Great Date Guy

At a certain stage in my life I started noticing the patterns. I was somehow always dating girls who were depressed. More than that, women who "needed to be saved". It would always end the same way, too. I would burn myself out trying to save them, and in so doing, I would burn my relationships to the ground. I'd get grumpy and moody. I'd stop talking to folks. Stop taking care of myself. Then I, too, would fall into a depression.

So in this podcast, we ask the million dollar question. How do we break free?

How do we step outside the way things have always gone, and create something different. A new reality where we don't have to suffer the same way again and again.

This episode applies to every pattern you encounter, not just relationships. If you're stuck with a body you dislike. If you keep on landing the same kinds of jobs where you're underpaid, underappreciated, and overworked...

Inside, we talk about how you can delete the pattern.

There are 3 stages.

1. Identify, label, and blame. This is a necessary step. It gets us out of the initial swirl of things. Focuses us on fixing the issue. However, I've found myself stuck on this stage one too many times. Blame is a victim's stance. And victims have no real control or authority, especially not over their own lives. In order the meaningfully advance, we necessarily need to move to...

2. Responsibility. I take full ownership over how things went. I made choices. I interpreted people's behavior in a negative light. I felt the emotions I felt. I have control over my experience of reality. When I step into this role, I also step into the power that comes with it. In acknowledging that the mess I find myself in is my own creation, I give myself a meaningful way to create change. Being responsible also means letting go of guilt and allowing myself to simply look at the facts. I wanted x, I didn't get it because I did a, b, and c.

3. Action. Looking at the full spectrum of what we did to get the results we did, we pick a new course of action. That doesn't mean I have to be perfect about it. Or never fail. What it does mean is that if I wish to achieve different results, I will need to periodically remind myself of what I committed to. What flag I've planted on the horizon, and choose to keep braving the bitter winds and slog uphill until I get the thing I wanted most. This doesn't mean I need to hustle every day without breaks, this doesn't mean I sacrifice myself and my mental or physical health to get my goal complete. This does mean, I stay committed, no matter what my emotional state.

Lately I've been getting a lot of questions from folks about how to start investing if I had $25k, $10k, or $100 a month. The answer is the same every time.

DOGECOIN.

Kidding.

First thing's first. This isn't financial advice. This is how I invest. Investment is a risk. Pursue it at your own discretion and understand that anything you're willing to wager, you must be first willing to lose. With the market as crazy as it is lately, there's a lot of room for aggressive betting and as a result, aggressive losses.

So to make sure you aren't just throwing money down the drain here's what you need to know:

Finally some general ideas that I tend to follow:

Traditionally a good investor will spot and invest in an undervalued asset - one that is overlooked, unappreciated, and poised to grow or dominate. If you have a lot of capital lying around it makes sense to invest in a stock you believe heavily in, every time the market dips. So when it invariably self corrects a few days, weeks, or months later - you get a larger percentage gain.

Most name brand companies will only turn you profit in the long run. If you don't bury your head in the sand and ignore the signs, in general if you leave your cash parked in a pillar of the economy you will see gains over a 5 year investment. You're also incentivized by the government to hang onto stocks for at least a year - if you do that before selling, you get taxed less.

If you're just starting out, it makes a lot more sense to play the long game than gamble on options. Log in, do your research, observe how the market moves, and when you understand it more fully, then begin to make bigger plays.

I typically don't risk more than 10% of my assets on any venture, no matter how *guaranteed* the results are. Again, do not ever play with more chips than you can afford to lose. Once you've accrued more principle, you'll have more room to make dumb meme bets like me.

First, it's important to understand the mechanism that we're using here. There are a lot of systems for making money and being financially secure. This is mine. This has allowed me a coaching business that's grown by $1000 a month since I started working on it. I work less than 10 hours a week. I earned $20,000 in the last week without doing any work at all. In a few months, I'll be completely replacing my "earned" income with passive revenue.

So, what did I do to get here? How am I so certain about my financial future?

This is how I make it work as of right now:

You will need to understand the following in order to make this work.

When you have all these components and skills in place, it allows you to naturally and easily attract more and more money into your life by using the system.

SYSTEM:

As long as you continue to have conversations, you will profit with very little effort.

You may be able to tell that a LOT of what's going on here is mindset dependent, which makes this system particularly useful if you're working without much of a budget and wanting to establish a business of passion. Something that you LOVE doing and have dreamed of doing. All that's really required here is a willingness to transform your mind, the way that you tackle new challenges.

If you got something out of this episode, help me out with a review or a subscribe! Thank you so much for listening. 

Big love,

-R

I got a few big things from this episode, 

The first is understanding that there are really only 2 ways to go about your path to financial success (or any success for that matter)

Focusing on others, trying to prevent yourself from losing...Or putting all your time and energy into finding your own way. Always assuming that there is a way forward, because ...well, someone else made it.

Enter Chef Alexia, a Top Chef contender, chef at a Michelin star restaurant, successful restauranteur. In this episode we talk about how she not only turned an economic downturn (2008) to her advantage and launched a successful chain of 4 restaurants, but how she's continuing to find success in a time when many are struggling to get their bearings.

There are a lot of powerful mindsets in this episode and IMO, we cover off on more than a few killer ideas that will help bring you to the next level.

If you're interested in connecting with Alexia, you can reach her via any of the following channels...

https://chefalexia.com/

How do you recover from rock bottom? How do you find the will to create and succeed when life is hitting you as hard as it can?

In this episode, we discuss what it takes to run a successful company with employees, what a successful marketing agency recommends for new businesses, and why learning human connection is what makes the biggest difference for any venture. Business or otherwise.

If you're interested in getting on contact with Howard he can be found at https://www.lfdm.co/

In this episode we feature 10x serial entrepreneur and badass boss lady Megan Darakjian on how she (and you) learned to make money doing whatever the hell she wanted. We're talking making premium nut butter, starting her own fashion line, operating as a real estate broker... the list goes on and on and on.

Given the times, I think there's more reason now than ever before to understand the basics of wealth creation and management. Learning to establish your own business and independent income streams is a big part of that. If you're looking to get started on your journey as a solotrepreneur, or you're already on your quest for F*** YOU money, this is the one you don't wanna miss.

Want to connect with Megan?

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I answer all these questions and more in this episode!