Friendships Unplugged

In this episode, host Iris and guest Silvia discuss how they met at work via a mutual friend, bonding over shared interests (cars, dogs, living abroad, building houses) and initially “checking each other out” before connecting more deeply. They contrast superficial socializing with deeper connection, noting extrovert/introvert energy differences. Silvia describes maintaining about 10 long-term close friendships even with infrequent contact, and explains how new friendships formed through shared passions like racing, strengthened by quiet settings and mutual vulnerability (including discussing burnout) that can also improve workplace team dynamics. They emphasize balanced give-and-take, fun alongside support, boundaries with people who refuse accountability, the harms of jealousy and narcissism, and practical ways to make friends, including boldly introducing yourself and remembering most awkward moments are quickly forgotten and what really counts at the end of the days.

On this episode, host Iris interviews Jess, a listener who responded to a social media call for people who struggle with loneliness. Jess describes how ending a 14-year friendship left her spiraling, lonely, and without her “person,” though loneliness has been intermittent throughout her life. She says she is generally liked and can easily socialize, but connections rarely deepen beyond acquaintances, and she feels forgettable despite strong values, directness, and political passion. They discuss the difference between meeting people and maintaining friendships, the role of matching values, intentional effort, and vulnerability, including not turning down invitations and directly asking to pursue friendship. Jess recounts the lack of closure when her former best friend unfriended her and avoided conflict, and she reflects on choosing peace while still craving more human connection.

Iris  interviews her friend Rogier, who flew from the Netherlands to Switzerland especially to record the podcast episode. They recount meeting as colleagues at a technology company and becoming friends after Iris drove to Austria to meet Rogier’s wife and newborn, leading to a tradition of family visits. Rogier values friendships that bring energy, growth, new perspectives, and depth beyond superficial conversation, and says friendships often fade when there isn’t enough shared direction. They discuss trust-building, loneliness arising from busyness and fear of vulnerability, and the meaninglessness of lacking connection, with examples from childhood social openness and Rogier’s Kilimanjaro trip. Rogier advises finding people through activities and sustaining bonds through intentional effort and small gestures, while balancing family and friendships.

In this episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' Fiona and Iris explore the dynamics of adult friendships, starting with their story of meeting as colleagues in Switzerland. Despite initial disagreements and personality differences, their mutual respect and dedication to their work fostered a lasting friendship. The conversation touches on the challenges and rewards of maintaining meaningful relationships, especially during times of personal growth and hardship. Fiona recounts their shared experiences, such as bonding over common interests and supporting each other during COVID-19 isolation. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and intentionality in building deep connections. Fiona also shares practical advice for those struggling with loneliness, emphasizing the power of reaching out to others and the significance of small gestures like hugs. The episode highlights the value of diverse friendships across gender and cultural lines in enhancing understanding and support systems.

In this lively episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' the host welcomes Manu, one of her oldest and closest friends, to delve into their 26-year-long friendship. They recount hilarious and heartwarming memories, like meeting on a train, stealing a Christmas tree for a party, and facing life’s ups and downs together. Manu shares her perspective on what makes a friendship last, emphasizing mutual effort, kindness, and listening to your gut. The host and Manu discuss how they've learned from each other over the years—like setting boundaries and embracing directness—and offer advice for those feeling lonely or looking to deepen their connections. With stories that range from the mundane to the outrageous, this episode is a testament to the joy and value of true friendship.

In this episode of Friendships Unplugged, Iris and Neil dive deep into what friendship really means for them in todays world.

Over laughter and honest reflection, they unpack stories from their own decade-long friendship — from the moments that tested them to the ones that brought them closer. Together, they explore why genuine connection takes intention, how differences can strengthen bonds, and why social media often leaves us feeling more isolated than inspired.

They also tackle big questions about empathy, political divides, and what it really takes to bridge them. Neil shares down-to-earth tips for finding your tribe — joining groups, taking small risks, and letting go of the pressure to “have it all figured out.”

The episode ends on a heartfelt note: a reminder that friendship isn’t found in algorithms or perfect timing — it’s built in real moments, with real people, who show up.

In this episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' our host welcomes Annuschka to discuss the evolution of their 18-year-long friendship, which began at work and flourished into a wonderful, supportive friendship even accross different countries in Europe. They dive deep into what makes their friendship unique, from their individual and cultural dynamics to the precious and lasting bond they share together and as a group with others, cultivated through acceptance, mutual respect, and humor. Annuschka shares her personal journey from being an awkward teenager to finding deep connections and offers advice on building and maintaining adult friendships, including the importance of being genuine, taking the first step, and recognizing shared core values like integrity and fairness. Tune in to discover how real friendships can withstand the test of time and geographical disctance and leave a lasting impact on each others lives.

This episode is featuring a conversation between the host and Tracey, her ex-boss who became a close friend. They discuss how falling flat on your face (figuratively) can end up in a wonderful decade-long friendship, the importance of shared values and humor, and the necessity of trust and vulnerability in building strong relationships. They recount how their unique dynamic, formed across different countries and age gaps, led to a deep bond. The discussion also touches on the impact of life events on friendships, setting boundaries, and how to identify and distance oneself from toxic relationships. They offer practical advice on forming friendships through common interests and the importance of face-to-face interactions.

In this  episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' the host and her longtime friend Cecilia discuss the contemporary loneliness crisis despite the era of hyperconnectivity. They reflect on their 17-year friendship, sharing anecdotes from their time in Ireland and exploring the nuances of what makes and sustains deep friendships. The conversation covers the intentional pursuit of friendships, balancing introverted tendencies, and the dynamics of maintaining relationships through different life phases. The episode stresses the importance of vulnerability, shared interests, and the active pursuit of meaningful connections without being intrusive. It also touches on cultural differences in social interactions, particularly in Sweden, and how older individuals can seek companionship. The overall theme emphasizes the value of intentionality and effort in building and nurturing enduring friendships.

In the inaugural episode of 'Friendships Unplugged,' host Iris welcomes one of her closest friends, Martin, to discuss the nature of deep, long-lasting friendships. They tackle the loneliness crisis, the importance of trust, and how to cultivate meaningful relationships. Iris is emphasizing the need for more genuine connections in an increasingly isolated world. Together, they reminisce about their own friendship journey, including wild adventures and heartfelt moments, while offering insights and advice on avoiding toxic traits and fostering open, honest communication. 

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the power of trust and the beauty of chosen family.

00:00 Introduction to the Loneliness Crisis

00:40 Welcome to Friendships Unplugged

02:23 The Origin of a Lifelong Friendship

05:04 Defining True Friendship

08:49 Building Trust and Respect

15:25 Challenging Stereotypes and Embracing Vulnerability

20:19 Gender Roles and Modern Masculinity

23:37 The Importance of Strong Friendship Bonds

24:25 Navigating Gender and Societal Expectations

25:20 Growing Up Before the Internet

26:45 The Effort in Friendships

27:40 The Impact of a Close Friendship

31:06 Planning a Big Trip Together

31:42 Navigating New Relationships

32:56 Building and Maintaining Friendships

35:15 Red Flags in Friendships

39:49 The Craziest Things Done for Friends

43:32 Final Thoughts on Friendship