Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

I posted on FB that I launched my podcast! And I immediately had anxiety. I wondered if so-and-so would hear my stories. I even started to unfriend people. 

But I caught myself doing this unconscious behavior. And when I started to explore this behavior with some introspection, the feeling I had was fear. People were going to hear my truth, my experiences, my true thoughts. They would be learning about my mistakes, my struggles, my mess, my ugly side. And I was terrified! Terrified of criticism, judgment, and rejection. 

I think a lot of us, because of this same fear, create a mask where we hide our true selves from the world. We only show the version of ourselves that other people want us to be or what we think they want us to be. This behavior, however, has consequences. Pretending to be someone else is exhausting and lonely.

Something I am learning to do is to speak my truth. We are nothing if not our truth and speaking our truth is what helps us to liberate ourselves from lies and limiting beliefs. It helps us share who we are with the world. If we want to be truly happy, this is one of the things that we need to do. I’m still learning how to speak my truth. It is hard and uncomfortable at times, but I am practicing it in little ways in my life. And If I can do it, so can you! 

I would love to hear from you! 

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This week I go a little bit deeper into what I mean about parenting authentically.  Since I became a mom in the U.S. I  emulated everything about U.S. moms. I tried to do similar things as them such as playdates, classes, trips to different places, and reading books with my children. These experiences were wonderful, but somehow along this parenting journey, I found it all exhausting! There was so much to learn and it felt like I would never be good enough as a parent. 

Recently, I realized that in addition to being exhausted, I had also failed to incorporate anything from Kyrgyzstan and my upbringing into my parenting. I had a deep belief that anything that I could offer from my childhood would not be as good. Was it true that the U.S. has something better to offer rather than what I bring to the parenting table? When I really challenged myself to explore my beliefs, I really surprised myself. Challenging those beliefs have helped me to parent authentically, and I look forward to how this episode resonates with you. 

I would love to hear from you! 

You can find me on IG @nurzhansterbenz

Join the free Facebook Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Please share this podcast with a friend!

If you are a foreign born mama and have an inspiring story to share that can help other foreign born moms in their struggles, DM me on Facebook to set up a call! 

Do you know how to prioritize yourself? Was taking time for yourself modeled to you in childhood?

For a long time, I thought that serving and prioritizing others’ needs made me more valuable and lovable and a better mom. But this ultimately led me to feeling resentful, exhausted, unappreciated and unhappy. This week, I share my story about how I had to learn to prioritize myself in order to be a better mom and how I had to overcome certain beliefs and patterns. This is possibly the most important thing that I have learned! It’s also a lesson that I want to teach to my children. 

I would love to hear from you! 

You can find me on IG @nurzhansterbenz

Join the free Facebook Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Please share this podcast with a friend!

If you are a foreign born mama and have an inspiring story to share that can help other foreign born moms in their struggles, DM me on Facebook to set up a call! 

This episode, I talk about the word “foreign” or being foreign, how it can make us feel, how we might have attached certain meaning to it, and how it can also be used as a powerful tool to guide us into who we are if we shift our perspective about it. I also talk about how “foreign” ended up being part of the title of this podcast! 

I share my own story about how I had to shift my own perspective about the word “foreign” and how it helped me feel better about who I am and how I show up with my family and in my community. 

I hope this episode gives you a new perspective and helps you to better honor who you are. 

I would love to hear from you! 

You can find me on IG @nurzhansterbenz

Join the free Facebook Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Please share this podcast with a friend!

If you are a foreign born mama and have an inspiring story to share that can help other foreign born moms in their struggles, DM me on Facebook to set up a call! 

This week, I share more about my awakening story, how it happened, how it changed my life, and why I believe we need to awaken as foreign born moms! As a new mom, I had no idea what postpartum depression was, let alone that I had it. All I knew was that I was struggling. I was struggling with exhaustion, fatigue, and anger. I was just surviving. 

My awakening moment was a painful one, but one that was necessary. I was able to wake up from who I had become and the patterns I was passing down to my children.

I share more about what being awakened means and how I slowly started to reclaim myself. I also share more about why becoming awakened is so important for foreign born moms. 

I am so excited for you to create a life that you are excited to wake up to! Let’s keep growing. Let’s keep evolving. Let’s keep becoming more awakened. 

I would love to hear from you! 

You can find me on IG @nurzhansterbenz

Join the free Facebook Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Please share this podcast with a friend!

If you are a foreign born mama and have an inspiring story to share that can help other foreign born moms in their struggles, DM me on Facebook to set up a call!

In this episode, we will learn about:

- What is inter-generational trauma
- How intergenerational trauma affects us as adults and moms
- what is inter-generational patterns
- Did you know that trauma can be passed like genes?
- how intergenerational trauma feels like and examples from Nurzhan's life
- how intergenerational trauma can help us to forgive abusers and our parents
- how to heal family trauma line and disrupt old patterns
- power of choice and how much power we have as moms to bring changes and heal our family lines

I would love to hear from you!

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Lets transform your your childhood trauma story and kick start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Eager to know and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

In this episode, I will share:

- what is childhood trauma
- the signs that you have an unhealed childhood trauma
- symptoms and effects of childhood trauma
- triggers of childhood trauma and how it shows up in our lives now that we are adults
-how childhood trauma altered your part of the brain
- Can childhood trauma be healed?
- Nurzhan's own struggles in not knowing the effects of childhood trauma in her life

If this episode triggers you and you need immediate support please call your mental health team or primary doctor, or call 911 if it is urgent.

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of top 6 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on  Instagram and facebook at  IG @nurzhansterbenz    Foreign-Born Mama for daily inspirations for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others  who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Lets transform your your childhood trauma story and kick start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Eager to know and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

Welcome to the Foreign-Born Mama podcast! 

As foreign-born moms, we might be misunderstood and underrepresented group in the countries we now call home. We might be perceived as too much, too emotional, too needy by our family members or local friends. We might be struggling with anxiety, anger, indecision and depression thinking that there is something wrong with us and without knowing that we are carrying unresolved childhood traumas. We might be feeling powerless, alone and lost in our motherhood journey, because our immigrant stories  are not reflected in our adopted cultures to guide us and we have limited access to communities where we can feel that we belong. 
This podcast aims to bring the stories of foreign-born moms (including my own) and ignite meaningful conversations with thought leaders to discuss why we may be struggling and what we can do to seek change. 
My mission is to help us to evolve into more conscious moms by increasing our self-awareness, shifting our mindsets, shedding old patterns and dismantling limiting beliefs that may be holding us back from living fully and parenting authentically. 

if you wish to connect further, please join our conversations in our free Foreign-born Mama Facebook community.  I hope to see you there!