First Action Best Action

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There are people in our lives who want us to succeed.

They want us to thrive and be super happy!

They might even be our biggest cheerleaders.

They want your life to change for the better…with one important caveat…they want you to change and grow as long as they don't also have to change.

This isn't because the people in our lives are mean or selfish. Instead, there are spoken and unspoken expectations informing all of our relationships that dictate how we act, what we say, and how we support each other.

When we make changes in our lives, they impact all our relationships. This can create friction and pushback from even our biggest supporters.

Here is how I navigate this sort of transition and how I get the support I need as I grow and change.

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One of my clients recently said to me, "Gene, I want to be like you. I never ever want to be hijacked by my emotions again." I was flattered by the sentiment, but I told her I was unwilling to teach her my strategy because what she was asking wasn't possible.

It wasn't impossible because I didn't think she could learn, or that it was a heavily guarded productivity secret.

Instead, I explained that I get emotionally hijacked all the time. The real skill that I have developed is being able to get back on track quickly when it happens.

It wasn't always this way. I would regularly swing being focused and productive to falling down YouTube rabbit holes. To my shock I'd realise an hour had passed and I hadn't completed a single productive task.

This is a simple tool I use daily to help to get out of an emotional hijack so that every day is more productive.

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I had reached breaking point. I was so tired of being productive in short bursts, only to fall right back into my old patterns of procrastination and self-sabotage.

As I was evaluating my habits and trying to get to the bottom of my stubborn resistance, I came to an amazing discovery: I wasn't procrastinating over everything.

I was procrastinating over the most important tasks. As I dug deeper I realized the reason I was putting off my most important tasks is because subconsciously I was worried they wouldn't work out. As a way of keeping myself "safe" I just wouldn't start the task. If I never started it, then I could never be in danger of failing.

In the cold light of day it's pretty obvious that this is not a winning strategy, but it made sense on a subconscious level. That's when I created a short process to use at the beginning of each day to clear any resistance.

It changed everything!

Not only did I cure my procrastination, but I started being more successful at everything I was doing. This is the process I started using.

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About 10 years ago I was caught in a constant cycle of procrastination, feeling frustrated with my procrastination, trying some new ways of managing my tasks, having those tools work for a while…until they stopped, which was then followed by yet more procrastination and frustration…and repeat.

Just because you know what to do, how to do it, and why doing it is important, does not mean that you will actually do the most valuable tasks on your to-do list.

Willpower will work, but only for a short period of time.

Here is my origin story of how I broke through this frustrating cycle of procrastination AND how you can do the same.

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First episode drops Aug 30, 2021