In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Shelby Tutty, a certified perimenopause coach and author of two Substacks — The Periprofessional and Women's Health 365. Shelby says the caution her mother carried from childhood trauma — a near-drowning, a serious car accident, a miscarriage — got imprinted onto her, and it shaped her into the kind of parent who can't just relax at the playground. She still remembers her mother throwing her arm out to protect the kids in the front seat every time she had to stop short, and now catches herself repeating her mother's own warnings to her own kids, like "if it's brown and round, step around." She's still questioning whether she took it too far: "I wonder, did I go too far? Did I really imprint upon them?"

Resources mentioned:

• Women's Health 365 (Substack) — https://womenshealth365.substack.com/

• The Periprofessional (Substack) — https://theperiprofessional.substack.com/

More about Shelby:

• Website — https://www.theperiprofessional.com/

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/theperiprofessional/

• Services — https://theperiprofessional.substack.com/p/paid-services

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00:00 Introduction to the series and guest Shelby Tutty

02:42 When her mother said not to be afraid of men

04:41 Her mother's journey through independence and education in the 60s

08:04 Unseen burdens: trauma and resilience in her mother's life

11:12 Learning to ask for help: a personal transformation

14:36 Parenting imprints from her mother and if it went too far

16:30 Advice to her younger self and understanding her mother better after her passing

17:43 The devastation of losing everything of her mother's in a house fire

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Liz Ward, MS, RDN — a dietician and author of The Menopause Diet Plan. Liz credits her mother's insistence on balanced meals and family dinner — "if one egg is good, three eggs are better," a colorful plate on the table every night no matter her mother's work schedule — for shaping how she fed her own three kids. When her mother got sick in her late 80s, three years of doctor's appointments and hospital calls fell to Liz while she was going through perimenopause herself and raising three teenagers, a pattern she attributes to "I was the female" and admits she still doesn't fully know why she took it on. We get into what her mother's own trade-offs cost her, the impact of her grandparents on her today, and what Liz would tell her three daughters about not worrying their way through motherhood the way she did.

Resources mentioned:

• The Menopause Diet Plan — https://www.amazon.com/Menopause-Diet-Plan-Managing-Happiness/dp/0593135660/

• Liz's Substack — https://substack.com/@menopausenutrition

• Liz's previous appearance on Going the Distance — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3hZdNso07g&t=1084s

More about Liz:

• Author page — https://www.amazon.com/stores/Elizabeth-M.-Ward/author/B001HPCT92

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/menopausedietplan

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00:00 Intro to the series: welcoming back Liz Ward

02:26 Liz's Mom as the Para-Dietician

05:21 Dinner on the Table Every Night, No Matter the Chaos

09:12 Living the Sandwich Generation Dream

11:47 Her Own Career Trade-Off: Falling Behind on Technology and Face Time

13:54 How Liz's Grandparents Set the Standard for Self-Sufficiency

17:11 When Liz Told Her Mother She Was Pregnant with Kid #2 Four Months After Kid #1

19:11 Lessons Learned From the Trenches of Motherhood

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Sonni Abatta, author of 'News for Normies', and host of the 'We Gotta Talk' podcast. Sonni credits her mother's gratitude, relentless work ethic, and growth mindset for shaping who she is today. On dinner breaks from her news anchor job, Sonni would rush home to nurse her baby to sleep before heading back to the newsroom — until her mother, watching her run herself into the ground, told her flatly one night: "Quit your job." We get into what she's doing to unlearn the instinct of "always being busy" and the need to keep filling every open moment instead of allowing time to recharge.

Resources mentioned:

• News for Normies (Substack) — https://sonniabatta.substack.com/

• Sonni's previous appearance on Going the Distance — https://youtu.be/M0nruFbM6ng

More about Sonni:

• Website — https://wegottatalk.com/

• Podcast — https://wegottatalk.com/podcast-show/

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/sonniabatta/

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00:00 Intro: Welcoming Back Sonni Abatta

03:35 How Her Mother's Work Ethic Shaped Her

06:25 The Well-Oiled Machine: Mom Never Asked for Help

08:31 What She's Consciously Carried Forward

10:44 "Quit Your Job": The Pivotal Career Moment

13:19 Realizing She'd Already Checked the Box

15:24 Immigrant Roots: Why Work Ethic Wasn't a Luxury

17:20 Underselling Herself and "You'll See Someday"

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Kim Oser, founder of Game Plan Organizing, about how her mother's perfectionism shaped both her business and the way she copes with stress. She talks about how her mother's need for perfection turned into a business built leveraging the opposite mindset. Kim opens up about the shift that happened during COVID, when she went from occasional helper to the child managing her parents' finances, travel, and technology. She talks about what she's still unlearning as a self-described "headstrong" entrepreneur — that asking for help doesn't mean losing control — and how her mother's high bar has followed her impacts her dating life.

Resources mentioned:

• Blog — https://kimoser.substack.com/

More about Kim:

• Website — https://www.gameplanorganizing.com

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/gameplanorganizing/

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Jump to:

00:00 Intro: Welcoming Back Kim Oser

01:52 Perfectionism and Her Organizing Business

03:51 What Her Mom Modeled: Order, Control, and Stress

05:39 Coaching Her Mom to Let It Roll

07:44 What Asking for Help Actually Gives Her

09:41 Fix-It Girl: Navigating Tech and Travel for Her Parents

11:16 Sibling Dynamics and the COVID Caregiving Pivot

14:13 What Her Mother Carried Unacknowledged

15:52 How Her Mom's Influence Shows Up in Dating

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Kim Oser, founder of Game Plan Organizing, about how her mother's perfectionism shaped both her business and the way she copes with stress. She talks about how her mother's need for perfection turned into a business built leveraging the opposite mindset. Kim opens up about the shift that happened during COVID, when she went from occasional helper to the child managing her parents' finances, travel, and technology. She talks about what she's still unlearning as a self-described "headstrong" entrepreneur — that asking for help doesn't mean losing control — and how her mother's high bar has followed her impacts her dating life.

Resources mentioned:

• Blog — https://kimoser.substack.com/

• Previous episode with Kim on Going the Distance with Go Long: https://youtu.be/jNyqIvfRt6U?si=VIwzncAXqF82_yl2

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• Website — https://www.gameplanorganizing.com

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/gameplanorganizing/

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Jump to:

00:00 Intro: Welcoming Back Kim Oser

01:52 Perfectionism and Her Organizing Business

03:51 What Her Mom Modeled: Order, Control, and Stress

05:39 Coaching Her Mom to Let It Roll

07:44 What Asking for Help Actually Gives Her

09:41 Fix-It Girl: Navigating Tech and Travel for Her Parents

11:16 Sibling Dynamics and the COVID Caregiving Pivot

14:13 What Her Mother Carried Unacknowledged

15:52 How Her Mom's Influence Shows Up in Dating

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Danielle Hughes about how her mother's discipline and go-getterness shaped her into the reliable one. Danielle opens up about watching her mom finish a degree over twelve years, working nights and days to put herself through school while carrying the emotional load of the house alone. She talks about what she's had to unlearn as a business owner and single mom — that you don't have to do everything yourself — and how her mother, after 30 years of marriage, left her dad without telling a soul beforehand, not even her own sister. Tune in to hear what it took for Danielle to unlearn that pattern herself.

Resources mentioned:

• Blog — https://www.morethanwordscopy.com/blog

More about Danielle:

• Website — https://www.morethanwordscopy.com/

• LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellehughes/

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Jump to:

00:00 Intro: Danielle and Jill's Connection

02:06 Mom's Strict Parenting and the Disciplinarian Model

04:49 What Her Mom Carried Unacknowledged

08:16 Did Her Mom Ask for Help?

09:49 The Hidden Divorce: No Confiding, Even in Friends

11:47 Longest Thing to Unlearn: Doing It All Alone

13:29 The Fix-It Girl Pattern

16:11 Mom's Fitness at 77 vs. Dad's Passivity

17:57 Divide-and-Conquer on Parent Care

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Devin Fuller about how her mother shaped her into being a very empathetic person. Devin opens up about growing up in a house where dinner was sacred — cooked from scratch, every night, no phones, no TV — and how her mother carried that full load without ever asking for help. She talks about what she's had to unlearn as a new mom herself, and the one thing her mother waited decades to give herself that Devin isn't willing to wait for.

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00:00 Introduction

01:36 A Mother's Sensitivity: Gift and Burden

05:59 The Nightly Dinner Ritual

08:08 Margarita Night: Her Mom's One Escape

09:02 What Devin Is Unlearning

13:05 The Inflection Point: Mom Swimming for Herself

16:26 Mom Finishing a PhD With Two Kids at Home

In this episode of What She Taught Me by Go Long, Jill Consor Beck talks to Dita Guth about how her mother's emotional absence shaped her into becoming a nurturer. Dita opens up about growing up the only child of a socialite mother who could recite the difference between a shrimp fork and a dinner fork but couldn't show up emotionally. Dita talks about what she chose to consciously unlearn as a mom herself, and the words her mother waited until her literal death bed to finally say — words Dita isn't willing to make her own daughter wait decades to hear.

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00:00 Introduction

01:05 Nomadic Upbringing, Julia Child, and 400 Chickens

03:39 Gen X Women's Undefined Career Paths

05:23 Only Woman in '90s NY Kitchens

07:10 Amsterdam Wine Bar Dreams to Pop-Up Queen

10:37 20 Rocky Years With Her Mom

12:39 The Call: Cardiac Arrest, DNR, and a Lucid Goodbye

14:26 Negotiating With the Hospital to Let Her Go

17:43 Breaking the Chain Through Therapy and Journaling

20:57 Mentoring Women, Raising Her Daughter, Asking for Help

In this episode of What She Taught Me with Jill Consor Beck of Go Long, we meet Ronna Belinky — founder of Workflows by Ronna. Her mother taught her kindness, compassion, and non-judgment — mostly by example — so subtly that Ronna never noticed it happening in real time, only recognizing it as a pattern in hindsight. That inheritance shows up now as "showing up": for her kids' games and swim meets, for friends and family on hard anniversaries, and in the compassionate, non-shaming approach to organization and time management that defines her own business. Listen to the episode to learn where Ronna differs from her mother's approach, and why she doesn't see that as a loss.

Resources mentioned:

• Workflows by Ronna — https://www.workflowsbyronna.com/resources

• Gretchen Rubin's Five-Year Journal — https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Gretchen+Rubin+five+year+journal

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• Website — https://workflowsbyronna.com

• Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/workflowsbyronna

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• 00:00 Introduction and Series Overview
• 00:55 Meet Ronna Belinky and Her Background
• 01:52 Mother's Influence: Kindness, Compassion, and Non-Judgment
• 04:53 Conscious Practices and Remembering Important Dates
• 07:18 Moments When Ronna Becomes Her Mother
• 08:43 Unlearning and What She'd Do Differently
• 09:50 Did Her Mother Ask for Help?
• 11:08 Living Up to the Pedestal of Her Mother
• 12:59 Differences in Parenting and Independence
• 15:22 Surprising Things Said as a Parent
• 16:37 Closing Remarks and How to Connect with Ronna

What did your mom teach you — and how did it shape the parent, professional, and person you became? In this debut episode of What She Taught Me, Jill sits down with her sister Lisa Consor Behar to reflect on the lessons passed down by their mother, Yvette. From her instinct to protect to the small habits that stuck — like writing thank-you notes and keeping your voice down — they trace how those experiences ripple into their own relationships — and in Lisa's case, her parenting — decades later. They also get into the harder stuff: navigating a parent's Parkinson's diagnosis, offering support from different vantage points, and finding the humor that carries you through.

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Jump to:

- 00:00 Casual Conversations and Lunch Plans

- 01:28 Introduction to Yvette's Lessons

- 03:50 The Role of a Protector

- 06:29 Parental Roles and Responsibilities

- 08:38 Childhood Experiences and Their Impact

- 11:31 Generational Differences in Parenting

- 14:04 Lessons Learned from Mom

- 16:48 The Importance of Personal Touch in Communication

- 19:07 Navigating Family Dynamics and Choices

- 22:46 The Role of a Guidance Counselor

- 28:46 Coping with Parkinson's: A Family Perspective