I am constantly amazed at the narratives I hear from women about themselves that are not their own. I’m this. I’m that. I’m too old. I’m not good enough. I’m not qualified enough. I don’t have enough education / credentials for that… Ahem. Said who?
Yes. It starts with self-inquiry. That’s step one. You have to cut the fantasy out of your own story first. That, to me, is the highest form of self-care and self-love... it is super uncomfortable and awkward. It’s hard but it’s worthy work. What is it?
⚡️ Shadow Work
⚡️ Journaling
⚡️ Inquiry-Driven Coaching
⚡️ Trigger Point Work
Trigger Point Work - taking active steps to question what you ‘know to be true’ in your own story. It starts with being honest with yourself about where / how you get triggered. That’s usually where you’re holding ideas / feelings that you’d be better served by dropping, hard.
Once you’ve done all that awesome and awkward work… let it go, Elsa. Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. They are nothing more than transparent projections of what that person desires anyway.
Other than cases of clear abuse or prejudice, people typically don’t villainize others unless they envy them. So take it as a compliment, own those skinny jeans mama, and rock on. (References: Shadow Work, Jungian Somatics.)
Likewise, watch out for getting lost in flattery. As Georgia O’keefe said, “compliments and criticisms go down the same drain.” You are neither good nor bad, you are wholly human and that, gorgeous, is enough. In fact it’s plenty.
Takeaway - it doesn’t matter who you are in someone else’s story, it matters that you are the leading lady in yours. Have the best day lovely ladies. 💛 Get in touch for more
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