By Lori Miggins and Missy Gaspard
The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.
Happy S.H.I.T (So Happy It's Thursday) day my friends! Welcome to Episode 31 where we are going to tell you how we are going to be taking some of the advice we have been giving over the last 30 episodes so that we can find the good in our own grief this summer.
With coming off of quarantine and the world slowly opening up, we both have extremely busy summers with family, travel plans, etc etc. and we don’t want to miss a thing. Because of our tremendous losses, we know how fleeting life is and we want to be 100% present for these upcoming plans. Soooo, we are going to be taking a few weeks off of recording but do not worry, we have big plans to come back with some great content to help take the information you have learned from these first 30 episodes and APPLY them to your everyday life.
We are here if you need us! If you have just found us, then please go back and listen to our episodes (there are 30 of them for you to binge!) and if you have been with us since the beginning, thank you so much! We can’t wait to be back with you to start Season 2!
In this episode, you will hear:
-How and why we are taking our own self-care advice and taking some time off from the podcast this summer
-What our vision is for Season 2
-The reminder that while grief never goes away, we all have a choice to make and if we choose to find the good in it, it will make our lives so much better
Do you have ideas for anything you would like us to discuss in Season 2? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
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Today we are joined by Daisy Eckman who is going to share her story that is different from the guests that we have had in the past. Her story is not about losing an actual human being but of having to lose herself in order to move on after being violated in high school. She is now a rising sophomore in college and is wise beyond her years. Her courage and insightfulness is so inspiring. We are so appreciative to have her on the show to share her powerful, beautiful, and messy story with us. We can all learn something from this.
This episode is a must listen if you have your own children or have any interaction with kids- especially middle and high schoolers. You may want to share this story with your daughters and sons so you can have conversations about respecting boundaries and the damaging effects of peer pressure.
In this episode, you will hear:
-How we learned of Daisy’s difficult story
-Her experience in a new high school, how she tried to fit in, and how she was sexually violated
-How she had to let go and mourn the loss of her old self in order to move on to a healthier place
Does this story resonate with you? Do you have kids that need to hear this? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
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In today’s episode, we are talking all about finding connections in your life. When going through grief, it is so important that you find a connection with other people, with other grief warriors, and even with those that you have lost. This truly is pivotal to you being able to grow in your grief and get to a place where you can find your good, where you can find joy, where you can laugh about the good times and the special memories you have.
And if you know someone who is grieving, you can help them just by reaching out and creating that connection. The purpose of this podcast is to help those who are grieving AND those who want to help those who are grieving. Creating a connection and being there is a wonderful way to help.
Quote from this episode:
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
In this episode, you will hear:
-How you can find your connections to who you have lost and to other people
-The importance of finding these connections to help you heal and find your good in your grief
-How connections provide a reason to live your fullest life, create memories, and leave your legacy
Have you found connections to other grief warriors or to what you have lost? Are you looking for connections? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
If you are a grief warrior, then you know you’ve done some crazy things! And in this episode we are talking all about some of the crazy things that we’ve done and we have heard others do as they deal with their grief. Do you stay under the covers for days when it is the anniversary of your loss? Have you kept things just the way they were and don’t want to change anything because that’s how it was before this traumatic loss occurred?
Guess what, if that is what you need to do, we want you to keep doing your crazy! That might be just what you need to do to find your good in your grief- whether it is to keep your connection to what you have lost or to get your feelings out, you do what you need to do.
We are kind of making light of the word “crazy” but it is basically like giving yourself that permission slip, that grace, to do what it is you need to do.
Quote from this episode:
“Tough times never last but tough people do.”
And you are a tough person! If you are listening to these episodes, you are tough because you are trying to find your good in your grief.
In this episode, you will hear:
What kind of things do you do that some might think is crazy? Guess what? As fellow grief warriors, we don’t think it is. Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ by commenting on this episode post or send us a DM.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
Welcome to Episode 27! This episode is all about us- how we met (and were supposed to meet!), our incredible similarities, and how we help each other find the good in our grief. You will hear how we first connected over social media, how important it was for us to be open and vulnerable with one another, and how our friendship has blossomed over time. Distance can’t even keep us apart!
We hope this episode shows you how you can meet “your person” anywhere. Be open to it! It is really important that you be willing to share parts of your life with someone you trust. And even if you don’t know if you can trust that person yet- be open to the fact that sharing could deepen your relationship. As human beings, we were made for connection and it really makes life better!
Quote from this episode:
“Find your person.”
In this episode, you will hear:
Do you have “your person”? If not, are you open to letting people in? Come let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
We have talked about this subject before and the importance of putting things in place to help YOU through your grief. Check out Episode 8: Healthy Habits if you haven’t listened to it. What all of this boils down to is that with grief, you have to be willing to help yourself. And kudos to you for tuning in and listening because by listening to this podcast, you are helping yourself!
When going through your loss, you will need to figure out ways that you can help yourself. Listen in to get ideas of things that you can do to help yourself through grief. We can’t tell you exactly what will help you but we can tell you that you have no choice but to figure it out so you don't stay stuck in your grief.
Quote from this episode:
“Start where you are, use what you have, and do what you can.”
In this episode, you will hear:
-Why you have to help YOU
-Why relying on others is not helping you
-Different ways to help yourself through your grief journey
How are you helping yourself through your grief journey? Let us know on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
Welcome to Episode 25 where we are so excited to have another guest on our podcast today! Kristen Schnall is connected to us both not only through grief but also through our obsession and love for health and wellness. The three of us have had some experiences that brought us together and bonded us in a way where we don’t need to explain ourselves, we just know each other’s hearts because of our tragedies.
Kristen joins us today to share the story of losing her dad to alcoholism when she was just 13 years old. She talks through some difficult feelings she experienced as a young girl- how she grieved before he actually died because he was not always there for her due to his disease, the relief she felt when he died because she would not have to worry about him anymore, and then the guilt she felt for feeling relief.
Listen in to find out how her grief resurfaces, what she is doing about it, and how her life has truly come full circle so that she can help others and find the good in her grief.
In this episode, you will hear:
-Kristen’s story of losing her dad at age 13
-The difficult feelings she had to deal with at a young age
-How she got help through her close family and a school counselor
-How her grief still resurfaces
-How her life has come full circle and how she helps others while finding the good in her grief
No matter what you are going through we would love to hear from you! Reach out to us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
Today we are talking about how many of us use unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with our grief. It is not uncommon for people to turn to unhealthy things when grappling with the devastation of losing something or someone they love. And we get it! It is like you are in survival mode just trying to make it through the day, the week, the month.
Early on in our grief journeys, we dealt with our losses in ways that we are not proud of. But you know what? We have learned from them and know better now. We have found things that help us and we want to encourage you to find things that are healthy and help you. Because those unhealthy coping mechanisms are not helping you, they are prolonging your healing and are actually hurting you and possibly those around you.
Listen in to find out how to not have guilt over any unhealthy coping mechanisms you may have used and how to find healthy ways to deal with your grief.
In this episode, you will hear:
-Why many of us turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with loss and grief
-The things we have done that we are not proud of
-Why it’s important to let go of the guilt of using unhealthy coping mechanism
-How to find healthy ways to deal with your grief
If you have used (or are using!) unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with your grief, you are not alone. Reach out to us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and comment on this episode post.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
So this title may be confusing and you may be wondering, “what in the world are those girls going to be talking about today?!” Well, you need to listen in! We will tell you that we are using this analogy because so often while we go through our grief, we make it so much harder than it needs to be. Yes, of course, grief sucks! But are you making it even harder on yourself? Are you compounding it, pushing it away, not dealing with it, then letting it bubble up and come out in the worst way possible? Then you are acting like a salmon!
You see, salmon swim upstream. They are constantly fighting the current and working so hard to get to where they want to be. You don’t have to be a salmon. You don’t have to constantly swim upstream and make your grief journey more difficult than it already is.
Listen in to find out how to free yourself from the constant fight and figure out how to simply float.
In this episode, you will hear:
-Why we compare our grief journeys (and life honestly!) to a salmon
-How to recognize if you are being a salmon
-Ways to stop fighting, let go and float
-Who actually loves salmon and who does not!
Have you ever heard this analogy before? Are you guilty of being a salmon in your grief journey or in your life? Let us know by heading over to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/ and commenting on this episode post.
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
Welcome to Episode 22! Today we are talking about anger and grief because anger seems to be the stage a lot of us get stuck in or we revert back to in our grief. We want you to know that being stuck in the anger phase is very, very common and it is a stage that you can go back to depending on what is going on in your life. This is normal and okay! But we want to make sure that you have healthy habits around this so that you can move out of the anger phase and not stay stuck. (If you haven’t yet, go back and listen to Episode 8: Healthy Habits and Episode 13: Stages of Grief!)
The reality is that if you are experiencing anger over your loss, that is because you loved so much. Allow yourself to accept and acknowledge that reality and find the good in that love.
In this episode, you will hear:
-How and why so often people get stuck and revert back to the anger stage
-What to do when you find yourself in the anger stage; how to move to acceptance
-Importance of letting those around you know what you are going through but also don’t let that be an excuse for bad behavior
-Why it is so important that you acknowledge that you are angry about your loss
Every Thursday, when an episode goes live, we get these amazing messages of how these episodes are helping. We want you to know how healing these are to both of us. You are helping us!
Keep the messages coming by heading over to Instagram https://www.instagram.com/goodgriefpeople/. Maybe we will give you a shout out :)
Resource mentioned in today’s episode:
Untamed by Glennon Doyle https://www.amazon.com/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-Melton/dp/1984801252
If you know someone who needs to hear this podcast, please share it with them. Sign up to subscribe to our newsletter https://bit.ly/GoodGriefPeopleNewsletter. And as a thank you, you will receive a complimentary copy of our little eBook, “Tips to Allow Yourself to Grieve".
Don’t forget to subscribe to the show so you don’t miss an episode! While you are there, give us some stars and leave a review so we can reach and help more and more people.
Thank you for listening!
The podcast currently has 32 episodes available.