Flaws of Attraction

In this episode I bring on founder of the Trauma of Money, Chantel Chapman, to speak on the art of financial literacy and the psychology of money. Our relationships to money are defined by our beliefs and in turn shapes how we navigate the world. We dive into the process of developing a eudaimonia approach to life, how to cultivate healthy practices with your money as well as how to heal both through breath and cold plunges.

Guest:
Chantel Chapman
The Trauma of Money

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Host: Jillian Alexa - @j.t.t.v

Show Notes:

• Chantel's personal journey towards studying and teaching financial literacy
• Being a workaholic, undercharging and overspending
• Noticing addictive patterns
• 5-year research journey on healing from trauma 
• Labelling behaviours as ‘disordered behaviours’
• Hitting rock bottom and up-levelling
• The truth about undercharging: why pricing properly is so important
• The magic of breathing
• Cold water therapy
• Seeing your resilience and strength
• Seeking pleasure over pain 
• Dopamine addiction

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I asked you guys for some anonymous questions and pstt ... get ready for some juicy. In this episode I share the juicy answers to some anonymous questions in an 'Ask me Anything' episode! We chat about my experience at Colorpop Portfolio building weekend (photography) with Marina Williams and Ashley Isenhour in Salt Lake City Utah.  I answer all your questions on my most recent heartbreak, my experience with sex post purity culture, deconstruction and navigating family dynamics - and many more.

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Host: Jillian Alexa - @j.t.t.v

Mentioned in the show:
Cafe Binge
Expanded podcast
Renegade with lauren and jordyn
The conscious cowboys
Sounds like a Cult
Almost 30
Per our last email
Colorpop

SHOW NOTES:

1. My experience with Colorpop
2. Q: Why did me and my boyfriend breakup
3. Q: Do I still believe in God?
4. Q: Was having sex intimidating coming out of Purity Culture?
5. Q: Do you ever think about Teleportation
6. Q: How do you talk to your family about spirituality?
7. Q: Would you ever get into an altercation with someone who didn't have the same morals?
8. Q: What is the worst assumption people make about you?
9. Q: What's something you've deconstructed cognitively that still appears in your body?
10. Q: Have I done drugs?

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In this episode, Lauren DeLeary of Deconstruct Pod & BINESHI music and I discuss Lauren’s experience walking away from a thriving career in the Christian Music industry to pursue her authenticity, reconnect with her ancestors and deconstruct religious doctrine. We talk about reclaiming our voices, how to activate your creativity and how Lauren is reconnecting with her Indigenous heritage and ancestors. 

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Mentioned in the show:
Deconstruct Pod
BINESHI Music

SHOW NOTES:

1. Growing up aboriginal and Christian
2. The tension between those two things
3. When the damage started to become evident
4. Purity ceremonies
5. Being a worship leader
6. Christian music world
7. Charismatic vs conservative churches 
8. I kissed dating goodbye - Joshua Harris
9. Being offered money to save your first kiss 
10. Purity culture
11. When severed spirituality equates to severed creativity
12. Reactivating creativity
13. Falling for the lie of being an empty vessel
14. Being numb to life
15. Waking up on tour to intuition and emotions
16. Leaving an engagement 
17. Rabbit trail of questions: what is sex? Creating deconstruction pod
18. Why does your pastor care about your sexuality?
19. Being an empty vessel
20. The universe wants to work with you 
21. Astrology/deconstruction as an idol
22. How to connect to your ancestors
23. Loving your ancestors is loving you 
24. Decolonizing and indigenizing her life
25. Multiple things can be true at once
26. Losing your identity as an artist
27. Losing relationships due to deconstruction
    
    

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In this episode I chat with Sex Coach & Relationship Coach Meg Cowan on healing from purity culture, growing within partnerships as well as evolving both community and family dynamics. More often than now, transitioning paradigms can result in relational tension. We talk about how to navigate both family units and romantic relationship structures during religious deconstruction. Megan shares her personal story of her journey to becoming a sex coach as well as resources for healing, and how it’s manifested in marriage.

Show Notes:

1. One year since the podcast
2. Would you rather?
3. Growing up on a YWAM base
4. Meg’s relationship with faith, spirituality and religion while growing up
5. Meg’s journey to religious deconstruction
6. Grief while stepping away from a religious community
7. Discovering agency, autonomy and finding yourself
8. Navigating rock bottoms in marriage
9. Unravelling teachings around purity culture as a couple and as an individual
10. Working through purity culture as it manifests within a marriage
11. Women’s sex life’s improved by 25% just by talking about sex
12. Reclaiming your sexual autonomy
13. The length of time it takes to adjust to a new paradigm
14. Working through shame
15. Somatic and embodiment therapy
16. Leaving a faith community and navigating a broken community
17. Relational dysfunction and relational severing
18. Tips for navigating telling your family/partner about your deconstruction
19. Re-meeting our partners
20. When to have conflicting conversations
21. The Shame-free sex course

Discussed in this episode:

1. The Heartbreak Playlist
2. The Shame-Free Sex Course 

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🔥 Bust religious myths and shame

❤️‍🩹Heal from purity culture

💥Find your confidence and freedom


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In this episode Alex Verville (host of the BORNSAVED)  and I share the ways surpressed masculinity show up in evangelical and Christian culture. We talk about its effects in our personal lives as well as how to work-through trauma,  discovering the masucline and the feminine within ourselves, and how Human Design can aid this this discovery.

I also share my life update moving careers and going through the ending of a relationship.

You can find us at:

Alex Verville: @iamalexverville
BORNSAVED: Spotify
Jillian: @j.t.t.v

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In this episode, I talk with Astrologer and friend, Sky Spallone about moving through your Progressed Lunar Return into your Saturn return. We talk about the current Astrological transits and what exactly is happening this Eclipse season. Sky shares how she uses Astrology in her everyday life,  from Manifestation to Surrender.

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instagram.com/skyspallone
northnodewell.com

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In this episode, I talk with Simone Saunders of the Cognitive Corner. We unpack the different types of trauma and how they are determined by the nervous system. She shares tools for
regulation as well as the importance of somatic healing work. We talk about how shame pops up during the work, and how to work with your body.

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instagram.com/thecognitivecorner
www.thecognitivecorner.ca

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In this episode, I bring on a virtual best friend and former YWAMer Elizabeth Wolfe to process our joined experience at Youth With A Mission, Montana. Elizabeth and I met when we were teenagers on Tumblr and quickly got excited about attending an abroad bible school called Youth With A Mission. During this episode, we talk about some of the problematic experiences we went through together, issues with the larger Organized Church, and what we would tell our younger selves. Please note: This episode contains content about spiritual abuse and manipulation. We are also processing a stream of events that happened in 2013, almost 10 years ago. We are grateful to have a place to talk about these experiences and deconstruct them with each other. 

If you are a former YWAMer seeking a safe community, please DM me for access to a community. 

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Embodiment and Spirituality practitioner, Tara Teng, shares an often missed piece of healing from religious trauma and purity culture: the importance of integration. Former Miss Canada, Teng stands at the intersection of sexuality and spirituality and coaches survivors of purity culture back into their bodies. In this episode, we talk about finding a decolonized spirituality, and the importance of somatics and integration practices that actively heal trauma created from purity culture.

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