Hopeful, validating and motivating episode. In this episode, I chat about:

• The emotional impact of growing up with divorced parents during the holidays
• What past relationships have taught me—especially the messy, controlling and abusive ones
• How I’m learning to forgive myself and follow what’s right for me
• A deep dive into quantum physics, parallel universes, and energy theories
• And this idea: if slowing down light lets us see the colours inside it... maybe slowing down time lets us see what’s really going on inside us too

It’s reflective, a bit all over the place, sometimes emotional, sometimes scientific,but always honest. If you’re navigating big feelings, or you just need company while thinking about life, come along.Drop a comment if anything resonates, be sure to Follow and Subscribeand if you’ve got book recs or quantum theories, PLEASE comment them!To all of you fumblers, thank you for being here. To the 31 new listeners, welcome! There are 159 (+3) of you on Spotify558 (+22) on YouTube6 (+6) of you on Apple Podsand a lot of you on socials!You are all, amazing.If you haven’t already, please Follow or Subscribeto help me reach more people and provide better content,let’s keep growing together.As always, I’ll see you in the episode!I’ll trust you to keep yourself safe, and OK.Keep Fumbling Forward,My warmest wishes,Frankie x00:00 Introduction01:48 Christmas is difficult (humour helps)03:55 Guilt05:30 Feeling low at certain times of the year05:55 The importance of self-forgiveness07:15 Coercive control08:46 How I frame my abusive relationships09:39 Reflections from my 'catalyst' ex10:40 The key - next part of my journey12:01 The 'bad guy'13:30 The power in surrounding yourself with supportive people14:38 NY resolutions17:10 People cancelling19:24 Random theories25:15 Gratitudes/Abundance/Manifestation28:36 Being a 'know it all'30:43 I dont feel I fit anywhere36:00 Boundaries & meeting my needs40:21 'Even though' - what if it works?!45:27 Know it all x246:43 ENERGY47:13 Being co-dependant48:39 Outro / takeaways

Hello hello, we're starting to see a shift! (Filmed Dec 24) I'm sure you can see it too form the first ep! Yup that’s right - another death! Grief seems to be all around at the moment, uncles, friends and colleagues, but weirdly I seem to be managing it ok.

A good friend died, she will be very dearly missed - what an incredible woman she was. To her, kindness and glamour. Come listen to how wonderful she was, and what I’ve been thinking that’s been getting me through the overload of grief I’ve had recently.

There is still a lot of laughter and joy in this episode, which really goes to show more than one emotion can exist at the same time. Grief and loss is not all there is, and it’s important to remind yourself of this when you’re surrounded by it.

I’ve also decided I'm starting to not take life as seriously anymore, and consequently, I’m starting to be funny again!

Here’s some things I’ve learned in this episode:

• It doesn’t matter how much time has passed, you can still reach out to people.

• How you think other people perceive you, is NOT accurate!

• Being authentic is a NEED!

• You can be authentic and then put it to the side too to still enjoy life. It’s not all there is.

• You DO have all the answers - you don't need to be rescued, if you're reliant on others, you'll always need them, is that why we do it?

We also discuss the skill of repeating back what people say, and how it unlocks their minds.

There is an update on the noisy neighbours...

I've experimented with not caring about what others think, AND I go through my journal with you to share the lessons I learned in each day.

This part always blows my mind,

the part where we see how many of you are here:

To all 1,225 of you here on the journey with me, thank you.

A huge warm welcome to the new 568 fumblers!

There are 156 (+3) of you on Spotify 🥹

And 536 (+31) on YouTube

and a lot of you on socials!

You are all, amazing.

If you haven’t already done so,

please ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’.

And as always, I’ll see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself safe, and OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

My warmest wishes,

Frankie

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I started the day like “URGH, another day..”

and I’m now bouncing off the walls.

And you will be too.

I am so excited for you to watch this episode,

the energy is infectious!

If you fancy a laugh and want to learn about psychology,

then give it a watch.

With each episode, the free-er,

more fun and excitable me, comes to life.

Her names Tigger.

In this episode you'll learn about:

The Window of Tolerance

Hyper and Hypo-arousal

Time Structuring

and how my podcast is literally healing my ADHD

(& suspected Autism...

which I’m starting to believe is also rooted in developmental trauma).

I have also stumbled upon.. a new hobby!

So come have a laugh, stroke a dog, and heal your life with me.

Please give the episode a rating,

follow if you enjoy it or found it helpful,

and comment your hobbies so we have a tonne of new things to try!

This part always blows my mind,

the part where we see how many of you are here:

To all 657 of you here on the journey with me, thank you.

A huge warm welcome to the new 9 fumblers!

There are 153 (+2) of you on Spotify 🥹

And 505 (+9)on YouTube.

You are all, amazing.

If you haven’t already done so,

please ‘Follow’ so we can keep this community growing

and help each other THRIVE.

If you haven't downloaded your FREE Journal Prompt Guide EBOOK, head to my insta, and it's linked on my profile. It's designed to bring you out of fight/flight, regulate your nervous system and rewire your limiting beliefs, and yes - it's backed with neuroscience and psychology and there's some psychology education in there too.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself safe, and OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

My warmest wishes,

Frankie

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Some takeaways and questions to ask yourself from todays episode:

1. You are special, treat yourself as such.
2. You are allowed to advocate for yourself.
3. You are your first priority, and the fact you consider others, speaks to how kind you are. Even when they've negatively impacted you.
4. People will try to scare you to 'shut you up', stay factual, rational and adult, seek appropriate advice.
5. You might be arguing because you're overwhelmed, not because you hate each other.
6. If you're struggling / sensitive, check your foundations, (sleep, food, socialising, quiet).
7. Grief effects us in funny ways - and emotions pop up randomly, let it come.
8. People will die unexpectedly. It is sad, but you will be ok. You must look after yourself.
9. When you don't know what to do, ask ChatGPT.
10. You aren't the problem, you're just overwhelmed.
11. Could you be contributing?
12. A diagnosis is just a group of symptoms. It's not a label. You are so much more than a label, and your symptoms.
13. Your symptoms could be stemming from beliefs.
14. You can do hard things.
15. When you are consistently exposed to something, you lose the ability to take action. You must act.
16. Just because you have ADHD, does not mean there's anything wrong with you. You are exactly how you are supposed to be, given your environment.
17. People will project their past on to you, and you will do it to others, the trick is to be aware of it, be curious, and stay present.
18. It's ok not to have difficult conversations when you're burnt out. Not everything has to happennow. It can wait, and it might never need to be said; only you will know.
19. Just because someone does something similar to something your ex or someone else did, does not mean they are the same.
20. What helps you get through? Do that.
21. What did you do in your past that you loved? Do that again.
22. What smells do you love? Can you get them in your life.
23. It might be worth considering,maybe you're not the problem.
24. Are you avoiding something?
25. What are your dreams for the future?

If you have any questions for me, leave them in the comments, or feel free to pop me an anonymous question, the link is on my instagram (FrankieGClark).

We're now at495 on YouTube, and151 on Spotify! It's bizarre to me that over600 of you listen to my rambles, and that's not including the social media pages where I share the little snippets / pockets of wisdom from the eps.

If you're not already following, subscribed or haven't rated the podcast, please do, and if you don't follow my socials here they are for you:

@fumblingforwardpodcast (TikTok)

@Frankiegclark (TikTok)

@fumblingforward (instagram)

@frankieGClark (instagram for coaching)

@frankie_theglowupcoach (TikTok)

I hope my learnings help you build your own wisdom, or navigate whatever you're going through. Thank you for being here, and thank you for listening.

My very best wishes,

Frankie x

I usually put these updates at the bottom of these emails,

but I am so happy and grateful, I had to share this first.

There are now 625 of you here on the journey with me.

A huge warm welcome to the new 38 fumblers!

It’s crazy to see these numbers!

There are 151 of you on Spotify 🥹

And 474 (+38) on YouTube.

It doesn’t feel real. Thank you so much.

For helping me to live my dream life.

I am sending you so much light and love.

If you haven’t already done so,

please ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’

so we can keep this community growing.

If you struggle advocating for yourself

or navigating situations with men

that make you feel uncomfortable/unsafe,

then this episode might help you gain some understanding

on why you might feel that way and how to navigate it.

If you find when your partner annoys you,

a blame game gets played, and they becomes defensive,

then this will also help you with that.

Episode also includes:

Stress, responsibility, how to navigate mistakes, assumptions, EMDR, traumatic memories, loyalty, cutting people out, love languages, boundaries, intimacy, people not making effort, letting people down, and conflict.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself safe, and OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

My warmest wishes,

Frankie

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What is trauma?

Is it PTSD, ADHD or Autism?

What are the symptoms?

What is EMDR?

How does it work?

Well you’re in for a treat.

Join me before and after an EMDR session,

(Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing)

In this episode I'll be going through all those questions.

What's lovely to see as I've been editing this ,

is the parts of myself

which seem to have been hidden for so long,

finally making their way back to the surface,

my humour and my animated self.

Seeing my free child ego state

emerge to the surface

shows me that we're starting to get somewhere

and see some progress.

I call out some of my Stimming,

things I hid from the world

or hoped people wouldn't see.

I'm deconstructing and highlighting

each bit of myself, bit-by-bit (bits like a computer? Willow?)

to lay all out on the table so you can see it,

identify it and work with it,

just like an engineer.

When we can see all the different pieces,

we can then see how it all fits together,

how it has, and does make you who you are.

It sounds like the after effect of trauma,

it's been defined as a fragmented sense of self,

where parts of yourself breaks away

and you’re no longer cohesive

and when you heal trauma

you pull back all the fragmented parts,

to make yourself whole again.

That kinda feels like what I’m doing.

Which is why this podcast feels so healing for me.

It allows all the parts of myself,

brings them back together

and makes it all ok, one.

Am I just then healing complex trauma?

Interesting.

I think the most valuable part of this podcast

are some of the words my therapist used,

and a phrase from my first year tutor.

My Therapist asked me to put on a graph for EMDR

some memories and the impact level

or how the memories are still affecting me.

I couldn't put down the scores,

I couldn’t ‘get it right’.

She invited me to be compassionate from my body,

she told me that my body didn't have a voice,

and my body only has me to speak for it,

and could I give her the number that my body gave me.

That blew my mind.

That enabled me to access the numbers.

So if you've been struggling

with getting things right for your body,

it only has you to speak for it.

Ask it, and let it, tell you.

And my first year Tutor’s phrase is;

“I know what *xyz* feels like for me,

but so I know what it feels like for you,

can you describe it to me?”

This is really profound because

it highlights that we all experience

the same emotion, but differently.

I've said this from a very young age,

the colour blue we might all call ‘blue’,

but we might see different shades of it.

This is why I think human language is limited,

(getting a bit woo-woo here)

and why the AI machines created a new language,

we are unable to truly understand each other

because we're not like Vision from Marvel or

Avatars where you can show people memories,

of feel their emotions.

Maybe we will get there one day.

But for now, it's important to remember

you can never truly know how someone feels,

because you have not lived their life,

or felt their experiences.

I’ve had a really great feeling about this podcast

I’ve been so excited and terrified at the same time;

opening myself up to so many of you to question, critique, judge,

But I’m excited about how it will help so many of you,

how it will grow,

and where it will take us.

What we will learn and uncover.

I am so grateful to welcome 25 of you!

There are 151 (+5) of you on Spotify 🥹

And 436 (+20) on YouTube.

Gosh, it’s starting to snowball… and I’m ready for it.

Let’s do this together.

From the bottom of my heart,

thank you.

For giving me a place to be me,

be authentic, and for following along my Fumbles,

listening and being on this journey with me,

learning and growing together,

and holding me as ‘OK’.

If you haven’t already done so,

please do ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’

so we can keep this community growing.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

Frankie

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I made an ADHD booboo,

Every time I come to write these descriptions I think, “where do I start?”.

To sum it all up in a nutshell,

I went on holiday and this was filmed when I came back.

After weeks of knowing I needed to stop,

putting my foot down and doing it,

it was everything I needed.

I came back refreshed

recharged

and with new realisations.

If you feel you need a break,

and you’re body and mind are telling you to,

make it happen!

Or your body will take one for you.

This episode goes through it all in detail.

I realise why I’ve been so unregulated…

it was under my nose the whole time

and let you in on how my ADHD has impacted my finances.

I share theories / things to think about:

Time structuring

Narcissism

Regulation / Trauma / PTSD / Alexithymia,

Talk about my therapy,

anxiety, PTSD, EMDR etc

(TW keep yourselves safe)

and a lot more.

Oh and.. I watched the beginning of Freud’s last session,

He & Einstein concluded that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

So my brain then asked the question:

“Does that mean sanity is being able to choose to do something different?

Aka autonomy?

I might just be veering into a Philosophy career.

I am so happy to welcome another 6 of you!

There are 141 of you on Spotify 🥹

And 416 on YouTube.

How wonderful to know I could be having a positive impact on all of you!

From the bottom of my heart,

thank you.

For giving me a place to be me,

to be authentic, and for following along my Fumbles,

listening along this journey with me,

learning and growing together,

and holding me as ‘OK’.

If you haven’t already done so,

please ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

Frankie

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It was so fun to do a hungover episode;

“Hungover at work?!”

Old Frankie would be terrified if you knew that.

But I’m human, and it’s ok to be hungover…

It’s quite funny actually,

me drinking… who would have thought.

This episode was healing to edit and listen back to.

When this was filmed back in July,

I had one hell of a month,

lots of bad news,

uncertainty about my home, finances,

and lots of judgement, criticism and assumptions around my weight loss.

I feel like somebody I have always wanted to be,

so confident in herself and resilient.

Knows who she is, and is not bothered by others.

I'm hoping that's what you can take from this,

that you can absorb some of my OKness,

and start to feel that, no matter what other people say or do,

that you will be okay,

and you WILL be okay,

because you have you.

Be there for you.

If you really show up for yourself,

you will always feel confident,

because you will always have yourself,

and if you always show up,

you’ll always know you’ll be there.

I’ll share a theory with you,

love some psycho-education,

which will help you to navigate how you’re feeling,

and be able to question what’s happening in the dramaaaas,

and provide you a tool to help you in those moments,

to help you get back to feeling OK.

No matter what happens,

I believe I will be able to solve the issue or situation,

and that gives me a confidence,

to go ahead and do what I need to do,

or what I want to do.

I am so happy to welcome another 5 followers!

there are 135 of you on Spotify 🥹

And 416 on YouTube.

Thank you.

For following my Fumbles,

listening and being on this journey with me,

trying to understand,

and holding me as ‘OK’.

If you haven’t already done so,

please go ahead and ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

Frankie

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Join me for an intimate exploration of self-discovery

where I explore whats needed

for a healthy formation of identity,

and the challenges of mental health.

I’ll share my experiences with ADHD medication,

the hurdles of money management,

and the powerful ways our bodies can influence our minds.

We'll explore the somatic realm,

those physical sensations that speak volumes

and the world of ‘transference’.

If you've ever questioned your connections with others

or hesitated before responding,

this episode offers reflections and strategies

that just might resonate and help.

Themes:

Thank you for following my Fumbles,

listening,

being on this journey with me,

trying to understand,

and holding me as ‘OK’.

If you haven’t already done so,

please go ahead and ‘Follow’ or ‘Subscribe’,

it will help reach others like us.

As always, see you in the episode!

I’ll trust you to keep yourself OK.

Keep Fumbling Forward,

Frankie

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