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Does the thought of online dating stress you out? Are you looking for a more traditional dating approach? Do in-person matchmaking evenings still exist? If they don't, they should. Michelle recalls a brief yet hilarious encounter from her younger days when she was asked to fill in as the missing woman in an unevenly numbered matchmaking event. The evening was not only intriguing but also eye-opening. So, who's up for the challenge? Let the matchmaking games begin!

Show Notes

[00:00:00] In person matching making events for those that are dating app adverse

[00:00:46] The matchmaker would need a large pool of people including LGBTQ+

[00:01:09] There are a lot of people that are way more comfortable with more traditional ways of dating vs dating apps. 

[00:01:38] My experience working at a matchmaking event. 

[00:03:34] How do people find out if there is a mutual match?

[00:03:58] Reach out to me at [email protected] if you are setting up a matchmaking event.

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Have you ever found yourself curious about the unique experiences of being gay in today's world? Join us as we dive into the vibrant, nuanced realm of gay dating, sex, drugs, and masculinity with board-certified sexology educator and host of the Sex Ed With Tim Podcast, Tim Lagman. Known for his unapologetic authenticity as a 'chaotic homo', Tim is dedicated to advocating for LGBT sexual health, pleasure, and social activism. With his charismatic humor and enlightening insights, he'll guide us on an entertaining, laughter-filled journey through the intricacies of gay love and relationships. Get ready to step into a new world, challenge your perceptions, and perhaps discover something extraordinary. Our exploration starts here!

Show notes:

03:42 What is a Certified Sexology educator

05:20 Straight identified men that see gay sex workers

09:14 Gay men and body image

11:34 Dating on Grindr

13:49 Discrimination on Grindr

14:34 Performance anxiety 

16:40 Sex is more than having a hard penis

18:45: Poppers

21:24 Crystal meth

22:38 HIV epidemic

22:45 Unfairness in the healthcare system

23:00 Party drugs and gay culture

25:12 Harm reduction versus abstinence model

26:22 PrEP  (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)

32:24 Dating apps

33:56 Having clear boundaries

35:23 This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios. Show ideas or questions? Email [email protected] and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast

About Tim Lagman:

Tim is a board certified sexology educator with the American Board of Sexology and a pleasure advocate based in Toronto, Canada. He began his sexual journey through escorting where he worked with a number of clients from different backgrounds and all walks of life ranging from couples, individuals, poly relationships, and everything in between. He then went to obtain his advanced diploma in Business Management and graduated with honours. Combining his knowledge of sex and business, he decided to combine the two fields to start his journey as a sex educator delivering workshops, speaking on panels, shows, and podcasts, and providing expert advice on sexual health publications. In his free time, Tim likes to volunteer and give back to the community through outreach in Toronto’s LGBTQ+ scene providing sex education and harm reduction resources to the public. It is his mission in life to make sex fun and funny as he loves to make people laugh and believes in the curative powers of hilarity. Sex is already a sensitive and touchy subject. We might as well laugh at the fart noises!

Find Tim Here:

https://www.sexedwithtim.com/about-me

https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithtim

https://www.instagram.com/gayslutclown

Resources:

This is a list of common party drugs as well as safer substance usage techniques and overdose prevention 

(http://torontovibe.com/)

This one is specifically for crystal meth and finding addiction support (http://himynameistina.com/)

This is an interactive platform to see how each party drug interacts with one another (https://combo.tripsit.me/)

This is a risk calculator for HIV transmission (https://hivrisk.cdc.gov/risk-estimator-tool/#+mb|iai)

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Show Notes

00:55 Dating is a hot topic in my practice

01:01 Where were people going on dates during Covid?

01:04 Shame and secrecy around dating during covid and fear around being judged.

02:04 Sex did not stop during Covid

02:15 The best idea for a dating spot during covid

02:57 The plant section at Home Depot needs a cafe

04:12 Home Depot is a great place to pick up supplies, buy flowers and see attractive humans.

04:50 If anyone listening works at Home Depot or owns a Home Depot you should put in a cafe and also sponsor my show.

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Show notes:

00:07 90% of people with a penis who are between 35 and 55 have struggled to get an erection firm enough for intercourse

03:17 What is Erectile Self Efficacy?

03:40 Autonomous sexual erections aren’t realistic

04:42 The alternative to panicking and apologizing

04:52 The "Good Enough Sex" Model

05:26 It's almost always the man's choice to stop having sex

07:32 Where did we go wrong in having guys believe that sex is always supposed to be this one way?

07:53 Men have been lied to about their sexuality

08:21 Responsive male sexual desire

08:45 Men lie to each other about sex

08:51 Using medications as part of erectile self efficacy

09:14 Self-consciousness is the most anti-erotic thing you do

09:37 How to reduce performance anxiety

10:39 Grandfather of sex, Bill Masters

10:50 How do you know a man is cured of erectile dysfunction?

11:14 What to say when penetration isn't going to be part of the sexual experience

11:33 Good Enough Sex Model and Michael Metz

12:37 Working together as an erotic ally

13:44 Desire is not based on performance - desire is based on sharing pleasure

14:27 Orgasm is not the best measure of satisfaction

14:52 Waxing and Waning of erections exercise

16:44 Sex is more than penetration

16:48 What is sex?

17:13 Prostate cancer

18:46 How to know when you are ready for penetration?

19:34 Why do men fail with pro erection medications?

20:17 Pro-penis approach

20:48 Medical evaluation is very important

21:49 Don't assume that because you have a medical problem, like cancer, diabetes, or heart condition, that you cannot be sexual

22:15 Missionary style is not the best position in your 60's. 70's, and 80's

25:26 This show is produced by Katie Jensen at Vocal Fry Studios

25:32 Show ideas or questions? Email [email protected] and follow me on Instagram @getsome_podcast

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Who's leveling up in the game of life? Raise a toast and light some virtual candles because GETSOME turns one today!  

Listen to the three knowledge bombs dropped over the past year that expanded our minds like cosmic jelly beans.

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How would you answer "How do you do oral sex?"  without going into graphic detail about how you actually do oral sex? We came up with the best analogy. Tune in to feel all warm and fuzzy.

Also, if you are looking for great oral sex tips and tricks check out;

Coral:  https://getcoral.app/

OMGyes:  https://start.omgyes.com/join

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Today, we are going to take you on a journey exploring the intersection of eating disorders and sexuality. This episode will not only be helpful for clinicians but also for people who have struggled to experience pleasure in their body stemming from complicated relationships with food and body image. We sit down with Kelli Young, the only Certified Sex Therapist in Canada with a combined expertise in the field of eating disorders and sexuality. Kelli has worked in the field of Eating Disorders for more than 30 years, both in the public and private sectors.  She has authored publications in professional journals and popular media, and she has presented internationally on topics related to eating disorders, couples, and sexuality.  Kelli has a private practice in Toronto focused on relationship therapy and sex therapy. Are you ready to discover ways to support others or rediscover your own path to pleasure after navigating a complex relationship with food? Let's begin.

Show notes:

Eating Disorders versus Disordered Eating

Eating Disorders happen across genders 

Common types of disorders 

Survival vs Sex

Trauma history

Vaginismus

Pelvic pain

Eating disorders and their impact on relationships 

Reclaiming your relationship with your body and pleasure

Where to find Kelli Young:

https://kelliyoungtherapy.com/

Support for Eating Disorders:

https://nedic.ca/

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Ever wondered how sex workers balance personal and professional lives? Are you curious about their clients and partners? Our highly-anticipated guests Elizabeth Weisz and Katherine Van Meyl from Season 1  are back and ready to get personal. Ever heard of the term Internalized Whorephobia? You're about to. This is a conversation you won't want to miss.

Show Notes:

Who are the clients?

Sliding scale for people with disabilities 

Balancing the personal with the professional

Pregnancy and sex work

Transferable skills

Find Elizabeth Weisz Here:

www.meetelizabethweisz.com

Twitter: @YourElizabethTO 

IG: @Ellieweisz_to 

Find Katherine Van Meyl Here:

https://umbrellainsights.ca/

Twitter: @KatVanMeyl 

IG: @KatVanMeyl 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherine-van-meyl/

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De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar  is Missouri's first Black Christian AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, who helps clients navigate the intersection of faith and sexuality, particularly for those who may be struggling with guilt or shame around their sexual desires and behaviors. We talk about how De-Andrea removes shame from conversations around sex by using scripture that supports pleasure, a pro choice, orgasm, pleasure perspective.  We also cover the systemic issues reinforcing the barriers to having more Black certified sex therapists in the field and what White Sex Therapists need to know about how racism continues to impact Black peoples relationship with sex - and how this will continue to be reinforced as White Sex Therapists continue working from a model of sex therapy that is based on the western White person’s experience.

Show Notes:

Wanting Christians to have good sex

Systemic racism and how it affects the representation of Black people in the field of sex therapy

Using Jesus as a conduit to carry the shame

Having shame free sex doesn't mean you have to leave behind your faith

How to be Christian and pro-choice

How racism impacts the way Black men view themselves as sexual beings

Some ways of thinking about sex as a Black woman that more White sex therapists should know about

Find De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar Here:

https://www.sankofasextherapy.com/therapists

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Lisa and Michelle play Six Degrees of Sue Johanson 

Sue’s first birth control clinic at Don Mills Collegiate was where Michelle went to highschool

Michelle and Lisa reminisce about their personal sex education memories from high school

Lisa meets the lovely and still spunky Sue

Pregnancy and sex

Getting acquainted with your vulva after giving birth

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