There are a lotta gurus and experts out there pushing mindset lately. I HATE IT.

YOU JUST gOtTa haVe an AbunDanCe MindSetT Brooooooo. THen it'll all come naturally.

NAH. I'm debunking that shit right now. Today.

1. Mindset is EARNED. I started off believing I was ugly. I didn't become someone who thought of themselves as an attractive person by thinking positive thoughts and doing daily affirmations. I earned that belief by putting myself in uncomfortable situations because I thought I was going to die alone. Your pain is fuel. Use it to push to the next level. Where do you begin? Look to see where you're most uncomfortable, then begin chipping away. You don't have to be perfect at it. If you want to be an expert though, you have to be willing to go where no one else has gone.

2. It's easier for gurus to pitch mindset because it requires no effort. People will accept it. But we all know that one person who's always trying to force themselves to be positive. It comes off fake. Plastic. Same goes with mindsets. Once you have them, they're so goddamn useful. But when you do not, you cannot THINK, cajole, or affirm your way into believing it. 

3. In fact, there is ONLY 1 useful mindset ---- and it is this: if someone else has done it, it's POSSIBLE for you to do it, too. No matter how unlikely it may seem - there is a way. It's your job to find it. The minute you close yourself off to the possibility that something MIGHT be attainable, you're screwed. You're stuck. There's no way out for you now. Might as well throw in the towel.

I saw this a lot on Reddit. Men who were convinced they would never be able to "convince" a gal to love them for who they really were. It might work for chads and alphas. But "not for me". And those same people will forever be doomed to be single, alone, and bitter until they accept that it's POSSIBLE to learn how to become attractive.

When I discovered that a friend of mine had made the deliberate, non-religious choice to be a virgin... I had to get him on the show. This was, for me, a rare opportunity to delve into the mindset of someone who was successful...but hadn't had a lot of romantic experience. In a lot of ways, it was like talking to myself in my 20s...

I spent most of my adult life trying to escape virginity. It was a badge of dishonor. A scarlet letter letting other men and women know that I wasn't yet a man - whatever that meant. Only to discover that, once I was no longer a virgin, it didn't change who I was at all. There was no "ah-hah!" I'm a man! moment. There was no sudden insight or knowledge of the universe or women. I was just a guy who'd had sex once.

This conversation was by far one of the most fun that I've had and it was an emotional rollercoaster for me the entire way through. Wow. There was so much I wanted to fix or change and it took everything I had to avoid doing that at every turn. So you'll get to watch me STRUGGLE with that as the interview goes on.

His voice has been altered for anonymity, but his answers have not - and there's a ton to appreciate and unpack in this episode.

In this podcast you'll discover...

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[Seibo Shen is the CEO of Vapexhale, Hanu Labs, and BRNR Lab, dad, husband, and executive business coach.]

I speak with Seibo on why he uses psychedelics and cannabis and why he chooses to do so as a father and serial entrepreneur.

One of the things they never tell you is JUST how much of the wealthiest, most successful people on the planet do drugs. But not just any drugs. What you see time and again is the same 3-4 substances - ayahuasca, psilocybin mushrooms, DMT, and LSD. So the question you might be asking yourself now is....is there a reason for this?

In this interview, we talk about the benefits and side effects of some of the more common hallucinogens, how that helps some people perform at a much higher level, and the freaky part of experiencing other realities.

If you're curious about psychedelics and exploring altered states of mind, or if you're a seasoned psychonaut - this is the episode for you.

If you want to pick up your own vape pen or want to support what Seibo's about, check out his site below:

"We're blessed to be a galaxy in a skinsuit..."

In this interview, I invite a good friend of mine and (IMO) an expert on BDSM to talk about what that means.

This is most decidedly NSFW and if talking about sex and pleasure makes you squeamish, this isn't the episode for you.

Inside we cover what BDSM actually involves

How to get started on your own journey

The most dangerous practices to avoid

The basic types of sensation play and how to do them

And as an added bonus, you'll also learn how to become to best sex they've ever had.

Jason Stein is a trainer to coaches, marketing expert, Acupuncturist, a father and husband. In this interview Rob & Jason discuss surviving the pandemic, what to do and NOT do to our relationships in times of crisis, and insider tips on how to deliver and receive compliments for maximum impact.

Jason can be reached at JasonStein.com. You can also find him via Instagram @iamjasonstein and as a special bonus to listeners, you can schedule an entire 30-minute session with him and pay him in CHOCOLATE if you visit JasonStein.com/chocolate.