Get Over Divorce

There are times where you have to ask yourself that question: “What is the sign for me to know when I’m ready to split?” You get to the point where a proclamation is made of, “Just give me some sort of sign.”
As you go along in your divorce journey, living life is all the ‘sign’ you need. You are deserving of love. You are deserving of prosperity. You are deserving of all life has to offer. Just don’t deny yourself.
Cole talks about the time when he made such a proclamation … and the moment he learned when that sign was already given to him. The LORD already gave you the sign. Now, all you have to do is walk in it.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES
4 warning signs marriage therapists use to predict divorce (Marni Fierman - psycentral.com)
Should I get a divorce? Experts say these are the signs that you should (Nicol Natale - womansday.com)
10 signs a couple is headed for divorce, according to a marriage counselor
(Matt Christiensen - fatherly.com)

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
5 signs your marriage is headed for trouble (Alicia Michelle - crosswalk.com)
What does the Bible say about divorce? When is it allowed? (familylife.com)
When divorce is scriptural and marriage is not scriptural (Malachi 2:11 - blueletterbible.org)
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Proverbs 21:2
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Subtitle
Savor The Possibilities

Summary
Life can sometimes feel like you’ve been kicked squarely in the teeth. You think that we are probably here to toil and labor in agony. Going through a divorce exponentially compounds that agony.
The reason it is that way is because we focus on things which we did wrong in our past. We also look forward to a future and forecast negative aspersions onto it. What if we were to tell you to appreciate everything that stands before you right now? Don’t worry about the future. Don’t put so much weight on the past. Just focus on the here and now.
See the endless possibilities of beauty in your own life. Why? Because YOU are a gift!
Cole displays the moment he realized focusing on today made him a better, happier, more alive person than dealing with a past that he couldn’t change or a future he hasn’t lived. His life is now beautiful.
Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:
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Life is a gift, you are a gift
Your life as a gift: How do you want to use it
How positive thinking builds your skills, boosts your health, and improves your work

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE
Life, a precious gift
Life - a precious gift from God
Everything we have is a gift from God, and all belongs to Him
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Romans 6:23
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The most precious commodity in your life, right now ... is you! You now are alone. You have no dates. You may not even have a Girls' Night Out or hang with the boys. You probably don't want to hang with anybody else. You may not want to spoil yourself.

That's why you should! Make it a circle of one night and enjoy yourself. It is allowed.

You need to find happiness right now. Enjoying your own space forces you to find things about yourself that you probably didn't know existed. Don't pay attention to the others. Only fill yourself with the joy you so richly deserve. Love on yourself!

Cole mentions when just a simple trip to the movies and dinner by himself filled him up in ways that, quite frankly, his marriage never did. More than having the freedom to do whatever he wanted, Cole learned to enjoy life again - and not be trapped in his house while his conscience would be busy convincing him of his false unworthiness. Just being among those living their lives made him feel worthy.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

Being alone after divorce: (Why it’s okay)
Self-care strategies for how to deal with divorce
When dating after divorce, start with yourself
SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

Heal first, date later
How to find hope in God in the loneliness after divorce
God has a purpose for your painful divorce
EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Psalm 32:7

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It is well known that divorce is like a death on earth. You go through a grieving process. However, to say "get over divorce," it sounds callous, harsh and cruel.

This episode explains the title of the podcast. Divorce is a stigma. You get through the pain. In order to get to a better place in life, you must get over all the generalizations of it. You have permission to rip off the scarlet letter 'D' for divorce ... forever!

Cole candidly talks about the moment he realized divorce wore him like a cloak. Just like being 'under the weather', he was 'under the influence of divorce'. He also mentions the moment he made his way out of that stigma - and into the better life which still lay before him.

All music by - Cxdy

The most precious commodity in your life, right now ... is you! You now are alone. You have no dates. You may not even have a Girls' Night Out or hang with the boys. You probably don't want to hang with anybody else. You may not want to spoil yourself.

That's why you should! Make it a circle of one night and enjoy yourself. It is allowed.

You need to find happiness right now. Enjoying your own space forces you to find things about yourself that you probably didn't know existed. Don't pay attention to the others. Only fill yourself with the joy you so richly deserve. Love on yourself!

Cole mentions when just a simple trip to the movies and dinner by himself filled him up in ways that, quite frankly, his marriage never did. More than having the freedom to do whatever he wanted, Cole learned to enjoy life again - and not be trapped in his house while his conscience would be busy convincing him of his false unworthiness. Just being among those living their lives made him feel worthy.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• Being alone after divorce: (Why it’s okay) 
• Self-care strategies for how to deal with divorce
• When dating after divorce, start with yourself

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• Heal first, date later
• How to find hope in God in the loneliness after divorce
• God has a purpose for your painful divorce

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Psalm 32:7

Download your copy of the FREE audio How To Heal From Heartbreak now!

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All music by - Cxdy

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One of the most painful moments during heartbreak or divorce is the moment loneliness seeps in so deep that it overtakes you. Some may be strong enough to avoid sinking deep into the clinical version of it. However, all go through feeling a heavy level of dejection at some point of healing.

What you are experiencing is something called depression. It is emotionally painful, mentally crippling and psychologically damaging ... should you not do things to confront, combat and overcome it. Sometimes, relief doesn't come in the form of another human being. This is one of those times.

Cole reminisces about a day where he drove for hours during the beginning of his divorce. He recounts the emptiness he felt for a long time - and how he covered up the feeling when around other people

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• Dealing with a breakup or divorce
• Managing depression after divorce
• How to deal with depression after divorce

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• Coping with divorce and depression
• Surviving divorce depression
• A journey through divorce; grief, anger, depression and loneliness

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Matthew 11:28

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"I hate you." "You disgust me." "I wish you were never born." "You need to die." All of these words you either have heard at one time or another ... or have said them - maybe even both. The feeling is hate. However, what if we were to tell you that it is normal for you to feel this way?

Of course, it's not something you should forever want to feel. However, when discourse happens - intense feelings start to develop. And what better (or worse) to feel - than hate.

Cole talks about the time he mentions this in counsel - and in conversation with his ex-wife as he goes through the unflinchingly painful ordeal of being emotional in the beginning of divorce. He had to understand the hatred - so he could ultimately destroy it.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• Why is it OK to be angry at your ex?
• Feeling hatred is normal in divorce
• 5 simple ways to deal with anger during a divorce

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• What the Bible says about anger (after divorce)
• Demystifying your anger during divorce
• How could God let this happen?

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Proverbs 8:13

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You've cut yourself. You've fallen to the ground. You've accidentally slammed your hand in your car door. All those scenarios hurt ... but not like being rejected by someone you love.

There is something profoundly different about healing from a divorce. Healing from a break-up is bad enough. Literally seeing your family, your existence, your life split in two ... can prove to be devastating.

Cole walks you through the time when he recognized that divorce is something you can't simply brush aside and move forward. He mentions the time when the pain was so unbearable - the feeling of death felt better than the excruciating pain of being discarded.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• Emotional coping and divorce
• Reasons the pain of divorce is hard to get over
• Why divorce hurts

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• God is able to heal the pain of divorce
• Divorce: Will this pain ever go away?
• Healing the wounds of divorce

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Revelation 21:4

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This is where it gets tricky. Treacherous waters are ahead - because, quite frankly, you are being a liability too those you love. If you don't watch out, you may alienate them for the rest of your life.

Many people feel like they are pawns in the huge chess game of life. Either they serve your purpose as your personal Amen Corner ... or they serve as a huge distraction when you aren't ready to hear the truth come out of their mouths about your erratic (and hurtful) behavior.

This is where Cole gets with you and mentions the ways we all use other human beings (parents, friends, co-workers, associates ... and most importantly, children) to advance your personal gain of masking the pain that still resides within you. He knows ... because he's been there.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• When children become pawns
• Ways you're using your children as pawns
• Things divorced parents should do to avoid screwing up their children

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• Co-Parenting with an ex: Advocate or adversary?
• When hate comes before children
• Don't pawn the children

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - Matthew 7:15

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One of the greatest tools known to a divorcee is never discussed. Considering the volatile state you are undergoing, being away from others is a good thing. No, scratch that. It's a great thing.

Going through any journey alone is never fun. However, it sometimes is necessary. this is when you can gather your thoughts, lick your wounds, and - most importantly - learn who you truly are.

Cole speaks about the times that he needed to undergo being alone in order to be a better friend, mate and man to society, at large. It was a tricky tightrope for him, but he expresses how he navigated his way through it.

Many thanks to the following resources for aiding in the production of this episode:

OFF THE TOP ... ARTICLES

• Being alone after divorce ...
• Living alone after divorce
• How I overcame my fear of being alone

SPIRITUAL CONNECTION LITERATURE

• Choosing singleness after divorce is a good thing
• Beautiful truths every divorced Christian needs to know
• God has a purpose for your painful divorce

EPISODE SCRIPTURE - 1 Samuel 12:22

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