Fatima Kamenge (She/Her), an Auntie, Human, and Joybonbon, is the founder of Social Ausum, a consulting firm based in Toronto, Canada that helps business owners build more socially responsible enterprises.  What does this business consultant do in their spare time you ask? A sensuality workshop of course!   Fatima is a true entrepreneur

In this episode we talk about:

Burundian Culture and Sex

How Sex and Spirituality are always intertwined

Sex and Community 

Sex and Belonging 

Sex with Self and the Sacred Orgasm

My gratitude goes to Fatima who graciously shared her personal stories of growing up Burundian.

You can find Fatima here:

@thejoybonbon on IG

Guest Opinion Disclaimer:

The politics of sex in Mexico contradict its modern metropolis. I speak with Sexologist, Dr. Selfa González Gomar Montesano and Sex Therapist Dr. Maria de Lourdes Martínez Staines about how traditional religious and patriarchal belief systems in Mexico continue to reinforce the prevalence of gender based violence, incest, abortion access, and LGBTQ hate crimes.

Dr. Selfa González Gomar Montesano earned her Psychology Degree from Iberoamericana University in 2001. She completed her training in Gestalt Psychotherapy in 2006 and went on to complete her training in Bioenergetic Body Work in Buenos Aires Argentina. Selfa earned a Master's Degree in Sexuality and Gender Studies from Spain. She has experience working in mental health institutions and teaches in public and private universities throughout Mexico. Selfa also has a private psychotherapy practice working with individuals and couples.

Dr. Maria de Lourdes Martínez Staines studied medicine at Anahuac's University in the state of Mexico. She is married to Jorge Jimenez, a Pediatrician and Neonatologist in Aguascalientes, Mexico. She has 3 children, Sofi 29 years, Jorge Eduardo 23 years, and Regina 19 years. Lourdes worked for 17 years as the Reproductive Health Chief at the Health Institute in Aguascalientes. She also completed 2 Masters Degrees; one in Thanatology (The study of Death and Dying ) and the other in Sexuality and Gender. She has Doctorate in Humanist Psychotherapy. Lourdes currently teaches at Cuauhtemoc's University.

Guest Opinion Disclaimer: All opinions expressed by podcast guests / participants are solely their current opinions and do not reflect the opinions of GETSOME Inc. or affiliates or the companies with which the podcast guests / participants are affiliated, and may have been previously disseminated by them. The guests / participants opinions are based upon information they consider reliable, but neither GETSOME Inc. nor its affiliates, nor the companies with which such guests / participants are affiliated, warrant its completeness or accuracy, and it should not be relied upon as such.

Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT), also sometimes referred to as sexual surrogacy, was first introduced by sex researchers, Masters and Johnson. They introduced the concept of sexual surrogacy to support un-partnered individuals to work towards sexual goals with another person in a controlled and supportive environment.

Where to find Alon:

https://alongoshen.co.il/

IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association)

https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/

Recommended Book:

https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Least-Surrogate-Partners-Intimacy/dp/0692288597/ref=nodl_?dplnkId=f7d573bf-db4f-4b19-9f34-838eebc285bc

Guest Opinion Disclaimer:

Do you ever wonder about how the intergenerational consequences of Apartheid continue to influence South Africa's dating scene? I speak with Rahim Thawer, currently living between Johannesburg and Cape Town as a visiting international scholar about how dating and socializing continue to be impacted by racial divisions that have yet to be dismantled. 

Rahim is South Asian (Indian), Muslim, and Queer, practicing as a social worker / psychotherapist, writer, and public speaker in Toronto, Canada. Rahim speaks and writes on topics such as systemic oppression and mental health, LGBTQ Muslim mental health, shame, sexuality and homophobia. 

FInd Rahim here:

https://www.affectiveconsult.ca/

https://thecbtdive.buzzsprout.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USlGiHjjVw4&list=PLhbBNizgIkngxmeLwY1CIN_cCBbBgopTM

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Show Notes

00:26 What is a sexual narrative?

01:02 Sexual facts Vs interpretations

01:44 Adding flexibility to your sexual narrative

02:24 Sex therapy topics that come up in my practice

02:38 Fear of sex

02:48 Arranged marriages

03:13 Open relationships

03:23 Low sex relationships

03:26 Affair recovery 

03:53 Sex addiction

04:37 Gender Journey

04:41 Sex therapy clients and their personalities

05:25 Talking about sex can bring relief

05:52 Sex gets easier to talk about the more you talk about it.

06:21 Fertility treatments and sex

06:38 Aging and sexuality

07:10 Erectile Disappointment

07:44 Pro erection medication

08:18 Questioning your sexuality

08:45 Sexuality on a spectrum

10:12 Low sex or sexless relationships

11:09 Illness and sexuality

13:14 Do you have curiosities about sex?

13:58 Confession booth question: I love my girlfriend but I think I may be bisexual. What should i do?

15:11 Hard conversations about sex are important and can be helpful

16:19 How to have healthy hard conversations about sex

18:28 Benefits of sex therapy

19:07 Send in questions to [email protected]

19:47 Produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios.

20:04 Follow me on Instagram at GETSOME_Podcast

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Show Notes

00:00 Introducing Michelle Fischler

00:24 Modeling vulnerability 

00:43 Building Trust

00:50 Master’s Degree in Social Work

00:54 Oppression and disparities in power

01:07 South Africa during apartheid

01:12 Sun City

01:17 Anti-oppressive framework

01:20 Racism

01:31 Complicit in ongoing systems of racism, inequality, and injustice

01:42 Current knowledge and research on sex is based on White people

02:22 Advocate for more diversity in the sex therapy field

03:20 Moved from Toronto to South Africa at age 5

03:33 Hedonistic playground for adults

04:04 International boycott against South Africa's apartheid regime

04:16 Lived with extravaganza dancers

05:18 Father was a Jewish Holocaust survivor

05:55 Taught by nuns in a convent

06:48 Dream career was to be an extravaganza showgirl dancer

07:13 Shamed by the nuns

08:23 Internalized shame

08:56 Shame into adulthood

09:52 Challenge these shame beliefs

10:54 Sue Johanson and Dr. Ruth Westheimer

11:31 Sex with Sue 

12:08 Sexuality starts from a young age

12:53 Subscribe wherever you like to listen to podcasts

13:05 Show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Frye Studios

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Show Notes

00:15 Sex therapist lead up

00:33 Psychotherapy practice 

00:45 Humour and Optimism

01:01 What kind of sex life do you want?

01:05 Culture

01:15 Providing Sex Therapy for ten years 

01:24 For audiences 18 and older 

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