Fix Your Chit

Hey, Turtle Doves, fly through the season stress-free with these dozen dandy tips.

You always have a gift to bring, and there's so much more getting in the giving.

Your childlike optimism never left, you just made it an outsider. We'll help you let it back in.

Emma Mcilroy TED talk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CFgqFbbEYcU

David Feldshuh lecture at Cornell

https://www.cornell.edu/video/training-creativity-and-the-imagination

Medium article on generating ideas

https://medium.com/an-idea-for-you/9-habits-that-make-it-easy-to-come-up-with-great-ideas-466adbd98694

"Between the idea…And the reality…Between the motion…And the act…Falls the Shadow." - T. S. Eliot

"A hunch is creativity trying to tell us something." - Frank Capra

Nature's first green is gold,

Her hardest hue to hold.

Her early leaf's a flower;

But only so an hour.

Then leaf subsides to leaf.

So Eden sank to grief,

So dawn goes down to day.

Nothing gold can stay.

- Robert Frost

One emotion at a time, you can tell negativity, "Get ta steppin'."

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

- Hamlet

Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. - Science of Choice

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-choice/201712/choose-your-feelings

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Rumi

The life-improving promises of gratitude are staggering. Learn how, cuz wow.

Starting your New Year's Resolution in January? That's so 46 BC. Start early. Revise often. And tell Caesar to suck it.

History of New Year's Resolutions

https://www.history.com/news/the-history-of-new-years-resolutions

Our list to break the habit of breaking your resolutions:

1.) Do it your way…revising a thousands-year-old tradition might make you feel pretty powerful 2.) Do it early…getting a head start may give you some juice 3.) Expect success - see it to believe it, embody it 4.) Expect it to suck…and be cool with that…take pride in the "ugly" 5.) Celebrate small wins…to keep you motivated for the big win 6.) Don't make the big win too big...take it in chunks.

10 Good Reasons Not To Trust Your Brain

https://www.forbes.com/sites/work-in-progress/2012/10/23/10-good-reasons-not-to-trust-your-brain/#2d41d311241e

Resolution Ideas

https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/resolution-ideas

Jim Carrey commencement speech

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V80-gPkpH6M

Mel Robbins TED Talk

https://www.ted.com/talks/mel_robbins_how_to_stop_screwing_yourself_over?language=en

The FYC Jack-o'-lantern! By Dave Diers (Lisa's husband.)

It's time to drop what's dragging you down. Release your grip on regret!

Eckhart Tolle

"Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness & all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past & not enough presence. "

Kathryn Schulz – Don't Regret Regret/TED

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ka8L1YMR88U

Nancy Collier – Author of The Power of Off & Inviting a Monkey To Tea

Why Regret Is a Waste of Time. There's no such thing as a wrong choice.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/201708/why-regret-is-waste-time

Slow your roll. Soften your rigid. Seek your inner Axl Rose. All we need is just a little patience.

Gary V. article

https://medium.com/@garyvee/21-times-patience-was-this-answer-4b31bace10c5

Sciencey jazz about patience

https://www.inc.com/peter-economy/these-7-surprising-facts-about-patience-will-change-everything-about-how-you-live-your-life.html

Quotes about patience

https://www.inc.com/peter-economy/17-quotes-about-remarkable-power-of-patience.html

We time is better after me time, so steal yourself away or be robbed of your greatness.

"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you." ~@ANNELAMOTT

"When you take care of yourself first, you show up as a healthy, grounded person in life," says Bob Rosen, author of Grounded: How Leaders Stay Rooted in an Uncertain World. Oriented around survival, it's in our nature to take care of our own needs first. The instinct eventually got a bad rap, however, and became the source of negative emotions like fear and guilt. If you can't take care of yourself, then you can't care for others. Being selfish is critical. As we evolved, we developed higher-order needs, such as becoming community-centered. Our theory of human development is based on a model that you're either selfish or you're community-oriented. The truth is that you need to be both. It's not an either-or."

4 Reasons Why Being Selfish Is Good for You https://www.fastcompany.com/3032673/4-reasons-why-being-selfish-is-good-for-you

11 Weird Signs You Need More Alone Time https://www.bustle.com/articles/201000-11-weird-signs-you-need-more-alone-time

7 Signs Your Partner's Need For Alone Time Is OK Vs. A Threat To Your Relationship https://www.bustle.com/p/7-signs-your-partners-need-for-alone-time-is-ok-vs-a-threat-to-your-relationship-15562727

7 Science-Backed Reasons You Should Spend More Time Alone https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2017/08/05/7-science-backed-reasons-you-should-spend-more-time-alone/#8e268a01b7ee

"Refueling as a mother almost always requires leaving your children. this urge shouldn't be fought. It should be indulged." https://www.scarymommy.com/motherhood-mom-on-brink-breaking/ "We seem to have trouble even feeling like we're worthy of being put on our own list of priorities," says Amy Tiemann, author of Mojo Mom: Nurturing Your Self While Raising a Family and founder of Mojomom.com. If you can't do it because you feel like you deserve it, look at it this way: You are a first responder. An emergency can come up at any time, and you should be as well-rested and restored as you'd want your ER doc or EMT to be."

Me Time Ideas https://www.webmd.com/women/guide/womans-guide-to-me-time#1

What to do when you forget you're fierce, Sasha.