Ali to break down why so many women are diagnosed with ADHD later in life, how estrogen impacts dopamine and executive function, and what all of this means for your relationships (plus much more!).

But first, in Updates, Ali reflects on a long weekend with her family (and Skyline) as they continue to organize their home and prepare for a housewarming. Plus, we hear from Elyse in a Dating Diaries update section!

Where to find Mandi: On Instagram @adhdmenopausetherapist, on TikTok @adhdmenopausetherapist, at www.mandidixonlpc.com.

Timestamps: Mandi joins us at around minute 41.

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It’s a Hot Topics episode answering listener questions!! Ali is diving into three listener topics: navigating dating in small cities when friends match with the same people, reassessing long-term friendships as values and priorities evolve, and combatting feeling shallow on dating apps with a “no photos” experiment that prioritizes prompts and compatibility.

In Updates, we’re catching up on a week away with Skyline’s family and how meaningful moments strengthened the partnership. Plus, an exciting update on the Finding Mr. Height Patreon - productivity, budgeting, and organization content!

Timestamps: Hot Topics begins around minute 26.

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