Season 2 Finale | When the air turns crisp and the light disappears before dinner, something shifts. You crave soup, quiet, and candles—but your brain's shouting, "Keep going!" This week, Cassandra unpacks why our bodies ask for hibernation long before our calendars do, and how to rest intentionally instead of crashing into it.

You'll hear how a "grizzly bear season" taught her that rest isn't passive—it's participation. Because you can't just slap a "restored" tag on your chest and power through the holidays. You have to actually lie down in your own cave.

If you've ever entered January feeling like a raccoon after a rave, this one's for you.

Listen in to learn:

• Why rest won't stick if you don't participate in it

• How to notice your body's seasonal shifts before burnout does

• Why "permission to hibernate" might be your most productive move yet

🖤 Rooting for your rest, your soup and bread, and your quiet season.

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• Girl You Good? Membership — group coaching + private community for ambitious women who want sustainable growth and grounded connection. → cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

Turning 40 brought a kind of healing I didn't expect. My closest friends threw me a birthday party that felt more like a soul reset than a celebration. In the middle of the laughter, tears, and gifts, I had this vivid moment of feeling little — not small, but safe.

I saw my cousin's teary eyes, tissue paper everywhere, and realized… this is what it feels like to be loved without performance. To be messy and still adored. To receive like a little girl again — openly, fully, and without apology.

In this episode, I'm unpacking how powerful it can be when grown women let themselves receive like little girls — when we stop deflecting love, stop minimizing our needs, and allow ourselves to be cared for.

Because women spend so much of life giving, but real connection starts when we learn to let love in.

You don't actually feel guilty—you feel uncomfortable.

In this episode, Cassandra breaks down one of the most common emotional mix-ups: guilt versus discomfort. We use "guilty" as a catch-all for every twinge of anxiety, people-pleasing, or fear of disappointing someone—but true guilt only applies when a repair is needed.

If you didn't do something wrong, you don't owe a repair. What you owe yourself is honesty about what's underneath the feeling.

Cassandra walks through real-life examples (including the "forgot to invite the guests" birthday scenario) to help you tell the difference between false guilt and real accountability—and explains why mislabeling every hard emotion as guilt cheats you out of clarity and growth.

You'll learn: • What guilt is actually designed to do • Why false guilt keeps you stuck in people-pleasing • How to reframe discomfort as growth • Why "she's not that helpless and I'm not that powerful" might become your new mantra

By the end, you'll stop apologizing for having limits and start recognizing that discomfort doesn't mean you've done something wrong—it means you're evolving.

🖤 Rooting for you, Cassandra Pickett, LMFT Certified Clini-Coach®

The Time I Lost a Friend

Sometimes "helping" isn't actually helping.

In this episode, I share the story of a friendship I lost when I stepped into a conflict that wasn't mine to solve. From chasing silence and losing sleep, to realizing I was spiraling in my people-pleasing era, this is the moment I learned the hard truth:

👉 I'm not that powerful. And she's not that helpless.

You'll hear:

• Why "fixing" someone else's problem can damage the very relationship you're trying to protect

• How over-functioning and codependency sneak into friendships

• The obsessive stress and anxiety that come with chasing closure

• The hindsight lesson: we weren't actually a good fit — and how wellness helps me see that now

• A reminder for when you feel responsible for other people's conflicts

Listen in and see where you might be carrying conversations that don't belong to you.

If your life was a movie, what would the audience be screaming at you right now? In this episode, I'll teach you how to use the "movie lens" trick to spot blind spots, catch old patterns, and push into your growth edge. You'll learn how to move beyond self-reflection and actually hold the edge—so growth sticks instead of slipping away.

https://www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

What if your group chat habits are actually a mirror of how you show up in life? In this episode, I share a story about a friend overwhelmed by constant chat notifications—and how that opened the door to a bigger truth about boundaries, over-functioning, and connection. Plus, I'll give you a simple skill you can use right now to set group-chat boundaries that translate into healthier boundaries everywhere.

https://www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

Can't take a compliment without making it weird? Same, girl—until I learned better. In this episode, I share a story from the football field that reminded me how powerful it is to just say thank you—no qualifiers, no self-deprecation—and hold it. You'll walk away with a two-week challenge to retrain your brain to stop dodging and start owning your worth.

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Do you ever find yourself zoning in instead of zoning out? In this episode, Cassandra breaks down the difference and why ambitious women rarely get the mental break of zoning out. Instead, we hyper-focus on stress, guilt, and stories we tell ourselves—leading straight to exhaustion.

You'll learn:

• Why "zoning in" is actually an energy leak

• How to tell the difference between real data and a nonsense spiral

• Practical ways to honor your body's actual needs instead of staying stuck in stress

✨ Want more than just the podcast? A great way to zone in on you is inside the Girl You Good Membership. You'll get biweekly live group coaching, a private community, tons of content, and exclusive discounts for 1:1 sessions.

Season 2 is here! We're kicking it off with a real-life lesson I had to check myself on: over-functioning when I didn't need to. In this episode, I share the story of a colleague reaching out, the sneaky pressure I felt to deliver more than what was asked, and the moment I realized: That's all I got—and it's enough.

We'll talk about the beige flags of over-functioning—the subtle ways we disguise over-doing as being "helpful" or "a good leader." And I'll give you practical tools for spotting when you're taking on too much responsibility, even in those small, everyday moments.

You'll learn:

• Why sneaky "beige flags" are just as important as big red flags

• How over-functioning hides under the mask of helpfulness

• Simple ways to recognize when you've given enough—and let it stand

✨ Ready for more than the podcast? Join us inside the Girl You Good Membership where we go deeper every week with coaching, tools, and community. You're right where you belong—and we're about to make growth fun.

https://www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

📌 Episode 9 Show Notes: Whose Crisis Is This, Really?

In this episode, Cassandra explores what happens when high-achieving women confuse empathy with over-responsibility. If you're always the first to jump into fix-it mode, especially for other people's emotional chaos, this one's for you.

You'll hear:

• Why emotional boundaries are just as vital as time boundaries

• How we're conditioned—especially in motherhood—to respond like it's always our job

• A key question to ask before you absorb someone else's crisis

• The difference between supporting and solving

This is your permission to stop being the emotional EMT for everyone else—and start responding from your values, not your autopilot.

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