Getting used to it, Midlife

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This bonus episode was originally released in Season 2, but we felt it deserved another moment in the spotlight with you. Whether you missed it the first time or want a refresher, this episode reveals how deeply our body image and self-worth get entangled—and how to start separating them.

We picked up Anuschka Rees' Beyond Beautiful thinking it was just another book about body image. But it cracked something open for us—showing us just how much mental and emotional space our bodies have been taking up, often without us even realizing it.

In this episode, we talk about what we found in those pages: how body image can quietly dominate our sense of self-worth, why we're all working with beauty standards that were never really ours to begin with, and what it might feel like to step back from the mirror a little bit—especially now, in midlife, when everything's shifting anyway.

We share our own stories—the moments we've caught ourselves waiting for our bodies to cooperate before we could feel okay—and explore what body neutrality actually means when you're getting used to a body that keeps changing. Not as a fix, but as a practice. A way of reclaiming energy we didn't know we'd given away.

This isn't about having it figured out. It's about noticing, questioning, and maybe finding a little more freedom in who we are beyond what we see. Because maybe getting used to midlife also means getting used to caring a little less about all of this.

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Loneliness can sneak into the busiest years. We're exploring friendship in midlife—why connection feels harder now, what's really shifting, and how to build bonds that fit this season. We unpack the "friendship recession," trace how modern life rewires intimacy, and get practical: friendship is a skill, not a lightning strike. Learn simple moves like choosing aligned activities, initiating consistently, asking better questions, and investing in a mosaic of connections—from casual buddies to soul-deep confidants. Pick three people, go one notch deeper than small talk, and build friendships with care and courage. If this resonates, follow the show and share it with someone who needs to hear it.

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Googling “what should I eat in midlife” at 2 AM? Suzee and Beth share their own diet detours, surprises, and laughs while figuring out what keeps them feeling strong, capable, and vibrant.

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"Cougar puberty"—aka perimenopause—has gone viral. Suzee and Beth share their own second-wave puberty stories with humor, honesty, and plenty of laughs about the midlife changes we’re all getting used to.

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Think your brain peaked at 25? Think again. Science says learning new stuff in midlife can actually make your brain act 30 years younger (Botox for your neurons, anyone?). In this episode, we dive into why midlife is prime time for picking up fresh skills, busting old “I’m bad at math” stories, and why Mahjong might just be the new pickleball.

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What happens when menopause meets culture? In this episode, we explore how midlife is understood—and misunderstood—across the globe. Some countries embrace it. Others hide it. And a few? They turn it into something sacred.

From whispered taboos to public policy, herbal wisdom to spiritual awakening, we uncover surprising truths about how the world handles this universal transition. Let’s just say: not every country sees menopause the way you think they do.

Tune in for a global conversation that might just change the way you see your own midlife story. And tell us—how does your culture handle menopause?

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Ever felt like everyone else got the memo about their life's purpose except you? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore how purpose isn't something you find—it's something you create. We share how most of us don’t have a single, dramatic “aha” moment, but instead piece it together over time. Beth talks about how her natural pull toward building community has quietly shaped her path, while Suzee reflects on her lifelong fascination with human behavior and creative expression as signs of a purpose that was there all along.

We also explore how legacy, creativity, and connection often emerge as meaningful themes in midlife, and how revisiting your old bucket list can reveal what truly matters now. The biggest shift? Realizing purpose evolves. It doesn’t have to be one fixed calling. If you’re feeling unsure or just curious about what’s next, this episode offers a more grounded, flexible way to think about living with purpose—one that grows with you.

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Whether retirement feels distant or imminent for you, this episode offers a fresh perspective on crafting a post-work life filled with purpose, community, and joy. We explore the delicate balance between monk-like serenity and rock star adventures while acknowledging that proximity to family, weather preferences, and financial realities all shape our options. Join us as we reimagine retirement not as an ending but as an exciting new beginning designed around your unique passions and values.

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Two life coaches dive into the most devastating experiences they've faced as families, creating a powerful space for understanding grief, trauma, and healing. Suzee reveals the heart-wrenching journey through her teenage son's suicide attempt and subsequent hospitalization. She describes the surreal experience of having to surrender her child's care to professionals while simultaneously processing a staggering series of deaths in their social circle during that same year.

Beth shares the trauma of losing her only sibling to murder in Brazil thirteen years ago. With remarkable candor, she explains how she's only recently been able to acknowledge the drug-related circumstances of his death and the unique pain of losing "the last witness" to her early life history.

Their conversation weaves through the complexities of processing trauma - both as individuals and as family units. They discuss how Western culture's discomfort with grief often leaves people isolated in their darkest moments, expected to "move on" when they're still in shock. Both women reflect on how their families navigated these crises, with spouses, children, and themselves all processing events in vastly different ways.

What emerges is a profound exploration of how grief changes over time but never truly disappears. Even years later, both women are still discovering aspects of their trauma they haven't fully processed. Their professional coaching backgrounds provide unique insights into supporting others through crisis without adding to their burden.

This deeply moving episode offers no easy answers, but rather something more valuable - permission to acknowledge the messiness of grief and the ongoing nature of healing. Whether you've faced similar circumstances or simply want to better support someone who has, this conversation provides compassionate guidance for life's most challenging moments.

If you or someone you know is struggling, you're not alone. You can call or text the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988—it's free, confidential, and available 24/7. Help is always available.

For listeners outside the U.S., please visit www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html for a list of international resources

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Feeling stuck or deflated with your physical strength and fitness after 50? Join us as we explore the transformative journey of embracing wellness as we age. We tackle the mindset that keeps us immobilized and discusses practical strategies for making meaningful changes, whether minor tweaks or significant lifestyle shifts. Is it patience? Commitment to a plan? We’ll share stories, insights, and expert advice that empower you to break free from limitations and cultivate a healthier, more vibrant life. Tune in and discover how to stay unstuck and thrive at any age!

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