First Answers

This series is designed to describe what great leaders do. In this episode, Dr. Scoresby identifies seven myths many people believe about leaders and leadership, including the idea that women don’t have what it takes. Believing in any of these myths limits the abilities of current leaders and keeps people from even wanting to be leaders in the first place.

Mentors and teachers can help good boys become great men by helping them go through a process of taking charge of their own lives. Dr. Scoresby identifies ten steps that enable boys to progress toward a mature life of being a man who believes that the origin of his thoughts, feelings, and actions lie within rather than being unduly influenced by what is external.

Understanding principles of human development provides parents with a growth mindset that lets them know when to act and when to be patient. Dr. Scoresby explains how understanding mental, social, emotional, physical, and moral development can give parents many strategies to enhance the lives of their children.

Dr. Scoresby talks about potential problems parents may face if they are unaware of the way children grow. He teaches how parents can be more observant, more accurate in their understanding, and better able to enjoy their children and confidently provide help.

In this episode, Dr. Scoresby talks about how the internet, social divisions, and the age of deception are game changers for our children. He then explains how providing better help for them begins with understanding basic principles of human development.

This episode is the second in a two-part series on conscience. What parents can do to nurture a healthy conscience for their children depends on how well they adapt to the emotional style of their children. Dr. Scoresby describes four different styles in order to help parents apply the PIDA teaching approach. Along with tying children’s feelings to whether they do what is right or wrong—that is, help or harm someone—parents can teach their children to pay attention, interpret, discover, and find assurance from their conscience.

The idea of conscience is resurging nowadays because there has been a rapid increase in problems with impulse control, like addictions. When parents promote a healthy conscience, they are making their children less vulnerable to these types of problems. Dr. Scoresby presents several methods that help parents nurture their child’s inner voice so children recognize it, consult it, and use it to avoid harming themselves or others.

Being able to depend on someone who is reliable is the precursor for learning to be dependable. A boy can depend on a mentor for love, support, example, guidance, and correction. He can also learn to be dependable when asked to carry out a course of action which results from an assignment or request of another. Dr. Scoresby explains the process of teaching dependability so mentors can promote this positive virtue.

Helping or influencing a boy depends on the creation of an emotional tie between the boy and those who guide him. It is created when the mentor communicates a desire to understand the boy in a unique way. This may include understanding his social and psychological stage or his type of intelligence. Using these tools will help motivate the boy to participate in this important emotional tie.

When we learn about applying moral concepts and principles, it becomes clear that family relationships are an excellent environment in which to teach about and apply them. This is how and why strong families are the foundation of a society. Dr. Scoresby explains how you can organize your family to ensure that the lessons your children learn within the family are displayed by them outside the family. This can really strengthen your parenting.