Gender Reveal

In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with Ryan Cassata (he/him), an award-winning singer-songwriter, actor, performer, writer, LGBTQ activist & motivational speaker. Topics include:

• "I was forced into activism to survive."
• Barging into the principal's office to advocate for trans kids.
• Coming out—and getting misgendered—on Larry King Live.
• Navigating bathrooms as someone who doesn't always pass as male or female.
• "I just want people to stop being afraid of trans people."

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here and here and here.

Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

Find Ryan on Spotify, Patreon, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! You can also watch the "Daughter" music video on YouTube.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with writer and Ph.D. student Ari LaRae Monts (they/them), whose research focuses on queer women of color and non-binary people of color. Topics include:

• Grappling with family trauma by writing a love letter to butch queers.
• Using federal dollars to study queer SM communities of color.
• Rethinking "femme" as an identity beyond an aesthetic.
• Practicing Christianity as a queer and trans person.
• Exploring nonbinary identity at A-Camp.

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here.

Find Alaina's writing on Autostraddle, and follow them on Twitter (@alaraemonts).

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with cartoonist Mattie Lubchansky (they/them). Topics include:

• Coming out as queer and genderqueer as an ancient dinosaur.
• Googling "Matt[ie] Lubchansky gender" (and finding tomatoes).
• Nike's pink triangle shoes—yikes!
• The flourishing world of queer comics!

Read more about our This Week in Gender topics here and here and here.

Check out the comics we mentioned on the show:

• "Visibility Has Its Rewards: Six Cartoonists on Gender and Transition"
• "Compared To What"
• "Brands Love Pride!"
• "The History of the Rainbow Flag"

Find more of Mattie's work at the Nib, and follow them on Twitter for some top-notch content. You can also support them on Patreon to get a sneak peek of their newest project.

Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with Indigenous Diné transdisciplinary artist Demian DinéYazhi´(they/them). Demian is the founder and director of the artist/activist initiative R.I.S.E.: Radical Indigenous Survivance & Empowerment. Topics include:

• "The only option for being queer was death. And the only option for being a Native person was death, as well."
• Decolonializing concepts of sex, love, gender identity, and sexual orientation for future generations.
• Defining "radical indigenous queer feminism."
• Creating resources and platforms for queer, trans, and Two-Spirit Indigenous artists.
• Growing up queer during the AIDS crisis.

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here. (And please let us know your thoughts!)

Find Damien's work on Tumblr and Etsy. Damien is also on Instagram at @heterogeneoushomosexual and @riseindigenous.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with musician Mal Blum (they/them). Topics include:

• Is NYC Pride™ evil?
• Depression tips (and how medication doesn't fix being constantly misgendered)
• Questioning the value systems of gay bars
• Uploading your gender onto the server!

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here, here, here, and here.

Read Mal's Autostraddle article about NYC Pride here.

Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with writer and scientist Naseem Jamnia (they/them). Topics include:

• Why biological sex isn't a binary (and why everything you learned in biology class is wrong)
• Busting myths around Islam and queerness
• Is it a good idea to prove trans identity through brain scans?
• Should we include nonbinary folks in women-only spaces?

CW: mention of police brutality @ 3:30

Happy Pride, babiesssss! Send us your comments, questions, and feelings at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

Find Naseem on Twitter (@jamsternazzy) and support their work on Patreon. Don't forget to check out their recommended articles, "The Lab Is Not Neutral" and "What Does Your Story Add To The Conversation."

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with Riley J. Dennis (she/they), best known for her YouTube videos about LGBTQ+ subjects and intersectional feminism. Topics include:

• Can you be trans without dysphoria?
• Is it transphobic to have a genital preference or refuse to date trans folks?
• Is it possible to be nonbinary, a trans woman, and a lesbian?
• Being a trans YouTuber who doesn't make transition videos—and why that's so rare.
• Plus: Why you should never read the comments on Riley's videos.

Read/watch/hear more about our This Week in Gender topic by searching "Stonewall Riots." Have fun! Also, here's Krista Burton's NYT opinion piece about pride.

Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

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In this week's episode, Tuck answers listener questions with filmmaker and activist Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include:

• Misgendering yourself
• Using they/them pronouns in solidarity
• Should nonbinary people apply for "women's" scholarships?
• Is it possible to be nonbinary and a trans woman?
• What the hell does femme mean?!

"Why the Popular Phrase "Women and Femmes" Makes No Sense" "Women and Femmes Unite" (counterpoint)

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. Read about FOSTA/SESTA here and here, visit survivorsagainstsesta.org, and donate money here.

Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more by April 30, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with activist AC Dumlao (they/them), the founder of Call Me They and @menswearselfcare. Topics include:

• Celebrating "genderFULL fashion" as self-care.
• Shifting your gender presentation to try to appeal to folks you're dating (yikes!).
• Writing an open letter to cis folks angrily sharing news of the transgender military ban.
• The importance of TLDEF's free legal name change services.

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here. (This one felt weird because I can't tell if it's really cool or not? Help!)

Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

We always appreciate donations via Patreon or PayPal or Cash App. During the month of April, if you donate $5 or more, we'll send you a bunch of stickers and a special limited-time-only surprise.

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In this week's episode, Tuck speaks with Kirby Conrod (they/them), a PhD candidate in linguistics. Among other subjects, Kirby specifically studies the use of they/them pronouns. Topics include:

• Tips for folks who struggle with they/them pronouns.
• Reasons why those folks might be struggling more than other people.
• Being a nonbinary person in academia.
• Coming into a nonbinary identity in Taiwan.
• What is syntax?!?

Read more about our This Week in Gender topic here and here.

Read Kirby's Medium post: "How to do the absolute minimum (with pronouns)".

Questions/feedback/feelings? Hit us up at [email protected] or on Twitter. You can also submit questions anonymously here.

We always appreciate donations at patreon.com/gender or PayPal or Cash App. If you donate $5 or more, we'll send you stickers and an extra surprise.

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