It's not about being "up" or happy 24/7 - it's about BEING in a general state that serves as a magnet for what you want.

What screws us up most in life is the picture we have in our head of how it is supposed to be. Not what it can be.  In this first episode of a 5-part series, I talk about the power of clarity and connecting to the visions you get about what your life can be.

When we don’t have a clear vision of what we want for our life, we get trapped into letting life happen TO us; letting circumstances dictate the outcome of our life.  Then we start subscribing to things that we see bringing others happiness. We see someone else and decide that what they have must be what we need in order to be happy. When it doesn’t we find ourselves frustrated and we give up. We’ve committed ourselves to pursuing someone else’s version of happiness and our soul isn’t invested.

I also give a practical strategy to use for visualization :)

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Seems obligatory to introduce myself and tell you what the podcast is all about, so here we go…..

My name is Kari.  It’s my mission to help you stop creating and enduring situations and experiences that are…. “Fine” -  Because, dear one - you will hear me say this in almost every episode - YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN FINE - YOU DESERVE EXTRAORDINARY.

This podcast is meant to bring real, raw & transparent conversations and since the purpose is to help you create EPICNESS (yes that's a word) - topics will be wide & varied, because creating EPIC includes all kinds of things.

website:  www.karihurd.com

@karihurd on social media

A common question when I’m interviewed on other podcasts is, “so, how did you end up in “fine” and how did you shift out of fine? And for some reason, answering on other podcasts is way easier…I’ve been trying to put this episode together for quite some time….. you’d think it would be the easiest one, since it’s just the story of how I got here, but for some reason I’ve been struggling to tell the stories.

So, what got me into my life that was “fine” - a series of decisions that “made sense”, doing what I was “supposed to” instead of listening to my gut about what was right for ME, about what lit me on fire.

A lack of clarity, or at least a lack of a willingness to see what would make me happy had me subscribing to what was making everyone else happy.

In this episode I’m going to share a little about how I was living in “fine” and how I am now creating EPIC. See you inside.

You communicated your boundaries to a family member, but what if they don't listen/respect what you said?  Because Dear One, the other person has every right NOT to respect our boundaries, which hurts. And often in the heat of the moment, we feel a little caught off guard and our emotions are high - so we retreat and start compromising our boundaries in hopes that if we make a small concession/compromise so will the other person. Which, is not always the case.

In today's episode I talk about the FUNCTION (not the WHY) behind setting and enforcing boundaries; both in close relationships and in simple things like over-scheduling ourselves.

Spoiler:  We need to create clear boundaries for OURSELVES so that in those moments we already know what our actions will be.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rethink-your-way-the-good-life/201809/why-is-it-so-hard-set-boundaries

Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services and the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast. Julie is also the best-selling author of the Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).   Julie is a dreamer, a traveler, a visionary, an adventurer, a risk-taker, a loving wife, daughter, best auntie ever, and doggy momma.    Julie has been a lover of books, an activist, philanthropist, and, most of all, a supporter of women and their dreams.    She has been a successful executive for 20 plus years. Julie started working with a life coach ten years ago and loved how it propelled her further into living a life she loves and had imagined.  Her goal is to help others reimagine their life. She has extensive experience in leadership skills, Life Coaching, and a vast history of assisting people in finding success. Her individualized positivism approach helps identify and attain your goals. Julie holds coaching certifications as a Holistic Coach, Cognitive Behavioral Techniques Coach, and Mindfulness coach, and meditation teacher certification. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification.  Julie helps ambitious women who get overwhelmed by having too much on their plate. She helps them stop chasing shiny objects, create a workable plan and implement simple habits that help them reach their goals in life and business.

Please join my small group group coaching program right now. I  have 5 spots left.

Creating an Epic Life to me means that I show up! I give myself grace, I keep getting up when I fall and lastly I keep finding new dreams to go after.

GoConfidentlycoachiing.com, https://www.instagram.com/julie_deluccacollins/  https://www.facebook.com/jdelucca https://www.linkedin.com/in/goconfidentlyjulie/

I always love chatting with Julie.  In this episode we certainly touched on a number of things, the main theme of our chat was the accountability factor involved with creating your version of an epic life.

Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services and the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast. Julie is also the best-selling author of the Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).   Julie is a dreamer, a traveler, a visionary, an adventurer, a risk-taker, a loving wife, daughter, best auntie ever, and doggy momma.    Julie has been a lover of books, an activist, philanthropist, and, most of all, a supporter of women and their dreams.    She has been a successful executive for 20 plus years. Julie started working with a life coach ten years ago and loved how it propelled her further into living a life she loves and had imagined.  Her goal is to help others reimagine their life. She has extensive experience in leadership skills, Life Coaching, and a vast history of assisting people in finding success. Her individualized positivism approach helps identify and attain your goals. Julie holds coaching certifications as a Holistic Coach, Cognitive Behavioral Techniques Coach, and Mindfulness coach, and meditation teacher certification. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification.  Julie helps ambitious women who get overwhelmed by having too much on their plate. She helps them stop chasing shiny objects, create a workable plan and implement simple habits that help them reach their goals in life and business.

Creating an Epic Life to me means that I show up! I give myself grace, I keep getting up when I fall and lastly I keep finding new dreams to go after.

GoConfidentlycoaching.com, IG: https://www.instagram.com/julie_deluccacollins/  https://www.facebook.com/jdelucca https://www.linkedin.com/in/goconfidentlyjulie/

People and join my small group group coaching program right now. I  have 5 spots left.

there’s NO SHAME in leaving that situation (job, relationship....anything). You don't need to “save face” or stick around because you are obligated.  You’re not admitting defeat. Leaving doesn't mean you're a quitter or that you're irresponsible.  It simply means you are at cause and taking responsibility for your own life!

Karen Laos is a keynote speaker equipping women to stand out with unshakable confidence. She’s a communication expert helping women speak with clarity and credibility through their presence and message. Karen champions female business leaders to command the room and take their seat at the table. She’s also the host of the Ignite Your Confidence podcast. Karen has coached leaders at Facebook, Google, Netflix, Uber, Sephora, Sony, Microsoft, Fidelity, Charles Schwab, Trip Advisor, Bacardi, Levi, and more.

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