Free To Be Me

This week, I'm going to be continuing to share my story. I wanted to talk about letting go of the past and looking forward to the future. Letting go of the past to move on after narcissistic abuse is often easier, said than done.

I'm pretty sure that those of you listening will know how it feels to be fearful of another person or not knowing how you can get out of a particular situation, feelings of being stuck and you can't see a way out of it. But we can be free to be ourselves, free to be me.

Here are the highlights:

(01:46) What are we afraid of?

(04:31) Leaving felt too hard to do

(13:15) We store trauma in our bodies

(15:52) We can find freedom

(16:22) We need to have compassion for ourselves

(18:36) The poem ‘She Let Go’ by Rev. Safire Rose

Connect with Marcia:

Website: https://lifeinspiredwellness.com/

Email: [email protected] 

LinkedIn: @marciahylton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcia.hylton.5/

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This week,  I want to share with you five ways to ensure loneliness after narcissistic abuse doesn't turn into depression. This is something that can occur when you have been isolated from your family and friends as part of the narcissistic abuse. I know that everyone feels lonely from time to time and that is a normal part of the human experience but for some of us who have been through narcissistic abuse, we can be more vulnerable to slipping from loneliness into depression.

Here are the highlights:

(01:58) Boost your social support

(02:39) Develop a mindfulness practice

(03:59) Have self-compassion

(05:05) Use emotional reappraisal to boost your self-esteem

(08:06) The recap

Connect with Marcia:

Website: https://lifeinspiredwellness.com/

Email: [email protected] 

LinkedIn: @marciahylton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcia.hylton.5/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Lifeinspiredwellness

This week, I am joined by a very special guest Michael Mahy. He is a life coach specialising in supporting female business leaders who experience overwhelm to get their mojo back. We will be discussing his background in scuba diving, how he became a life coach and how his HABITS system can help those who are struggling. 

Here are the highlights:

(02:29) I look for adventure in everything

(06:25) Michael’s journey to becoming a life coach

(11:14) Why he wanted to work with women

(15:26) Michael’s HABITS system

(21:00) Building client’s confidence

(32:19) Words of encouragement would be “you are worthy”

Connect with Marcia:

Website: https://lifeinspiredwellness.com/

Email: [email protected] 

LinkedIn: @marciahylton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcia.hylton.5/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Lifeinspiredwellness

About Michael:

I have been a professional diver for over 25 years. As an instructor, I have helped hundreds overcome their fears of physical harm, embarrassment and failure.

Witnessing my students going through transformations from fear to joy, doubt to success, tension to relief, feeling trapped to the freedom that comes from a new perspective has driven me through the quagmire of fear, doubt and anxiety and to embrace life and adventure.

I moved to the UK from the Caribbean in 2010 and retrained from recreational dive instructor to industrial commercial diver - ship salvage, underwater maintenance and in-shore/off-shore operations. I went through a period of feeling disconnected and adrift from the deeply emotional human connection that I experienced whilst engaging in dive instruction. Through my discovery of the concepts of life coaching I have reconnected and developed relationships that support individuals in discovering what holds them back from living the life that they desire but they may not think they can achieve.

I have two sons and live on the outskirts of London, in Teddington, with my wife and youngest boy. 

Connect with Michael:

Website: https://www.michaelmahy.co.uk/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-mahy/\

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/michaelmahylifecoach/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelmahylifecoach/

Welcome to Season Two of the Free to Be Me Podcast. This week, I am going to be sharing a little bit about myself because I didn’t really do this in Season One. I’d like to share where I’ve been, where I am now and where I am going. I know that when women transform the whole of creation benefits, and when we share our story there is healing and power in the whole process.

Here are the highlights:

(01:27) The result of having two romantic narcissistic relationships

(04:01) We don’t have to submit to abuse

(05:42) You do have the power within you to choose

(08:02) You don’t have to do this on your own

(09:08) I recognise that I am enough just as I am

Connect with Marcia:

Website: https://lifeinspiredwellness.com/

Email: [email protected] 

LinkedIn: @marciahylton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcia.hylton.5/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Lifeinspiredwellness

In this episode I will speak about revenge: it seems to be part of human nature to want revenge because we like the idea of justice. 

We have suffered at the hands of a cruel narcissist and been treated badly. However, revenge is not actually strength, and this kind approach fails for various reasons. 

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{1:10} Revenge distracts you from recovery

{2:08} Revenge can create challenges for you

{5:02} Declutter your life

{5:59} Take your life to the next level

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain

In this episode, Marcia chats to Sheba Sharna about how she has been able to get through her narcissistic relationship and become a successful business woman.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{0:16} Introduction to Sheba

{2:25} Sheba’s story

{5:44} How did she end the relationship

{13:34} The importance of reaching out support and self-study

{19:16} Doing business and helping people

{25:23} How networks can help you to get through your relationship

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain

In this episode Marcia chats with Leon Walcott about his story of narcissistic abuse from his female partner. 

This podcast is aimed at women however, I believe it’s interesting for us to see the male perspective and how narcissism can affect both men and women.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{1:21} Introduction to Leon

{2:42} Leon’s story

{6:54} Narcissistic Mirroring

{13:35} Narcissistic smear campaigns

{18:17} Leaving the relationship

{24:15} Advice for men in narcissistic relationships

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain

In this episode Marcia is joined by Stephen Derrick, accredited systemic & family psychotherapist and clinical supervisor.

In his work Stephen noticed corrective scripts and how they kept replaying for some of his clients even though they knew what the outcome would be.

This got Stephen interested in how people get caught up in behaviour systems.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{0:59} How Stephen got started as a therapist

{4:30} The 9 symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder

{6:49} Narcissism and the codependent person

{13:16} Can relationships with narcissists ever work?

{19:37} Types of people narcissists target

{22:54} Questions to ask to discover if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist

{35:56} How narcissism is diagnosed

{38:21} How to protect yourself

{44:00} Incidence of narcissism

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain

In this episode we're going to be talking about relationships surrounding parenthood. We are also going to talk with Catia Pontes-Kicks . She will enlighten us with her story, her relationship with her mum, what she’s learnt and how she’s survived through all the pain in her life.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{1:05} Introducing Massey Hilton

{4:15} The toxic relationship with her mum

{11:39} The point where she knew that something was not right

{23:32} How she managed to go through all the pain and survive

{30:38} The importance of being aware of what you’ve been through

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain

In this episode we will talk about the narcissistic cycle of abuse called discard, or disengagement. Anyone can experience this bad feeling or trauma. It can leave you feeling lost and sometimes even physically ill.

I will try to give you some tips. And also we're going to be focusing on how we can help ourselves feel better after a discard or disengagement.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{00:39} Definition of discard or disengagement 

{2:16} First strategy: Write about your breakup

{4:31} Second strategy: Take care of your physical health

{5:02} Third strategy: Be active 

{6:20} Fourth strategy: Remember the good things in your life

{7:15} Fifth strategy: Do the things that you love

{7:36} Sixth strategy: Limit the time that you are thinking about your ex

{9:43} Seventh strategy: Be kind towards others

You can connect with me at [email protected]

Download my ebook here https://www.subscribepage.com/breakthecycleofpain