From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome.

From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome.

By Heidi LesterHealth & FitnessMental Health
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From my Counselling years to your listening ears. Hello and welcome. episodes

  • Healing from Childhood ACEs — Rewriting Your Inner Story
    Childhood experiences shape more than memories — they shape the way your nervous system responds to stress, relationships, and self-worth.
    In this episode of We Are All Fine, counsellor and psychotherapist Heidi Lester explores Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and how they quietly influence adult emotional patterns, self-talk, and relational behaviours.
    This episode isn’t about blame or reliving the past. It’s about understanding — and gently learning how to rewrite the inner story your childhood shaped.
    You’ll learn how ACEs affect the brain and nervous system, how they show up in adulthood, and how counselling-informed tools can help you respond to yourself with compassion, clarity, and choice.
    If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I react like this?” or “Why does this feel so hard for me?” — this episode offers grounding insight and hope.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook
    19 min
  • Ghosting, Connection Anxiety, and Modern Relationship Pain
    In today’s world of texting, dating apps, and inconsistent communication, many people are experiencing a quiet but painful form of relational distress — ghosting, connection anxiety, and emotional uncertainty.
    In this episode of We Are All Fine, counsellor and psychotherapist Heidi Lester explores why modern relationship patterns can feel so destabilising, and why these experiences often hit deeper than we expect.
    You’ll learn how ghosting and inconsistent communication activate the nervous system, how attachment patterns influence anxiety and self-doubt, and why your reactions make sense — even when you feel like you’re “overreacting.”
    This episode is for anyone who has felt confused, anxious, or emotionally unsettled in modern relationships — and wants to understand themselves with more compassion, clarity, and emotional safety.
    You’re not too much. You’re responding to a system that learned to protect you.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook
    17 min
  • Inner Child Healing — What It Really Is (Not Cliché)
    Discover the truth about inner child work. Heidi Lester, counsellor and psychotherapist, explores how early experiences shape your nervous system, influence your emotional patterns, and how you can respond with compassion, self-trust, and emotional integration. Move beyond clichés — and learn practical, therapeutic ways to reconnect with and support your inner self.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook
    20 min
  • Trauma Response vs. Overreaction — Understanding Your Alarm System
    In this episode of We Are All Fine, Heidi explores one of the most misunderstood experiences in mental health: the difference between a trauma response and an overreaction.
    Many people judge themselves harshly for their emotional reactions — feeling “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “out of proportion.” But from a counselling and neuroscience perspective, these reactions often make complete sense.
    This episode gently unpacks how your nervous system works, why your body reacts before your mind can catch up, and how to respond to yourself with understanding instead of criticism.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    14 min
  • Why Self-Care Isn’t Working — Using Counselling Skills to Support Yourself
    Are you following self-care routines but still feeling drained, stressed, or emotionally off? In this episode, Heidi Lester, counsellor and psychotherapist, explores why traditional self-care often falls short — and how counselling skills can transform your daily practices into truly restorative experiences.
    This episode turns self-care from a checklist into a therapeutic conversation with yourself. Perfect for anyone looking to build self-trust, resilience, and genuine emotional nourishment.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    12 min
  • Emotional Boundaries: How to protect yours without guilt
    Emotional boundaries shape every relationship you have — yet many people struggle to set them without feeling guilty, selfish, or afraid of conflict.
    In this episode of We Are All Fine, counsellor and psychotherapist Heidi Lester explores what emotional boundaries really are, why they’re so difficult to maintain, and how they protect not just your wellbeing, but your relationships too.
    This is a gentle, therapeutic conversation about learning to honour your emotional limits, recognising when your boundaries are being crossed, and finding steadiness in saying no — without shutting others out.
    If you often feel emotionally drained, overwhelmed by others’ needs, or unsure where you end and someone else begins, this episode will help you reconnect with your own emotional space.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    14 min
  • Emotional Boundaries — Understanding What Protects Your Peace, Energy & Wellbeing
    In this therapeutic and reflective episode, Heidi explores the quiet power of emotional boundaries — the gentle limits that protect your energy, your emotional space, and your wellbeing.
    If you often feel drained, overwhelmed, guilty for saying no, or unsure how to express your needs without conflict… this episode will guide you back to clarity and self-respect. Learn how to recognise weak boundaries, why they’re so difficult to set, and the compassionate steps you can take to strengthen them.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    13 min
  • Letting Go of Last Year: Closure, Compassion, and Moving Forward
    The new year often arrives with pressure — to be better, to start fresh, to reinvent yourself overnight.
    But emotional growth doesn’t happen through force.
    It happens through reflection, gentleness, and compassion.
    In this grounding New Year episode, Heidi guides you through a calming, therapeutic process for releasing what last year left behind — without shame, self-criticism, or forced positivity.
    This isn’t about resolutions.
    It’s about relief.
    It’s about understanding your experiences, honouring how far you’ve come, and moving forward in a way that feels supportive, not overwhelming.
    Perfect for anyone craving a softer, steadier start to the year.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    13 min
  • How to Look After Your Mental Health at Christmas
    The festive season is often portrayed as joyful and magical — but underneath the surface, many people experience stress, grief, loneliness, pressure, and emotional overwhelm.
    In this episode, Heidi gently unpacks why Christmas is so challenging and offers practical, therapeutic ways to care for yourself throughout December.
    If you find the holidays difficult, you’re not alone, and this episode is here to support you.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    13 min
  • Your Attachment Style Isn’t Your Destiny: How Therapy Helps You Relearn Connection
    In this episode, Heidi explains how attachment patterns form, why they can feel so hard to change, and how therapy helps you build new, healthier ways of connecting.
    A gentle, therapeutic guide for anyone navigating relationship anxiety, avoidance, or self-protection. You’ll learn how early experiences shaped your internal template for closeness, why you react the way you do in relationships, and how new relational experiences create healing and change.
    This episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at how you can move toward a secure, steady connection no matter your starting point.
    Email Heidi - [email protected] or connect with Heidi -@heidilestercounsellor on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook.
    14 min

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