Go With God

After our conversation on purity culture, we went over to @notmpodcast and asked some questions: Where are the gaps in what you know about intimacy? In what you knew?

We enter marriage with an expectation. An idea. And when that expectation isn’t met, when the idea remains just that...an idea...we’re left with disappointment and apprehension.

I didn't realize until my adult years how often small talk is required of you. Whether it's in the office, on the first day of class, at your kid's baseball game, at the family dinner when your aunt decides to invite her neighbors…small talk is a requirement of adulthood. These Did Anyone Tell You Episodes are here to equip you with some quick pieces of information to keep in your back pocket to use to amaze your acquaintances. Amaze is probably a slight overstatement. But just slightly.

One of the key parts of going deeper - our intention for 2021 - is showing up. Whether it's for your personal growth or relational growth - going deeper requires you to show up.

Wait, wait, wait. This isn't about your new year resolution or your word for 2021. It's more...focused. Intentional. On purpose.

Here it is. The end of 2020 coming in hot, but I think we can say this year as a whole has continually come in hot. I was hoping we could end the year with the balance of mindful and mindless we’ve all been trying strike. You know, trying to be mindful of the space we’re in, the time we spend, but also needing a break from all the personal growth we, at times, felt pressured to undergo this year.

Some weeks, I just need to unload, you know? I need some time to decompress and just talk about life here and now. Not what I want it to be, not what I wish I could do or be - but the current state of affairs. It just feels better to talk it all out, you know? So, here I am with one of No One Told Me's favorites, Brooke, talking about life which includes, but isn't limited to, virtual school, quarantine, home building, raising kids, why we say yes to chaos, the pressures of the car pick up line and why my bumper isn't attached to my car. Also, botox. Because let me tell you something, it has been a highlight of 2020.

Reminder: Moving is the worst. And just like with moving when you discover random baskets filled with a watch battery, a phone from 2008 and sunglass cases for sunglasses you lost three years ago – we all need to be reminded that things deserve to have places in our homes and when they don’t we have to face them eventually. The only exception is junk drawers. You’re allowed three of those within your home. Who am I kidding? You’re allowed as many as it takes to make sure said junk is out of sight. I guess I just think it’s a good thing to have some reminders every season on what makes our homes spaces we are able to rest. Something about an organized house makes the disorganization in my head a little less…distracting.  Anyway, this conversation with home organizer, Kristi Clover, has some easy practices for making your space, your home, office, dorm room, car…less blah and more yeah. When I wrote that, it felt right. Now I’m a little unsure. Anyway, here’s our conversation.

This episode is for anyone who has felt like you’re not __________ enough. Funny, quiet, inviting, loud, happy, empathetic – enough. Holley Gerth is an author and life coach I stumbled on because of her passion for building real, life-shaping relationships by leaning into who you are instead of what you feel like someone expects you to be. This episode is also for those of us who take a minute to figure out how to make friends once you’re out of your college bubble. How do you continue to lean into growing relationships when everything else pulls you away from it? Really, just, how do you make friends? See, a bunch of us adults are asking the question for the first time because we’ve lived our lives essentially being friends with whoever we’re around. And then we go into the real world and learn, usually the hard way, friendships are intentional – not optional. They don’t just happen. It requires vulnerability, authenticity and – most importantly – time.  Many of you have been asking the same question this year: How do you make friends as an adult? And I just happened to discover this episode Holly and I recorded a while back and knew now was the perfect time to air it.

I like spooky stories. Until I try to go to sleep. Khari and Kaley jump on for our monthly Did Anyone Tell You episode with the perfect stories for your night around the campfire. And an ending that surprised us all. Mainly because the batteries ran out on the recorder. Enjoy.