Fire Up Your Moxie with Debra Trappen

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  • Are You Giving WORDS Too Much Power Over You?

    Not too long ago, I decided to stop giving words so much power over me…

    I used to get FURIOUS when my brother called me a “chick”. Seriously, I hated it. He could send me into a tailspin.  My reply would be: “I am NOT a baby chicken, I am a woman.”  He loved how it would get under my skin.  I love him. ;)

    I wasn’t a fan of being called a “girl” either, but I realized I would call my besties my GIRLfriends while my hubby wasn’t calling his pals “my GUYfriends”. (Let that sink in, Ladies.)

    The reality is–> No one really likes being “labeled”, yet we all seek/want/use labels to describe and identify one another. Yep, Reality Bites.  (Oh, how I love a good GenX throwback!)

    A few weeks ago, during a chat with a friend, this very topic came up. He is a bold, proud black man. Our conversation can be summed up in these words:

    Statements like “I don’t see color/gender.” or “We are all one.” are egotistical declarations implying we have to go blind in order to accept each other, our differences are not worthy of speaking to, or worse – they are a negative holding us back. To see and acknowledge an individual’s color/gender doesn’t make you prejudice, it makes you OBSERVANT.

    I continue to translate the “labels” people give me as their way of observing how I may be different from those I am standing with in the moment. If I am the only woman on a speaker lineup, the only redhead, the only white woman, the only person in the band who doesn’t play the guitar (darn it, I am working on that!)… well – that is a FACT.  If they are mistaken, then I help correct them and make them better. I definitely do my very best NOT to be offended. Being offended is a CHOICE.

    For example, it used to really IRK me (honestly, it still does sometimes) when people refer to WOMEN as “GUYS“…  Hey, Guys – how’s it going? Now, I work to gently remind others I am NOT a “guy” and (most of the time) they reply with a shocked “I never even thought about the fact that I was calling EVERYONE a “guy”… wow.”

    I still have a long way to go, but flipping my perspective on the labels has really helped me make a deeper, more positive impact on my world. I pray this helps you all, as well.

    xxoo,

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    5 min
  • Chat with Sarah Schnell Jones – Side Hustle Check In!

    In this episode, we check back in with Sarah Schnell Jones!

    (Click the Fire Up! Podcast button to listen now…)

    She shares her up date on adopting Biniyam (Jones, party of FOUR!)… and how being a Wife of 1, Mama of 2, Queen B to many at Bamboo Realty, AND growing a thriving Rodan + Fields business is ALL going!

    I love hearing her heart for helping EMPOWER WOMEN to build a business that will bring them financial freedom.

    Sarah and I talked about hosting a monthly Facebook Live Chat to share tips and tools to build YOUR online network marketing business!

    Our first one is scheduled for Wednesday, July 26th.

    Pop on over to my Facebook timeline and follow my page for notifications.

    If you are curious if a Rodan + Fields SIDE HUSTLE is for YOU, feel free to message Sarah or me for more details.

    Here is her contact info:

    Learn more about Sarah’s R+F Biz: https://bamboo.myrandf.com
    Email her for details: RFSarahJones @ gmail.com

    Cheers!

     

     

    Fabulous Offers From Sarah!

     

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    38 min
  • Women’s Events – Do We Still Need Them?
    It is no secret.
    I am passionate about serving and empowering women.

    It is a big part of my purpose on the planet. Whether these women are building their corner of the Kingdom from their couch, carpool, cubicle, or corner office – my heart’s desire is for every woman to engage, elevate and embrace her authentic self so she is able to ignite and empower her world.

    As one on a short list of professional AND female speakers, especially in the real estate industry, I am asked to speak at quite a few “women’s conferences” during the year. I also passionately serve the Women’s Council of REALTORS®.

    These “choices” elicit a MULTITUDE of questions, including:

    – Why do women need their “own” event?

    – Isn’t an event “just for women” the exact opposite side of the sexism issue you are fighting?

    – Why do you perpetuate the “gender divide” by doing these events?

    – What really “happens” there?

    While speaking at the WomanUP event last week, I received many of these questions.

    Curious what WomanUP is? It is a new event hosted by Sara Sutachan and Leslie Appleton-Young of the California Association of REALTORS® to ignite and rally the women in the industry to consider stepping into leadership positions.

     – Check out these notes from Brilliantly Bri Art!

     – AND this FAB recap of the event written by, Valerie Garcia.

     

    During the conference, I posted this quote from Leslie who is the Chief Economist for C.A.R. and a heroine to many MANY women in the industry.

    60+ people loved/liked the photo, only three of them were men. All of the comments were women. I received 4 direct messages FROM MEN, asking me “What was going on at that women’s conference“?

    Was there man-bashing happening?

    Were we burning our bras?

    Seriously?  UGH. (x11)

    This post shares 5 of the most common excuses women are not in leadership or on stage as keynote speakers along with my “replies”… and the second half includes 5 reasons women’s conferences are part of the SOLUTION to these problems.

    First of all, when anyone asks me those questions, I usually say something like:

    “The fact anyone is still asking those questions is proof the problem still exists. The number of women in executive positions and board positions is dismal. It is in the news EVERY SINGLE WEEK.”

    Want proof in data?

    The Data on Women Leaders (Pew Research)

    WomanUP Report “Executive Summary” (C.A.R.)

    Download a copy and you will also receive notification when the full report is out!

    Next, I ask some questions:

    – What is the male to female ratio at the leadership events you attend?

    – How many male and female speakers are sharing their thoughts and visions from your stages?
           – Is it anywhere near balanced?
    – How about when you look around the table at board meetings or leadership retreats at your company?
    – When you look to the left and then to the right are there ANY women at the table?
    – If so, is there a balanced number? Is there a token female? Or worse, NONE?
    – How does your organization support “working parent” hurdles?

    We all know women have a valuable perspective and (often) a different set of skills to offer. Their communication and listening styles tend to vary greatly from men, so they bring added layers of vision, problem-solving, and relationship building techniques to those events and “the table”.

    Then, the “justifications and reasons” start to flow.

    I’ve heard so many excuses around WHY there are no women at “our” table.

    Quite honestly, none of them make sense.

    Here are five of the most frequent I hear and my general replies:


    Excuse 1: There aren’t any women interested.

     

    My Response:

    There are plenty of women interested in leadership and speaking.

    Over 300 were in a room together at the #WomanUP conference in Pasadena, CA.

    WE are not unicorns, although we are magical in many ways.  

    See event photo for proof of these women.  We really do exist.

    Want to see more?  Check out this awesome project called #PresentHer: presenther.org

    Excuse 2: Many of our female employees are not as qualified as their male counterparts… mainly because they stayed home to raise children.

    My Response:

    Qualified women are EVERYWHERE. They are attending conferences, serving on Women’s Council networks, serving on their association boards, teaching and mentoring the next generation, and running successful households AND businesses.

    YES, I included HOUSEHOLDS. I am so tired of the argument that women who have stayed home are somehow BEHIND their male counterparts. Every single woman I know who has chosen to raise children has a MULTITUDE of skills being sparked and sharpened every moment of the day. They don’t sit at home nibbling on bonbons all day. They are excellent planners of meals, vacations, and numerous events – most of the time on LEAN budgets. They prep and run meetings for the PTA, American Heritage Girl, Scouts, etc. They coach teams. They wrangle chore detail schedules and homework. They are experts in drama management and constantly help others strengthen their emotional intelligence. They meet new people while waiting outside ballet lessons and learn the art of small talk and relationship building – even when forced to chat with other parents that drive them nuts. Oh, and negotiating with toddlers (or any age thru the teen years) is NOT a cake walk.  Lots of lessons learned and experience gained!

    Maybe we need to start instructing women (and men) to add these years to their resumes and then teach our recruiters and hiring managers to STOP DISCOUNTING these killer skills. Experience comes in many forms. We need to change our thinking – ALL AROUND.

    Excuse 3: The “rules” require all board members lead “large” or “public” organizations or (insert any other exclusionary requirement).

     

    My Response:

    First, as far as those archaic rules go – it is time to change them.  Most of the time what is in place to define what a leader (or a worthy organization) looks like excludes a lion-share of women from qualifying for board or leadership positions.

    There are so many leaders (who happen to be women) already out there starting and running their own businesses/brokerages, building epic teams, launching tech companies… and so much more. They might not be as big or as public, but their leadership skills are still valuable.

    These same women are becoming more confident and are keeping the conference momentum and conversations going on digital platforms now. They are deciding they want “leadership rules and definitions” to look DIFFERENT than the version defined and designed by men decades ago (aka the misogynistic MadMen era).

    Rules are meant to be reviewed, revised, or even broken when they no longer serve their purpose.

    If the old guard is not willing to mix it up and UPDATE the rules and guidelines – they will miss out on amazing talent and stellar brain power to help them move into the next century.

    Excuse 4: No one has “retired” from the board – there is “no room”.

     

    My Response:

    Again, seriously?

    Will the Universe cease to exist if you add a seat or two to your board so you can add a female to the mix?

    Puuuuhhhhhhhhlllleeeeeezzzzzz.

    Excuse 5: Women don’t step up and ask to be included.

    Normally, this is followed up with “Why aren’t they just standing up, speaking up, and doing it?”

    My Response:

    GULP.   

    Full disclosure: I used to think similar thoughts.  

    I needed MINDSET shift, as well. My life has been blessed with ooooooodles of amazing, life-giving mentors, coaches, and leaders who have spoken vision and potential into and over my life. I was raised by two very empowering parents. My Pop was raised by kind, hard-working farmers in Minnesota. He decided he wanted a different life and boldly went for it.  He is an elite member of the original HW engineers generation. woot!  My Queen is a life-long entrepreneur who intentionally put her children first. She taught me the art of timing my “ASK”… It was a rule that she needed to decompress when she got home. We knew to wait until she finished her glass of wine or the answer was NO. She is brilliant. My parents both reminded me of my worth, value, and that my future was undefined and limitless.

    Furthermore, most of the topics at these events are things I have heard my entire life.

    My point?  Not every woman has this growing up. I had to realize that there were millions of women who have NEVER heard these things. These events are a magnificent opportunity for me to GIVE BACK and pay it forward.

    Since my mindset shift, I have had many heated conversations with other women who question why these conferences exist. They share their concerns around how hosting these events make women look weak or powerless. They cringe when women “EMPOWER” each other or are tagged in quotes of the same ilk. Listen up, ladies. YOU might not need these events but MILLIONS of our sister warriors do. They aren’t as bold, brave, and perfectly bossy – like you and me. They are brilliant, lacking in confidence, and need our help.

    I believe it is our responsibility to speak life into them, to encourage them, and to support them along the way.

    If you are one of those women who questions these events – shame off you.  Please take a moment and think about WHY you feel that way. Maybe your soul is sending smoke signals to your still small voice to wake up. Maybe your questions are really a subconscious rally cry beckoning YOU onto the stages to generously INSPIRE other women with your tenacious stories of success and failure. When you do step up in this way, it will feel fantastic.

    You will also be surprised and delighted by the copious notes and immediate growth you take with you when you walk out of the conference doors. I am always blessed with new perspectives, connections, and wisdom! Try it… I am believing you will LOVE IT.

     

    Now, for all of you still curious about why WomanUp and women’s conferences are important, here are some of the life-changing reasons we must keep on keeping on.
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    1 – Encouragement:

    Not ALL women have embraced their worthiness TO LEAD – especially in corporate settings. Encouraging them to see their value is an incredibly important role these conferences fill. We also need to encourage them to shake off the shame of “all they have not done in the past” and move forward with intention and purpose.

    2 – Build a NEW vision:

    Women have not had centuries of being raised up to step up as “the leader”. For decades, young boys have been watching male astronauts, male presidents, male preachers, male CEOs, male Governors, male refs, and male (fill in the blank) lauded and shining on stages, television, books, and magazines. The females in these roles have been the EXCEPTION – and continue to be – still to this day. We need to do better for ourselves and the next generation.

    3 – Empower the ASK:

    Women have also been taught “wait to be asked“.  We have been raised up to wait for a man to ask us to marry or out on a date (I know this is changing – slowly…). There was ONE DANCE a year at my high school when the girls could confidently ask the boys. ONE.  Pretty sure it is the same today.

    Most women WAIT to be asked to be on a board or for a promotion.

    We need to inspire them to ASK.

    4 – Spark Confidence Thru Learning:

    These events expand women’s understanding of the resources and knowledge needed to get to the next level.

    They also help women understand how to uncover and ask mentors for their guidance, how to embrace failing forward, how to support other women, how to leverage their emotions, time and money… etc.

    Earlier this week, I was reading an article: “Why Women Don’t See Themselves as Entrepreneurs” and it riled me up.

    …and I quote:

    They’re (Women are) also less likely to have the management experience that can lead to starting a company. Just 19 percent of top executives are women, according to a LeanIn.org and McKinsey report, and a main reason they don’t rise is because they are less likely to have mentors in senior leadership.

    That changes when women run companies. The gender pay gap shrinks, and women are more likely to be promoted, according to research of public companies by Linda Bell, an economist, and provost of Barnard College. “Whether by cause or effect, the presence of a top woman executive has a really robust impact,” she said.

    This leads beautifully into the last “reason” events like WomanUp are so necessary.

    5 – Seeing is Believing:

    We need these events to see and meet OTHER WOMEN who have done it, to hear their stories of success and their lessons learned in the failed attempts. We need to see women who have successfully raised capital since we consistently hear that women “don’t do it well”.

    When we SEE IT (and hear it) we believe we can do it.

    Quoting from the same article above: 

    “The reason (more women aren’t starting their own companies/leading), according to the research: People with experience mentor and give money to people like themselves, while those starting out do what they see people like themselves doing. In other words, we all live in bubbles — not just in our politics or our friendships, but also in our careers — and this shapes the ideas we form. Social scientists describe the phenomenon as homophily, or love of the same.

    “Women are just outside of those established networks, and if you’re outside the networks, you don’t get the knowledge, you don’t get the opportunities, you don’t get the contacts and you don’t get the funding,” said Susan Coleman, a business professor at the University of Hartford and co-author of the Third Way report. She wrote it with Alicia Robb, a research fellow at the University of Colorado, Boulder, and the founder of Next Wave Ventures, for female angel investors.”

     

    It would be remiss of me to avoid discussing one of the biggest misconceptions.

    What is it?   They believe that these events are PRO-women and ANTI-men.

    There could be nothing farther than the truth.

    Women understand the power of collaboration.

    We BELIEVE we are better together.

    We recognize we need YOU – our brothers, fathers, grandfathers, husbands, uncles, and sons – to be part of the conversations.

    Gentleman, YOU are at the tables RIGHT NOW.

    We need you to look around and speak up.

    We need you to look to the seats to your left and right and ask WHERE ARE THE WOMEN?

    If you are on a panel and there are no women included (and there should be)  – ask why.

    We can’t ask those questions where we aren’t even invited yet.

    We want you to encourage us to step up and into our greatness… as we have done for you for millennia.

    We will add value. We will add perspective. We will add wisdom.

    Seeing is believing.

    To the mothers, fathers, and the tribes out there raising the next generation – now is the time to teach our children these lessons. Speak into and over them. Let’s pray these gender issues will not be present when they enter the workforce someday!

     

    I pray this read has helped to ignite and inspire you to do some introspection, take a look at the teams and tables you are around, ask yourself these questions, and then TAKE ACTION.

    We are better together.

    Now and always.

     

    Additional resources and related reading:

    How To Remove Gender Bias From the Hiring Process

    A Record Percentage Of Women Don’t Have Kids. Here’s Why That Makes Sense.

    “There has been a profound disconnect between the speed at which women have been asked to take full-time roles in the workplace and the rate at which we’ve adapted laws and social programs to support this drastic change in the lives of women,” writes Plank. “The reality is that if you’re both a mother and an employee, every day is a double-shift.”

    This is a great article on “asking” (aka recruiting) of women for public office:

    Best Way To Get Women To Run For Office? Ask Repeatedly

    Still not convinced this is an issue? Want some real-world proof about what still exists out there?

    Look no further than the last few days:

    – All-Male PR Panel Tells Women They Can Fix Sexism by ‘Speaking Up More Loudly’ 

    – David Bonderman Resigns From Uber Board After Sexist Remark 
    – Senator Kamala Harris was interrupted by her male colleagues — again.

    Have a killer article you want me to add to this list?
    Leave a comment below!

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    24 min
  • Vulnerability Is Your Superpower!
    Let’s talk about vulnerability.

     

    Vulnerability can be a scary word.

    Even reading the definition can give pause… listen to this:
    Vulnerability is the quality (or state of being exposed to the possibility) of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

    It can feel heavy and exposing.

    However, vulnerability is also a superpower.

    Far too many people are hiding behind a mask of insecurity, fear, and perfectionism.

    When we let people into our REAL story, magic happens.

    When we choose our life tribe carefully – healing, deep understanding, and growth abound.

    Giving of our time and talents is a joy… not something we tally.

    Today, I encourage you to take a moment to look around, pay attention to who is in your life, and make the adjustments you KNOW you need to make to get you to the next level.

    Maybe it is sharing less time with a negative friend or unfollowing someone on Instagram who posts things that go against your beliefs.

    I promise once you do the work to surround yourself with good people and good word – the new thing waiting for you will have the margin to bloom!

    xxoo

     

    Listen to the podcast:

    http://debratrappen.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/Vulnerability-Podcast.mp3

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    3 min
  • SLAYING your self-talk?
    Are you paying attention to your self-talk? 

     

    We have all heard it – we are our worst critic.  

    Research has shown that the majority of our self-talk is negative.  That means OUR OWN WORDS are working against us rather than for us!
    So, let’s take control and slay our self-talk into submission.
    Let’s start with LOVING and honoring the magnificent, vibrant woman you are today.
    Think about it.
    You have invested so much in becoming her!
    You passionately continue to work on and embrace becoming the best version of yourself every single day
    That deserves some serious love-filled self-talk!
    Next time you hear negative thoughts running through your mind – take them captive and replace them with words of affirmation and encouragement.

    Take a moment to prepare some I AM statements so you are ready!

    Here are some examples to get you started:

    I am radiant, clever, charming, brilliant, and graceful.

    I am intentionally and lovingly guarding my thoughts. Self-talk directly affects my attitude, progress, and success.

    I am embracing a positive, accepting, and self-loving mindset.

    I am a fearless, crazy dreamer who takes action, speaks truth, embraces my uniqueness and fulfills her purpose!

    I am living a life of gratitude and intention.  Today, I am grateful for _______________.

    I am created to serve generously and do it with joy!

    I am ready to attract those I’m meant to serve.

    I am aware of what I desire and attracting it with each thought.

    Now, go confidently and passionately out into the world and SLAY!

    xxoo,

     

    Listen to the podcast:

    http://debratrappen.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/SLAYING-SELF-TALK.mp3

     

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    4 min
  • Breathe… Nothing is wasted.
    It’s time to breathe…

    You needed to learn yesterday’s lessons to become the magnificent woman you are today!

    Every step we take is part of our story.

    Far too often we only want to celebrate the successes and, in turn, look at failures in a negative way. Whether it was staying in a job or relationship too long or not speaking up in a meeting…  In most of those moments, we forget we have the power use every single lesson to become the best version of ourselves.

    The world tends to chase and glorify the HUSTLE, so we feel compelled (at least some of the time) to fall in line.  Yet, on the other side, we shame ourselves for missing out on other things.  Even worse, we pile on the guilt for taking time to rest and be still.

    Our times of rest are epically important.  They allow us to recharge and reconnect with our creative vision.

    On the flip side, being able to accept that there may be things we miss while we are out slaying the dragons can be just as hard.

    Be gentle with yourself in all of these moments.

    Why?

    Nothing is wasted unless we choose to throw it away.

    Choose to learn.  Choose to grow.  Choose wisely.

    Choose wisely to enjoy each moment…

    and don’t forget to b-r-e-a-t-h-e.

    xxoo

     

    Listen to the podcast:

    http://debratrappen.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Breathe-Nothing-Is-Wasted-Podcast.mp3

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    3 min
  • Preparing To Negotiate?
    It’s time to prepare to go into a room where you will be negotiating.  What do you do to prepare?

     

    Over the years, we have all given and gotten oooooooodles of tips on negotiating.

    Things like:

    • Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want
    • Listen to understand, not reply
    • Know your facts and successes
    • Know what your best alternative to your ideal outcome is
    • Shoot for the stars and expect the best outcome
    • Say what you need to say and let it be silent.  Don’t fill the quiet with extra words.
    • See everyone in their undies
    • …and so on and so on.
    •  

      A dear friend of mine asked: “What advice do you have for me before I go into a career negotiation meeting?”… and my mind went a totally different direction than those listed above.  I thought of all of the other things I do BEFORE I walk in the door to negotiate.  The rituals I have to prepare my MIND for the experience.

      ? Lay off extra caffeine/coffee the morning of the meeting.  Sip tea or water instead.

      ? RIGHT BEFORE you go in, hit the powder room. While looking yourself deeply in the eyes – in the mirror – do a superwoman pose and end with your arms in the air repeating your chosen affirmations.  It may feel silly at the start, but it feels so good when you’re done!

      Here are some examples:

      I am worthy of a job I love.

      I am worthy of the fees I charge.
      I find it easy to remain calm under pressure.
      Being confident comes naturally to me.
      I deserve to have my dream job.
      I have all the skills I need to get this promotion/raise.

      ? Calm your nerves and center yourself.  Take a few minutes before your meeting and meditate/prayer/sit in silence.

      ? If you feel like you’re going to cry, and don’t want to at that moment, push your tongue into the soft palette above your top front teeth.

      ? Essential oils to the rescue:

      ~ Lavender will calm you.

      ~ Bergamot will energize you.
      Depending on what you need, put 2-3 drops of that oil in the palm of your hand, rub your hands together and BREATHE IT IN, 3-5 deep breaths.
      ~ Add some peppermint to your water and it will help you if you get a dry mouth when stressed, as well as give you confidently fresh breath!

      ? Surround yourself with champions you TRUST. These are the people who will lift you up and speak truth-filled, empowering words into and over you before, during and after your meeting.   Make sure you let them know when you need them – they don’t read minds!

      What is your ritual before you
      “HEAD INTO THE NEGOTIATION ROOM”?

      Listen to the podcast:

      http://debratrappen.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Prep-To-Negotiate-Podcast.mp3

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      5 min
    • Chat with Patricia Ann Young
      It is time to Fire Up! with Patricia Ann Young…

       

      Put your seatbelt on… Patricia Ann is one of those women that loves what she does and sprinkles joy every single day. She has been a REALTOR®  for 12 years and is known for her positivity and awesome customer service. She loves her hubby, shoes and all that sparkles!

      During this show, Debra and Patricia Ann talk about how to stay POSITIVE in a negative-focused world.

       

      Patricia Ann & Debra’s combined list of things to do to stay positive:

       

      1. Control the amount of negative news you consume.

      2. Control the number of negative people in your life.
      3. Listen to music.
      4. Hangout with your fur babies… dogs, cats, whatever brings you joy!
      5. Read the Bible and Pray
      6. Practice GRATITUDE.
      7. Take a bubble bath.
      8. Share and read positive affirmations, books, and interviews.
      9. Say hello to people who are not expecting it!
      10. Disconnect from tech and social media to recharge.
      11. Serve others. Mentor others.

      Want to learn more about Mizzzz Patricia Ann?

      Check out her answers to some of our fun questions!

       

      1. What was it that gave you the ‘push’ to begin living your dream?

      I always had a love of Real estate and I use to pull my husband around every weekend to look at homes no matter where we were. One weekend my husband says you need to do this for a living you have such a passion for it..with him saying that and his support a Real Estate agent was born!

      2. What does success look and feel like TO YOU?

      When I inspire someone through my words, posts or actions.

      Also, the feeling you get when your client turns to you and says I am so happy and I so appreciate all you have done for me… you walk away with such a great feeling of satisfaction that you helped someone achieve a dream they had.

      3. Share the THREE WORDS that describe you BEST!

      Passionate. Inspiring. Caring.

      4. What was your biggest mistake? How did you learn from it?

      It was a financial mistake…I had leased a car and thought my lease was up and I bought another car and found out after I had a year left..Why that was good and bad..after I did that it taught me to pay attention to detail and to read everything and don’t rely on others to do it for you. That mistake has helped me in my business.

      5. What is one thing people would be surprised to know about you?

      I am so into paranormal activity! I watch shows read books… It fascinates me and scares me at the same time.

      6. If you could go back 10 years and share the knowledge you have now – what would you tell yourself?

      I wish I would have started real estate sooner and not have been afraid. I have learned that you have to take a chance and not live in fear.

      7. What inspires you to keep moving forward – even in moments of fear and doubt?

      I believe I can do anything. My husband, My family, My team and My friends. I find it so encouraging that I have so many people in my corner and it helps to push me forward and keep me going when I feel like I cant or Im stuck.

      8. What is the first thing you do in the morning?

      Check my email.

      9. What is your ‘superpower’?

      Inspiration.. I try very hard to lift up others.

      10. What are your TOP FIVE apps on your phone? Why?

      Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, CNN, TMZ.

      11. What songs are on your FIRE UP playlist?

      I love music by Pitt Bull I listen to him a lot. Lady Gaga, Bon Jovi, Ariana Grande, Garth Brooks – I love all kinds of music.

      BONUS:

      What is your ONE WORD for this year?

      EMPOWERMENT.

      Anything else you would like to share with the Fire Up! Community?

      I am passionate about my life and I can finally say I am happy!! I am not perfect or do I know everything, in fact the older I get the less I think I know lol But I am finally satisfied and happy in my own skin!

      Brief Bio:

      Patricia is one of those women that loves what she does and sprinkles joy every single day. She has been a REALTOR® for 12 years and is known for her awesome customer service. She loves her hubby, shoes and all that sparkles!

      Connect with Patricia Ann Online:

      Twitter | Facebook | LinkedIn | Instagram | Google+ | patriciasellstexas.com

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      48 min
    • Chat with Marguerite Crespillo
      It’s time to Fire Up! with Marguerite Crespillo…

       

      Marguerite began her career in 1993 and has helped over 3000 families in her 20+ year career as a Top Producing Real Estate Agent. In addition, she has coached, trained and mentored hundreds of people in the real estate industry throughout her career.  She has developed a series of training classes and boot camps that are focused on what is happening RIGHT NOW in the current economy.

      As someone who is in the “trenches”, she is constantly evolving, learning and experimenting the best ways to approach whatever is happening in the current market so that she can bring to you, the very best tools to be your own version of success in ANY real estate market.

      Her unfiltered, straight forward approach to training will give you the right amount of “kick-in-the-rear” along with the tools you need to be a true success in ANY real estate market.

      Born and raised in Northern California, she loves living out in the country with her husband Joe and two of their 6 children who are still living at home along with 5 dogs and a few chickens.

      Here is even more about Marguerite Crespillo:
      1. What was it that gave you the ‘push’ to begin living your dream?

      When my husband was diagnosed with Parkinsons disease which required us to close down our real estate brokerage of 120+ agents. We became empty nesters and decided to really simplify and downsize our lives and make it more mobile. I always wanted to teach and do public speaking to help and inspire other real estate agents to live THEIR own version of success instead of feeling like they had to be what the industry preaches.

       

      2. What does success look and feel like TO YOU?

      Success looks to me like helping and inspiring others, working when I want and mostly having fun! Having raised 6 kids (3 of my own and 3 bonus kids) and being able to stay married for 25+ years without killing each other (day to day) and having been in real estate for 23 years I have learned that life is not about sales and stuff but about who still likes/loves you at the end of the day. Most importantly be kind.

      3. Share the THREE WORDS that describe you BEST!

      Inspiring. Motivating. Committed.

      4. What was your biggest mistake? How did you learn from it?

      Jumping too quickly into a franchise without doing more research on the owners of the company. I believe that I sometimes make decisions to quickly without thinking things through better. But this has also enabled me to do more and accomplish more than many who move at a slower pace

      5. What is one thing people would be surprised to know about you?

      I’m actually pretty introverted. I like to go home and not talk to anyone. Sometimes for a couple days or more.

      6. If you could go back 10 years and share the knowledge you have now – what would you tell yourself?

      I would say to relax and enjoy the moment more. My kids grew up way to fast and I was so focused on providing for them what I never had that I didn’t enjoy them as much as I wish I had. Work less, love more.

      7. What inspires you to keep moving forward – even in moments of fear and doubt?

      When i get overwhelmed I stop and look at how far I have come and how incredibly grateful I am and then I get out of my pity party and get back to work. I have so much I want to do in this lifetime, I want to help more people, see more of the world, spend more time with people I love and that is what inspires me to do more.

      8. What is the first thing you do in the morning?

      Truthfully look at my phone (sadly) then I take my dogs outside and water and talk to all my plants on my patio lol

      9. What is your ‘superpower’?

      I would say my superpower is that I have a keen sense to be able to sift through a lot of the bs people say to get to the point of what is really going on with them. I am able to connect and relate to many people from my lifetime of experiences with so many

      10. What are your TOP FIVE apps on your phone? Why?

      Email, facebook, Fitbit, my bank app, candy crush lol. I have lots more but these are the ones I access most often

      11. What songs are on your FIRE UP playlist?

      Anything by Bruno Mars, Pitbull, or Pink

       

      BONUS:

      What is your ONE WORD for this year?

      Last year it was Home, This year it is EXPLORE! I want to get out and travel and see MORE!

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      1 hr 5 min
    • Chat with Morgan Ingram
      It’s time to Fire Up! with Morgan Ingram…

      Morgan J. Ingram is a savvy, sales development rep at Terminus, where he helps companies to put their message in front of the right decision-makers through account-based marketing. He is also a motivational speaker and helps people remove their negative thoughts to unlock their inner potential and stresses the importance of not making excuses in their lives.

      Morgan is knowledgeable in sales, public speaking, marketing/social media marketing, branding, and networking and relationship building.

      When he’s not working away, Morgan loves watching sports, playing video games, watching movies and reading a massive amount of books (on task to read 300 this year).

       

      Here’s Morgan Ingram…
      Q1: What was it that gave you the ‘push’ to begin living your dream?

      The push that led me to begin living my dream was just taking action and saying I can do it. I am not a full-time speaker yet, however, I believe with a constant effort towards that goal I can make it happen.

      Q2: What does success look and feel like TO YOU?

      Success is basically happiness to me. It amounts to me loving what I do and loving what I am a part of.

      Q3: Share the THREE WORDS that describe you BEST!
      DETERMINED. HONEST. GENUINE.
      Q4: What was your biggest mistake? How did you learn from it?

      Biggest mistake was not believing in my inner potential sooner. I did not know I could connect with so many powerful minds and they actually care about I have to say. I learned from it by now never doubting myself and always pushing forward.

      Q5: What is one thing people would be surprised to know about you?

      I played professional video games in high school and middle school. I spent about 10 hours a day playing games it was kind of bad. In addition, I also watch pro video gamers and I get more excited about that than sports sometimes.

      Q6: If you could go back 10 years and share the knowledge you have now – what would you tell yourself?

      I would have told myself to focus on what I need to get done instead of what other people are thinking. I think I get caught up in other peoples situations and not focus on my own growth. I love helping people but sometimes it can be TOO much help.

      Q7: What inspires you to keep moving forward – even in moments of fear and doubt?

      I think seeing the big picture is the biggest thing that inspires me to move forward. Even in the moments of doubt and fear, I get afraid that all my work will not be put into an awarding effort. In addition, prayer and having faith in God’s plan helps me out a lot as well.

      Q8: What is the first thing you do in the morning?

      First thing I do is pray. The biggest change in my life is when I started praying more.

      Q9: What is your ‘superpower’?

      My superpower is determination. I am super determined to finish a task once my mind has been set on it.

      Q10: What are your TOP FIVE apps on your phone? Why?

      The top five apps are Facebook, Gmail, Instagram, Bible, and Pomodoro. Facebook because I have to know what is going in the world and I have the most traction on that social medium. Gmail so that I can answer emails at a faster rate and so that I am informed on what is going on. Instagram because that’s where all my motivational post go and that is where I can find motivation. Bible this one is important because it has my daily verses on there that I can refer to. Pomodoro helps me keep my time management together so that I am prepared to execute correctly.

      Q11: What songs are on your FIRE UP playlist?

      Say I Won’t- Lecrae

      Energy- Drake
      Space Jam- Lil Wayne and Audio Push
      Muse- Uprising
      Nuthin- Lecrae
      Where you at?- Future and Drake
      Jumpman- Drake
      Can’t Tell Me Nothing- Kanye West
      Lights- Bassnectar
      Victory Road- Psychic Type
      Witching Hour- Autolaser
      Promises- Nero

      BONUS ROUND QUESTIONS:
      What is your ONE WORD for this year?

      FOCUS.

      Anything else you would like to share with the Fire Up! Community?

      Stay focused and crush goals!

      Brief Bio:

      I’m a sales development representative at Terminus, where I help companies to put their message in front of the right decision-makers through account-based marketing. I also do motivational speaking by helping people remove their negative thoughts to unlock their inner potential and stress the importance of not making excuses in your life.

      I’m knowledgeable in sales, public speaking, marketing/social media marketing, branding, and networking and relationship building.

      When I’m not working away, I love watching sports, playing video games, watching movies and reading a massive amount of books (on task to read 300 this year).

      If you’re interested in grabbing coffee, or connecting with me, please send an email my way. Email- [email protected]

      | morganjingram.com | Twitter | Facebook | LinkedIn | Instagram | Google+ |

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      57 min

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