📌 Episode 9 Show Notes: Whose Crisis Is This, Really?

In this episode, Cassandra explores what happens when high-achieving women confuse empathy with over-responsibility. If you’re always the first to jump into fix-it mode, especially for other people’s emotional chaos, this one’s for you.

You’ll hear:

• Why emotional boundaries are just as vital as time boundaries

• How we’re conditioned—especially in motherhood—to respond like it’s always our job

• A key question to ask before you absorb someone else’s crisis

• The difference between supporting and solving

This is your permission to stop being the emotional EMT for everyone else—and start responding from your values, not your autopilot.

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Season 1 finale! 

Join Cassandra in a reflective exercise to identify a place, space, or person you want to uplift before Season 2 begins — and yes, that includes you.

Plus, get excited for a bonus episode dropping next week!

Thanks for being part of this journey — Can’t wait to see what Season 2 holds.

You’re Not Cold—You’re Burned Out (and It’s Costing Your Connection)

It’s not that you don’t care. It’s not that you’re distant on purpose. It’s burnout—and it’s making it harder to connect with the people you love most.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

• How emotional burnout makes high-achievers feel unavailable in their own lives

• Why disconnection doesn’t mean disinterest

• The cost of pushing through without restoration

• What to do when showing up starts to feel like going through the motions

This is your permission slip to stop pretending you're fine—and start being honest about what you actually need.

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🔔 And don’t forget—next week is the Season 1 finale of The Girl… You Good?. Season 2 drops October 7th.

Do you ever feel like you're doing everything for everyone — and lowkey raging about it? 😅 In this episode, we’re talking resentment, silent scorekeeping, and how even the most helpful people hit their limit.

Cassandra shares a yoga moment that hilariously reveals just how wired she is to fix what isn’t even hers to carry — and why that pattern leads to burnout and bitterness if we don’t call it out.

In this episode:

• What silent scorekeeping sounds like in your head

• Why your capacity isn’t the same as your calling

• The trap of helping from guilt instead of overflow

• A gentler way to love, support, and not lose yourself in the process

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We’re talking about emotional minimizing — why we downplay our feelings, how it shows up in everyday life, and what it costs us in the long run.

Cassandra shares her own pattern of staying calm in crisis but spinning out over small things, how her friend group (“the board”) helps her process, and why validation isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity.

In this episode:

• The hidden roots of emotional avoidance

• How minimizing protects you — and when it backfires

• Signs something is actually that deep

• What it means to self-validate (even when no one else gets it)

If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” while falling apart quietly — this one’s for you.

Episode 8 – Ride the Wave: How to Actually Have the Hard Conversation

In this episode, Cassandra walks you through the psychology of avoiding difficult conversations and gives you a practical way to approach them differently. Learn why discomfort isn’t a red light—it’s just a cue. And when you ride the wave instead of running from it? That’s where change lives.

What you’ll hear:

• Why discomfort isn’t always a warning—it’s a cue

• What “urge surfing” is and how it applies to conversations

• Why avoiding hard conversations creates long-term tension

• How to prep for a difficult conversation you’ve been putting off

• A step-by-step visualization to help you move forward

Resources Mentioned:

• More on urge surfing: [Link if desired—can be added]

• Coaching or therapy support: [Insert your own service link if offering]

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In this episode, Cassandra breaks down the concept of over-identification—how it sabotages self-trust and ramps up anxiety—and offers real-world strategies for practicing self-compassion instead.

You’ll hear:

• What “over-identification” really means

• Why the words you use matter more than you think

• How to stop becoming your emotions, thoughts, or diagnosis

• Mindful swaps to help your brain rewire itself

• A free tool to assess your self-compassion score

📎 Take Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion Quiz: https://self-compassion.org/test-how-self-compassionate-you-are/

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Every spring, I find myself dreaming of the magical summer I’m going to create — the bucket lists, the smoothie-making, the reading charts, the big outings. But year after year, I’d hit August and wonder… how did I miss it?

In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about the summer I finally realized I was working against my own brain in pursuit of Pinterest-level memories. And more importantly — how I reset.

You’ll hear:

• Why your summer doesn't have to look like anyone else’s

• How to build a realistic “magic container” for your season

• Why presence always matters more than performance

• And how one summer with a painfully mismatched bucket list helped me shift my mindset for good

Whether you’re rocking themed snack days or just trying to keep everyone in clean underwear, this episode will remind you that your version of magic counts.

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Episode 5: The Snap Isn’t Always About the Kids

Ever find yourself yelling “WHAT?!” at your sweet, joyful kid — and then feel like the worst? You're not alone, and you’re not a monster. In this episode, we break down why those snapping moments happen and how they’re often not about the thing — but about the lack of transition.

Cassandra shares a real-life moment (involving spaghetti, a school app, and a lot of noise) and unpacks the powerful truth behind our multi-tasking overload. You’ll walk away with a mindset shift and a tangible micro-strategy to help you stay grounded in the moment — especially when it’s loud and messy.

In this episode:

• Why multitasking makes us snappy

• The invisible stressors of everyday life

• A simple reset strategy you can use in the moment

• A reminder that presence isn’t about perfection

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In this episode, we explore how self-doubt can serve as a smart internal system and how it can sneakily sabotage our confidence. I share how living with OCD has shaped my relationship with decision-making and the lightbulb moment a therapist gave me about how we subconsciously curate our own validation. We also unpack a few signs to know when it’s time to check in with your trusted circle—or when you’re just outsourcing your knowing.

We talk:

• Why self-doubt isn’t always bad

• What makes it shift from helpful to harmful

• The frequency + intensity filter for external validation

• How to start building grounded confidence

This episode is for my high-capacity, thoughtful people who’ve ever texted a bestie, “Does this sound okay?” 10 times in a row.

Referenced: If you want to dig deeper into high-functioning anxiety and validation-seeking behaviors, I highly recommend Terri Cole’s work and her book Boundary Boss.

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