Growth Marriage

I live for episodes like this. Michelle Peterson shares with us what it looks like to create dreams together as a couple, and four different ways you can support your partner in their dreams: Emotional Support Esteem Support Informational Support Tangible Support (actions) It's interviews like this that show me incredible ways to level-up my relationship. I hope you learn a lot and feel the same!

I live for episodes like this.

Michelle Peterson shares with us what it looks like to create dreams together as a couple, and four different ways you can support your partner in their dreams:

Emotional Support

Esteem Support

Informational Support

Tangible Support (actions)

It's interviews like this that show me incredible ways to level-up my relationship. I hope you learn a lot and feel the same!

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife sits down with me to talk about how a patriarchal view of sex can be really damaging to your relationship (and what it is in the first place), why it's important to take ownership of our own desires and our own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how awesome sex takes lots and lots of practice. Here are some of my favorite quotes: "Women have more sexual capacity then men do." ______ Are you prepared to be married to an equal? (for men) Are you prepared to start taking responsibility and function like an equal? (for the women) Your sexual desires and interested need to be on par with a man. Many women are in a marriage thinking, "I'm here to follow. I'm here to yield. That's how I express my goodness." _______ "You're upset that he doesn't take your sexual desires seriously, but you don't take your sexual desires seriously." _______ "When we won't take care of ourselves, the fantasy is that somehow we're being selfless and that this is blessing other people's lives. But in reality, if you won't manage yourself, you pressure everyone else to manage you… if you don't take a hold of yourself and live a life you respect, you'll suck the life out of everybody around you, which is very very selfish in the name of selflessness." _______ In sex you're always communicating who you are. _______ "The challenge of being human is that we're so good at self deception. We're so good at narrating our lives in the way that makes us comfortable. We're good, they're bad. I did everything I could, they didn't do anything. And in reality we're quite clueless about who we really are. People see us more clearly than we see ourselves. We're much more readable to people than we want to believe." One of the reasons Marriage is a divine institution is that you have someone institutionally there to give us feedback about our blindspots. _______ The truth will set you free… but first it really sucks.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife sits down with me to talk about how a patriarchal view of sex can be really damaging to your relationship (and what it is in the first place), why it's important to take ownership of our own desires and our own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how awesome sex takes lots and lots of practice.

Porn is a contraversial subject. It polarizes people. It gets people emotionally charged. It's also something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable to talk about. So, I'm taking one for the team! I'm going to have the conversation for you. In this episode Kristin and I talk about some important things: What is porn? Is there such a thing as Porn Addiction? Why is this such a contraversial thing? What is addiction, exactly? Why do people look at porn? If you or someone you know has a negative relationship with porn, how do you talk about it, and/or seek out help and support? A lot of myths about porn will be busted in this conversation. I hope you listen to it, learn from it, and share it with people who might need it! I love you, Nate

Porn is a contraversial subject. It polarizes people. It gets people emotionally charged. It's also something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable to talk about.

So, I'm taking one for the team! I'm going to have the conversation for you.

Join us as we talk to Rahul and Sarah about their amazingly authentic and loving relationship. Here are some of the things we talk about: Every night they end their evening by look each other in the eyes and saying, "I like you and I love you." How they dealt with Rahul's faith change (to atheism). Being cheerleaders for each other's dreams and goals. Rahul's admiration for Sarah, and the example she is for their daughter, and Sarah's respect for Rahul's efforts to be an amazing dad. What I loved most about Rahul and Sarah is their overwhelming kindness, devotion to their friendship, and their desire to take on each other's dreams and support them however they can. We can all learn something from them.

Join us as we talk to Rahul and Sarah about their amazingly authentic and loving relationship. Here are some of the things we talk about:

Every night they end their evening by look each other in the eyes and saying, "I like you and I love you."

How they dealt with Rahul's faith change (to atheism).

Being cheerleaders for each other's dreams and goals.

Rahul's admiration for Sarah, and the example she is for their daughter, and Sarah's respect for Rahul's efforts to be an amazing dad.

A lot of people profess to have great relationship and marriage advice... but few people give advice based on decades of longitudinal research. John Gottman has been studying couples, how they interact with each other, the physiology of the body when they are under duress, the facial expressions they make when in arguments, the tone of voice and words they choose to use when communicating with each other... and the list goes on. The Gottman's are fiercely committed to only providing science-based counsel to couples and therapists. In this interview I talk with the Gottman's about trust, kindness, taking responsibility, and creating a healthy, passionate marriage. Please leave a review on iTunes if you found it useful!

A lot of people profess to have great relationship and marriage advice... but few people give advice based on decades of longitudinal research.

John Gottman has been studying couples, how they interact with each other, the physiology of the body when they are under duress, the facial expressions they make when in arguments, the tone of voice and words they choose to use when communicating with each other... and the list goes on.