Great Date Guy

A few years back scientist at MIT ran a study that allowed them to predict how much someone would be offered at an interview to within $1,000 of their actual offer. The same predictor was used to accurately assess which c-suite executive would win a business plan pitch contest in front of a panel of judges. The crazy part? They didn't even need to know what the executives were saying or hear their presentations. If you want to find out what that predictor is, and how you can put that into play in your own life, this is the podcast for you.

There are a few things you need to understand about success, especially when it comes to business. The first piece is understanding that what your brain believes will become the solution to all your problems, is actually just a gateway to new problems. Retiring early won't make you more confident, happier, or make it easier for you to date. Mastering dating, won't fix the patterns that you ran into in every previous relationship that had that relationship stop working. That doesn't make your goal any less important, but I think it's something important to remember. The next pieces to understand that wealth and success are not a function of technique or hard work, or at least they don't have to be. If you want to do things the easy way, letter first you must understand that wealth is all about people. And I don't mean that in the campy Kumbaya kind of way, I mean that in a very literal sense, other people are The Gatekeepers to your success. In this podcast we talk about how to turn that to your advantage.

The truth is when things are dark it's hard to even get by, much less stay motivated. However what most people don't understand, is that when things get difficult, a hidden function of our brain gets unlocked. In this episode we talked about how to take advantage of it and what conditions are necessary to make your darkest hour into your unfair advantage.

I think it's one of the more annoying things about modern society that being single is also extremely frowned upon. Because being single for longer than a month has effectively given me dating superpowers. In this episode we talked about how you can transform spending time alone, into the thing that makes you more irresistible than ever.

Howdy y'all. So we typically focus on inner work in this podcast eyes I believe that this is the most straightforward access to becoming naturally and effortlessly attractive. So this episode I want to create some very straightforward and actionable steps for you to immediately level up how attractive you are to women. In the long run, this is a game of making small incremental improvements that gradually add up over time. The first thing you can try, it is literally rolling up your sleeves. I was confused and surprised to find out that women are attracted to men with toned forearms, so by wearing a nice button up and rolling up your sleeves you're emphasizing that particular body part. The next thing that you might consider taking on is wearing grey sweatpants, which again, I was surprised to discover has appeal to women. As it was described, there's a level of mystery and being able to see a hint of your package is something that works for many women. I think maybe the big thing to notice here is that, contrary to popular belief, women do objectify men and there are things that you can do about your appearance or the way that you present yourself that will make you more attractive attention-grabbing to women. Another piece at play here, is recognizing that this information came from women. Often times it doesn't do any good to ask leading male experts about what women want because, simply put this is the kind of thing that only women would know. When in doubt, poll a female friend. Now there are two other tips that you can only get from listening to the podcast, so happy exploring, catch you inside. :)

General disclaimer. This podcast (and episodes moving forward are hetero normative and from the perspective of a male. This is not done to exclude but simply because it is the only frame I'm remotely qualified to speak from.) In this episode we're going to walk a the fine line between attractive and the toxic masculine. (If the term toxic masculine offends you, get the fuck out - this isn't the episode or podcast for you.) In general the difference between the two, comes down to selfishness. Am I thinking exclusively of myself without regard for others? Or can I take on dominance, power, authority and leadership in a different way. That different way is where this convo is going. Among the women that I've dated and female clients (especially powerful women) there's a growing demand for the dominant masculine. This is showing up everywhere and a good example of that is the rapid rise in interest in BDSM among women. The tricky part here is that this dominant masculine shouldn't be taken on because it will make us more attractive partners as men. That's people pleasing by a different name and invariably leads to pain and resentment. At the extreme, it's your agency and fulfillment traded entirely for another's. So what's left to do here is explore how to take on this kind of behavior for yourself. For that matter, how do I take on finding fulfillment, joy, and direction in my life from within? We'll call that assertiveness. I believe that assertiveness is best cultivated by beginning to hone intuition. That is, the little voice in the back of your mind that tells you to turn off onto that side road. The little ping that draws you closer to a specific stranger for reasons unknown. The more we begin to roll the dice with that gut feeling, the more we unlock what makes us feel truly alive. Assertiveness is also the willingness to pursue those things at the risk of looking weird, or being judged. Setting aside any recriminations, imagined or otherwise, in favor of honoring your deepest desired and truths. Provided those drives aren't pushing you to hurt others, you're generally never going to go wrong by pursuing what feels alive to you. The pleasant side bonus of all this, is something scientists call positive affective field. That is, people who are normally unhappy, sad, anxious, or depressed begin to inexplicably feel good in your space. That is the essence of Charisma. The ability to meaningfully impact the emotional experience of another human being - and it is single handedly the most attractive trait you can possess. So take a gamble. Set aside the voice that tells you that you can wait til tomorrow, or now isn't a good time, and adventure where your heart tells you. That is how you embody the attractive masculine. And don't let any of those idiots at redpill tell you otherwise.

Every law has its dark side and the law of attraction is no exception. If you're attracting more unwanted experiences than usual and want to stop, this is the episode for you. Inside we talk about how it works, how to avoid falling victim, and the insider's mindset for attracting more of what you really want into your life - whether it's love, sex, money, health or another type of success.

In this episode we discuss how it's possible to have a relationship grounded in love that still fails. When is love not enough and why does it happen? The idea itself is simple, relationships break apart when conflict can't be resolved. But is it possible to have a conflict free relationship? Or does something about who we are make it inevitable... And if so, how do we deal with that? We answer all those questions and more in the next 17 min.

What are the dangers of fully embracing self help and Hustle culture? How do we avoid sacrificing the very things that bring joy and meaning into our lives in pursuit of the next milestone? In this episode, I talk about overtraining, the significant cost of blind solo focus, and how to avoid falling into the costly pitfall of "just doing it until it works". Photo by Isabella Mendes from Pexels

Ever get stuck in a plateau when it comes to dating, fitness, or wealth? Odds are...there's a judgment underneath. In this episode we talk about how that happens and more importantly, what you can do to stop limiting your own life.

Show summary:

In general, as within so without. What we judge others for rapidly becomes the cage that we can't grow past.

For example, I used to judge ripped shirtless dudes as arrogant douches. "There's no reason for these guys to go around shirtless, other than to show off."

In time, after working out a ton, I eventually also came to have a nice physique, however I was always hiding it. Eventually I stopped working out entirely, got a belly, and learned what it was like to have dad bod.

Accident? I think not. This was my judgement boomeranging back around to bite me in the ass.

There are few ways to spot judgements. One is to look to see where you're stagnating in life. Where have you been stuck for a long time. Odds are, there's a judgement holding you back from progressing.

The other way is to look to see who you in your life you choose to hate or avoid. Why? Then we begin to look at how that affects our behavior when it counts. Big meetings, speeches, when it comes to dating, or conflict, etc.

In order to remove judgements we must begin to seek the similarities between the person we judge and ourselves. This part is painful for many people - the cognitive dissonance is intense and necessary. We're hacking our brains to release hard emotions.

The other approach is looking to see how the people or behaviors we judge are benefitting us personally. Continue to look, and list out benefits until your emotions change.