Gentlemen’ s Guide to Excellence

Today I want to talk about knowing where to look.  Knowing where to look.  And I don’t mean physically where do you find women in general, that’s mostly everywhere in the planet.  I mean where do you look at a person to see the real them.  

Background: Book's website: Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting (available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405) and anywhere else you find your favorite books.

Working the system. One of the lessons I have thoroughly learned in life is about the benefits of what I call "working the system".  The world is a tough, competitive place, and you need to give yourself as much advantage and leverage as you can sometimes.  We’ll take a look at what I mean by working the system in this week’s episode.

No one has a monopoly on good ideas.  Oftentimes you can find better ways of doing things or solving problems by being more exposed to others, other countries, other regions, maybe other places in your own country or region, other ways of thinking.  Why not let the best ideas bubble up to the top to benefit yourself, your community, or your country.  This week, we will explore this idea from a personal level.

Youth is wasted on the young.  You may have heard that expression.  If you are a young person, you might think that is what old people say.  If you are an old person, maybe you say that with a sense of regret - thinking of missed opportunities or mistakes from your past.  Today, I want to talk about this concept, and if there is any knowledge that needs to be transferred to the young folks among us, let’s talk about that.

You may have heard the expression “An idle mind is the Devil’s workshop”.  Okay if an idle mind is the Devil’s workshop, what exactly are you supposed to occupy your mind with?  Busywork?  What are we supposed to fill our heads with?  Is the answer the same for everybody, or does it depend?  That is the subject of today’s podcast.  

100 more.  If you have listened to the podcast for a while, I understand that I might have come off as rather dismissive or uncaring about people who aren’t at what I call  Level 3: meaning family wife, partner, children, and your closest friends.  But that isn’t the case.  Today I want to share how I think about my relationships with people who are not all that close to me: neighbors, my community, and the public at large.

After watching The Tinder Swindler documentary on Netflix and seeing how the ladies victimized got called gold diggers by some when their story broke, I got thinking about real gold diggers and how you  - yes you - might have to deal with such a situation in your own life.  If you haven’t seen that documentary, you can Google “Tinder Swindler” and read the articles that pop up to get the gist of what happened.  Why do I say gold digging might be something you have to deal with in your own life?  Once people will see how well you're doing, you might have ladies interested in you just for the money, and for the security and lifestyle that you offer.  Today I want to talk about how to manage, or better yet, avoid, such situations.

I am working with a young man right now who is stuck.  He is stuck in more than one way.  He is fresh out of college, and like many, struggling to find work.  He is putting off moving forward with his girlfriend of 5 years due to his self-perception of a lack of progress toward things like having a substantial and stable income and owning a home.  I think what I am advising him to do might help a lot more people out there, so that is what we will work on in this week’s episode.

First principles.  In this week’s episode, I will join the pantheon of great thinkers known for their contributions to the subject of first principles.  I’ll be right up there with the likes of philosophers Aristotle and Rene Descartes, Johannes Gutenberg - the inventor of the printing press, and more modern thinkers on the subject like businessmen Elon Musk and Charlie Munger.

The Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1736798405 and everywhere else you buy your favorite books and ebooks

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