In this episode, we talk about how we truly are the center of own universes - that’s not the problem. The problem is that sometimes we think that we are the center of the Universe at large. This blocks us from doing risky (but worthwhile) things, taking chances, learning something new, or truly connecting with another. We put our self-worth into the “marks” that others give us, rather than relying on our own internal compass and self-esteem.

Denial:
https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-denial 

The inner victim:
https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-2-the-inner-victim 

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This episode is a continuation of last week.

This episode directly addresses how fear and separation shows up in our personal relationships, due to our survivalist mindset and consequent behavior.

Specifically, this story manifests:
- In the way we start to force our agenda or beliefs (resisting the present)
- Our need to be hyper-controlling
- The way we get defensive
- Our inability to ask for help
- When we assume the worst in others

Mentioned episodes:
Keeping your center while navigating the media: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/keeping-your-center-while-navigating-the-media
PART 1: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/fear-and-separation-part-1-0

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In this episode, we discuss how fear and separation are the breeding grounds for the unhealthy ego - our inflated sense of self.

When we see the world through the lens of fear and separation, it appears to be hostile and unkind, which leads us into displaying defensive and self-protective behavior, ultimately leading us into a state of survival.

This shows up in so many different ways, but in this episode, I talk about how it shows up in the way of our inability to be grateful, our inability to notice signs and synchronicities, and our tendency to chase, grasp and hoard.

Next time, we talk about how this story shows up in our behaviors that directly impact our relationships.

Mentioned episodes
Scarcity:
https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-scarcity-in-time-and-relationships
https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/scarcity-part-2 

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In this episode, I talk about how our scarcity mindset shows up with our belongings and with our money.

Specifically, I ask some thought provoking questions and give you some actionable steps that are intended to help you define what is really important to you in the way of your belongings. 

I also talk about our scarcity mindset around money and discuss some energetic concepts that are intended to help us overcome some of our fears around money.

Disclaimer: I am not a financial expert. This information presented is intended to educate about the energetics of money, not to provide financial advice. 

Part 1: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/ego-story-scarcity-in-time-and-relationships 

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In this episode, we talk about the ego story of scarcity. Ego tells you that there’s just not enough to go around and the only one who will look out for you is you.

I discuss how we can’t deny that some things in life do have limits (ex. There are only 24 hours in a day, my salary is a certain amount, my house can only hold so much), but there are other things that do not. Often, our scarcity mindset confuses things that actually do have limits with what is not.

This is a two part series (next week is released as a bonus episode) where I talk about how scarcity shows up our lives. This week, I discuss the scarcity mindset around:

1. Time
2. Relationships (Envy + Jealousy)

Next week (16 NOV) I’m talking about our scarcity story around:

1. Our belongings
2. Money

Abundance is the antidote for scarcity, but abundance is sometimes confused with excess. When we step into true abundance we let go of the fear that we won’t be provided for and we can start living a life lead by spirit and in true alignment.

The process of overcoming this ego story:

1. Identify and separate things that actually do have limits from the things that don’t.
2. 1. Re- define your relationships with time, money, things, and people
   2. Create more scarcity in order to identify what’s a priority - this allows you to be intentional about how you want all of those things to show up for you
   1. Ask yourself: is this still serving me - which is a moment to moment process
   2. Re-aligning with true abundance - having faith
   3. Letting go - this is the true mindset shift
3. Detaching from the excess/scarcity belief system.

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In this episode, I talk about an ego story that is probably one of the most difficult ones to spot. This is the ego story of denial.

Denial is likely the most effective story that your ego uses to defend your shadow. Because it works though ignorance, this story will keep us in an ego state, preventing us from realizing and confronting our own limiting beliefs, shame triggers, projections, and wounds.

I discuss some things that we do that you can use to indicate a state of denial, but really the first step is asking yourself the question and then giving yourself the space and attention you need to be completely honest with yourself.

Lastly, I talk about how to deal with someone you know or care about who is in a state of denial. As frustrating as it can be when someone won’t admit something that is so apparent to you, force is not the way. A state of love and total acceptance are.

Ego story 1 episode: https://spiritmindbody.libsyn.com/episode-7-ego-story-1

Recommended reading:
Loving What Is by Byron Katie

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In this episode, I talk about how to get out of your rut. I propose an idea that the feeling of being in a rut is biologically explained by a decreased amount of dopamine in our system.

Dopamine is the neurochemical that is responsible for the motivation to see yourself to a better future. It’s often referred to as the “want” hormone. It makes us pursue, get excited about possibilities, and dream big. 

When you’re in a rut, you have a hard time getting excited or motivated, as your life feels like it’s on one big repeat, which parallels closely with the feeling you get when your dopamine (along with other feel-good neurochemicals) are low.

When we’re in a rut, we can often find ourselves unconsciously trying to stimulate dopamine artificially, in order to bring us back to a state of excitement and motivation. This most often comes in the form allowing yourself some retail therapy or binge watching TV. Substances such as sugar, alcohol, and cocaine are known to hijack the dopamine circuits in our brains, which explains the all too familiar scene in our lives where we find ourselves on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, promising that we’ll make more of our day “tomorrow”. 

All of these unhealthy habits will make you feel better in the moment, but ultimately contribute to your stress and further entrench you in your rut in the long-run.

I propose here that the answer isn’t to come to grips with our dopamine deprived state, rather it’s to embrace it and find healthier ways to release dopamine. In this episode I offer 6 healthy alternatives to increasing our dopamine and getting out of your rut.

Recommended reading:
The Molecule of More by Daniel Lieberman and Michael E. Long

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In this episode, I talk about embracing uncomfortable situations in life.

During painful situations, we often tell ourselves this story of, “It’ll be better when…” (we get a new car, we’re in a relationship, we have a new job, we get settled into our new house…). This story prevents us from living in the present moment, while our sights are honed in on a better and brighter tomorrow. When we leave this present moment, we forget about all of the gifts that it holds for us.

It isn’t the situation that is the problem, it’s our judgement of the situation that makes it painful.

In this episode, I talk about 6 things to consider when going through hard times that can help bring your attention back into the present moment and harness the power they bring.

Recommended reading:
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

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In this episode we discuss 5 things that can help you keep your center when navigating through the trigger minefield that is the media (social, mainstream and otherwise).

These things include:

1. Check your energy
   Check it early and check it often. This really is the process of coming back home to yourself. When you do this often, you become more in tune with your intuition and your “bullshit” detector becomes much more sensitive.
2. Question everything: is it true?
   This is the day and age where people often say whatever they want with little factual basis for doing so. I know you know this, but not everything you read is true. “Credible” news sources stretch the truth to make headlines more jaw-dropping. When you question everything and are tapped into your energy, you become less likely to be swept away by the craziness that goes on in the world.
3. Work through triggers
   When something pulls you out of your center, work through triggers that are worth working through. The basis of the trigger will always be something that comes back to you (either it’s about you, it’s something that you stand for, or it’s something that you haven’t accepted within yourself).
4. Set boundaries
   Boundaries are important because without boundaries, we can get detracted from our path. When you’re constantly working through triggers, it’s difficult to make progress in the direction of your choice. Set boundaries to avoid triggers that you’re not ready to work through quite yet.
5. Perspective, perspective, perspective
   Here is a reminder that you (and everyone else on this earth) are a spiritual being living a human life. There are aspects to this physical existence that are very compelling illusions, but they are just illusions. Take a breath. Remember who you are.

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In this episode, I talk all about boundaries within two-person adult relationships.

We tend to have the hardest time implementing and respecting boundaries between the people who are closest to us in our lives such as parents, romantic partners, siblings, or close friends. However, these are the relationships that can benefit most from good boundaries, as they are a part of our every-day lives.

I give a 5-step suggestive “how-to” when it comes to setting boundaries. This list is not all-inclusive. When you really “get” boundaries, you don’t need these steps, but it’s a good place to start. These 5-step are:

1. Set boundaries when you’re not emotionally flooded. Let your decisions not be reactionary, but one that is mutually beneficial to both parties.
2. Run through the alternative. When your ego tells you that it’d be more comfortable to avoid the difficult conversation, consider what happens if you don’t set your boundary (spoiler alert: usually someone you love suffers).
3. Use empathy. Have faith that if they were in your shoes and knew your story that they would set a similar boundary. Understand that people do things for good reasons and their breach of boundary was probably not malicious.
4. Be vulnerable. Speak your truth with compassion
5. Accept that you are not responsible for their reaction.

Reading recommendations:
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Loving What Is by Bryon Katie

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