In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, we tackle the nuanced experiences of bisexual people in same-gender relationships. Have you ever felt "not straight enough to be bi"? For many bi+ individuals, being in a queer-presenting or same-gender relationship often leads to being mistaken as gay or lesbian, resulting in unique challenges and privileges.

We unpack what it means to navigate the world as a bi person in a same-gender relationship, the dynamics of "gay-passing" privilege, and how these intersections shape identity, community, and visibility. We also explore how to embrace your bisexuality fully, foster meaningful connections, and address feelings of imposter syndrome within the LGBTQIA+ community.

Highlights include:

• Navigating "gay-passing" privilege and the visibility struggle in same-gender relationships
• Overcoming internalised biphobia and toxic masculinity in forming same-sex platonic friendships
• Dating in same-sex circles as a bisexual person—unique joys, challenges, and navigating spaces
• How your partner can support your visibility and identity

Plus, we dive into listener questions and comments, including a video submission on why it's important to clarify "gay-passing" relationships, and explore how to find pride in your unique place in the queer spectrum.

This is a can't-miss episode for anyone navigating identity, visibility, and community as a bisexual person in same-gender relationships.

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In this episode, Chad Barnier and Steve Spencer delve into the complexities of bisexuality in different-gender relationships. They tackle the challenges of societal perceptions, biphobia, and "straight-passing privilege." Through personal anecdotes and insights from the bi+ community, the hosts explore the need for visibility, validation, and joy in bisexual identities. Together, they confront myths, celebrate positive representations, and offer practical resources for bisexual individuals and their allies.

• The Myth of Straight-Passing Privilege: The misconception that bisexuals in different-gender relationships have an advantage is debunked with personal insights and research data.
• Reframing the Narrative: Shifting the focus from doom and gloom to joy and thriving in bi+ relationships.
• Community Insights: Contributions from the Give It To Me Bi Facebook group highlight real-life experiences and challenges.
• Partner Support: Navigating the journey of coming out in a relationship, with an emphasis on communication and allyship.
• The Role of Communication: How vulnerability and open dialogue can strengthen relationships and challenge stereotypes.
• Intersection with Mental Health: The impact of erasure and exclusion on bisexual individuals' mental health.
• Resources for Allies: Tools and information to help allies support their bisexual loved ones effectively.

Books Mentioned:

• For the Love of Men by Liz Plank
• The Will to Change by Bell Hooks

Podcasts Mentioned:

• The Man Enough Podcast

Articles and Videos:

• Do Bisexuals Have Access to Straight Privilege? by Jamie Arpin-Ricci
• Passing Bi: Bi+ People in "Straight-Facing" Relationships (YouTube)

Helpful Resources:

• How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

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In this World AIDS Day special, Chad and Steve deliver an open, heartfelt, and deeply informative conversation about HIV and AIDS. Steve shares his personal journey as a person living with HIV, exploring the importance of testing, treatment, and education. We dive into groundbreaking medical advancements, including the U=U (Undetectable Equals Untransmittable) campaign and PrEP, while also tackling stigma and the historical impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis on the LGBTQ+ community. This episode is packed with life-changing insights, resources, and a message of hope for ending the HIV epidemic.

• World AIDS Day Themes: Discussion of the global theme "Take the Rights Path" and Australia's "It Starts With Me," highlighting rights-based approaches to ending the HIV epidemic.
• U=U Explained: Steve shares his experience of achieving an undetectable viral load through antiretroviral treatment, emphasising that undetectable equals untransmittable.
• HIV Testing Advocacy: The importance of regular testing, with a shoutout to free, at-home HIV test kits available at hivtest.au.
• Breaking Stigma: Tackling misconceptions and societal judgment faced by people living with HIV, especially in the bi+ community.
• PrEP and Prevention: An introduction to pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), its effectiveness, and how it empowers individuals to prevent HIV transmission.
• Personal Stories: Steve opens up about his diagnosis journey, sharing how community support and modern medicine transformed his outlook on life.
• Historical Context: Reflecting on the devastating impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis and the resilience of the queer community.

• HIV Self-Testing Kits: hivtest.au
• PrEP Access Now: pan.org.au
• BiSHH Study: bishhstudy.com
• Documentary: How to Survive a Plague (2012)
• Bi Positive Advocacy Network: [email protected]

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In this episode, 10 Surprising Truths About Bisexuality and Bi Clapbacks, we're unpacking the realities of being bi—the unexpected, the challenging, and the joyful. We’re taking a deep dive into the truths of bisexuality, from the misconceptions to the moments of pride that make it all worthwhile.

But we’re not stopping there. We’re also equipping you with the ultimate clapbacks for those tired stereotypes that bi folks hear all too often. Whether it’s the classic "Isn’t bisexuality transphobic?" or "Why do you have to tell everybody?", we've got the perfect responses to help you handle them with confidence and humour.

We’re exploring topics like:

• The surprising truths about being bi that most people don’t talk about.
• How biphobia shows up, even in queer spaces, and how we deal with it.
• Our favourite clapbacks to common misconceptions about bisexuality.

Whether you’re bi, questioning, or just want to learn more, this episode is packed with insights, laughs, and the tools you need to navigate bisexuality with pride.

Resources & Links:

• BISHH Study: The first community-led and conducted online national survey to ask bi+ people in Australia about their sexual health, relationships, wellbeing, and more. The survey is anonymous, takes about 30-45 minutes, and is open to anyone under the bi+ umbrella.
• How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual - A helpful guide for friends, family, and allies.
• Join our community on Facebook and connect with other bi+ folks!
• Subscribe to our Newsletter to stay updated on all things Give It To Me Bi.

More from Give It To Me Bi:

• Website
• TikTok
• Instagram

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In this special follow-up to our AMA episode, we're diving into your questions about bisexuality. We had so many fantastic questions from our community that we decided to split our AMA into two parts—this one is all about bisexuality, identity, and everything in between.

We’re tackling questions like:

• How do you stay visible as a bisexual person in a heteronormative world?
• What’s it like to come out as bi after identifying as gay?
• How do you express your attraction to other genders in a monogamous relationship?

Whether you're questioning, out and proud, or just curious, this episode covers a wide range of topics, from personal insights to practical advice. Plus, we explore how bisexuality intersects with masculinity, relationships, and the different ways people can experience attraction.

If you’ve ever felt caught between labels or struggled with how to stay true to your identity, this episode is for you.

Resources & Links:

• BISHH Study: The first community-led and conducted online national survey to ask bi+ people in Australia about their sexual health, relationships, wellbeing, and more. The survey is anonymous, takes about 30-45 minutes, and is open to anyone under the bi+ umbrella.
• How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual - A helpful guide for friends, family, and allies.
• Join our community on Facebook and connect with other bi+ folks!
• Subscribe to our Newsletter to stay updated on all things Give It To Me Bi.

More from Give It To Me Bi:

• Website: https://tinyurl.com/23vk62r3
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@giveittomebi
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/giveittomebi/

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In Episode 10, we take on a question that’s been floating around for ages: “Where are all the bi men?”

We dive deep into the unique challenges that bi men face, from societal expectations to internalised fears. We’re talking about everything—how masculinity and patriarchal norms have shaped our understanding of bisexuality, the stigma within both queer and straight communities, and the mental health impacts of staying closeted.

You’ll hear personal stories, the ups and downs of being out, and some heartfelt advice for anyone struggling to accept their own bi identity. We also celebrate our recent partnership with Star Observer! This episode has something for everyone, whether you're out, questioning, or just curious.

Resources & Links:

The Elixir Effect: Book Launch

Chad will be MC’ing the launch of The Elixir Effect, a story about identity, masculinity, and family. Join us for this exclusive event to meet the author, Peter Matthews, hear excerpts, and get a signed copy.

• 📅 Wednesday, 6 Nov, 5:50 pm - 8 pm AEDT
• 📍 Pullman Sydney Hyde Park, Darlinghurst, Australia

Register Here

Facebook Group

Join our community on Facebook, share your experiences, and stay connected with other bi+ folks and allies.

Join Here

How to Support Someone Who’s Just Come Out as Bisexual

We know coming out is a big deal, so we’ve put together this guide for allies who want to offer meaningful support.

Read the Guide

Give It To Me Bi:

• Website
• TikTok
• Instagram

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Chad and Steve dive headfirst into all of your burning questions and nothing’s off-limits!! From heartfelt insights into coming out, to the complexities of bi+ relationships–we’ve got stories about personal growth, awkward moments, and how we make sense of being bi+ in today’s world.

You’ll hear candid reflections on identity, practical advice for navigating relationships, and maybe a few confessions from our younger years. Whether you’re figuring it all out or feeling comfortable in your identity, there’s something here for everyone.

Plus, we couldn't resist sharing some music recommendations—tunes that have been our vibe lately (check out the playlists below!).

Spotify Playlists:

• Cunty Chappel Roan Summer: Listen Here
• Nancy Myers Kitchen Mix: Listen Here
• Bimlow - Jessica Bellef: Listen Here

Additional Resources:

• BISHH Study: Participate Here
• GITMB Website: Explore Here
• How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual: Read the Guide

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Curious about pegging but unsure where to start? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about pegging—from the practical, to the taboo, to the emotional. Whether you're new to the concept or an experienced enthusiast, our experts break down the myths, provide useful tips for first-timers, and dive into the personal and social dynamics that make pegging a unique and powerful experience.

You’ll hear from Steve and Britt as they share insights from their pegging workshops, discuss how to introduce pegging into your relationship, and why it has nothing to do with gender or sexuality. Plus, we tackle the often-avoided subject of douching, discuss consent, and offer some expert advice on how to make your experience safe, fun, and shame-free.

Resources & Links:

• "TGA: Don't Ban Poppers!" – Steve’s Change.org petition
• "‘It’s a war on bottoms’: poppers may soon be banned in Australia pending a TGA decision" – Steve in Star Observer RE Poppers Ban
• "The Australian Government Wants to Ban Poppers" – Steve in VICE RE Poppers Ban
• "Should amyl be banned? The TGA wants you to have your say" – triple j Hack

• Poppers info
• Steve’s favourite pegging song 🎶

More from Give It To Me Bi:

• Website
• Supporting Someone Coming Out
• Community Page

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 Hey everyone! In this episode, we (Chad and Steve) dive into the topic of coming out as bisexual. We talk about the different ways people experience coming out, how it's evolving into more of an "inviting in" process for some, and the unique challenges that bi people face compared to our gay and lesbian siblings.

We share stories of personal growth, community support, and the cultural shifts happening around bisexuality. Plus, we give you the inside scoop on the Buy Rainbow event we're co-hosting and discuss how visibility for the bi community is changing, both online and offline. Hope you enjoy!

Highlights

• The shift from "coming out" to "inviting in"
• Personal stories about our own coming out journeys
• Unique challenges bisexual individuals face compared to their gay and lesbian counterparts.
• The role of community support in embracing and celebrating bisexual identities.
• Steve may or may not have sent an 'interesting' picture to the wrong person

Connect with Us:

• Join our private Give It To Me Bi Facebook Group for deeper discussions and community support

Stay Connected:

• Follow us on TikTok and Instagram
• Subscribe to our email newsletter for updates
• Join our Facebook Group for more community fun

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Join us in this enlightening episode as we chat with Professor Christy Newman, a leading researcher from UNSW. We delve into the groundbreaking Bisexual+ Sexual Health and HIV (BISHH Study) that's opening new avenues for understanding. Christy shares insights on how research can shape real-world change and dives deep into the dynamics of bi+ relationships. From dating tips to partner support, and exploring bisexuality in monogamous relationships, we cover it all.

Highlights:

• The groundbreaking BISHH Study and how you can participate
• How research insights transform into real-world changes
• Navigating bi+ relationships: dating, partner support, and more

Resources:

• BISHH Study Participation
• Bisexuality Book by Julia Shaw | Amazon
• Bisexual Men Exist by Vaneet Mehta
• Professor Christy Newman's Profile
• Gallup Poll - 'LGBTQ+ Identification in U.S. Now at 7.6%'
• Will & Harper Trailer

Connect with Us:

• Join our private Give It To Me Bi Facebook Group for deeper discussions and community support

Stay Connected:

• Follow us on TikTok and Instagram
• Subscribe to our email newsletter for updates
• Join our Facebook Group for more community fun

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