In this episode, we dive deep into the uncomfortable truth of feeling stuck. Daniel opens up about his struggles with self-doubt, procrastination, and not fully living the 'Fukit mindset', especially when it comes to launching his coaching career. We get real about the fears that hold us back and the importance of embracing compassion for ourselves in the process. Together, we explore how small steps can create big ripples, and how you can start moving forward—even when it feels impossible.

Chapters:

[00:00:00] Why the Fuck Are We Here?

[00:02:13] The Fukit Mindset & Feeling Like a Fraud

[00:07:36] Fear, Procrastination & Getting Unstuck

[00:14:13] What Do You Really Want? Own It

[00:24:00] Compassion vs. Pressure: The Path to Transformation

[00:31:10] Building Capacity to Hold Your Growth

[00:42:30] Practical Tips to Unstick Yourself

[00:50:12] Vulnerability & Owning Our Process

In this episode, we share how our journey into opening our relationship began. We discuss the natural occurrence of feeling attraction towards others while in a monogamous relationship and how discussing these feelings, although potentially explosive, can be incredibly healthy. 

Remember, acknowledging these feelings doesn't mean you have to act on them.

We also talk about our early struggles with non-monogamy without having guidance, and emphasize the importance of finding a professional to help navigate this process. Join us for another exciting and revealing episode of The Fukit Podcast as we share our personal story and offer tips for those curious about this lifestyle.

Birthday shit!

This topic came up just as we were about to start recording the episode.

It was Anaelle’s birthday the next day, and we found ourselves in a heated discussion about birthday rituals in couplehood. 

Growing up in different environments and cultures, birthday celebrations are another area in which we experience and expect things differently from one another. 

We spoke about love languages and the way we each see the value of rituals and intentions in celebrating birthdays, the tension around this day, and the expectations. 

This is another classic example of how we can fall into a heated discussion, where we both want to make a point about the way we see things.

Episode Summary: 

Some may fantasize that having a nomadic lifestyle will solve all their problems. Well, it doesn’t.

There are many challenges in living this lifestyle, such as dealing with constant changes, along with the lack of structure and meaning, has been a real struggle for us.

In this episode, we delve into something that you may face at some point in your life: Moments of depression, feeling low, stuck, uninspired, and sad.

We opened up about how we've come to understand these emotionally intense experiences, and the importance of normalizing, and accepting them.

We also discussed how having one of us go through a depressive period, affects our relationship dynamics.

We share how we navigate through these challenging times and what helps us in these moments. Most importantly, we talked about the gradual process of shifting out of it and finding our way back to a brighter space.

Ever wondered what it means to truly embrace your desires? Dive into the heart of sexuality with us.

In this episode, We're getting real about the ups and downs of desire, sharing our own struggles in the past few months, and inviting you to join the conversation. We confronted the challenges of oversharing and navigating boundaries, sharing openly about our experiences while respecting the comfort levels of others.

As long-term partners, we reflect on the dynamic interplay between desire and safety within our relationship. From dealing with deep moments of doubt and despair to rediscovering hope and connection, we offer you a raw look at the natural ups and downs of our sexuality, the moments of heightened desire and intimacy as well as the periods of decreased libido or connection.

Whether you're exploring your own sexuality or simply curious about the human experience, this episode is an example of what we believe most of us are facing at some point in our intimate relationships. 

Ready to explore with us? Tune in now and let's journey together.

Episode description:

Exploring sexuality and desire (0:00)

The importance of creating a space for open exploration  (2:00) 

Challenges and frustrations when expectations aren't met  (6:00)

Overcoming Barriers to Communication (12:00)

Finding a balance between openness and respecting boundaries (20:00)

Balancing Freedom and Safety (28:00)

Dynamics of desire within long-term relationships (36:00)

Riding the Waves of Desire (42:00)

Seeking Connection Beyond Words (50:00)

Closing Thoughts and Invitation (56:00)

In this episode, we explore the themes of manifestation, self-awareness, and overcoming fears.

The conversation delves into the challenges of consistency, comparing oneself to others, and the importance of taking steps, however small, toward one's goals. 

We share moments from our personal experiences where we were able to manifest our wildest desires. Remembering the need to align actions with inner intentions and beliefs.

We discussed the impact of childhood experiences on confidence and the ongoing process of self-discovery.

We talked about the power of step-by-step progress, alignment with intentions, and the cultivation of courage in facing fears as we moved along our careers, relationship and lifestyle.

Episode summary:

Navigating the Podcast Journey and Personal Growth Insights (0:00)

Embracing Manifestation and Consistency (8:00)

Inner Work and Consistency in Manifestation (12:09)

Overcoming Doubts and Manifesting Desires (15:44)

Aligning with Personal Growth and Purpose (20:18)

Trusting Oneself and Navigating Manifestation Challenges (27:49)

Conquering Fear and Growing on Social Media (32:34)

Aligning with Purpose: Overcoming Fears (37:33)

Overcoming Self-Doubt through Energy and Action (41:46)

Focusing on Self-Improvement and Personal Growth (47:12)

Dive into the heart of our relationship communication with raw truths, vulnerability, and real challenges.

This episode is an open invitation to witness our unfiltered conflict, where we fight with the nitty-gritty of how we communicate.

Experience the highs and lows of emotions as we lay bare our fears, frustrations, and the unspoken desires that shape our connection. In this authentic conversation, we uncover the power of empathy in transforming our dynamics. Join us as we peel back the layers of conflict resolution, providing practical insights for couples navigating the twists and turns of relationships.

Episode Summary:

Navigating communication in a 13-year relationship 00:00

Parenthood: Breaking down gender roles  02:24

Communication's crucial role in relationships 10:33

Deep dive into relationship communication 20:03

Gender roles and biological clock pressures 29:15

The transformative power of communication 36:23

Meeting emotional needs in relationship communication 41:48

In this heart-to-heart episode, we dived into the real stuff—the raw and vulnerable parts of life. Opening up about the challenges of sharing personal stories, we explored the profound significance of vulnerability. 

Daniel opens up and courageously shares his deeply personal journey, including a transformative workshop experience in front of 80 people, illuminated by the immense power of vulnerability.

We talked about vulnerability being a mix of things, from keeping it real in public to just being true to ourselves. Daniel's turning point was going from being open just with us to going public about his journey.

We reveal the strength of vulnerability and how it can make the world a bit more understanding. It's an invitation for everyone to reflect on their own journey and embrace the beauty of just being real.

Episode Summary:

Opening 00:00

Vulnerability, self-acceptance, and speaking truthfully 02:15

Emotional expression, and healing 07:06

Sexual assault and speaking up about our trauma 13:38

why sharing personal stories is supporting growth and connection 19:31

tapping into emotional expression 24:14

Vulnerability and its impact on relationships 36:16

Step into the raw and real moments of our 13-year journey in the latest ‘Fukit’ podcast episode. 

In this episode, we peel back the layers, sharing the genuine challenges, fears, and growth that come with exploring non-monogamy. 

This isn't just a podcast—it's our story. We lay bare the evolution of our partnership, the highs, and the hurdles, emphasizing the messy yet beautiful process of conscious relating. 

Get ready for an unfiltered conversation where we share the struggles, the laughter, and the invaluable lessons learned as we navigate the twists and turns of our ever-evolving connection.

Episode Summary:

About conscious relationship dynamics 00:00

Non-monogamy and open relationships 5:18

Lifestyle choices and personal growth 10:43

Personal growth through NMs relationships 15:39

The inner work of open relating 20:59

Personal freedom and acceptance in a relationship 33:07

Relationship growth through patience and safety 37:53

Authenticity and vulnerability in relationships 42:43