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Curious about the difference between mainstream porn and ethical porn/feminist porn? Do you even know where to find it? Who better to ask than the engaging and dynamic Sonya JF Barnett, RP.  It’s rare to find an ethical porn producer/director, turned intimacy coordinator, (yes, we’ll talk about that) turned sex therapist! 

Show Notes:

0:24  Playboy Magazine

02:06 Risk Aware Consensual Kink RACK

02:39 Hump Film Festival

07:05 Intimacy Coordinator IC and the Me Too Movement

02:44 Dan Savage

04:18 Feminist Porn and Ethical Porn 

06:36 Erika Lust

08:19 HBO

10:34 Modesty garments

16:18 Kink Fantasy and Kink Protocols

18:27 Sasha Grey

20:37 Co-founder of Slut Walk Toronto

21:51 Viewing porn and shame

23:35 Anxiety about watching porn

24:05 Sex Therapist

27:22 Sue Johanson, Dr. Ruth Westheimer, and Sex with Sue 

37:47 Produced By Katie Jensen at Vocal Frye Studios 

Ethical Porn Recommendations Vetted by Sonya JF Barnett

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Join Canadian Certified Sex Therapist, Michelle Fischler as she embarks on a mission to inspire humans to embrace their sexuality, igniting a sexual revolution that spans across cultures, belief systems, and lifestyles.

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If you are having sex you should know about Sensate Focused Therapy, a widely used technique amongst sex therapists. This form of therapy helps support clients in getting out of their head and into their bodies when giving or receiving touch. It can be useful for a range of different relationships like those with a history of pelvic pain, people with penises experiencing anxiety around getting an erection, relationships where a desire discrepancy has been present and more. Not in a relationship, not a problem, sensate is versatile.

Today’s guest, Linda Weiner, a licensed clinical social worker, owner of Sex Therapist St. Louis, and co-author of the book Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual, joins host Michelle Fischler. Together, they discuss what Sensate Focused Therapy is, how individuals and couples can benefit from it, and more. 

Show Notes: 

02:16: What is Sensate Therapy? 

05:00: The goal of Sensate Therapy

07:13 The trilogy of good sex

12:11: Why do some people need Sensate Focused Therapy? 

16:56: A person’s introduction to Sensate Focused Therapy

25:41: Boredom in the bedroom

29:00: Making time to have sex/how often should you have it? 

33:05: The importance of touch

35:15: If penetration isn’t the goal/conversations around sex with partner

40:22: Do people need to go to a sex therapist for Sensate Therapy? 

Where you can find Linda:

www.sextherapiststlouis.com

https://www.instagram.com/lindajweiner/

Twitter: couplesguru

www.facebook.com/lindaweinercouplesguru

You Tube: Recovering your sex drive with Sensate Focus Mindful Touching Techniques 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SpqwyXDSsvk

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Various organizations across Canada are advocating for the decriminalization of sex work. This includes the Canadian Association of Social Workers, who’s code of ethics seeks to balance the protection of individuals and the principle of doing no harm with autonomy and self-determination. The advocacy only applies to the selling of sex between two consenting adults.

Today’s guests, Elizabeth Weisz and Katherine Van Meyl, are supporters of the decriminalization of sex work. Elizabeth Weisz is a companion and sex worker who has been in the industry for almost seven years. Katherine Van Meyl is a therapist who adopts a psychodynamic perspective in the treatment of couples, families, and individuals. She also used to be part of the sex work industry and is creating a documentary highlighting male sex workers’ experiences within the industry.

In this episode, host Michelle Fischler speaks with Elizabeth and Katherine about their experiences in the industry, thoughts on the decriminalization of the industry, and more.

Show Notes:

2:25: Defining industry terminology – “sex worker” versus “companion

11:37: Legalities of sex work

23:13: Safety of sex workers

29:41: Supporting sex workers as a therapist

35:32: Relying on the sex work community as a sex worker

38:00: Getting into the industry

51:12: Benefits of being in the industry

57:56: Katherine’s documentary

Find Katherine Van Meyl here:

www.umbrellainsights.ca

Twitter: @KatVanMeyl

Instagram: @KatVanMeyl

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherine-van-meyl/

Find Elizabeth Wiesz here: 

Twitter: @YourElizabethTO

IG: @Ellieweisz_to

Website: www.meetelizabethweisz.com (http://www.meetelizabethweisz.com/)

CASW The Canadian Association of Social Workers Provides Recommendations for a Safer, Better Canada for Sex-Workers

https://www.casw-acts.ca/en/canadian-association-social-workers-provides-recommendations-safer-better-canada-sex-workers

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A revolutionary anti-government protest in Iran was sparked on Sept 16th, 2022, after 22-year-old Iranian woman Mahsa Amini was picked up and detained by Iran’s "morality police" for showing too much hair. About three months have passed, and innocent lives have been lost yet the people of Iran continue to hold their ground and fight back. For women, for life, for freedom.  We invited our guest “Iran”, who asked to be anonymous for safety reasons, back in November to reflect on Iran’s political regime and how growing up queer in the Islamic republic, where a woman’s value is worth half of a man, impacted how they expressed romantic interest as well as how they embraced their true sexual self.

Thank you, Iran, for sharing all of these intimate thoughts with the GETSOME team and listeners   

Enjoy the Episode

Shownotes:

00:30 A short brief introduction of the recent news . What happened in Iran

05:02 What makes “Women Life Freedom” different

06:50 “Iran” is also an old-fashioned female name

08:40 There’s always a fear of getting arrested

15:44 This is a game about how to behave

28:32 Being queer risks facing the death penalty

29:05 Women are worth half of a man in Iranian laws and society

37:54 I knew I was a queer kid when I was young, and I felt lucky

42:50 My mom sat us down and explained sex to us while living in Iran

45:38 I feel like my parents purposely put porn around the house for us to find

48:02 The social values impacted my sexual self a lot

53:23 Some save their virginity by having anal sex

57:03 I feel like I’m missing out on something when it comes to sex

58:26 Even men are victims of this patriarchal society

61:08 What you are fighting for is exactly what you have

65:00 What can we do to support the revolution?

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Has anyone ever told you that your sexual concerns are all in your head? Well, that’s not always the case. There is another treatment option worth exploring. Pelvic Floor Physiotherapy can help treat sexual and pelvic concerns such as painful intercourse or penetration, early or delayed ejaculation, and can also support the recovery from gender affirmation surgery. Excited to learn more?  We invited Michiko Caringal to GET SOME to discuss pelvic pain for penises and vulvas from a physiotherapy and sex therapy perspective.

Time to take a deep breath and Get Happy Down There!

Show notes:

02:50 What is Pelvic Pain and how do you know you are having it?

04:50 How about period pain?

05:30 Please, don’t swallow your pain!

10:00 Early ejaculation can, in many cases, be treated by pelvic health physiotherapy

13:15 Constipation can be a clue

18:10 Transgender pelvic health. Recovery, scars, and comforts

20:25 You can choose to have a penis, a vagina, or both

26:40 From 18 to 88, it’s not about the age, it’s about the symptoms

29:00 Will I have to put something into my vagina to treat pain?

32:05 Partners are very welcome to attend appointments, with consent

37:30 What is the first step to seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist? 

42:00 Breathing! Neat Techniques

48:00 Interested and curious to learn more?

50:00 Don’t do kegels just because social media told you to!

51:00 Michiko: Physiotherapy changed my life from every perspective

53:00 Where can I find you, Michiko? Every gender is super welcome 

Michiko Caringal, MScPT, MHSc in Bioethics

Michiko Caringal is the Founder and Owner of Happy Down There Physiotherapy in Vancouver, British Columbia.  Michiko holds a Master of Science in Physical Therapy as well as a Master of Health Science in Bioethics from the University of Toronto. She works part-time as a pelvic health physiotherapist at the University of British Columbia Hospital in the Bladder Care Centre with renowned Urologists and Urogynecologists. 

website: www.happydownthere.ca

@happydownthere.ca

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Sexual liberation is not a fresh concept these days.

But, when we mention a sex club, what comes to mind for you? A space that allows curiosity to unfold surrounded by like-minded people?  This time we invited Fatima Mechtab (a.k.a. ‘Miss F’) to introduce us to the sex club, Oasis Aqualounge – a water themed, adult private membership spa and lounge in downtown Toronto. 

Shownotes:

01’47 Oasis Aqualounge is a water-themed sex club 

05’20 Full-swap, soft-swap, single and multiple

12’05 Wow she is so confident, so beautiful 

15’35 It’s all about how you think about yourself

21’46 More people are interested in exploring themselves after COVID

25’30 Who is Fatima Mechtab?

31’43 I don’t feel shame about sex, but I feel I should

33’18 When I say I’m sexually open, what it represents

38’30 Pool, events, and rooms - choose whatever you want

40’04 Bukkake is not a topic for everyone

43’50 Recommend me the best events at Oasis Aqualounge

49’44 Where can I find Oasis Aqualounge?

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Fatima Mechtab (a.k.a. 'Miss F') is an Event Producer, Host, P.R Representative, and Business Partner at Oasis Aqualounge

Here is where to find Oasis Aqualounge online:

https://oasisaqualounge.com

https://www.instagram.com/aquaflirts/?hl=en

https://twitter.com/Oasis231mutual

https://www.facebook.com/OasisAqualounge231/photos/?ref=page_internal

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  Guest Opinion Disclaimer:   All opinions expressed by podcast guests / participants are solely their current opinions and do not reflect the opinions of GETSOME Inc. or affiliates or the companies with which the podcast guests / participants are affiliated, and may have been previously disseminated by them.  The guests / participants opinions are based upon information they consider reliable, but neither GETSOME Inc. nor its affiliates, nor the companies with which such guests / participants are affiliated, warrant its completeness or accuracy, and it should not be relied upon as such.  

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Did you know that the average person will spend a third of their life in the menopause transition?

We invite Certified Sex Therapist Nicole Schroeder this time to talk about ways to get comfortable with this stage of our life; How Generation X is pushing forward the conversation about menopause more than any other generation and, where to go for help when you are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause?

Show notes:

00:35 Our Guest Nicole Schroeder – Introduction

02:10 Everyone that has ovaries will go through menopause

06:40 How do you know when you are experiencing perimenopause?

09:20 Generation X are handling menopause differently compared to other generations

15:04 Menopause became a joke in western pop culture 

21:53 Stop treating menopause as a mid-life crisis

31:53 Some symptoms can be treated under different methodologies

35:06 Pelvic pain is not all in your head

49:00 Expecting to always have an orgasm at the same time as your partner is similar to expecting to have a Michelin Star style meal every time you cook 

54:00 Let’s talk about pelvic floor physiotherapy treatment next time 

57:00 Where to find Nicole Schroeder?

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Nicole Schroeder is a Registered Social Worker with the College of Social Workers in Ontario (OCSWSSW). She is a certified member of BESTCO (Board of Examiners in Sex Therapy and Counselling in Ontario).  She currently works in an outpatient gynecology clinic at a downtown Toronto hospital and in private practice, with a focus on individual, relationship, and sex therapy. Nicole also facilitates virtual groups on menopause, a variety of pelvic pain conditions and sexual wellbeing.  She runs virtual groups at Bria, a virtual mental health clinic that provides support and treatment for cis-women, non-binary folks, and transgender women experiencing mental health challenges across their reproductive lifecycles.

Nicole Schroeder http://www.nicoleschroeder.ca/about.html

Instagram: @nicoleschroedertherapy

Menopause Support Groups: https://betterbria.janeapp.com/

Book: The Menopause Manifesto

https://www.menopause.org/for-women/book-reviews/i-the-menopause-manifesto-own-your-health-with-facts-and-feminism-i

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Fatima Kamenge (She/Her), an Auntie, Human, and Joybonbon, is the founder of Social Ausum, a consulting firm based in Toronto, Canada that helps business owners build more socially responsible enterprises.  What does this business consultant do in their spare time you ask? A sensuality workshop of course!   Fatima is a true entrepreneur

In this episode we talk about:

Burundian Culture and Sex

How Sex and Spirituality are always intertwined

Sex and Community 

Sex and Belonging 

Sex with Self and the Sacred Orgasm

My gratitude goes to Fatima who graciously shared her personal stories of growing up Burundian.

You can find Fatima here:

@thejoybonbon on IG

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The politics of sex in Mexico contradict its modern metropolis. I speak with Sexologist, Dr. Selfa González Gomar Montesano and Sex Therapist Dr. Maria de Lourdes Martínez Staines about how traditional religious and patriarchal belief systems in Mexico continue to reinforce the prevalence of gender based violence, incest, abortion access, and LGBTQ hate crimes.

Dr. Selfa González Gomar Montesano earned her Psychology Degree from Iberoamericana University in 2001. She completed her training in Gestalt Psychotherapy in 2006 and went on to complete her training in Bioenergetic Body Work in Buenos Aires Argentina. Selfa earned a Master's Degree in Sexuality and Gender Studies from Spain. She has experience working in mental health institutions and teaches in public and private universities throughout Mexico. Selfa also has a private psychotherapy practice working with individuals and couples.

Dr. Maria de Lourdes Martínez Staines studied medicine at Anahuac's University in the state of Mexico. She is married to Jorge Jimenez, a Pediatrician and Neonatologist in Aguascalientes, Mexico. She has 3 children, Sofi 29 years, Jorge Eduardo 23 years, and Regina 19 years. Lourdes worked for 17 years as the Reproductive Health Chief at the Health Institute in Aguascalientes. She also completed 2 Masters Degrees; one in Thanatology (The study of Death and Dying ) and the other in Sexuality and Gender. She has Doctorate in Humanist Psychotherapy. Lourdes currently teaches at Cuauhtemoc's University.

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