God Hears Her Podcast

We all experience loss. The loss of dreams. The loss of relationships. The loss of people we love. But we serve a God who can use loss for our good, and that’s what today’s episode is all about. Join Elisa and Eryn as they discuss not only what they’ve lost, but also what they’ve found. 

Notes and Quotes: 

• “I went through a divorce; and before the divorce I was grieving what I thought I had [as a future]. Divorce is a death; it is like a death.”
• Treat your marriage, or other relationship, like its own breathing entity. Is it healthy?
• “Loss is like a bucking bronco. It throws us up in the air, and sometimes we come down and land on the back of the horse and sometimes we . . . land in the dirt.”
• “You can experience so many kinds of different losses, but you can still have the same emotion towards it.”
• “Loss changes you. You are not the same when you lose something. Like for me, I am not the same with marriage. It changed me.”
• “Loss does shape us, and I think sometimes we are scared of what the shaping is going to be.”
• “What if loss actually grows us as we do the grief work.”
• How have you seen loss benefit your life?
• “God will use pain to transform us.”
• “Loss is inevitable, and there are certain lessons and gifts it provides as God redeems it.”
• “Loss becomes a gift because from that we are able to minister to others.”
• “Sometimes we are missing out on how He is redeeming because we are trying to take over and make Him redeem it how we would want it.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Subscribe on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Free eBooklet to Download: Why?: Seeing God in Our Pain https://discoveryseries.org/courses/why/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• 2 Corinthians 1 NIV https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20Corinthians%201&version=NIV 
• Ecclesiastes 3:1–8 NIV There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens . . . https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+3%3A1-8&version=NIV 

Does God have someone for me? It’s a question everyone wonders at some point or another, especially in a culture that suggests romantic relationships are the norm. Join Elisa and Eryn as they dive deep into their struggles with loneliness and healing after relationship loss, as well as discuss a unique and important twist on this popular question.

Notes and Quotes: 

• “I don’t see myself the way God sees me. I was seeing myself through the lens of the person I was dating.” 
• We are made for relationships and connection.
• “I think what I am learning in this whole journey of being single after being married is that I just desire to become the person I am meant to be.”
• “I was seeking relationships to fill voids that only God could fill.”
• “When you are single, there is so much work to be done because our identities have been formed in relationship to others.”
• “Relationships define so much around us.”
• “I think God has a lot of people for us. I think marriage is one thing, and it is an important thing. But I also think the reality is we are humans, and our relationships that can be fully satisfying can function a little bit like an island of intimacy.” 
• “Until we let God love us, we can’t love ourselves. And until we love ourselves, we can not love another.”
• We ask the question if God has anyone for us. Well, He has Himself for us. And yes, He invites us into relationships.
• In seasons of singleness, we have time to show up and be present for the loved ones we have around us. Be careful not to overlook that. 
• “Flip the question and instead of asking if God has anyone for us, ask ‘Can I be someone for God?’”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• Subscribe on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Free eBooklet to Download: Divorce and Remarriage: What Does the Bible Teach? https://discoveryseries.org/courses/divorce-and-remarriage/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy
• Listen to the song “Pieces” by Amanda Cook https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0FW--zidYA 

We all have moments in our past that lead to brokenness. For some, this is a recent past, and for others, childhood trauma continues to shape present reality. What brokenness—or broken people—have you experienced in your life? Today, Toni Collier joins God Hears Her to remind all of us that our past doesn’t have to define us. Instead, even our brokenness can be redeemed by God and used for His glory and our good. 

Bio of guest: 

Toni Collier is a communicator, host, and consultant at North Point Ministries. She’s also a voice of Our Daily Bread, and the creator of the blog “Broken Crayons Still Color”—a place for women to be reminded that our past doesn’t define us. Toni is “Texas proud” of her Houston, Texas, roots, but currently resides in Atlanta, Georgia, with her husband and family.

Notes and Quotes: 

• “There is a balance between being imperfect and striving for perfection, and I think the middle is hard to sit in.”
• “I went through a mindset shift that there was a God that wasn’t up there with His finger pointing down at me, but instead was like ‘put me in coach.’”
• Counseling is not a weakness, it is needed. 
• “Our lives are like bookshelves.”
• “It is not the brokenness we are lifting up and celebrating, but it is God’s presence and redemption in the brokenness.”
• “The world has lied to us, and told us we had to be perfect to be used.”
• “The truth is, God wants to use us in the middle of our mess.”
• This is the time to walk boldly in our brokenness.
• “What people don’t know is what comes with exposing those traumas . . . anxiety.”
• When we discover our brokenness, it takes time to heal. 
• “You are more than enough.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Subscribe on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Check out Toni’s Blog: Broken Crayons Still Color http://brkncrayons.com/
• Free eBooklet to Download: Clinging to Hope in the Storm https://discoveryseries.org/courses/clinging-to-hope-in-the-storm/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• 2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20Corinthians%2012%3A9&version=NIV

When you read the term “toxic people,” who comes to mind? A coworker? A family member? Someone at church? Maybe it’s a group of people who feed off of one another in the worst of ways. What makes someone toxic? What’s the difference between a toxic person and someone who’s broken and needs extra love? How do you know when it’s time to walk away from a toxic person? In this episode, our guest Gary Thomas will be leading us through a discussion of how to recognize and when to walk away from toxic people.

Bio of guest: 

Gary Thomas is the best-selling author of over 20 books including the topic of today’s show: When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People. Gary serves on the teaching team at Second Baptist Church in Houston, Texas, and has been married to his wife, Lisa, for 25 years. They have three adult children and a granddaughter. 

Notes and Quotes: 

• “Walking away isn’t always a statement of failure; it’s a statement of strategy.”
• If we let toxic people control our thoughts and focus, then we lose sight of the purpose God has for us.
• “Here’s my voice, here’s my mission” . . .  and don’t let a toxic person distract you from that mission.
• Women in their fifties will look back at the toxic people from their twenties and laugh at how insignificant those people have become in their lives.
• “Gaslighting is when somebody makes you feel like you’re crazy when you are speaking the truth.”
• “When you question your own sanity, they are destroying your foundation.”
• “All toxic people are difficult, but not all difficult people are toxic.”
• “Toxic people love to act in a toxic manner. Healthy people will occasionally act in a toxic way.”
• “Walking away is actually an act of worship.”
• “Toxic people often use toxic language. . . . They don’t want you to act like a Christian to please God, they are using your desire to please God as a weapon to control you.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Subscribe on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Order Gary’s book When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People on Amazon. https://amzn.to/3kt8eyp 
• Free eBooklet to Download: When Violence Comes Home: Help for Victims of Spousal Abuse https://discoveryseries.org/courses/when-violence-comes-home/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• John 15:8 NIV “This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John+15%3A8&version=NIV 

• Mark 11:12–25 Jesus Curses a Fig Tree https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark+11%3A12-25&version=NIV 

• Matthew 6:33 NIV “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+6%3A33&version=NIV 
• Matthew 7:6 NIV “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+7%3A6&version=NIV

• Matthew 22:37 NIV Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+22%3A37&version=NIV 

• Jude 1:1 NIV “Jude, a servant of Jesus Christ and a brother of James, to those who have been called, who are loved in God the Father and kept for Jesus Christ.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Jude%201&version=NIV 

COVID-19 has exposed a unique set of challenges for everyone, especially women. Join hosts Elisa and Eryn as they discuss their own personal struggles of being worn down during this global pandemic and share some practical tips on how to reground yourself with God.

Notes and Quotes: 

• “This uncertainty is magnifying and pointing out the truth that we truly are not in control of our lives, but He is.”
• “This time right now has revealed to me how important and precious a quiet time is.”
• “In the suffering, we can develop endurance and character.”
• Practical things you can do to ground yourself: journaling; quiet time; a breath prayer; squeeze your hands before Jesus to illustrate your desire for control, and then physically open your hands and lift up your concerns to Him.
• “When we hold our lives so tightly and love them so hard the way they are, we can end up almost destroying them.”
• “In this season of uncertainty, I think the [lesson] is to hold things more loosely.”
• Uncertainty creates anxiety or worry.
• “Be a ‘we’ team with God.”
• “Be kind to yourself and to each other. Everybody is stressed.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Free eBooklet to Download: Overcoming Worry: Turning Fear into Faith. https://discoveryseries.org/courses/overcoming-worry/
• Subscribe to the show on your favorite podcast platform. https://www.godhearsher.org/podcast
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• Psalm 121:1–2 NIV “I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+121%3A1-2&version=NIV

• James 4:13–17 NIV  “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.’” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+4%3A13-17&version=NIV

• Matthew 6:25 NIV “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life.” https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%206:25-34&version=NIV

How do you navigate difficult relationships? How do you handle deep disagreements with people you love? What does it look like to deal with conflict when the person you’re at odds with is a family member or a close friend? Today on God Hears Her, Patricia Raybon joins Eryn and Elisa to share her story of navigating a complicated relationship and offers practical wisdom for those of us who may find ourselves in a similar situation.

Bio of guest: 

Patricia Raybon is an award-winning author and journalist and a writer for both Our Daily Bread Ministries and DaySpring’s (in)courage Blog. She guides people into conversations on faith, race, and grace, and lives out her practical wisdom through relationships with people from different ethnic and faith backgrounds. Her most recent book is titled Undivided: A Muslim Daughter, Her Christian Mother, Their Path to Peace.

Notes and Quotes: 

1. “[The topic of] race relations still confuses, worries, angers, and surprises people . . . But as I look at history, there has never been a time where people were not divided by race or ethnicity.”
2. “Our stories are not our own . . . What I discovered is that these personal stories are not mine. They give the people that read them permission to reflect on their own lives.”
3. “Every mother has a dream of what her family is going to look like, and when that dream is rejected, there is a grieving period.”
4. “The Lord encouraged me to love her [my daughter], and trust Him.”
5. “We are still able to be a family even though the details of our conflict have not been resolved.”
6. “We agreed to respect our differences, and I agreed to respect the choice she had made. Not to accept the choice, but to respect [her].”
7. “People love the stories when people find their way back to the faith, but that is not always the end of the story . . . Know that sometimes God is still writing.”
8. “When you model that respect, it invites it back.”
9. In the digital world today, we can almost always find people being hateful.
10. “Tolerance allows my family to keep going.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Order Patricia’s Book: My First White Friend: https://amzn.to/3heKCvd
• Order Patricia’s Book: Undivided: A Muslim Daughter, Her Christian Mother, Their Path to Peace https://amzn.to/3ifqj2e
• Free eBooklet to Download: Clinging to Hope in the Storm https://discoveryseries.org/courses/clinging-to-hope-in-the-storm/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• Romans 8:26. In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans+8%3A26&version=NIV

• Revelation 2:4. Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Revelation+2%3A4&version=NIV

We’ve all been there. We’ve made what we think are perfect plans just to have them seemingly dismantled. Or something unexpected happens, and it feels like life is turned upside down. Often in those times we have big questions and open answers. Today, let’s talk about finding peace in the midst of uncertainty.

Notes and Quotes: 

• Sometimes we get very transactional with God “‘If I do it right, then I will be rewarded with this.’ But does God work that way? No.” 
• When we get into tidal wave situations, no matter what they are, God helps us and comforts us. 
• When you feel overwhelmed or let down, try this: stop, look back at the things God has done for you, recount them all, write them down. Sit with God and reflect on how faithful He has been to you. 
• Find a tangible reminder to go and pray and express your trust in God to provide. He is faithful.
• “When we have no control over anything, He has control.”
• Spiritual amnesia: we forget that God is faithful.
• “Remove and move any distractions that would distract me from Him.”
• “Instead of worrying, I was anticipating . . . okay God, where are you going to land me?”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Free eBooklet Download: It's Not Fair. https://discoveryseries.org/courses/its-not-fair/

• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• Jeremiah 29:11 NIV.  "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Jeremiah+29%3A11&version=NIV

• Phillipians 4:6-7 NIV. "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Phillipians+4%3A6-7+&version=NIV

Have you ever felt like diving into Scripture was either too intimidating or boring because “been there, done that”? Well, our guest Meghan Larissa Good has been there too, and she joins Elisa and Eryn to offer tangible ways to explore the big story Scripture tells. 

Bio of guest: 

Meghan Larissa Good teaches at Trinity Mennonite Church in Glendale, Arizona, and has degrees from Gordon College, Duke Divinity School, and Portland Seminary. She is also an author; and her most recent book, The Bible Unwrapped, helps make sense of the big story Scripture tells and how that story impacts us today. 

Notes and Quotes: 

• Jesus as a companion means always having a friend with you. He is real and accessible.
• Meghan’s Scripture practice: Sitting with Scripture and writing down questions, observations, and even prayer. Think about the purpose each story represents.
• If you find yourself in a prayer rut, introduce Scripture to help you pray with a new outlook.
• “The Bible is not mechanical. What we are hearing is a narrative of God’s engagement with people.”
• The Bible is not meant to be intimidating. It’s meant to be dug into; and it’s an invitation to be romanced by what Jesus wants to teach you.
• “I think people have a lot of fear of getting it (the Bible) wrong, and this feels like a high- stakes thing to get wrong. Like, ‘What if I get God wrong? What if I get God’s desire wrong?’”
• The plotline of the entire Bible is summed up in this: “God is remaking the world and bringing all broken things back together.”
• The Bible is a window, not a mirror. “It’s a means, not an end.” We look through Scripture, not at it. If we treat it like a mirror, we are doomed. If we look at it like a painting, we are missing the point.
• “Sometimes we feel like we have to be a certain way, look a certain way, or act a certain way to be used by God. But His continual pursuit for our heart shows us that we don’t have to be anything other than exactly what we are.”
• “The Christian life is not about being right, it is about being love.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website: https://www.godhearsher.org/
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes!  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/god-hears-her-podcast/id1511046507?utm_source=applemusic&utm_medium=godhearsher&utm_campaign=podcast
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women on Amazon.  https://amzn.to/32lYSgh
• Order Meghan’s book The Bible Unwrapped on Amazon. https://amzn.to/31plYDu

• Read the Discovery Series booklet The Greatest Story Ever Told. https://discoveryseries.org/courses/the-greatest-story-ever-told/
• Elisa’s Instagram: elisamorganauthor
• Eryn’s Instagram: eryneddy

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• Syrophoenecian woman: Matthew 15:21–28  https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+15%3A21-28&version=NIV

Whether it’s a big move, the end of an important relationship, or a child going off to school, we have all experienced transition. On this episode of God Hears Her, Eryn and Elisa host author Amy Boucher Pye and discuss how God led her through a major life transition of her own. And through Amy’s experience, there may be some helpful ideas for the rest of us for the next time we enter a season of transition.

Bio of guest: 

Amy Boucher Pye is a writer and speaker and an American living in London. She writes devotional thoughts for several publications including Our Daily Bread and is the author of the award-winning Finding Myself in Britain and The Living Cross.

Notes and Quotes: 

• “We as Americans are so isolated about the reality of our global church.”
• “I knew that my calling was not my work. But, oh boy, when you’re not working you’re like ‘who am I, and where is God?’”
• “As women . . . we mistake roles for identity, and it gets really confusing. You have to remember who you are, and how God sees you. Realize that my identity is not the role, the role was a place I was invited to serve. ”
• “During the tender times when stresses and insecurities are high, make sure your relationship with God is very solid.” 
• “Pray and ask God for friends, but then also do your part in that. Sometimes it’s making a plan or joining a crafting group.”
• “One of the best pieces of advice I have been given is to ‘invest by owing.’ Instead of being the answer woman, invite somebody else to help you. Then somebody else is going to feel valued and necessary; and you will have a beautiful, mutual exchange. ”
• “Sometimes we have to relinquish something so God can give it back in another way.”
• Note: Though I walk through _____, God is with me.
• “All of us are in transition, where things we depend on are stripped away. So look for the green.”

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• YMI article “What Is God Calling Me to Do?” 
• God Hears Her website
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes! 
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women 
• Amy Boucher Pye’s Book: Finding Myself in Britain
• Amy Boucher Pye’s Book: The Living Cross

Verses Mentioned in Show: 

• Psalm 23:4 NIV Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
• Psalm 23:2 NIV  He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters.

Have you ever had one of those days? Or even one of those weeks? We’ve all been there. Join us this week on God Hears Her as Eryn and Elisa discuss emotions and a way to process hard feelings with God. 

Notes and Quotes: 

• Feelings are neither right or wrong, feelings inform us. —Ann Voskamp
• “I can come to Him, or I can’t. I get to choose that, right? But grace is always there. It is always present. It is not forced upon us, but it is always there.”
• “Jesus doesn’t do life alone. He is in relationship with the Father and Spirit.”
• “Sometimes I struggle with feeling like I have to be put together in order to come to Him.”
• “Write down those ugly, shameful feelings and look at them. Not as an Instagram caption, but as a sacred moment, alone. Then admit and accept where you are, and surrender that to God. Evaluate your life choices: Are they bringing you closer to or farther away from God? And then set reminders to live in God’s truth.”
• “I think that’s the biggest thing with feelings and faith: Sometimes we think they can’t be in tandem. They can’t live together.”
• “Breathe Prayer: Lord, guide me to the wise path that protects my heart for the purposes you have for me. Use me to honor what you want me to know: that I am loved, that I need work, that I am called to a greater purpose you have for me, and that I don’t need to be scared of my ‘messy.’ But help me to recognize the messy and give it over to you. I love you, Jesus. Amen.”
• When our feelings are messy, it’s so important to tell someone, because we can lean in on their faith when our faith isn’t there.

Links/Books/Resources Mentioned In Show: 

• Show Notes on godhearsher.org
• God Hears Her website
• Share the love by giving this episode a 5-star rating on iTunes! 
• Order God Sees Her: 365 Devotions for Women by Women 

Verses Mentioned In Show: 

• Matthew 11:28–29 NIV Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
• Psalm 116:6 NIV The LORD protects the unwary; when I was brought low, he saved me.