Global Hypnotherapy with Aidan Noone

What is it that's holding you back?  I'm Irish living in Ireland, with a strong cultural upbringing.  Oftentimes the neighbours were conferred with an importance that in hindsight was illogical. I'm not referring to the normal and natural respect that one gives to ones neighbours and usually it is reciprocated. Whats I am referring to is a sort of, "keeping with with the Joneses", type of deference conferred upon them.  The truth is, what the neighbours think has very little to do with me! Just think about that!

"Oh, what will the neighbours think?", was often an utterance.

Methinks, it can be difficult to shake off that weight, that illogical and irrational concern about what the neighbours think.

As I grew older I eventually divested myself of that weight that I carried for many years.  When one invokes logical thinking and rationalisation the weight of worrying about what the neighbours think is slowly dissolved.  The reality is that you just become the topic of conversation for one day and then they move onto to someone else.

Anyway, one could do a jig or a reel in the street and it wouldn't change peoples minds about you. They will think what they want to think.

Why am I rabbiting on about all of this 'neighbour stuff'?

What we think other people think about us can be destroying. As I mention above, what other people think about me has very little to do with me.  They are free agents, free to ponder what they will.  Free to make up their own mind in any way they choose.

Human nature is such that we are meaning making beings, we apply meaning to everything, it's how we live and operate in and on  this world we call earth.  However, just be careful of the meanings you apply to happenchance and or happenstance events.

Have you heard of the law of thirds? Perhaps it's called something else? I know it as the law of thirds.  Maybe I created that terminology. Doubt it, though 🙂 .

One third of people will despise you and some will even hate you (very strong I know). Another third will be indifferent to you, a neither here nor there attitude towards you. Innocuous. Another third will absolutely adore you, they will be life long fans and would probably defend you if necessary. They will sing your praises, they just love you.

So get out there and just be yourself, do what you want to do, providing it is lawful, of course. What have you to lose or more importantly what have you to gain? Yes, it's all about being positive. The man or woman who never made a mistake, they never made anything.  In NLP there is a pre-supposition and it goes as follows - there is no such thing as failure, there is only feedback.   So, if something doesn't work out the way you had planned. What have you learned from that? What's the feedback?

Probably you have learned not to do the same thing in the same way in the same context, again.  Hopefully you have. Do something different and you will get something different.  It's a sign of tomfoolery to keep on doing what previous didn't work. Oh and by the way, I apply all of what I have said here, I apply it to myself

So, go on, get out there. Do something different and you'll get something different.   You only have the world to gain.

Hello Aidan Noone, here and thank you for being with me on this journey.

The question is: " Have you tried it yet, Are you doing it?"   What am I referring to? I'll let you in on a little secret that I find really powerful, empowering and creative.   Well, what is it?

It's getting up early in the morning, rising early. When I refer to early, I'm talking about rising from about 5am to 5.30am. For me, that's when I'm most creative.   My mind is full of thoughts and ideas. Generally, I write my thoughts, and ideas down on paper and if my phone is nearby I'll record directly into a recording app on my phone. I'm not a rocket scientist, nothing like that just stuff, and thoughts that I find inspiring and or motivational.  Stuff I need to pay attention to. Marshalling my thoughts. Organising them, one thought after another. Of course, rising early presupposes that one gets enough restful sleep, the previous night: recommended 7 to 8 hours sleep.  In summer time it's much easier to rise early with the daylight, winter can be challenging.

Anyway, I find rising early, I get stuff done. The back office stuff. Organising my day. Putting things into perspective and you probably know by now that I talk a lot about perspective, and putting things into perspective.  This is so important. Categorising stuff, placing it in the correct pile, the correct box, whether it be a mental file or a physical file, it's important to box it and label it for easy reference later on. I suppose it's all about organisation, organising things as best you can.

I find rising early, my day flows better and I'm much more productive and at the end of my day, generally I know I have achieved something worthwhile and satisfying.

And if you're not doing it, yet, Try it. You might Surprise yourself.

Hello, Aidan Noone here and I'm really happy to be with you again today, wherever you are in the world. And I hope you are doing reasonably ok.

Positive Affirmations, What are they?  How do they work?

Are positive affirmations any good? Are they useful? Do they Work? Lots of questions and I'm sure you'll get lots of different answers.

"I am strong and comfortable when asking my boss for a pay rise"  "As I rise from my seat and walk on stage to give my speech, I am energetic and determined as I know deep down my audience really wants to learn from me, and are totally interested in what I have to say" "Then, I know, this is what I enjoy doing." You feel it deep down inside you.

My opinion is that positive affirmations are much better than using negative affirmation.  What is a negative affirmation? Firstly, I believe it's important to know a little bit about how your mind works.  Your mind cannot process negative language. Example, "I don't want to be anxious."  The issue with the last sentence is that when your mind 'reads' this sentence, it deletes the word 'don't' and focusses on the action of the sentence. Therefore the sentence becomes, 'I want to be anxious". I'm sure you have often read at the end of a letter, "Please do not hesitate to contact us."   What does your mind do with that sentence?  Yes, it deletes the 'do not'  and the sentence becomes, 'hesitate to contact us.'

I would say that the use of appropriate specific language and use of specific words  has an effect on our neurology and subsequently affects our motivation. Again, our brain cannot process negative language, it focusses on action and outcomes.

"Don't think of a pink elephant" You immediately think of a pink elephant. You have to think about what you don't want before you think about what you do want".  Positively worded affirmations go straight to the heart of  actioning what we want to do, to achieve.

Always, always focus on the outcome, what you want as opposed to what you don't want.

I suggest you write out some positive affirmations, make a list and read the list every day and discover how they affect your neurology and how you are feeling and achieving.

"I am strong and comfortable as I present to my bosses today"

"Each day and every day I am better and better"

"I am motivated to succeed as deep down I know my audience wants to hear and learn from me."

Of course, physical action is also very important. We must want to achieve what we affirm in a positively worded affirmation and or suggestion.

There is a hundredfold amplification when affirmations are used in the hypnotic state. Hypnosis helps to embed and amplify positively worded suggestions.

Recently I returned from vacation, rested, and yet a little stressed from traveling, I do find air travel a little labourious at times. Perhaps, some of you may identify with my experience.  Anyway, I returned home, I have a reasonably large garden, to find the grass had really grown high and the weeds, yes the weeds. In some places, all I could see was weeds and not the real beauty of the varying shades of green we have in Ireland.  In themselves, weeds are beautiful, sometimes magnificent flowers and they do provide our bees and insects with much-needed nourishment.  I admit I do have a section of the garden that is wild, wild in that my friends the weeds have a place to grow and be themselves without interference from me.  However, my "enjoyment" garden has the least amount of weeds and I'm able to see the also beauty of hybrid plants, roses, honeysuckle, lobelia, and the ericaceous loving plants with their striking colours.

Each person, each environment has its own unique beauty in and of itself. I don't necessarily add anything to their beauty. I can appreciate their beauty and delight in their beauty.

So where am I going with all of this?  Sometimes, we think a garden must be a certain specific way, look a certain way, behave a certain way, and yet there is beauty in the "disorganised".  Also, sometimes we allow the weeds to destroy our vision of the beauty of a garden as it was designed. The expression, "I cannot see the wood for the trees" comes to mind.  It's whatever brings you peace and joy and happiness, whatever happiness means?  Each to their own!   You can decide, you can design and you can choose!  What's your choice?

When was the last time you truly listened to someone?  Oh yes, we all listen, and yet do we hear what is being said? Growing up in the 1960s in Ireland, Children were to be seen and not heard.  Thankfully, largely that is now changed, and for the good.  Yet are we listening? Are we hearing what is being said to us? Spoken to us?  Are you listening? Are you being heard? Are you being valued?

Are you being listened to? I'm sure you can identify times when you've had something really important to say, important to you, and yet the person with whom you were speaking, just said, "yes" and moved on. You expected a much fuller response.

When someone is speaking to you, do you generally turn and face them? Giving them space to say what they want to say? Do you believe it's necessary to ask questions just for the sake of asking questions?    Or are you there, remaining largely silent and maybe just offering a short clarifying question?

Sometimes it's not necessary to say anything when someone else just wants to be heard.

Next time, turn and face that person, whom you are speaking with,  whom you value because to be listened to and to be truly heard demonstrates enormous respect.  Look at their face!  Ask only short clarifying questions, if necessary. And remember, sometimes people just want to be listened to without you having to give any significant response. Momentary eye contact, friendly facial expressions, head nods, leaning into the person speaking.  It is said that in the communication process over  80% is non-verbal. Resist the temptation to just jump in and say something. You being present, body and mind is probably the most that anyone can respectfully give to another and what can be reasonably expected in return.

Some time ago I had the opportunity to visit my old Primary school. That was 45 years ago.    From a child's perspective, which was my perspective then, everything seemed enormous. and overpowering.  Remembering, there was over 30 boys in the classroom at that time.  The classroom then looked huge. And yet now 45 years later as an adult everything seems so tiny compared to what I remember.   The only difference, the classroom now had an electronic blackboard linked to the internet, we didn't have that back then, was the internet even invented then, don't think so.    Even the schoolyard seemed way smaller than I remember.  100's of boys running and playing.

The point I'm making is that when we are in the thick of things, it all seems perhaps daunting, much bigger than it really is. Maybe even overpowering and feeling lost.  45 years later, I was an adult visiting my school. I wasn't that shy, blond-headed boy anymore. I felt powerful and in control.  A different perspective is possible, it may takes years and yet it is still possible. I didn't know back 45 years ago that 45 years later, I am that person that I am right now.  Life experience can provide you with the tools to change your life for the good.

As a human being you have a vast store house of learnings and happenings, indeed resources,  from your birth right up to now. You may not be consciously aware of these resources and yet, there they are stored in your unconscious mind.

Right inside your mind you have an infinite storage of a wealth of knowledge and intuition.  Have you ever been mulling over a problem and constantly trying to solve that problem, perhaps consciously spending hours if not days doing so.

Then one night you go to bed and you dream and in that dream, your subconscious presents to you the solution to your problem. It does so, sometimes, in the most vivid way. So there you are you've wrecked your brain trying to solve that problem and all the time your subconscious mind already had the answer. Perhaps there's some truth in the saying, "take a break and get out of your own way" Go do something different to what you've been doing.

When you do so  you suddenly arrive at the answer. Or when you sleep on a problem you get the answer - almost by magic.  You have a vast storehouse of infinite knowledge and creativity thats there ready to be accessed.

That creative part of your mind can be accessed by using hypnosis. You simply access the hypnotic state, whilst hypnosis is not relaxation, you may experience relaxation in the hypnotic state and again you may not experience relaxation.

Thats not really the important part of what we are talking about. It's accessing that creative intuitive part thats important and asking that part to provide to you the solution to that problem you have been trying to solve, in its own time,

You are presented with the answer. .  Hypnosis is that powerful tool to help you access that infinite well of wisdom and creativity right inside you.

Just think about it, isn't it time to get rid of that no can-do mindset, The I'm not as good as others mindset. The truth be known, there will always be slimmer/fatter / taller /shorter/ better looking/ less better looking people/ wealthy /less wealthy/ earn more money/earn less money people. Accept that you are all that is necessary, right now, right at this moment. That right at tis moment in time you are in the right place with the right resources, possessing all that is necessary to live the life you are living. However, because of the unstoppable creative abundant mind we all possess there will always be options available to us. Discovering for yourself that right inside you, you have a portal, a door way that is currently locked, or just not quite as clear as you'd like it to be in order to access it, to open it and break thru to where you want to be.  Remember, where you want to be, you may already be there. You just may not be currently fully conscious of it.  That may sound a bit strange or weird.  Have you heard the expression, never look a gift horse in the mouth?  Go discover, enjoy, savour, delight in the unique person that you are. There is no one else like you on this earth.

Just continuing with our theme on how words and phrases can affect our neurology and can either embed us in a problem state or orientate our awareness to find solutions and become solution-oriented. We may not have overtly stated what exactly we have been doing over the past few sessions as I believe it's important that we each discover for ourselves what and where exactly we want: where we want to orientate our neurology, ie to solution state or to problem state.  No one wants to be stuck in a problem state.

In previous sessions, we mentioned the words,"imagine" "discover" and "allow yourself.

Let's try a few more I'm grateful and I acknowledge the work of Jason Linett in this specific area.

The word - "remember"   Of course, it depends on what you are remembering. Let's assume it's a positive event you are remembering. For example, "Remember a time when you felt really positive and motivated and as you remember that specific event, connect that positivity to what it is you are achieving right now. And as you do so, you can discover new ways to motivate yourself to achieve way more than you ever thought possible.   So we are rediscovering past positive events and revivifying them, energising them and using the positivity associated with those past events and applying them, now in the present day.

Perhaps this is a new way of looking at things, maybe a new perspective. After all, gaining a new perspective can provide useful insight.

Today you  can allow yourself to discover new ways in which you can use words to inspire, motivate and invigorate yourself

To inspire yourself to move forward to discover more, whatever more means to you!

Just think about the phrase - just imagine, just allow yourself,  discover new ways,

Just imagine, allowing yourself to discover new ways in which u too, can use that newfound confidence to motivate yourself to greater success.  Allow yourself is an invitation to someone to take ownership of a series of suggested actions.

Just imagine,

Just allow yourself

Discover how you too can