In grief, we often search for meaning to our losses. Through my personal story and examples, I illustrate the ways we do this.

You may have found yourself creating memorial walks, pursuing activism or legislation, or fundraisers following the death of a loved one or traumatic experience. And, doing these things are great, as they are a contribution to society. However, sometimes we do these things as a means to distract ourselves and channel our pain, thereby, trying to avoid the actual feelings we're feeling.

I explore this topic in today's episode and plan to do so, even more, in-depth at a later date. I feel like it's an area of grief that's not talked about often, but that explains a lot about our basic human needs and condition as they relate to grief.

If there's a topic you'd like me to explore more deeply on the podcast, send your requests my way here.

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

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• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
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If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

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This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

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Taking ownership, and responsibility, for our feelings and reactions in life, is often challenging. It requires us to do some self-evaluation. By the time we reach adulthood, however, we've likely had many grief experiences, which contributes to a victim mindset so many grievers have but don't acknowledge. And, acknowledgment is difficult, too, because you can't "un-know" something.

Once you know you're fulfilling the role of being a victim in your life and other people are responsible for your happiness, well, it is then up to you to do something about it. There is a gap, however, that exists in-between.

Today, I discuss the importance of taking even just 1% responsibility. I provide real-life examples of how not taking personal responsibility for our feelings looks like in everyday life, and hopefully, by the end of the episode, I've sparked some self-reflection.

It can feel disheartening to know that no matter what you do or say, you're not going to change others' behavior towards you, but if you can take 1% responsibility, no matter what anyone would ever do to you will never matter. You are the captain of your ship (and your heart) - no one else.

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

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This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

Grief manifests in our lives and, in our bodies, in various ways. Most of us will resort to outward behaviors that are neither helpful and are (more often than not) even hurtful. These behaviors only lead to more secrecy, shame, and grief. And, where there is shame, there is usually a pattern to grieve alone and isolate.

Grief also shows up in physical ways as well:

• heartburn
• hair loss
• ulcers
• migraines
• body aches
• anxiety

In today's episode, learn and reflect on ways you may be grieving without realizing it.

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
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    • #GrievingVoicesPodcast
• Read & Review my published book about my grief journey.
• Donate |

Send Victoria a text message!

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NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

We all, as grievers (or otherwise, for that matter) tend to reply with the expression "I'm fine," when asked how we're doing. After experiencing loss, we do this because it is often just easier than leaving the conversation of how we typically feel - misunderstood and unsupported.

In this episode, learn why "I'm fine" is damaging to ourselves, but also equally damaging as a message we're sending to children and to society.

If we could tell the emotional truth about ourselves, we can then begin to talk about grief like we talk about the weather.

I also touch on behaviors we resort to in grief when we either "explode" or "implode." Next week, I dive deeper into these behaviors.

Are you wanting more content like this? Head on over to Instagram or Facebook where I share more info just like this, and say hello!

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts
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  • Share on Social
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Send Victoria a text message!

Support the show

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NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

Through influenced/generational learning, we are taught unhelpful ways in which to address and help ourselves (and others) through grief.

This episode highlights the six myths (and misinformation) of grief that have a direct impact on our ability to cope with what is emotionally incomplete. These myths contribute to why we have a difficult time moving beyond the emotional dis-ease that grief brings to our lives.

Tune in next week; I'll be talking more in-depth about "Academy Award Recovery," as mentioned in this week's episode.

Are you wanting more content like this? Head on over to Instagram or Facebook where I share more info just like this, and say hello!

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts
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  • Share on Social
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• Read &

Send Victoria a text message!

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NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

We can't heal the heart with the head.

In this episode, we dig into why this is and, you will learn:

• How grief cuts us off from our intuition
• Impact of belief systems
• The root of unhappiness
• 8 unhelpful, often hurtful, ways society responds to grievers

In the next episode, the six myths of grief (and misinformation) will be revealed. 

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts
  • Follow & Listen  Spotify |  Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Pandora
  • Share on Social
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    • #GrievingVoicesPodcast
• Read & Review my published book about my grief journey.
• Donate | Buy Me A Coffee

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA (@theunleashedheart):

Send Victoria a text message!

Support the show

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NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

What is grief?

In this first episode as part of an educational series, I define grief in a way you've likely never heard it described before. By providing relatable examples and some of my personal stories, you'll leave this episode feeling like you have a better understanding of grief.

When we understand that grief is more than just about death, we are able to shed light on all areas of our life that feel emotionally incomplete and begin the healing process.

Be sure to tune into next week's episode, where I'll be sharing why and how grief keeps us stuck.
 
Are you wanting more content like this? Head on over to Instagram or Facebook where I share more info just like this, and say hello!

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts
  • Follow & Listen  Spotify |  Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Pandora
  • Share on Social
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    • #GrievingVoicesPodcast

Send Victoria a text message!

Support the show

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NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

Consider this our first meeting at a coffee shop; it's like speed-dating for friendship. And, I LOVE coffee (black or, lately - iced) and deep conversation with friends.

In this first episode (I wasn't able to label it "Episode 0" as I mention), I answer the basic "get to know you" questions, how this podcast came about, and, in under 13 minutes! This will likely be a record I won't often break. Unless, however, brevity suddenly becomes a strong suit.

So, after you've finished listening to this quickie first episode, I'd love to hear from you! Please find me on Instagram or Facebook, and send me a message and let me know you've listened and what we have in common! And, if you feel like this is a podcast others will enjoy, I'd love for you to share it!

Here are links to my grief story and the other things I mentioned in the episode:

• Grief Recovery Method 
• My grief story - The Guided Heart: Moving Through Grief and Finding Spiritual Solace
• Enneagram 
• Myer's Briggs
• Reiki (energy healing)

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Ra

Send Victoria a text message!

Support the show

_______

NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...

Preparing to Launch!

This podcast has been 30+ years in the making. I went from being a child griever to an adult griever. During this time, I've learned a lot about how grief can negatively impact a person's life, create chaos and hardship, and ruin relationships.

It is my hope, that through sharing the tools and language I've learned in addressing grief, that culturally, we can take the conversation up a few notches.

Growing up, our parents relied on what they were taught, and it's through this generational learning and lack of formal education around grief, that we have become a society so afraid to talk about it. Therefore, we don't know how to address our grief, much less the grief of others. As a result, we resort to unhelpful and often hurtful phrases a vast majority of us have been taught.

Please join me in starting a conversation around grief where we begin to talk about grief like we talk about the weather.

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If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, there are free resources available HERE.

If you'd like to share your grieving voice on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to [email protected].

Are you enjoying the podcast? Check out my bi-weekly newsletter, The Unleashed Letters.
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WAYS TO SUPPORT THE SHOW:

• Tell Your Friends & Share Online!
  • Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts
  • Follow & Listen  Spotify |  Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Pandora
  • Share on Social
    • Instagram

Send Victoria a text message!

Support the show

_______

NEED HELP?

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Crisis Text Line provides free, 24/7 support via text message. Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained Crisis Counselor

If you are struggling with grief due to any of the 40+ losses, free resources are available HERE.

CONNECT WITH VICTORIA:

• Instagram
• Website
• LinkedIn
• Facebook

This episode is sponsored by Do Grief Differently™️, my twelve-week, one-on-one, in-person/online program for grievers who have suffered any type of loss to feel better. Click here to learn new tools, grief education, and the only evidence-based method for moving beyond the pain of grief.

Would you like to join the mission of Grieving Voices in normalizing grief and supporting hurting hearts everywhere? Become a sup...