Get It Together

We communicate every single day… but somehow, no one ever teaches us how to communicate well.

In this episode, we unpack why communication breaks down, how social conditioning shapes the way we express ourselves, and why so many relationship issues are actually communication issues in disguise.

We also chat about our growing reliance on AI to write texts, emails and difficult messages, whether it's helping or hurting our communication skills, and why being comfortable with awkward conversations is a skill worth building.

We cover:

💜 Why we often contribute to communication breakdowns without realising it

🤖 Are we outsourcing too many conversations to AI?

👯‍♀️ How gender expectations influence the way we communicate

🙋‍♀️ Why women are often labelled "bossy" for being direct

✨ Practical ways to become a more confident communicator

💭 The difference between being clear and being liked

🫶 Why communication is always a two-way street

Practical takeaways:

Practice assertiveness in low-stakes situations.

Stop expecting people to read your mind.

You can be kind and clear.

Someone else's reaction isn't always a reflection of how well you communicated.

Journal prompts:

Do I feel safe being honest about what I need?

What communication habit is helping my relationships... and what habit is hurting them?

How do I want the people I care about to feel after talking with me?

Communication recs:

▶️ The science behind dramatically better conversations | Charles Duhigg | TEDxManchester 

📚 Crucial Conversations – Kerry Patterson et al.📚 You're Not Listening – Kate Murphy📚 The Next Conversation – Jefferson Fisher

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This week on the pod:

* Happiest of Birthdays to 1/2 of Get it Together - Shannon 🎉

* Hello and goodbye to our Saturn Returns 🪐

* The Power of No and Setting Boundaries

* Lessons in Love and Relationships

* Saying no without a 3–5 business day explanation

Reminder: you’re not behind, you’re just on time. Plz refer to the multiple TV shows who feature main characters in their late twenties or thirties right from the first season - eg. Sex And The City, Insecure, Broad City, Fleabag, New Girl, & The Bear.

Your turn

What’s something your 20s have taught you so far?

What did you think you’d have figured out by now… that you absolutely don’t?

Tell us everything — comments, DMs, voice notes.

Slide into our dms:

* Your lessons from your twenties. What you are learning, what you're trying to learn.

* What worked itself out that you were worried about at the time?

Final thoughts

Your 20s aren’t about having it all together.

They’re about:

* Becoming

* Unlearning

* Trying again

* And figuring out what actually matters to you

You’re doing better than you think 💜

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At what point did we collectively decide hobbies were… optional?

TBH probably somewhere between paying bills, replying to emails with “just circling back,” and trying to drink enough water 🤔 creativity quietly got demoted to a “nice in theory” category. Right next to journalling and stretching.

This week on the pod, we had our first guest (!!), Emma Whines, who is what we would describe as a creative diehard — aka someone who just… keeps picking things up and trying them. Reading, sewing, music, learning to ride a motorbike?!?

And it got us thinking: maybe the issue isn’t that we’re not creative anymore. Maybe we’ve just stopped making space for it.

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The year doesn’t start in January - and neither should you.

TLDR the Gregorian calendar’s start date is arbitrary, disconnected from nature, and primarily a construct of historical and commercial influence etc etc.

So in lieu of that, let’s find a New Year that works for us - here are just some you can choose from:

- Astrological New Year: Astrologically, the new year begins when the Sun enters Aries, which occurs around the Spring Equinox.

- Personal New Year: Many feel their personal cycle restarts on their birthday, which is seen as a more meaningful, individualised time to set new goals and reflect on the past year.

- Lunar New Year: Celebrated by many cultures (Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean) based on a lunisolar calendar, that we celebrated just last week on Feb 17.

What We’re Chatting About

- Why Shannon is NOT a New Year’s Resolution girl

- Making intentions from alignment vs. pressure

- Slutty little glasses (IYKYK)

- The psychological spiral of online shopping cart purgatory

It wouldn’t be a new year without a vision board!!

What’s on yours? Send us pics & Tag us.

We round it out with advice to our younger selves on new years.

Georgia - Only making resolutions that come from places of  love, joy, compassion

Shannon - Be more patient with myself

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It's the “Get It Together” year in review, and oh boy, do we have a lot to chat about!

✨ Whether you unsubscribed from made up timelines, tried a new hobby, embraced your boundaries, quit your job, showed up as your true self, unfollowed IG accounts that don’t uplift you, got unstuck, realised that you’ve got your back, or manifested a dream into reality, thank you so much for coming on this wild ride with us.

Mimi from Return to Nature 🌺 gives us a card  pull and astro reading that’s perfect for this time of year. Take what you need and leave behind what’s not serving you as we move into 2026 💫

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- How This All Started

- Shannon’s First Manifestation Leap

- Georgia’s (almost haunted) house saga - AKA Proof That Manifesting Works

- Shannon On Manifesting Love

So… How Do You Craft Your Own Reality?

Here’s what has worked for Shannon:

1. Set a Clear Intention

2. Visualize It Like It’s Already Happening

3. EFT (Tapping) to Clear Emotional Blocks

4. It’s Meant to Feel Easy & Fun

📚 Book Recs

* Law of Attraction — Esther & Jerry Hicks

* Raise Your Vibration — Kyle Gray

* You Have the Magic — Hailey Hoffman Smith

🧘‍♀️ Meditation Recommendation Listen To This When You Wake Up & Watch MIRACLES Happen FAST | Morning Meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza

✨ What are you manifesting at the moment?

✨ SEND US YOUR VISION BOARDS!

Ever have one of those weeks where everything feels a bit too much? Same here. We unpack the idea of tenacity—not just the “push through no matter what” version, but the gentler, more grounded kind that keeps us anchored when everything around us is shifting.

💭 In This Episode

- Redefining tenacity: why strength isn’t always about pushing harder

- Georgia’s story of moving overseas during the pandemic — and learning to say yes to small, scary things

- Shannon’s high school rejection story, and how it became a quiet turning point toward purpose

- The power of humour and lightness when life gets heavy

- Simple, practical ways to find your anchor and build inner strength

🌿 Key Takeaways

✨ Patience is strength. Everything meaningful takes time.

✨ Rest is not quitting. Pausing helps you come back clearer.

✨ Connection builds resilience. Let others help—you don’t have to do it all alone.

✨ Do the basics well. The boring, grounding habits are what keep you steady.

⚓ Reflection Prompt

How are you your own anchor? What helps you? And how have you moved yourself through the ups and downs of life.

Let’s keep the convo going:

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We’re talking all about that feeling of being stuck—in your career, your relationships, your life in general. It’s uncomfortable, it’s confusing... but it’s also trying to tell you something.

Inside This Week’s Ep:

- Work catchphrases and how they quietly shape us (hello, “making deals, breaking hearts”)

- Social media musings + feedback from our biggest fans (who also happen to be our mums)

- What it actually means to feel stuck—and how it might be pointing you to something you care about

- Shannon’s old journals (future guest star of the pod)

- How to tune into your body when your brain’s in a fog

- 5 gentle tips to help you move through it

🛠️ Your Unstuck Starter Pack

Validate your feelings – Say it out loud: “This makes sense.” Because it does.

Zoom out – Sometimes we just need to see the bigger picture and get some perspective.

Move your body – A walk, a dance, a wiggle—it all helps.

Future-you wisdom – What would they be proud you did today?

Track your cycle – you may be feeling this way more during certain times of the month - luteal phase we’re looking at you. Timing things like socialising and big projects to align with your energy levels can make a big difference.

Let’s keep the convo going:

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Our latest social media deep dives

Georgia:

Dog food supplements - senior dog owners IYKYK

Ireland’s National Ploughing Championships

Shannon:

Nina Dobrev’s breakup with her snowboarder boyfriend

Homewares

Online courses

Social Media and Self-Perception: A Love-Hate Thing

Unfortunately IG has more than just Reels about farm fairs and dog supplements—we chatted about how a lot of women’s health/ fitspo content can be quite toxic.

It’s not just annoying—it’s harmful. We’ve seen a huge spike in eating disorders in the last few years, especially since COVID lockdowns. Things like “What I Eat in a Day” videos or the marketing of products like detox teas (ugh) can really mess with your head, especially if you’re already feeling vulnerable.

Our Brains Weren’t Built for This

Something we’ve been learning (and reminding ourselves constantly) is that our brains literally weren’t designed for this. Human brains evolved in a totally different world—one without endless scrolling, notifications, or constant access to curated highlight reels.

Our ancestors had to pay attention to their immediate environment for survival. Now? We’re overloaded with updates, opinions, drama, and comparisons—most of which have nothing to do with our real lives. It’s no wonder we feel exhausted and anxious after just ten minutes of scrolling. This constant bombardment leads to cognitive fatigue, emotional burnout, and sometimes that feeling of just being totally “off” without knowing why.

Social Media Addiction Is a Real Thing

Let’s talk dopamine. Every time you refresh your feed or get a notification, your brain gets a little hit—a reward that keeps you coming back for more. But like a pokie machine, it’s unpredictable. Sometimes you get a rush of likes and comments, and sometimes...crickets. That inconsistency is exactly what makes it so addictive.

I (Georgia) have noticed that I sometimes use social media as a coping mechanism—when I’m overwhelmed or stressed, I scroll to numb out. But honestly? I always feel worse after. It’s like eating junk food when you’re sad—it gives you a temporary distraction but doesn’t actually fix anything.

So What Can We Actually Do About It?

We’re not here to tell you to delete all your apps and live in the woods (though, tempting). But there are a few small things we both try to do to keep social media in check:

Delay the scroll: Try to be phone free for the first 30 mins after waking up.

Clean up your feed: If you’re scrolling and a post comes up that doesn’t make you feel good - click that unsubscribe button - or select “show me less content like this”

Use the screen time setting on your phone

Need to focus? Use Do Not Disturb - or just put your phone in another room

Digital detoxes: I’ve taken full-on breaks before, and honestly? I feel so much better for it - try deleting your socials for a few days and see how you feel.

Feel good social media accounts

Georgia

Maybell.eequay

Robgardensandgrows

Natureisnotmetal

Laurelysebaert

Shannon

Haleyhoffmansmith

Timmchiusano

Old.time.hawkey

Peachyfeverr

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This week, we’re diving deep into a topic that feels both so important and a little terrifying: authenticity.

What does it really mean to show up as your true self? How do you do that without feeling emotionally naked—or burning out in the process?

If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or the fear of being “too much,” this episode is for you. 🧡

💡 What Is Authenticity, Really?

"Authenticity" gets thrown around a lot—especially online. But to us, it’s not about oversharing or turning your trauma into content. It’s about:

Getting honest with yourself

Living in alignment with your values

Setting boundaries that feel good

Letting the messy, unfiltered parts exist (without apology)

It’s not a performance. It’s a practice.

🎙 Vulnerability + Art = Magic (And Maybe Some Sweat)

Let’s be real: putting this podcast out into the world? It’s vulnerable as hell. But that’s what makes it powerful.

Whether you're creating art, writing a poem, or just having a real convo—vulnerability is the gateway to connection. Scary? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely.

😬 The Fear of Being Seen

We talk about the very real fear of being truly seen. It’s that push-pull between wanting to be visible and fearing judgment.

But here’s the truth: you can’t build real connection if you're hiding the real you.

🌱 Still Figuring It Out? SAME.

Spoiler: there’s no final destination when it comes to being authentic.

We’re all a work in progress—trying, messing up, learning, evolving. And that’s kind of the point.

✨ Tiny Ways to Be More You (Without Burning Out)

Here are a few gentle ways to explore your authenticity:

Check in with your values Journal, meditate, voice-note—whatever works. Ask yourself:→ What actually matters to me?→ If money wasn’t a factor, what would my day look like?

Try these journal prompts from the Return to Nature Substack (https://returntonature.substack.com/p/august-and-imbolc) :→ How can I courageously show up as my authentic self in the places I usually hold back?

Gut checks > people-pleasing Tune into your body. How do you feel around certain people or in certain spaces?

Rest is part of the work Hustle culture lied. Rest isn’t lazy—it’s necessary. Try creating time for stillness (bonus points if it’s in nature 🌿).

👯‍♀️ Find Your People

Stop chasing approval. Start finding the people who get you and love your weirdness. They’re out there—and they’ll feel like home.

💌 A Love Note to Our Younger Selves (And Maybe Yours Too)

You’re not too much. You’re not behind. You’re just growing into who you’re meant to be. Stay weird. Stay curious. Keep showing up.

We’d love to hear from you! What does authenticity look like in your life right now? What’s working—and what’s still a challenge?

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