Foreign-Born Mama | Trauma Healing, Transforming Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

On this episode, I talk about:

- Signs of victim mentality
- the root cause of victim mentality
- difference between victimhood mentality vs survivor mentality
- why it is hard to break out of victimhood mentality and hidden benefits
- examples of how victimhood mindset affect us in our parenting and marriage
- how we may fall into trauma victim mentality
- patriarchy, women and victimhood
- tools to get out of victim mentality

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Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

This is our first story feature with a foreign-born mama! Aisulu and I talked about motherhood in the US, how we want to be a different parent, challenges of mothering in the US and how we are navigating past and present. Aisulu brought up our usual behaviors and thinking through her story and how it can keep us stuck or feel powerless.

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

I was invited to be a guest on a podcast "Self-care for Childhood Trauma Survivors" with Erin Hearts. We talked about:

- How trauma affects us as moms and how it is different for immigrant moms
- We shared self-care tools and how it is important for keeping us regulated and manage our reactions

Please enjoy this interview and let us know if anything resonated. 

Erin Hearts podcast, Self Care for Trauma Survivors, please listen in:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839

On this episode, I talk about:

- Invisible standards we have on physical beauty and what makes us attractive and desire-able
- cultural and societal conditioning of women and standards
- how these standards have traumatized and still traumatizing women
- how these standards makes us create internal belief that we are "not pretty enough" or "good enough", or "loveable enough"
- how we changes our true nature to fit in to these standards and loose our sense of authenticity and who we are
- how these standards are perpetuated not only through social media, movies, and by men, but also by women themselves
- I discuss the beauty standards in Kyrgyzstan and the USA
- I offer a different perspective and belief shift on beauty standards so we can feel more empowered.

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

On this episode, I share about:

- story of how Oprah Winfrey opened a new school and how girls were not thriving despite how an amazing environment she created for them to thrive
- I discuss how childhood trauma was affecting these girls in learning and reaching their potential
- I discuss similarities I see between these girls' journey and our journey as foreign-born moms with childhood trauma
- one powerful tool to shift our perspective and access self-compassion toward ourselves and toward others in overcoming judgment, self-criticism.
-power of self-compassion in our healing journey
- how trauma can hold us back from living fully until we create space to heal and acknowledge them.

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

On  this epidose, I talk about how we, as women and moms, give away our power to men , particularly to our husbands to make this day special for us, to make us feel special. I offer a different perspective and discuss the potential old patterns and beliefs that may be guiding our feelings and emotions on this day. I also discuss the significance of March 8th and how it affected us and how we can honor those women who fought for our privileges that we have right now. Enjoy the episode!

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

On this episode, I talked about:

- Turning 40 years old and how it can make us feels as women
- Share my decision to celebrate my birthday big time and feeling guilt
-  Unconscious beliefs and thoughts in my head
- where does this guilt come from and how is it affecting us?
- Patriarchy and women's subjugation and guilt
- Difference between guilt and shame
- how guilt stops us from living truly and being ourselves
- how guilt affects our children and how we can cope with guilt
- Breaking intergenerational traumas and guilt trips in our families and lives

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

In this episode, I invite you to slow down and connect with natural cycles of winter season. The episode goes then to explain how trauma affected our brain size and our nervous system. As childhood trauma survivors, we need to understand the difference between sympathetic and parasympathetic systems of our brains, so we can begin noticing where we usually habitually live. I also explain  how chronic high alert mode can deteriorate our health and lead to chronic health conditions. Understanding our nervous system and finding ways to calm it, will help us to feel better and thrive as moms. But most of all, it will help us to cultivate some self-love and self-compassion that we so much deserve in motherhood phase of our lives.

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

In this episode, Erin and I talked about:

-  Sexual childhood trauma and how it is an effect of emotional neglect at home
- Narcissistic partners and why we attract emotionally unavailable partners in life
- Intergenerational patterns and parents' traumas
- How motherhood can invite us to awaken from our unconscious patterns
- Single parenthood and challenges of being a mom and healing our childhood traumas
-  Self-love deficit and how we try to fill it with external things and people
- How self-care for childhood trauma survivors is different and why
- Tools and things to consider to add to your self-care toolkit
- When Erin wishes most for her son and where she is at with her healing.

Erin Hearts
https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/?hl=en
https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1597600839

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan

In this episode, I talk about:

- the significance of New Years Eve in other countries
- New Years Eve as a time to do a reset and set some goals and intentions
- Difference between how goal and intention settings are done in the US vs Kyrgyzstani culture
- How to find balance between the different ways of two cultures
- What we need to be aware of as a childhood trauma survivor in setting new goals
- What  we parts of ourselves do we need to include in goal setting and why we need to recognize  how trauma affects us?
-Why do we need more space and time to reflect?
- My suggestions of what I am doing this year to navigate this process
- Why do we need to make goals more nurturing of ourselves and inclusive of our childhood traumas?

I would love to hear from you!

Download my FREE LIST of the top 7 books for healing trauma and self-growth.

Follow us on Instagram and Facebook for daily inspiration for your mental health and healing.

Join our PRIVATE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY to carry on the conversation and connect with others who want to heal their childhood traumas and thrive as foreign-born moms. Foreign Born Mama Community Group 

Let's transform your childhood trauma story and kick-start your journey into self-healing and self-growth, so you can finally be your authentic self, be happy, and thrive in the new country you now call home. 

Learning to heal and grow alongside you,

Nurzhan