It's a very old problem, kids blaming their parents for how they turned out. And from the parents side, taking credit for the kids turning out well or feeling like losers when the kids don't. God speaks directly to that issue in Ezekiel 18.

You are "concerned" that you see sin in their life and you know from God's Word that the consequences of sin are never good. What should you do? Since they are free to sin, do you ignore it and hope they make another choice? Do you get involved and tell them about the sin and hope they change? Do you tell them about the sin and try to make them change? What if they never change?

Our working definition of freedom is "Acting without force or manipulation or acting without controlling or being controlled." Freedom is often not easy for us to understand, especially how it works in relationships. Without freedom in a relationship, you will never know if someone is relating to you simply because they want to. Go listen to "The Third Tool" on the Radio page to help you start understanding how freedom works in relationships. And, watch the "Freedom and Choice" videos in chapter 8.

You are probably not experiencing as much freedom as you think. Even when we are irresponsible with our freedom, not caring about others, we often become controlled by life, circumstances and people. Go listen to "Two Ways to Live and The Third Tool" on the Radio page to listen how we too often live in this Left Circle. And, watch the "Freedom for You: Two Circles" videos in chapter 8.

Forgiveness is not reconciliation. Forgiveness is so good for you, but it gets derailed when you combine it with things like reconciliation. If you think you must reconcile with someone that may prevent you from the freedom you can have through forgiveness. Listen to hear how reconciliation is completely separate from forgiveness.

Forgiveness will heal a multitude of relationship problems, but it is not natural to consider it, especially shortly after someone has hurt you. The pain of what they did to you typically removes any thinking about forgiveness—the actual cure for you.

How is it possible that what attracts you to someone could actually become a big problem later in the same relationship? All couples are faced with this issue, so listen to hear how this works.

Whenever I hear someone say some version of "they are falling in love," it not only tells me they do not understand love, but also they are unlikely to know the basics of relationships. Unfortunately, if you believe people "fall in love" you must believe that people "fall out of love." What a horrible distortion of what love is and how to have a great relationship.

When you have difficulties in a relationship, it is easy to wonder how long the problem will last. Worse yet, when one person is unwilling to make changes to help the relationship, it is very easy to wonder how long you can take it. The predominant question seems to be, “What if this never changes?”This podcast is an essential resource for anyone struggling with those thoughts.

If you want personal transformation, the Lord has graciously provided all the steps to achieve it. If you’re going to coach someone to make changes or improve their life, you need to hear the Godly way to do this. Personal transformation includes our choice and God’s power. It is your partnership with God that He has already said that He will accomplish in you. It is simply a matter of letting Him proceed by faith in His perfection and desire to pursue your best. Our difficulty is continuing to accept that all events in our lives are from Him for our best. That requires faith in our PERFECT Father God.