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With changing sexual mores, the resulting potential harm, and increased confusion about morality, it is crucial that families rediscover their roles in promoting sexual morality for their children. Learn a five-part recipe showing how to create standards and effectively teach about moral behavior, self-respect, and impulse control.

New research findings are teaching us about the marvellous workings of the brain. Combined with research showing the effects of electronics on brain growth, we now can see the potential risks and opportunities for our children more clearly. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby describes the potential harm of hyperstimulation, explains how this affects brain growth, and also provides suggestions for how parents can promote healthy mental growth for their children.

Our forebears gave greater emphasis to the quality of language we use because language was believed to reflect on the character of the person and the quality of their ideas. If poor language was used, this likely meant there were fewer ideas that made hearts soar. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby gives suggestions about how we can learn from the past and come up with more ideas related to love, forgiveness, patience, and hopefulness.

Most great men have a strong sense of duty, honor, and responsibility, but many mentors and parents might not know how to ensure boys learn these qualities. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how to help a boy become someone filled with these qualities and one who acts when it's time. He describes induction communication, showing how to capture boys’ feelings, and explains a mentoring relationship along with boundaries and important lessons.

In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how, when some people attempt to lead, they aren’t successful because they fail to understand what it is that motivates people to engage and follow. Trust motivates people’s commitment, and learning the sources of trust and building it is the beginning of a leader’s ability to take people to a place they’ve never been.

There is not enough love in the world, so it is a great blessing to know how to find and feel more of it. In this episode, Dr Scoresby describes love as a healer, a behavior modifier, an antidote to condemnation and criticism, and the path to forgiveness. He describes intimacy, passion, and commitment as the three parts of love and explains how someone can create more love for themselves using these three elements as a guide.

In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how those in past generations tended to be self-reliant and fixed things on their own. They whistled in the dark to remove fear and create more confidence. This confidence and resilience helped them be more cautious and avoid going on wild goose chases—wisdom we could use more of.

In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how learning how to know what you know to be true requires a cognitive style that permits people to establish anchors and moorings. Without these conditions, some people resort to instant certainty, which makes them rigid or dogmatic. Others feel like they can’t be certain about much of anything. Learning to use your own body and mind as sources of information is one way to begin forming the type of anchors and moorings that will let you be certain—with flexibility.

Often the headlong emphasis on achievement creates serious problems for boys and eventually for men who come to believe their performance is the only measure of themselves. This episode details the parts of great achievement that include humility and other character qualities and then describes how to link those characteristics and relationship skills to a boy’s work.

Instead of allowing social forces to define and direct what girls should become, Dr. Scoresby suggests the girl herself and her family should be in charge. When this is the case, girls can more easily find the golden balance between strong individuality and success in relationships with others. They can also find more peace of mind and less anxiety and stress.