What if the most valuable things you did this year never showed up on a spreadsheet? We close the year by swapping vanity metrics for honest measures of growth: the moment you walked away from a toxic pattern, the day getting out of bed counted as courage, the choice to pause before replying, the decision to be kinder to yourself than your inner critic has ever been.

I walk through the real wins of 2025—ending a painful relationship, finishing my life coaching certificate, spending meaningful time with family, and leaving a job that hurt more than it helped. We talk about financial forgiveness through bankruptcy, the emotional math behind hard exits, and why alignment sometimes looks like short-term discomfort that pays long-term dividends. You’ll hear how I kept dating off the table to avoid bringing an unhealthy version of myself into something new, and how self-compassion and vulnerability became the tools that changed everything.

From there, we trade “clean slate” thinking for sturdy building blocks. Rather than erase a tough year, we stack on top of it: continued healing, a path toward meaningful service, algebra as a gateway to social work, and a big personal milestone—living alone for the first time to build stability and self-trust. The five anchors I’m carrying into 2026 are simple and strong: I am worthy, I am capable, I trust my intuition, I practice self-compassion, and I choose authenticity over sugarcoating. You’re invited to do the same—list three wins, even small ones, and let them set the tone for what comes next.

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We share how a family health scare, illness, and holiday pressure rewired our plans and reminded us to hold our word with compassion. It’s a candid check-in on grief, boundaries, job searching at 53, and choosing rest without quitting on ourselves.

• coping with a parent’s hospital stay
• showing up while sick and tired
• being impeccable with your word
• leaving toxic spaces and misaligned work
• compassion that conflicts with old roles
• redefining progress beyond pay stubs
• managing diabetes and insurance fears
• dating readiness and choosing stability
• holiday expectations, gratitude, and low-cost gifts
• gentle boundaries and avoiding passive aggression
• permission to rest without self-blame

What I want you to do this week is just enjoy the week. Let the holidays happen. Whatever you got done, you got done. If you couldn't put up all the decorations, it's okay. If you didn't get the Christmas cards out, it's okay. It's okay.

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What if joy wasn’t something you waited for, but something you scheduled? We open up about moving from survival mode to a simple, repeatable plan that makes happiness a weekly habit, not a rare surprise. No perfection, no fluff—just real tools you can use today, even on a tight schedule and a tighter budget.

We break down the “joy list” method: write every activity that sparks delight, from quick wins like snapping photos of flowers and sunsets to big dreams you’ll save toward over time. Then pick two items each week and actually do them. Along the way we talk through ADHD-friendly grounding, using the five-senses check-in to pull your attention back to now when your mind loops the past or races into the future. The point isn’t to ditch healing; it’s to weave joy into it so growth feels lived, not theoretical.

Life throws curveballs—storms, delays, detours—so we design joy in different sizes for different days. We keep the big goals visible while building tiny, immediate moments of meaning that are easy to choose. You’ll hear candid reflections on staying proactive instead of reactive, rebuilding balance after burnout, and refusing all-or-nothing thinking. We don’t promise expert answers; we promise honest example, steady encouragement, and practical steps you can copy right away.

Make your list. Pick two small joys for this week. Tell us what you chose and how it felt. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a quick review so more people can find this space.

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We turn a holiday mishap into five clear takeaways on pain, boundaries, gratitude, and accountability. A raw plan forms: 30–45 days to leave, work more, find housing, and move from codependent patterns to self-led freedom by February.

• people cannot give what they do not have
• gratitude can coexist with pain
• naming feelings makes them workable
• accountability turns insight into action
• resilience as improvising when plans fail
• let them project, I'll protect my peace
• setting a firm move-out deadline and plan
• choosing stability over codependence
• protecting peace without abandoning love

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A single holiday can test a year’s worth of growth. When family dynamics flare and old roles return, do we collapse into the script or choose a calmer, braver move? We walk through a raw, real story—from a turkey that wouldn’t stay in the oven to the decision to set boundaries without bitterness—and unpack the skills that keep your nervous system steady while your heart stays open.

We talk about the power of self-responsibility: admitting the patterns that keep us stuck without drowning in blame. You’ll hear how the “Let Them” mindset helps you stop fixing people who don’t want to change and start investing in what you can control—your breath, your choices, your exit plans. We explore ADHD-friendly grounding, the hand-to-heart reset, and short scripts that protect your peace when someone pokes for a reaction. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s consistent, compassionate improvement.

This conversation leans into forgiveness as a practice that lowers emotional charge, paired with boundaries that prevent fresh injuries. We get honest about family roles, favoritism, and the hard truth that love sometimes requires space. You’ll learn practical ways to navigate tense gatherings, rebuild after ruptures, and create rituals that nourish rather than impress. If you’ve ever felt your confidence crumble at the worst moment, this is a warm, steady hand on your shoulder and a plan you can use today.

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Credit for the Let Them portion goes to Mel Robbins author of the Let Them theory book. 

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What if the real shift doesn’t come from fixing the past, but from forgiving the version of you who didn’t know better yet? Tina opens up about leaving a decades-long pattern of toxic relationships and the unexpected power of self-forgiveness. The pain didn’t just hurt; it dragged the energy of every day down. By clearing shame and blame, she found room for small joys that stack: taking a walk, calling friends, grabbing popcorn for a movie, even dancing alone in the kitchen. Those moments became proof that thriving is possible, not just surviving.

We walk through the practical, unglamorous tools that moved the needle—quiet nights in, stacks of books, scribbled letters, a coaching course, consistent meditation. Tina explains why forgiving someone who hurt you isn’t about excusing them; it’s about reclaiming your time and attention. That reclaimed energy fuels transformation, opening space for peace, curiosity, and spontaneous happiness that doesn’t need a reason. She talks about goosebumps, laughter, and the surprising way starting a podcast to help others ended up helping her heal, too.

The heart of this bonus round is permission: to be goofy, to be quirky, to be fully yourself without dimming for anyone. We explore shifting from survival mode to a life that feels expansive, supported by community and simple routines that actually stick. If you’re ready to transform toxic patterns, make space for joy, and step into a kinder story about who you are, this conversation is your nudge forward. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us one small act you’ll try this week to feel lighter.

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Ever wished someone would finally say the words you needed to hear so you could let go and breathe again? We walk through a grounded, compassionate approach to forgiveness that doesn’t require reconciliation or contact: writing the apology you never received, setting firm boundaries, and choosing self-forgiveness as a daily act of self-respect.

We start with an honest trigger warning and then break down the expressive letter method—how to draft it, what to include, and why it’s never meant to be sent. You’ll hear how roleplay with two chairs can reveal buried truths, and how to spot the moment when a healing tool quietly turns into a reunion fantasy. We talk about grief, anger, and hope in real terms, acknowledging the messy middle and celebrating the small wins, like catching yourself before you slip into old patterns.

From there, we shift into the deeper work: releasing shame, naming your worth, and reframing the past as life experience rather than a life sentence. We share practical ways to regulate your body during tough moments, examples of everyday forgiveness that protect your peace, and clear language for boundaries that keep the door closed to what harmed you. If safety is a concern, we encourage planning with professionals and using listed resources, because forgiveness should never come at the cost of your wellbeing.

By the end, you’ll have a simple, repeatable framework for closure: write the apology you needed, forgive without returning, and build choices that match your value. If this conversation helps, subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with one insight you’re taking into the week. Your story might be the light someone else is looking for.

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We share how forgiveness led to firm boundaries, why we stopped fixing people, and what it takes to admit we’re not ready to date. We move through heavy days, dance for healing, declutter inputs, and plan a brave exit from a toxic space while building a safe community.

• setting no-tolerance boundaries for abuse
• leaving at the first sign of disrespect
• retiring the fixer role in relationships
• naming we’re not ready to date yet
• telling real from projected red flags
• six-month plan for focused self-work
• dancing and music as emotional release
• choosing action on depressive days
• simplifying books and inputs for clarity
• navigating ADHD alongside creativity
• planning to exit a toxic environment
• building a supportive women’s community

Let’s have a safe community where we can share and heal together

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We share a simple 30-minute meditation framework to shift from mental noise to practical clarity. Tina speaks candidly about healing, ADHD, decluttering, and choosing one clear action each week to create real change.

• why self-care must come first
• how to set up a 30-minute sit
• letting negative thoughts float by
• journaling a 30 days, 30 minutes log
• using meditation to pick one action
• decluttering and choosing five mentors
• hiring help when you need support
• small acts of personal care that restore energy

If you do want to try this and then you have some takeaways, you could tell me or DM me or fan mail me or go on www.getitgotitgirl.com, which is my website

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What happens when you stop performing and let the quiet in? We open the door to that brave pause—naming the emptiness, sitting with it, and watching it transform into clarity you can actually use. From a simple hand-on-heart check-in to a mantra that moves you from intention to action, we map a path that’s honest, doable, and a little bit joyful.

We break down the “Get it, got it, girl” framework in real terms. Get it: say what you want out loud. Got it: put it in writing so it becomes real. Girl: move your body so the idea lands in your bones. Along the way, we talk about choosing calm over noise, dancing your way out of a spiral, and why progress often shows up in small signals—lighter steps, steadier breath, clearer choices—before it shows up in big wins.

We also unpack the heavy stuff with care: shedding shame around addiction, finding anonymous resources, and building a safe plan when leaving an abusive situation isn’t simple. Then we set a practical rhythm with a 30-day meditation commitment (or seven days to start) to track insights, reduce reactivity, and fill your cup so you can show up present for the people you love. Boundaries may shift, not everyone will understand, and that’s okay—healing creates clarity about what truly matters.

If you’re ready to claim what you want, own it on paper, and move with it—press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a calm reset, and leave a review to tell us the one truth you’re choosing to honor today.

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